Relationship SmartsEnd of Unit Review

Interpersonal Relationships

Three types of Maturity

• Social:– Thinking about you affects on others.– Standing up to peer pressure.– Being the real you.

• Emotional:– Controlling and regulating strong emotions, like anger.– Admitting mistakes and expressing true emotions.

• Mental:– Weighing consequences and making wise choices. – Setting goals and delaying gratification to achieve goals– Using your brain, no just impulses.

Insights About the Nature of infatuations.

• Eight characteristics are:– Early feelings of attraction.– Real powerful and pleasant feelings.– May be the first step of love, but isn't love initially.– Feelings may fluctuate or fade quickly.– An altered state of consciousness- brain chemistry

changes.– You are “fascinated” with a person.– Initially, you are attracted to an image, an impression, or

a set of associations or assumptions about who the person is.

– Enjoy infatuation, but don’t read too much into it yet.

Greeks words of Love

• Two words that pertain to romantic couples are, Eros and agape.

Intimacy

Sides of the triangle represent

Passion

Commitment

Seven Principles of “Smart Dating”

1.Seek a good match. Look for common interests.

2. Pay attention to values.3. Don’t try to change the

other person4. Don’t try to change

yourself.

5. Expect good communication and don’t run from conflict.

6. Don’t play games, pressure, or manipulate someone.

7. Have a bottom line.

Important Questions

Unconditional or Conditional?Controlling or Equal and supportive?

Mostly Physical or Attraction on Many Levels?

“Jerk” Characteristics

•A person with serious and problematic behaviors.•And who is resistant to change.

“Low Risk” Dating Strategy.

This is the correct order from left to right;

Knowledge, Trust, Reliance, Commitment, and

Physical/ Sexual Involvement.

The “Golden Rule”

•Never go higher in one category than you have gone in the category before.

Problem Patterns

• It typically takes at least three months to even begin to be aware of someone's problem patterns.

How to “Really” get to Know Someone

1. Compatibility potential.

2. Relationship skills.

3. Maturity of conscious.

4. Family background.

5. Patterns of previous friendships or relationships.

Warnings of Abusive Relationships

There are three signs….

Consult your “Dangerous Love” handout

from lesson 11.

Works Cited

• Love You too– Relationship Smarts for all Relationships

• Marline F. Pearson • The Dibble Fund for Marriage Education

Copyright 2004

Power point by:Emory Jones

New Albany High School