raising children in a digital age, st thomas's church, fair oak
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Dr Bex Lewis, Director, Digital Fingerprint; CODEC, St John’s College, Durham University
Fair Oak, 14/03/15
http://j.mp/raisechildrenST
RAISING CHILDREN IN A
DIGITAL AGE
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@drbexl
Published by
Lion Hudson
February 2014
http://digital-
fingerprint.co.uk/di
gitalparenting/
“If we want resilient kids we need to
understand what young people’s
experiences are online, listen to their
concerns, and intervene with their best
interests in mind.”
Jane Tallim, Co-Executive Director,
MediaSmarts, Canada, January 2015 http://mediasmarts.ca/research-policy/young-canadians-wired-
world-phase-iii-trends-recommendations
UNDERSTAND!
“We’re doing this because all the research tells us that children and young people respond best to their peers. Whether they’re under pressure to take part in a dangerous prank, or to victimise someone, or whether they’re an online bully themselves, stories told by other young people are most likely to resonate and to help them cope, or change their behaviour.”Andrew Tomlinson, Executive Producer, Media Literacy, BBC Learning
http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/aboutthebbc/entries/f1f50247 -4902-4998-bf58-3e2d3c007587
BBC: BE SMART
Even though in practice,
face-to-face communication
can, of course, be angry,
negligent, resistant,
deceitful and inflexible,
somehow it remains the
ideal against which
mediated communication is
judged as flawed.
Prof Sonia Livingstone, Children and the Internet: Great Expectations and Challenging Realities. 2009, p26
http://www.reddit.com/r/geek/comments/1zxyz2/social_media_explained/
http://www.digitalinformationworld.com/2015/01/2015-facebook-marketing-success-kit-infographic.html
H.A.L.T.
If you are Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired, step away from the keyboard/keypad and deal with that issue first.http://redcatco.com/communication/stop-posting-social-media/
SIGNS SPECIFIC TO CYBER-
BULLYING?
• Long hours on the computer
• Secretive Internet use
• Screen minimization
• Refusing to log on or answer phone
• Extreme possessiveness of phone, to
which constant nervous looks are
given.
EMOTIONALLY:
•No shame: not their fault
•Don’t threaten their (online)
access
•Spend extra time together: time
for communication
•Nurture self-confidence
PRACTICALLY:
• Don’t respond
• Keep copies of messages as ‘proof’
• Understand how to ‘block’ accounts
• Talk to child re contacting school
• Think hard before talking to parents of
bully
• Get phone number blocked
MY CHILD A BULLY…?
Someone will tell you
Talks about other children at
school negatively or aggressively
Has money, toys, or other items
that don’t belong to them
DISINHIBITION
The bully doesn’t see the distress
that they cause, feels safe from
capture, and protected by the
technology, able to say things
that they would never say offline.
ANY SOLUTIONS?
•Explain what bullying is.
•Monitor their e-devices
•Ensure a consistent approach
with school/youth-group
•Are they avoiding being bullied
by becoming a bully?
ANY SOLUTIONS?
• Remove their Internet and mobile privileges (for a fixed period).
• Encourage them to apologise and take responsibility.
• Assign him/her a book to read about bullying?!
• Get them to write an essay on the dangers of bullying?!
• Assign him/her to community service or other time-consuming activity.
The only thing
necessary for the
triumph of evil is that
good men do nothingQuote commonly (and probably erroneously)
attributed to Edmund Burke
Increased time spent online will most likely increase exposure to negative experiences –but also the positive opportunities. Nancy Willard, a cyberbullying expert, calls for us to work on the “understanding that the vast majority of young people want to make good choices, do not want to be harmed, and do not want to see their friends or others harmed” . We can’t control their whole environment, online or offline, so parents need to give their children the capability to deal with problems as they come across them.
Raising Children in a Digital Age , p.63
HEALTH WORKS
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Physical Setup
Brain Changes
Addiction
Multitasking
Conversational Ability
Couch Potatoes
Do it for themDo it with themWatch while they do itLet them do it for themselves.
Will Taylor
PROGRESSIVE RESPONSIBILITY
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