OUR CHILDREN’S LIVES ANDREPUTATIONS ONLINE

Staff & parents

Stephen Carrick-Davies

• Ten years at Childnet International

• Now a Trainer and Social Entrepreneur

Introductions

• Parent with 3

Teenagers

This school community

ONLINE TOO !

Recent news

“I would have thought that

most young girls in their

younger teens to mid-teens

have probably had a request

for some type of image to be

sent and I think they wouldn't

even consider reporting it

because it's so normal ”

Detective Superintendent John

Macdonald, from the force's Sexual

Offences, Exploitation and Child Abuse

Command

What are your biggest concerns ?

SafeguardingWhat is better a fence at the top of a cliff

Or an ambulance at the bottom ?

Our perception of harm !

“Express yourself …have fun…get personal… stay in charge…on the move ….”

$22 Billion ?

Snaps (photos/videos) are sent but

disappear from recipients device

Swipe right for yes

Birds of a feather stick

together

Why watch telly ?

Someone else is bound to have made a

presentation I can use ?

What will FIFA 25 allow you to do ?

Capture and Share

the World's Moments

Looking for a job ?

THE NEW KIDS ON THE BLOCK Snapchat, What’s app, Instagram and “Internet of things”

25 What will Fifa 25 allow you to do ?

The rise of physical gaming In just over a few weeks, Pokemon Go has more active users than Twitter.

Games

• The ratings are there for a reason (and not based on ability).

• Anyone who sells a designated 12+ title to younger children will face fines of up to £5,000 /jail.

• Recognise effects of ‘compulsion’: tiredness, aggression, lack of concentration.

• Inform yourself about games: Check out YouTube for examples

PEGI

© Carrick Davies & Mungeam 2014

Risk

Reputation

Why this stuff matters ?

Responsibility

Our safety, conduct & risky behaviours

Our privacy, security settings and our peer group

Our leadership, ethical code and resilience

SOCIAL MEDIA

MOBILES

Games

ACTUAL EXAMPLE FROM A PRIMARY SCHOOL

Child discloses to teacher that she is upset because of

conversation on Whats App

Teacher finally finds out that child was told on Whats App that

their father has committed suicide after R her mother !

Head Teacher investigates and views Whats App conversation

on child’s phone. Calls the police in.

The Whats App Chat involved a number of year 5 & 6

students and included video clips of hard core pornography.

Head Teacher calls in parents of the children for meeting

Parents shocked by the content but also their children’s

vulnerability and exposure to content so young

Key issue

Adding people to

groups without

their knowledge What next ?

Risk

In small groups of 3 discuss the following:

3) How is it that a child could be added to a What’s App? conversation

4) What do you think will happen to the child who disclosed this incident ?

2) What age should you be to use What’s App?

1) What would you do as a parent ?

How does bullying feel?

GUILT They may feel it is

their fault

EXCLUDED The peer group is

everything! Especially online.

INTIMIDATED Of further repercussions

as bully may have threatened, “if you tell...” ANXIOUS

That their parents and

teachers might blame

them for not standing up for themselves.

UNWORTHY They may think of

themselves as

failures and not

worthy of being helped.

SCARED & AFRAIDOf being physically or

emotionally harmed and

that they might make it worse!

And other feelings too!

What I tell parents about reporting a bullying incident

INVESTIGATE AND GET THE FACTS

REVIEW THE SCHOOL’S POLICY

FACE TO FACE WITH CLASS TEACHER IS USUALLY BEST.

FOLLOW PROCEDURE IF YOU NEED TO ESCALATEHead /governor

MAKE SURE YOU ‘MOVE ON’ AND SUPPORT THE SCHOOL

How did it start ? Do you have evidence (print outs)Make sure your child didn’t start it.Try not to get angry.

By law, all state schools must have a behaviour policy in place that includes measures to prevent all forms of bullying.

Is this your understanding? Can you help monitor the situation? Take notes and agree action.

Continue to reassure your child and make sure that they are not retaliating nor making things worseBe positive if the response

from the school has been good and suggest ways in which the school can help other parents.

Some forms of bullying are illegal (eg hate crime, threats) and should be reported to the police.

It is tempting to try to resolve an issue by talking to the parent of the bully first but this can make things worse !

Follow what the policy says in terms of making a report.

Remember Head teachers have the legal power to make sure pupils behave outside of school premises.

Your child can be an important “Upstander” (ie not a ‘bystander’ for other children).

Reputation

Our reputation as staff members

Don’t blur the professional with the personal !

Negative digital footprint

I.85 million CCTV cameras

Responsibility

With great power comes….

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nWJut7KQhI4

Responsibility

“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view.

Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.”

Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird

EMPATHY

“What is the ONE bit of advice you’d give ?”

www.thersa.org/events/rsashorts/the-power-of-empathy

BRENE BROWN

THE POWER OF VULNERABILITY

www.ted.com

THE IMPORTANCE OF SLEEP FIND IT HARD

TO SWITCH OFF

IGNORING OFFLINE

ACTIVITIES

EMPATHY EROSION

ARGUE ONLINE ?

FEEL TENSE IF YOU CAN’T GET ONLINE

RESPONSIBILITY TO YOURSELF

Screen 'addiction' is increasingly being used by physicians to describe the

growing number of children engaging in screen activities in a dependent manner,"

Psychologist Dr Aric Sigman BBC Oct 2012

FEELING DEPRESSED ?

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-19870199

FOR BAD THINGS TO HAPPEN ONLINE IT ONLY TAKES GOOD PEOPLE TO DO NOTHING ONLINE !

BEING A LEADER ONLINE

COULD YOUR KID BE A LEADER?

© Carrick Davies & Mungeam 2014