1. 1. THE ROLE OF THE Christian Husband
2. 2. To discuss specific areas in family life where the husband should take active leadership & responsibility To explain the role & responsibility of a Christian husband
3. 3. For us to grow as a Pastoral Team in the family, we must understand more clearly our role as a husband.
4. 4. For many of us, our understanding of responsibility is one-sided in which we: 1. Have Authority 2. Manage /direct things
5. 5. The other side of responsibility is to give an account Heb 13 Not only do we men have Gods authority to get things done, but we will be held accountable for what we have been given to do.
6. 6. - Imminence of retribution for an unfulfilled trust or violated obligation. (Websters Dictionary) a. Mt 25: 14- 30 Parable of the Silver Pieces b. God does not hold us accountable for things beyond our control. ( situation, peoples lives)
7. 7. 14 Again, it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his wealth to them. 15 To one he gave five bags of gold, to another two bags, and to another one bag, each according to his ability. Then he went on his journey. 16 The man who had received five bags of gold went at once and put his money to work and gained five bags more. 17 So also, the one with two bags of gold gained two more. 18 But the man who had received one bag went off, dug a hole in the ground and hid his masters money. 19 After a long time the master of those servants returned and settled accounts with them. 20 The man who had received five bags of gold brought the other five. Master, he said, you entrusted me with five bags of gold. See, I have gained five more.21 His master replied, Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your masters happiness! 22 The man with two bags of gold also came. Master, he said, you entrusted me with two bags of gold; see, I have gained two more.
8. 8. 23 His master replied, Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your masters happiness! 24 Then the man who had received one bag of gold came. Master, he said, I knew that you are a hard man, harvesting where you have not sown and gathering where you have not scattered seed. 25 So I was afraid and went out and hid your gold in the ground. See, here is what belongs to you.26 His master replied, You wicked, lazy servant! So you knew that I harvest where I have not sown and gather where I have not scattered seed? 27 Well then, you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest. 28 So take the bag of gold from him and give it to the one who has ten bags. 29 For whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them. 30 And throw that worthless servant outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.
9. 9. As a general principle, men are supposed to be responsible for the people of God. They take the leadership. Women are responsible but in a different way.
10. 10. HEBREWS 13:17 Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they keep watch over you as those who must give an account. Do this so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no benefit to you. A. GOVERNANCE OF PEOPLE AS A WHOLE
11. 11. EXODUS 3:16 16 Go, and gather the elders of Israel together, and say unto them, The LORD God of your fathers, the God of Abraham, of Isaac, and of Jacob, appeared unto me, saying, I have surely visited you, and seen that which is done to you in Egypt. A. GOVERNANCE OF PEOPLE AS A WHOLE
12. 12. B. LEADERSHIP IN WORSHIP 1 TIM 2: 8; I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting.
13. 13. B. LEADERSHIP IN WORSHIP 2 CHRONICLES 5 When all the work Solomon had done for the temple of the LORD was finished, he brought in the things his father David had dedicatedthe silver and gold and all the furnishingsand he placed them in the treasuries of Gods temple. 2 Then Solomon summoned to Jerusalem the elders of Israel, all the heads of the tribes and the chiefs of the Israelite families, to bring up the ark of the LORDs covenant from Zion, the City of David. 3 And all the Israelites came together to the king at the time of the festival in the seventh month. 4 When all the elders of Israel had arrived, the Levites took up the ark, 5 and they brought up the ark and the tent of meeting and all the sacred furnishings in it. The Levitical priests carried them up; 6 and King Solomon and the entire assembly of Israel that had gathered about him were before the ark, sacrificing so many sheep and cattle that they could not be recorded or counted.
14. 14. 7 The priests then brought the ark of the LORDs covenant to its place in the inner sanctuary of the temple, the Most Holy Place, and put it beneath the wings of the cherubim. 8 The cherubim spread their wings over the place of the ark and covered the ark and its carrying poles. 9 These poles were so long that their ends, extending from the ark, could be seen from in front of the inner sanctuary, but not from outside the Holy Place; and they are still there today.10 There was nothing in the ark except the two tablets that Moses had placed in it at Horeb, where the LORD made a covenant with the Israelites after they came out of Egypt. 11 The priests then withdrew from the Holy Place. All the priests who were there had consecrated themselves, regardless of their divisions. 12 All the Levites who were musiciansAsaph, Heman, Jeduthun and their sons and relativesstood on the east side of the altar, dressed in fine linen and playing cymbals, harps and lyres. They were accompanied by 120 priests sounding trumpets. 13 The trumpeters and musicians joined in unison to give praise and thanks to theLORD. Accompanied by trumpets, cymbals and other instruments, the singers raised their voices in praise to the LORD and sang: He is good; his love endures forever.Then the temple of the LORD was filled with the cloud, 14 and the priests could not perform their service because of the cloud, for the glory of the LORD filled the temple of God.
15. 15. JAMES 5:14 Is any sick among you? let him call for the elders of the church; and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. C. PROVIDING PROTECTION
16. 16. ACTS 20:28-31 28 Keep watch over yourselves and all the flock of which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers. Be shepherds of the church of God, which he bought with his own blood. 29 I know that after I leave, savage wolves will come in among you and will not spare the flock. 30 Even from your own number men will arise and distort the truth in order to draw away disciples after them. 31 So be on your guard! Remember that for three years I never stopped warning each of you night and day with tears. C. PROVIDING PROTECTION
17. 17. C. HEAD OF THE FAMILY EPHESIANS 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
18. 18. Men need to understand more the importance of the family and his responsibility to see that it is what God intends.
19. 19. Mens typical pattern is to leave home and family to wife, while he is responsible for providing the money
20. 20. SCRIPTURE TEACHES US THE FATHERS PROPER ROLE 1 Samuel 2:12-26 12 Elis sons were scoundrels; they had no regard for the LORD. 13 Now it was the practice of the priests that, whenever any of the people offered a sacrifice, the priests servant would come with a three-pronged fork in his hand while the meat was being boiled 14 and would plunge the fork into the pan or kettle or caldron or pot. Whatever the fork brought up the priest would take for himself. This is how they treated all the Israelites who came to Shiloh. 15 But even before the fat was burned, the priests servant would come and say to the person who was sacrificing, Give the priest some meat to roast; he wont accept boiled meat from you, but only raw. 16 If the person said to him, Let the fat be burned first, and then take whatever you want, the servant would answer, No, hand it over now; if you dont, Ill take it by force. 17 This sin of the young men was very great in the LORDs sight, for they were treating the LORDs offering with contempt.
21. 21. 18 But Samuel was ministering before the LORDa boy wearing a linen ephod.19 Each year his mother made him a little robe and took it to him when she went up with her husband to offer the annual sacrifice. 20 Eli would bless Elkanah and his wife, saying, May the LORD give you children by this woman to take the place of the one she prayed for and gave to the LORD. Then they would go home. 21 And the LORD was gracious to Hannah; she gave birth to three sons and two daughters. Meanwhile, the boy Samuel grew up in the presence of the LORD. 22 Now Eli, who was very old, heard about everything his sons were doing to all Israel and how they slept with the women who served at the entrance to the tent of meeting. 23 So he said to them, Why do you do such things? I hear from all the people about these wicked deeds of yours. 24 No, my sons; the report I hear spreading among the LORDs people is not good. 25 If one person sins against another, God may mediate for the offender; but if anyone sins against the LORD, who will intercede for them? His sons, however, did not listen to their fathers rebuke, for it was the LORDs will to put them to death. 26 And the boy Samuel continued to grow in stature and in favor with the LORD and with people.
22. 22. SCRIPTURE TEACHES US THE FATHERS PROPER ROLE Jos 24:14 14 Now therefore fear the LORD, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the LORD. Eph 6:4 4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
23. 23. Make sure that her basic personal needs are met Make sure of adequate communication Help her maintain perspective for self and family and CFC Help her in her spiritual growth; spiritual life, prayer also schedule Make sure she has sufficient and good relationships with other persons, particularly members of CFC
24. 24. Take leadership and responsibility in teaching them about the Lord; do not leave it to the church, school or community Take leadership in training sons in manly character Take leadership in disciplining the children
25. 25. Set the emotional tone for the home ( not the wife) Oversee the family schedule (meals, prayer, entertainment, and outside activities) Teach and lead the family into living the covenant of CFC and patterns of relationship Take charge of social situations dont leave to wives Be the spiritual protector (intercession, spiritual warfare blessing)
26. 26. The Lord is our ultimate source of strength: he is the way, the life and the truth. He is the source of wisdom. When we feel weary and find life burdensome, we should turn to the Lord Mt. 11: 28- 30 (NEXT SLIDE)
27. 27. MT 11: 28-30 28 Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
28. 28. Turn to the household head for guidance and direction. The Lord anoints his leaders. During your weekly household meeting, open up yourself to brothers that you may receive the needed support.
29. 29. How am I discharging my responsibilities as a husband in the areas mentioned? How can I get more help and support from other Christian husbands?