How to keep your adult children safe on the Internetand still give them their space

Kathy Schrockkathy@kathyschrock.net

Itinerary• Overview of concerns

• Up to speed

• Practical ideas to help

• Monitoring

• Support links

• Questions and comments

Overview of concerns• Revealing too much personal information

• Sharing passwords and other information

• Bullying

• Social relationships online

• Meeting up in person

• Scammers and phishing

Some other concerns• The discernment skills to be able to determine

whether or not to friend someone

• Knowledge and skills to get out of a sticky situation

• Being able to interpret the rules and expectations

Get yourself up to speed

Get yourself up to speed• Sign up for a Facebook account

• Start using Twitter

• Get a Google+ account

• Practice online chat with others

FacebookUpper right-hand corner

Under the arrow

FB privacy settings

FB privacy settings:

Twitter• Cross between IM and text messaging• 140 characters• Posts are public unless you set them

otherwise• Private conversations are possible

What others see

What I see

Twitter settings

Google+

Google+ Hangouts

Chat/Instant Messaging

Aggregate chat/IM accounts• Talk.to• Digsby.com• Apple Messages• chat.zoho.com

Phishing

Phishing quiz 1

Phishing quiz 1 answer

Phishing quiz 2

Phishing quiz answer 2

Phishing tips• Phishing emails: don’t click on link• Pop-up screens: don’t use• Anti-virus and malware protection• Contact the real company

Snopes.com

Practical ideas

Practical ideas: passwords• Passwords need to remain private• Passwords should be changed often• Use different passwords• Write down all the passwords together

Practical ideas: checker friendHave your adult child make you their “checker friend”A checker friend is:• Someone you go to• Someone who will check on you• Someone who is your “friend”

Practical ideas: privacy settings• Social networks often change their

privacy setting options• Check privacy settings regularly

Practical ideas: social time• Remind your adult child the Internet is

just one part of their life• Set time limits on online time• Real world social interactions• Friends respect the time limit

Practical ideas: just say no• Easy to “un-friend” or “un-follow”

someone • Only friend those they know• It is fine to say “no”

Practical ideas: look• Never click on an attachment from

anyone or one you are not expecting• Have their “checker friend” look at a link

before clicking on it

Practical ideas: think• Never post an embarrassing or

inappropriate picture • Never giving out personal information• Re-read everything before sharing

Practical ideas: personal thingsHave a discussion with your adult child and talk about things that should never be posted online

- Banking information- Home or work address- Social Security number- Phone numbers- Medical or physical information- Anything someone can use against them

1. Talk only with friends.

2. Keep address, phone number, social security #, and banking information secret.

3. Talk to Mom/Dad when someone you do not know tries to talk to you.

Final practical idea

I Can Be Safe Online

NSTeens

Monitoring options

Monitoring options• Be a friend or follower on social networks• iOS options• Computer options

Setting iOS restrictions

iWonder Surf

iWonder Surf

Stealth Genie$6-$13 per month

Stealth Genie

PeekTab$70 per year

Software solutions

For Windows/MacSpector Pro $100For Windows only

WebWatcher $100

For Windows only$29.95 For iPod Touch, iPhone, iPad

K-9 Web ProtectionFree

Links

Links (clickable in PDF)PDF Version of this Presentation http://linkyy.com/eso

Snopes Internet Rumors http://snopes.com

Phishing Quiz http://linkyy.com/esh

Handout to share with your child http://linkyy.com/esi

I Can Be Safe Online http://linkyy.com/esj

LD Online Internet Safety Articles http://linkyy.com/esk

Online Safety for Teens with Intellectual Disabilities http://linkyy.com/esl

Internet Safety for those with Asperger’s and Autism http://linkyy.com/esm

FTC Identity Theft or Fraud Reporting http://linkyy.com/esn

NSTeens Videos http://linkyy.com/esE

Software Monitoring Solutions http://linkyy.com/parentguide

Questions? Comments?

Kathy Schrockkathy@kathyschrock.nethttp://kathyschrock.netTwitter: @kathyschrock