Resiliency

Presented by School and District ESS Teams

What is Resiliency adapting well in the face of adversity

“bouncing back” from difficult experiences

“Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it”

-Charles Swindoll

What can a lack of resiliency look like in children?

What does a resilient child look like?

Link:Jessica’s morning affirmation

Tips for Helping your child Build their Bounce

Build positive beliefs in your child’s abilitiesHelp your child find a sense of purpose Help your child make and keep friendsEat healthy foods and exercise regularlyHelp your child cope with disappointmentTake steps to solve problems – don’t ignore

them!

A Resilient Person has a…

STRONG FOUNDATION!!

Self Regulation

AttachmentBelonging

Contribution CollaborationAdaptability

Academic Skills

Language Development

AdaptabilityI am learning that there aredifferent rules for different places.

o Being successful in different places and with different people

o A child who is adaptable will most often at least try to comply with adult prompting and will begin to internalize the rules and norms of different environments

o e.g. knows to use quiet feet when walking in hallways but can run when on the playground.

http://www.centerforresilientchildren.org/flip-it/

ContributionI have a responsibility to myself and others.

o A belief in one’s own gifts and talents and the persistence of working through the challenges to perfect a skill.

o A desire to apply these skills and talents for the benefit of him/herself, family and community.

o E.g. learning to tie shoes and wanting to teach a friend

Link: child learning to ride a bike

CollaborationI am learning how to work and play with others.

o The ability to work and play with others

o Includes the life skill of conflict resolution

o E.g child is good at turn taking, easily joins in to a group, happily cooperates with others.

Angry birds getting along with pigs

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pFkRbUKy19g

AttachmentI have people in my life who cherish and guide me.

o Three strategies to help strengthen your attachment to children are:

1. Get to know children well.2. Interact with affection.3. Recognize “insides”.

o Safety is fundamental to attachment.

o Hockey link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=huY6ZU_SEoM

BelongingI am a part of the group not apart from the group.

o Three things we can do to strengthen a sense of belonging in our students:

1) Support family belonging.2) Promote belonging to the group.3) Encourage the development of friendships.

o We need to create a classroom environment that is a “home away from home”.

Link: animated team work

Self RegulationI can manage my emotions and empathize with others.

o Includes emotional skills such as labeling feelings, and managing emotions (developing empathy is a very important component of this skill)

o What can we do to help?o Help children understand emotionso Help children notice that feelings changeo Help children regulate emotionso Help children learn impulse controlo Promote empathy Link: Cookie Monster: ME WAIT

Things to think about:

Scenario #1•Your child has a melt-down when asked to stop a favorite activity . Scenario #2•Not getting what they want when they want it(e.g. not winning, turn is over, or they are angry)Scenario #3•What happens when your child becomes frustrated? •http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJRtbcChy0Y (Stuart Shanker)

Here’s a wonderful strategy to try at home:

Quick overview of Flip it - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rFMU__5Zr-s

Closing remarks

Discuss Guidance “weebly” as a helpful resourcehttp://gibson-neillguidanceresource.weebly.com/index.html

Thank you for coming!

Questions or comments?