restitution: restructuring school discipline by diane chelsom gossen
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Restitution: Restructuring School Discipline
By Diane Chelsom Gossen
Based on William Glasser’s Reality Therapy and Control
Theory
We all have the same basic needs
• Belonging
• Power
• Freedom
• Fun
• Survival
All behavior is an attempt to meet one of these needs.
When a child demonstrates behavior that is inappropriate, our role is to
help them meet their need in a more acceptable manner.
What roles do we play?
P u n ish er G u ilte r B u d dy M o n ito r M a na g er
C u rre n t D isc ip lin e P ra c tices
Who would say . . .?You never get it right.
P u n ish er G u ilte r B u d dy M o n ito r M a na g er
C u rre n t D isc ip lin e P ra c tices
Who would say . . .?Do it for me.
P u n ish er G u ilte r B u d dy M o n ito r M a na g er
C u rre n t D isc ip lin e P ra c tices
Who would say . . .?Do you want a happy face sticker
today?
P u n ish er G u ilte r B u d dy M o n ito r M a na g er
C u rre n t D isc ip lin e P ra c tices
Who would say . . .?You’re always the last one to
finish.
P u n ish er G u ilte r B u d dy M o n ito r M a na g er
C u rre n t D isc ip lin e P ra c tices
Who would say . . .?How can you solve this problem?
P u n ish er G u ilte r B u d dy M o n ito r M a na g er
C u rre n t D isc ip lin e P ra c tices
P u n ish er G u ilte r B u d dy M o n ito r M a na g er
C u rre n t D isc ip lin e P ra c tices
Who would say . . . ?You never get it right.
P u n ish er G u ilte r B u d dy M o n ito r M a na g er
C u rre n t D isc ip lin e P ra c tices
Who would say . . . ?How many times have I told you?
P u n ish er G u ilte r B u d dy M o n ito r M a na g er
C u rre n t D isc ip lin e P ra c tices
Who would say . . . ?You won’t get a star if you don’t
finish.
P u n ish er G u ilte r B u d dy M o n ito r M a na g er
C u rre n t D isc ip lin e P ra c tices
Who would say . . . ?Remember what I did for you?
P u n ish er G u ilte r B u d dy M o n ito r M a na g er
C u rre n t D isc ip lin e P ra c tices
Who would say . . . ?What do you believe about how
we treat each other?
The Illusions of Control
• The Illusion that we can control the student.
• The Illusion that All Positive Reinforcement Works and Is Beneficial.
• The Illusion that Criticism and Guilt Build Character.
• The Illusion that Adults have the Right of Coerce Children.
If you try to enforce duty only by the sword of state, you never
create a moral being who has any interest in compliance or
who feels obligated to do anything other than simply avoid
the penalties of law.--Benjamin Barber
The Basic Beliefs Behind Restitution:
• Mistakes happen; accidents are a part of life.
• Restitution is about making things better.
• Restitution enables the individual to reclaim self-esteem through personal effort.
• Restitution benefits the person wronged.
• It also benefits the person who has done the wrong.
• Forgiveness is not the same as Restitution.
What does Restitution Sound Like?
• It’s okay to make a mistake. Now what are you going to do to fix it?
• It’s all right to say you’re sorry. Now what are you going to do to fix it?
• You’re not the only one.
• I know you didn’t mean for it to turn out this way.
• I’m not interested in your mistake—I’m interested in what you’re going to do about it.
A good restitution :
• It will be seen by the victim as adequate compensation.
• It will require effort.
• It does not in any way encourage repetition.
An exceptional restitution will also have these characteristics:
• It will be relevant to the general area of the mistake.
• It will be tied to a higher value or mission statement so the child doesn’t see the restitution as an isolated event, but part of a larger picture of how people treat each other.
• It strengthens the child.
Successful Restitution is also characterized by the lack of certain
negative behaviors in the adult:
• Restraint of criticism, guilt, anger.
• Lack of feeling in the helping adult of resentment or being overextended.
Analyze some examples for the following:
• Satisfactory amend to the victim.
• Effort required.• Little incentive for
repetition.• Relevant to the
“situation” where possible.
• Tied to a higher value, mission statement.
• Strengthens the offender.
• No resentment by adult.
• Restraint of criticism, guilt, or anger.
Restitution Options:
• Fix
• Pay back
• Say two positives about person
• Give time in lieu
Moving Toward a Self-Discipline
Hold Fast to Your Values and Let the Rest Go
Does it really matter?
• If he sits with his feet on the floor.
• If she chews gum or not?
• If they are silent while working?
• If they want to change seats?
• If she writes neatly?• If he wears an earring?• If she has a clean
desk?• If he hands in an
assignment late?• If she shows up on
time?
Yes, If . . .
• Say “Yes” as often as you can.
• If you can’t say “Yes,” say “Yes, if . . .” and add the condition necessary to be able to say yes to the person.
• When you say “No,” give the child your reason and don’t change your mind.
May I sharpen my pencil?
• No, you should’ve done that before class.
• Yes, if there is no one else at the sharpener and I am not talking.
May we listen to the radio?
• No, because it would be too distracting.
• Yes, if everyone is on task.
May we go to Disney World?
• No, it’s too expensive and we have no chaperones.
• Yes, if you can raise the money, get chaperones and do the study in advance.
Complain to Me!
• How do you want it to be? (Instead of how you don’t want it to be.) Can you control this?
• What have you been doing to get what you want?
• Is it working?
• Do you want to figure out a better way?
My Job is To . . .
• Exercise developed jointly between the teacher and the students
• Sets out the role of the teacher and the students
• Gives the students the concept of the limitations and roles of both the teacher and themselves
My Job is To . . .
• Teach
• Answer questions
• Explain different ways
• Be here on time
• Go at pace you can learn
• Enforce rules
• Care
Your Job is To . . .
• Learn
• Keep on trying
• Tell me if I go too fast
• Follow the rules
• Communicate your needs
• Listen to me and others
• Ask if you don’t understand
My Job is Not . . .
• To take abuse
• To babysit
• To do your job
• To lend money
• To cover up
Your Job is Not . . .
• To do my job
• To decide for another child
• To discipline others
This is how you get what you want from me
• Word it as a question
• Ask me
• Raise your hand
• Speak clearly
• Be pleasant
• Use logic
• Tell me what you need
This doesn’t work on me
• Crying
• Whining
• Arguing
• Saying, “Everyone is doing it.”
Teaching kids to count is fine, but teaching them what counts is
best.”--Bob Talbert