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I'm Thinking Different From Them…

Abbas Rajan

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Content List

S. No. Content Page

Part I 1

1. Lonely In Family 2

2. Healing A Painful Thought 13

3. Communication 25

4. Lonely In Family Why Complain

Part 2

31

5. The Hidden Love 52

6. Don't Be Impress By Their Sweet

Talks

55

7. Are We United 59

Part II 62

1. Is India A One Country 63

2. Protesting Unnecessarily 66

3. Is A Woman A Subject Or An

Object

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4. Society 82

5. Bollywood, Hollywood Or Any

Wood...

86

6. The Feelings Of We Human 98


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7. What Has Changed In These 16

Years

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Part I


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Chapter 1

Lonely In Family

P Lonely in family isn't a story about somebody, but

something to let ourselves know much better of

what is happening in now a days around us of busy

parents who really can't, and don't have much time

for their lonely kids, where a single parent, or

parents who are very busy with their work, job and

business, and have a very little time to see what's

going around their home and kids but what also is

important here is the busy schedule, the hectic life,

and when the time arrives to pay attention on their

child, they end up becoming a little too late, where

they lose them, or see them going and choosing the

wrong and worst path, crossing their boundary line

or arguing when they enter their teens, they listen to

more of what life says from their friends and

become closer and closer, once the parents come

too late in the story of theirs, what also need to be

marked here, parents guidance, correct advisor

always need to be given to their child from the

beginning till they have not reached a certain age,

are not big enough, matured enough, till their minds

are not fully developed to understand the

surroundings, the people around, and the



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environment, once the child has learn to start

walking on their feet, without underestimating do

not leave their hands too soon till they are not fully

grown up, and with a stamp of yours inside your

head, that now as a parent I am relief, because

surely the time has come of now that of my child

will guide me from now onwards, if the time

arrives in need, because I have taught all the lessons

of life, people and the world to it, children at a very

young age also follows what they see around them,

or when they visit their friends place, put your

thoughts into them like just how pushing the

envelope, or try drilling into their minds of what life

is all about, it's not about imposing your thoughts

on them but showing them the right direction, and

that the world is divided into two parts the good

people and the bad, stick to the right and above all,

believe in god, have faith in god, always be alert,

removing time for your child, maybe won't be that

easy because you are too much busy making

money to survive for a living, but you have to

some how take out some time for your child, to

spend quality time with them you need to keep an

eye on your child, because it needs your love, your

affection, your yelling, your' correcting, for the

right reasons, your child does needs your guidance,

throughout the journey, just how a plant needs

perfect soiling, balancing the water and the sunlight

in between, just how the dry land and the desert

waits for the monsoon to arrive, for it to rain, a

home will be not called a perfect home, if you take

away these three things away from it, the water, the

electricity, and the gas, just like how if there is no


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love, no understanding and no quality time in

between, please I request don't forget before leaving

your kids into anyone's hands so easily, because it's

not going to work out or going to make any solution

out of it, after all the owner knows better of what is

to be needed, and what needs to be deleted,

parenting guidance is very important though many

people think to leave their kids with their domestic

help, but who knows by trusting someone like this,

is not a worth deal, a worth while, it's just not a

wiser decision at all, you may have no history of

that person's life, knowing a person by just talking

for a few minutes, and easily giving your house

keys, and to handle the belongings and plus your

kids, isn't a wise decision, you might end up in

some trouble or the other, while playing around,

while your child goes to school, while your child

goes to some classes, learning some music, or

dance, or oddissi, or any form of dance or taking

part in any other activities, when your child returns

home, sweetly welcome them, and don't forget to

ask, how was your day, sweet heart, little strict,

little love, in case your eyes witnesses your child,

going against you, and you couldn't bear it, then you

must have to raise your eyebrows, and let your'

tongue do the work for you with a hard and a

tough voice correcting your child, so that the

mistake shall wont be repeated, on the whole, the

idea is you must know of when to become a parent,

and when to become your child's best friend,

hopefully and thankfully by the end of the day your

child will remain yours and only yours, because you

have never removed someone else's anger on your



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kid or have spoken ill and frustratingly to them, it

was for your child's good and for yours good too,

never show your depression and frustration in an

open, when they are too young to understand, give

them the space to play to enjoy, to live the life till

the fullest, and if needed make them learn of what

life requires from them, and that knowledge is a

must and an important factor, and that knowledge

could conquer just almost everything, you should

always have the idea, of when to behave like a

parent, and when to behave like a friend, you must

have had noticed, I actually repeated these 2 lines

and sentences, so that it gets forever into your head,

and hope you won't forget it quickly after reading it,

don't always be sugar coated as it can cause a

diabetic sometimes, bitterness hurts, but sometimes

it turns out for your better and good, you may need

to make your child taste a little bit of bitter gourd

juice, and how a sour grape tastes, because at the

end of it, your child definitely would be benefited

from it, if your child waits for you it's eyes

constantly looking at the door, looking out of the

window, wandering here and there, when mama

will come from work, when dad will reach home,

has he left from the office, it's 8.30 p.m. or finding

himself or herself, being alone at home, not again,

never break promises, otherwise don't make, if you

can't keep them, when it comes to your child,

sometimes being punctual, coming on the right time

helps you to be a good parent in front of your child's

eyes, never allow your kid to follow of what it sees

in their friends house, you should always be saying

this, sweet heart you should always be happy with


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what you've got and enjoy life, cribbing and

complaining isn't only a bad sign but a behaviour of

a devil, and never choose and walk on a devils way,

because you're an angel, and your thoughts and

thinking must be like an angel too .From their

childhood to every hood you may need to keep an

eye on them and need to know of what is happening

around and what is it doing from closing the door of

the room, sitting on the computer at 11.30 p.m.

from where coming ?

And where going?, what, who, why, and all the

wwwwws before getting into your head, you may

have to play it safe whether or not, are they trying to

hide anything from you or doing something

hiddenly, so that they won't be caught by you, dont

panic, don't create too much issue out of it, or for

yourself, that would be better for you and for your

child too, you may need to handle such situations in

a respective manner, handling kids is not that easy,

though not too tough either, if your child when

comes up with any such idea that they would want

to learn something that they want to take up a

profession of which they always dreamt of,

remember they always expect an encouragement a

back up and a go ahead ! Quoting by you, and if

you don't then you may leave them disappointed by

discouraging them from distancing them from their

wishes, please a request do not take away their

passion from them, and who knows they could

come out being as successful and doing your head

high up, never ever say this to your child by what

will you get by doing such silly things it's utter

nonsense, and also keep in mind never compare



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your child with anybody else around, never fill any

wrong and negative thoughts into their mind, where

would a child go, of course it is as simple as that

this is a common sense, and an obvious he or she

would first find someone at home, someone to

notice their talents, and of what gift of creative art

do they have in them, what are they capable of,

where else then, ? You tell me or ask this to

yourself, and in the end even if you would

discourage, leave them disappointed and won't

understand your child's feelings then your child will

be left broken into a million pieces and it would be

difficult for your child to recover from this all, that

my parents also never understood and didn't noticed

of what talent I got in me, ok, now the issue comes

and ends up here, what about the trust ?

You should always have and built in the trust

foundation in between you and your child so that

your child can rely on you at any point of time can

share it's secrets with you if you try and be more

friendly or can say be your child's best friend don't

need to scare them, and never ever try to be

suspicious all the time with them, keep in mind,

bridges are build from a brick to bricks, so you even

need to do the same by building one brick of the

trust on the other, if you were to be able to become

a good parent the ensurity is, your child will turn

out to be able to become as good as you never

thought of it to be someday, without any much

effort, without any much hassles, without any much

tension, without any tangle, without any much

complication, if Your aim gets stuck up to the place

where you chose to, well that does not mean that


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your lucky enough but the fact remains, that the

way you handled every particular situation every

scene with sensibility, the center the main reason let

the minor problems remain minor do not make it

into a major, when to do what gets the whole credit,

at the end of the day which means it must need to

end up with an happy ending on an happy note, with

a clean neat, tidy look, editing removing the dirt the

messy thing from the system, what a beautiful,

wonderful dream the experience, the sharing of

secrets, the pampering, the unconditional love in

between a child and a parent is amazing word's

aren't sufficient to describe of how it feels from

within, handle with a care, thankfully it won't turn

out to be a nighmare, if only kept in mind, just let

your child live with arms wide open, let it glow, and

let it blow away all the negative vibes let it throw

it out of the window, and let it brighten up like the

sun, and rinse away according to what you feel isn't

right, memories are so special while your child is

growing up, and that nobody can take that away

from you, these memories are a treasure for you,

hence avoiding and walking over on every word

that is written, ofcourse afterall you're in the center

of the picture, in the lead character, I'm just a teller,

I am standing at the back off the stage, you are

performing on the stage, I can only suggest you,

you are the one who knows pretty much better of

what is the best, what to take along with it, and

what to leave behind, I am a chef will be cooking in

my kitchen of what I'm best at, you're the customer

ordered it from the menu, Get to taste of whether

how the food got tasted in your mouth, after



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completing finishing off the whole meal, did you

find it too less not enough of quantity for yourself,

and wanted some more, or else was it like come

on, just leave the rest of it and walk out and never

ever would return to this place again, what a

tasteless food damn it, spoiled the evening . We

could see there are many varieties in the menu,

mentioning many type of cuisine, different method

and tradition, way of making, but who else would

know besides you, you're the one, you know it

better your choice your favourite your likes and

dislikes, the dish you just can't wait for to get your

hands on it, gives you a hard time you can't resist,

since it's getting too long kind of an explanation

from my side, let's get back where we left from,

sorry about that, agreeing to my stupidity, my

idiocy, if you're too much concerned about your

child every now and then, tired of trying to contact

them by texting, calling them up over and over

again checking out in every 2 hours whether are

they fine or not and sometimes even try to reach

out to their close best friends, you're worried when

you're at the work place and you're not being able

to give your hundred percent to your child, despite

of so much of effort, you can't pay attention either

at your work place, pushing and rushing yourself

into everything, because your mind is somewhere

else, in thinking of what your child must be doing

during that point of time, and you remove all your

frustration at your colleagues or anyone whose

around you during that moment, sadly to see the

person gets the yelling the sarcastic tone for doing

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at all behind the yell the shout, of what you were

going through that phase, that moment, well then

here's a simple method by me passing it on to you,

a ordinary a sober thought just polished it a little

to keep it as simple as possible, 1st the trust. Try

and bulit the trust in between the parent and a child

and that your child should share each and

everything with you spend more time with them but

please while spending time it should be deep within

from your heart and soul and not just for the

formality that's not gonna work out at all, 2 nd leave

your child in safer hands and a trustworthy enough

not just by the sweet talks be impressed by

someone, that's the biggest mistake we human often

tend to do, the more sweet talks leaves you with

diabetes in the end, life and relationship is just like

your health take care right from the beginning, do

not neglect, I urge and want to make a small

request here please marriage is not about you must

start a family after 2 years of marriage having a

child in 2 years or 3 years, the pressure in the

family keep that aside being a parent comes with a

big responsibility it's not like wow I'm a dad or a

mom only when you're one thousand percent sure

and you're mentally prepared to be a parent only

then you should go ahead and think about it over

parenthood is not that' easy and it's your life it's

you who have to decide when is the right time to

start for a family when to become a parent you may

have noticed around often people rush themselves

into parenthood even if though they are not

prepared for it .that's the mistake they tend to do

thinking of what others will think ,about the people,



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