What’s InsideParade Recap..............................p. 2

Jumping Into Life......................p. 2

Your Finances............................p. 3

Upcoming Events.....................p. 3

Donor Honor Roll...................pp. 4-5

Raising Children.......................p. 6

Senior Lens................................p. 7

Practical Rabbi..........................p. 8

Local Synagogues.....................p. 8

Endowments.............................p. 8

RAENA KORENMAN NAMED KIPNIS -WILSON/FRIEDLAND AWARD RECIPIENTSPECIAL FEATURES

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The Jewish Federation of Greater Orange County has named Raena Korenman as the 2012

recipient of the Kipnis-Wilson Friedland Award. The award recognizes an extraordinary woman who has set a high standard for philanthropy and volunteerism in her community. Raena and other community award winners will be recognized at a special ceremony at the upcoming international Lion of Judah Conference in New York City this September.

“ I am honored and deeply touched to be recognized and I look forward to being actively involved with the Jewish community for years to come while continuing to fulfi ll the responsibilities this award embodies,” stated Korenman. “I am extremely proud to represent Orange County for this award and look forward to joining Lions from around the globe for the upcoming conference in NYC,” Korenman continued.

Each community was encouraged to nominate one woman who has a proven commitment to the world wide

Jewish community. Criteria for the award includes being a Lion of Judah; exhibiting leadership in the Federation; having a Lion of Judah endowment; making a signifi cant impact in the local Jewish community, in Israel and abroad; using leadership in creative ways to address community challenges and issues; displaying initiative in the area of philanthropy and volunteerism and setting standards for others in the community; giving other women encouragement, motivation and opportunity to take a leadership role in philanthropy and Jewish community involvement; and embodying the spirit and vision of the Lion of Judah through

a commitment to tzedkah and tikkun olam. The award was established in recognition of Norman Kipnis Wilson and Toby Friedland, founders of the Lion of Judah Society.

Raena Korenman has been an invaluable member of the Orange County Jewish community for over 30 years. She has inspired countless people through her intelligence, passion and vision. In addition to being a Past President, Raena has been involved in nearly every aspect of the Federation.

Raena’s leadership has extended throughout the Orange County community. She recently chaired the inaugural event “Cosmos and Cupcakes” which benefi ts the Littman Cancer Center at St Luke’s/Cornwall Hospital, the Greater Hudson Valley Family Health Center and Miles of Hope Breast Cancer Foundation. An avid lover of painting and interior design, Raena is proud of her two daughters and two granddaughters. Raena and her husband Alan live in Newburgh, NY.

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THE ORIGIN OF THE JEWISH WAR VETERANSBY IAN BERKOWITZ

The Jewish War Veterans (JWV) of the USA is the oldest veterans’ organization in the United States. JWV was organized on March 15, 1896, a

generation after the Civil War. JWV was formed because aspersions were cast on Jewish patriotism in general and on Jewish service in the military in particular. In the Civil War alone there were at least six Congressional Medals of Honor awarded to Jewish soldiers. In Orange County there are two active JWV Posts. The PFC Irving Zuckerman Post 758 in Monroe and the Wilfred Bank Orange County Post 413 in Newburgh. In 2007 it was estimated that there were approximately 37,000 JWV members nationwide. In 2012 it is estimated that there are just over 20,000. The goal of the JWV is to continue to make a difference in the Jewish community and affi rm Jewish military service to our country for the past 350 years. Our organization cannot continue to exist without support from our Jewish veterans and the Jewish community as well. During World War II Jews comprised approximately 3.3% of the US population, while 4.23% of the US

military service members were Jewish, showing clear representation of Jews in the military. According to the National Museum of American Jewish Military History today’s percentages are much lower. Of the 46 fallen soldiers from the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, one-third had not registered as Jews and their religious background only became apparent after their deaths. Thus, experts have suggested that there may be a lot more Jews in the military than previously assumed.Because many Jewish servicemen and women do not reside in our area, the membership in our organizations is dwindling. We continue to do what we can to uphold the proud and holy traditions required to pay tribute to our Jewish comrades. We are dedicated to strong community involvement. We decorate the graves of fallen Jewish service members, award JROTC cadets for outstanding service and Americanism, give out Eagle Scout awards and support our active duty service members during deployments. We continue to visit our injured warriors in military and veteran’s medical facilities.We need your support of both posts. If you are not a war

veteran, you can still be a part of this great and honorable organization. Please consider becoming a Patron Member. I am sure that all of us have had a grandparent, parent, brother, sister, or other relative serve in our Armed Forces. We also welcome members of the IDF!For information about how you can help, please contact Commander Ian Berkowitz at (914) 720 -7908 or email wbocpost413@aol.com for Post 413 in Newburgh. Call 783-4322 or 783-4561 for Post 758 in Monroe.

ABOUT IAN BERKOWITZ Ian M. Berkowitz re red a er serving 20 years in the US Army. He is currently the Commander of the Wilfred Bank Orange County Post 413, Jewish War Veterans and also the Senior Vice Commander of the Rockland/Orange District Jewish War Veterans. In addi on to the JWV, Ian is an offi cer in the VFW, American Legion, VVA, and the 101st Airborne Division Associa on.

From the Offi cers, Board of Directors and Staff of the Jewish Federa on of

Greater Orange County

JEWISH BY THE HUDSON CELEBRATES ISRAEL BY LESLIE GREEN, MDBUILDING OUR JEWISH COMMUNITY TOGETHER

Sixteen-year-old Odeya Pinkus and her dad, who belong to Congregation Eitz Chaim, in

Monroe, roared into New York City on a motorcycle, accompanied by a police escort, along with the rest of the Chai Riders, a motorcycle club that promotes Jewish causes. Daniel Lejovitzky-Reich, a Monroe Temple Beth-El congregant and a few other Orange Country marchers arrived early and joined over 5,000 runners to compete in the 4-mile Celebrate Israel Race in Central Park. But most of the 120 marchers from Orange County arrived on buses provided by the Jewish Federation, excited to participate in the largest public display of support for Israel anywhere in the world.

Sunday, June 3rd was a beautiful spring day, and for the fi rst time, Orange County marched alongside fellow Jews from Ulster and Dutchess Counties behind a banner proclaiming “Jewish By the Hudson.” The sidewalks of Fifth Avenue were fi lled with cheering throngs while Israeli and Jewish music fi lled the air.The childrens’ excitement was palpable even on the ride down. “My biggest pleasure on the bus was, believe it or not, hearing the kids” said Irit Pinkus. The local synagogue’s Hebrew School students marched behind banners that they created in class.

“I enjoyed marching in the parade and seeing that there were so many people supporting us,” said Julia Grunes, a 5th grader who attends Congregation Eitz Chaim. “I think it’s important to show that we are proud to be Jewish. It was fun to march with friends!”

Miranda Feeley, 12, who attends 7th grade at Cornwall Central Middle School and is a member at Monroe Temple Beth-El, marched alongside Julia. The girls became friends as members of the combined synagogue’s youth choir. “I think it’s important to march and support Israel because she is such a small country and surrounded on all sides by enemies,” she said. “I think all my friends should march in the parade. It’s a lot of fun and on every block and corner we passed there were people cheering us.”

While Odeya Pinkus marched with her friends from USY, her dad David rumbled down Fifth Avenue with the Chai Riders. Her mom marched with the rest of Orange County along with sisters Yirshalem and Anael who are 6 and 7 years old. Their mother echoed a sentiment of many of the parents who brought their children along. “I march to create warm memories for my kids and to help them feel the connection and importance of the day through a fun-fi lled afternoon where they are proud to be Jewish and Israeli.”

Thanks to Federation and kind donations from around the county, there was no charge for the bus. Federation and generous donors contribute to this effort because seeing thousands of Jews young and old marching is an important and memorable experience. Many adults who marched as children will attest to the warm memories and feelings of bonding with Am Yisrael that it engenders. Most of the parents on the trip agreed that is important to expose children to

what it means to be part of a spiritual community that exists beyond the border of their synagogues. “We go to the parade to express our love and support for our Israel. I experience a great sense of pride marching with my family, my shul, Agudas Israel, my friends, and many, many strangers, with whom I share a deep love for Israel – the people as well as the land” said Sheree Kane Graber, who marched with her chidren, Arianna Rose, 16 and Taylor, 21.

The marchers were joined by Rabbi Freedman from Temple Beth Jacob in Newburgh, Rabbi Perten from Congregation Eitz Chaim, Rabbi Schwab from Temple Sinai in Middletown and Rabbi Weintraub from Congregation Agudas Israel in Newburgh. After the parade, the marchers had the option to leave at 1PM or to stay until 3PM so they could walk around Central Park where an Israeli fair with food and live music was in progress. Either way, everyone had a wonderful time. As one enthusiastic parade-goer put it, “the only good reason not to come to the parade is if you are already in Israel!”

ABOUT LESLIE GREEN

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Dr. Leslie Green prac ces ophthalmology with Eye Physicians of Orange County. Leslie is married to Dr. Glenn Green, a re na specialist. They are the proud parents of Sarah, Michael and Beth. Leslie has chaired the Israel Fes val Commi ee for several years. Leslie and her family are ac ve members of Congrega on Eitz Chaim in Monroe.

THE AMERICAN HEBREW ACADEMY: A ONCE IN A LIFETIME EXPERIENCEBY MIRIAM SMALLMAN

JUMPING INTO LIFE

As a graduate of the American Hebrew Academy (AHA), I cannot help but smile as I recall

the fond memory of my fi rst visit there. My family made the trip to Greensboro, North Carolina on a cool October day and entered the Academy’s green gates to look at this unique, Jewish boarding school. Although initially shy, I was captivated by the buildings nestled on the open, woodsy campus. Modern-day technology complimented a dual Jewish/secular curriculum to create a one-of-a-kind Jewish living and learning community. I ate in the kosher dining hall, toured a dorm room, and chatted with students from around the world.That day marked the beginning of what has been an incredible four years at the Academy. I entered as a nervous freshman and through the opportunities and experiences provided to me, I became

the person I am today. Being away from home strengthened my independence and self-responsibility, while living in a dorm allowed me to form connections one does not get by just seeing each other at school every day. Your friends are not just your classmates, they are your athletic teammates and the people you pray beside. This is where I entered as that shy fourteen year old and really grew up, having learned much about myself. I am forever grateful to AHA for guiding me through my adolescence.I often wonder what would have become of me had I not attended the Academy. I certainly would not have studied abroad in Israel for three months during my Junior year, nor would I have played varsity soccer. With each year that I rose through the ranks, I learned more about the institution as well as myself. Four years ago, I would not have imagined that I’d

be matriculating to George Washington University with a Merit Scholarship, but the Academy gave me the tools I needed to get there.When I returned home from that initial visit to the Academy, I scribbled a note on my dry erase board that read, “AHA was AHA-wesome!” It’s still there.

ABOUT MIRIAM SMALLMAN Miriam Smallman graduated

in 2012 from the American Hebrew Academy. She was a member of the Girls Varsity Soccer Team, the Comedy Improv troupe, the Jazz Band, and contributed to and helped edit the literary magazine. She has one sister, Abigail, AHA Class of 2015. They live in Charlo e, NC, where her family is affi liated with Temple Israel. Her Grandmother is Dr. Glorya Covel Smith, long me member of Monroe Temple of Liberal Judaism.

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SEPTEMBER 2012September 6: Study the weekly parsha at Congregation Agudas Israel, 10:30AMSeptember 6: Hebrew Reading Part II/Level 2/Part 3 at Congregation Agudas Israel, 10AMSeptember 9: Flea market at Congregtaion B’nai Torah, 9AMSeptember 9: Religious School opening day at Temple Beth Jacob, 9AMSeptember 9: Religious School, including Temple Tots, opening day picnic and open house at Temple Beth Shalom, 10AMSeptember 9: Religious School begins at Congregation Beth Hillel, 11AMSeptember 9: Historical lecture at Gomez Mill House, 1PMSeptember 10: Gan Shalom Opening Day at Congregation Eitz Chaim, 9AMSeptember 11: Table top games at Temple Sinai, 1:30PMSeptember 11: Hebrew School begins at Temple Beth Jacob, 4:30PMSeptember 13: Hebrew Reading Part II/Level 2/Part 3 at Congregation Agudas Israel, 10AMSeptember 13: Hebrew School begins at Temple Beth Shalom, 4:30PMSeptember 13: JFS “You Light Up Our Lives” at Anthony’s Pier 9, 7PMSeptember 20: ONGOING, every Thursday - Yoga with Shari Rake at Temple Beth Shalom, 6:30PMSeptember 23: Congregation Eitz Chaim Sisterhood trip to Kedem Winery, 10AMSeptember 23: Discussion, Book Signing, and Dessert Reception at Temple Sinai, 2PMSeptember 23: Chai Singles on the River Rose, 1:30PMSeptember 24: Table top games at Temple Sinai, 1:30PMSeptember 25: Young In Heart Paid up Luncheon at 290 North St., 12PMSeptember 30: Temple Tots at Temple Beth Shalom, 10AMSeptember 30: Decorate the Sukkah at Congregation Beth Hillel, 11AM

OCTOBER 2012October 5: Sukkot Celebration at Temple Beth Shalom, appetizers at 6:30PM, Harvest Dinner following servicesOctober 6: Tot Shabbat at Temple Beth Shalom, 9AM

October 7: International Hot Pancakes at Temple Sinai, 12:15PMOctober 12: Consecration of the Aleph class at Temple Beth Shalom, 7PMOctober 14: Congregation Eitz Chaim Sisterhood meeting and trip to Storm King Mountain, 10AMOctober 14: Federation “Dollar a Day” women’s event at the home of Nadine Pulver, 2PMOctober 14: PJ Library program at Temple Sinai, 2PMOctober 15: Table top games at Temple Sinai, 1:30PMOctober 15: Board meeting at Congregation Beth Hillel, 7PMOctober 17: Womens Rosh Chodesh Celebration at the home of Brenda Seiden, 6:30PMOctober 19: Pink Shabbat at Temple Beth Shalom, 7PMOctober 19-20: Jews of Uganda speaker, Erev Shabbat service, Shabbat morning service and kiddush luncheon at 290 North St., various times.October 21: Hadassah Basket Bonanza at 290 North Street, 11AMOctober 22: Bingo at Congregation Eitz Chaim, 5:30PMOctober 24: Adult Lecture Series at Congregation Eitz Chaim, 7PMOctober 27: Federation Major Gifts Cocktail Reception, at the home of Drs. Leslie and Glenn Green, 7PMOctober 28: Temple Tots at Temple Beth Shalom, 10AMOctober 29: Sisterhood Paid-Up Dinner at Temple Sinai, 6:30PMOctober 30: Table top games at Temple Sinai, 1:30PM

NOVEMBER 2012November 3: Tot Shabbat at Temple Beth Shalom, 9AMNovember 3: “South of the Borscht Belt” at Temple Beth Shalom, 7:30PMNovember 4: County-wide Yom Moreh, location to be announced, 9AMNovember 4: Mitzvah Day at 290 North Street, 10AMNovember 4: Temple Sinai Men’s Club trip to Ellis Island and Lower East Side, 9AMNovember 4: Sisterhood new member breakfast and meeting at Congregation Eitz Chaim, 10AMNovember 5: Table top games at Temple Sinai, 1:30PMNovember 5: Board meeting at Congregation Beth Hillel, 7PM

November 7: Adult Lecture Series at Congregation Eitz Chaim, 7PMNovember 10: “Roast” of Rabbi Schwab at Temple Sinai, 8PMNovember 11: Penny Social at Temple Beth Shalom, 1PMNovember 12: Veterans Day program, “Animal Kingdom” at the Newburgh JCC, 11:30AMNovember 16-18: Scholar in Residence Weekend at Temple Beth Jacob, various times.November 18: Global Day of Jewish Learning including Temple Tots at Temple Beth Shalom, 11AMNovember 20: Table top games at Temple Sinai, 1:30PMNovember 20: Interfaith Service at Congregation Beth Hillel, 7PMNovember 28: Adult Lecture Series at Congregation Eitz Chaim, 7PM

DECEMBER 2012December 1: Tot Shabbat at Temple Beth Shalom, 9AMDecember 2: Sisterhood Holiday Boutique, Chanukah Fair and breakfast at Temple Sinai 10AMDecember 3: Table top games at Temple Sinai, 1:30PMDecember 3: Board meeting at Congregation Beth Hillel, 7PMDecember 9: Chanukah program, including Temple Tots at Temple Beth Shalom, 10AMDecember 9: Chanukah Falafel Party and LEGO project at 290 North St., 1PM, 3PMDecember 11: Adult Chanukah Luncheon at 290 North St., 12noonDecember 14: Chanukah dinner, followed by services at Temple Beth Shalom, 6PMDecember 15: Chanukah party at Congregation Beth Hillel, 5PMDecember 18: Table top games at Temple Sinai, 1:30PM

PROTECT YOUR FAMILY BY JOEL FINKELSTEIN, ESQ

MAKING THE MOST OF YOUR FINANCES

Actual cases are always more compelling than any cautionary hypotheticals. Three clients of mine were recently involved in serious motor

vehicle accidents. One of them is a teenager who was in a car driven by her father when they were rear-ended. She required spinal fusion surgery due to the accident. A second client working security at a bar was intentionally run over in the parking lot by a disgruntled patron who had been removed from the establishment. The client suffered broken bones requiring surgery. A third client who is a junior high school student was in a car being driven by her aunt when an out of state resident driving a rental car crashed into her vehicle. She suffered 2 broken legs and is scheduled to have surgery this week. How much insurance is available in each case from the wrongdoer’s insurance company to cover their injuries? The teenager has $50,000 available, $0 for the bouncer and $25,000 (the minimal amount required to operate a car in New York State) for the niece. Fortunately for each of these clients, SUM and UM insurance existed or exists to at least partially compensate them for their serious injuries.

SUM stands for Supplementary Underinsured/Uninsured Motorist coverage. SUM provides coverage from YOUR insurance company to protect you and your family in the event the OTHER driver is driving without any insurance (uninsured) or with not enough insurance. You don’t have to be in your car at the time of the accident. In fact, you even can be a bicyclist or pedestrian. Unfortunately, it seems that the worst drivers carry the least amount of insurance. That is why I urge all my friends and clients to have at least $250,000 in SUM coverage to protect them and their loved ones. The premium is relatively small.

How did SUM help my clients described above? The teen that had back surgery was able to tap into her father’s policy, enabling her to obtain another $50,000- double the amount she would have obtained had her father not had additional SUM available. The client mowed down in the parking lot? His case settled for $50,000, the full amount of his mother’s SUM policy. The junior high student’s case is not resolved as yet but fortunately her parents have $300,000 in SUM available – not enough to fully cover their daughter for

her injuries but a far cry from the $25,000 minimal policy their daughter would have been stuck with had they not had the foresight to purchase $300,000 in SUM for themselves and their family.

Make a simple call to your insurance broker. Ask how much the premium would be to increase your SUM coverage. In my 26 years handling personal injury cases, I have never once had a client regret that they had too much coverage, but I have witnessed fi rst-hand the devastation that occurs when people do not have enough coverage. Hope you have a safe summer!

ABOUT JOEL FINKELSTEIN Joel S. Finkelstein, Esq. grew up in

Newburgh and now lives in Goshen with his wife Bonna and their four children. He and his family are long me members of Temple Beth El in Monroe. He is an a orney and founder of The Finkelstein Law Firm, specializing in li ga on and trial court work. Located in Goshen, Joel can be reached at jfi nkelstein@thefi nkelsteinlawfi rm.com or 294-9003.

SAVE THE DATE: COUNTY WIDE MITZVAH DAYNOVEMBER 4TH...290 NORTH STREET, NEWBURGH

COUNTY WIDE CULTURAL EVENT The Motyl Chamber Ensemble, dynamic young

ar sts, will present a program of music wri en by composers who were vic ms of the Nazi regime or people whose lives were radically transformed by the Holocaust. The Ensemble will be coming to Temple Beth Jacob, 290 North St., Newburgh on November 16-18. For more informa on, please call 562-5516 or email offi ce@tbjnewburgh.org.

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Jewish Federation of Greater Orange County 2012 Annual Campaign

DONOR HONOR ROLLBecause of your support of the 2012 campaign, we are able to help when help is needed, provide a safety net for those who must rely on it,

and nurture the core institutions that are the fabric of a rich and dynamic Jewish community. This listing is as of June 30, 2012. If you have made a donation and do not see your name, we apologize. Please call the Federation offi ce 562-7860 and let us know.

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“IT’S JUST EASIER TO GIVE IN”BY AVIVA SCHWABRAISING CHILDREN

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A couple of months ago, I was with my 6 year old granddaughter at breakfast time. She sat down at the kitchen table and proclaimed, “Bring me the cereal and the milk and a spoon and a bowl. Oh - and put away the milk after.” I looked up

from packing my overnight bag and responded with, “That’s okay, Cutes, you can do it.” After several minutes of whining and begging (cutting into her limited eating and playing time before school), she got breakfast for herself.My granddaughter is fortunate that we (her parents and her grandparents) refuse to submit to demands such as these. Fortunate? Yes. We do provide her with shelter, food, emotional support and a myriad of other things that she cannot provide for herself, but by refusing to become her personal servants in situations in which she can help herself, she has the fortunate opportunity to become a responsible and independent person. I have to admit that, during my granddaughter’s breakfast proclamation and subsequent lobbying, it was tremendously diffi cult to resist the pressure that she was putting on me to give in to her. It was even harder to resist the pressure that I was putting on myself because I was afraid that she might feel that I didn’t love her – and she might not love me back if I didn’t do her bidding. But my career as a parenting educator has given me the insight to realize that I can show more love – and receive more love in return – by gently saying “No,” and therefore helping this little girl become capable and useful. As psychiatrist Rudolf Dreikurs, author of the classic work, Children: The Challenge, said a half a century ago, “Never do for a child what he can do for himself.”

Sadly, over the years, I have found that an ever increasing number of families contain kids who are spoiled, selfi sh and irresponsible. The parents and grandparents in these families often tell me that “it’s just easier to give in.” That’s true in the short run but the long term results of giving in can be heartbreaking because these children may have diffi culty becoming productive members of society. Here are a few quick examples:▪ The child who expects to be waited on (like my granddaughter) and who refuses to help with other chores may lack the skills involved in maintaining a dorm room, an apartment or a home.▪ The child who depends on his parents to help him with his homework on a regular basis may be unable to tackle college or job assignments on his own.▪ The child who receives money every time she asks may evolve into an adult who pressures her parents into continuing to support her fi nancially.

Please help the children in your life by saying “No.” They will be fortunate that you did. ABOUT AVIVA SCHWAB Aviva Schwab, M.Ed., shows parents how to raise coopera ve, well-adjusted children without having to resort to yelling, bribery or punishment. Aviva’s program resolves discipline issues such as defi ance, tantrums, homework, chores, ea ng, whining and sleep in an eff ec ve way. To learn more, visit www. redofyelling.com. Aviva is married to Rabbi Joel Schwab, spiritual leader of Temple Sinai in Middletown.

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EXPERIENCE WINTER IN ISRAEL AS A VOLUNTEERBY CYNTHIA WEINTRAUB

THROUGH THE SENIOR LENS

Canadian American Active Retirees in Israel (CAARI) offers a unique way to visit Israel while strengthening bonds with the land, the

people, and one another. We met people from all walks of life, worked with Israelis in a number of community agencies and public schools, and traveled throughout the country. We visited museums, kibbutzim, wineries, farms, agricultural research and development centers, archeological sites, and Jewish National Fund (JNF) forests and projects. We attended lectures given by Jerusalem Post reporters, archeologists, rabbis, Ethiopian immigrants, economists, Hadassah representatives, Israeli Defense Soldiers, and foresters. My husband Joel and I were fortunate to travel with other Orange County residents; Brenda Seiden and Laurie Kaplan of Newburgh. Each of us returned home bringing songs and images of Israel with us.

For me, a highlight of this year’s program was working in the JNF forest. Since there was so much rain this past winter, the forests and fi elds were aglow with fl owers. We spent a day at the Carmel Forest, the site of last year’s devastating fi re, where we were greeted by a herd of goats. We gathered armloads of freshly cut brush and low growth trees and piled them near the road, to be mulched, hoping that the mulching would prevent fi res in the future. We also volunteered at the annual TuB’shvat Family Tree Planting celebration on the hills outside of Tel Aviv. Because there had been so much rain, the earth had become deep mud. Each of us planted a seedling while reciting prayers. We also helped

distribute seedlings to families with young children, who trudged through the mud to place their small trees into the ground, often while singing and laughing. We felt these parents’ love for the land, and how important it was to impart these feelings to their children.

Community service was another rewarding part of the CAARI experience. Laurie worked at Reuth Hospital, a rehab center, where she fed patients and helped them with their therapy sessions. Joel and I taught English to students in two different religious public schools in Tel Aviv. Four mornings each week, after a huge Israeli breakfast, a taxi picked us up at our hotel and drove us through city streets to our schools. Our cab rides were often lessons on the Jewish Diaspora and the drivers were happy to practice their English with us. Many of the students came from diffi cult environments but were excited to learn English. They were appreciative and warm and seemed to enjoy spending time with us. Some of the students were recent immigrants from Ethiopia, and English was their third language! Many of them were shocked to fi nd out that we were Jewish, even though we didn’t live in Israel. After lunch at the hotel, we were off to an afternoon of touring, followed by dinner and a weekly lecture.

As CAARI volunteers, we traveled to Eilat, Tel Aviv, the Negev, the Galilee and the Golan, and to Jerusalem. Shabbat gave each of us a special feeling, no matter what level of observance we were used to. Before sunset on Fridays, we watched as shopkeepers rushed to close up their shops, greeting each customer with “Shabbat

Shalom.” There were fewer cars on the streets, no buses, and the cities became quiet. People rushed home holding groceries and bouquets of fl owers. As Shabbat began, we lit candles outside the hotel dining room. What a sight to see so many candles glowing, and so many women, all ages and nationalities, covering their eyes while chanting the prayers. Joel and I loved attending Shabbat services in Tel Aviv and Jerusalem synagogues. We enjoyed the enthusiasm of the rabbis, refl ected by harmonizing voices, bodies swaying and eyes closed. At Shabbat services, it struck us that as Jews from all over the world, our common language was prayer. As we walked back to the hotel, we were greeted with “Shabbat Shalom” from each passerby. We chanted blessings before eating a beautifully prepared Shabbat dinner with our CAARI friends. We sang English, Yiddish, and Hebrew songs together and talked and laughed about our experiences during the past week. We became a community, and it felt so good to share Shabbat with friends.

If you would like to visit Israel in a unique way, join CAARI. You will meet other passionate Jews who love the land of Israel and who want to have a meaningful experience while making a difference. For more information, contact us, and visit the CAARI web site, caarivolunteers.com where you can fi nd information about the 2013 program.

ABOUT CYNTHIA WEINTRAUBCynthia and her husband, Joel, moved to Orange County in 1973. They have been ac ve members of Temple Sinai in Middletown. They have two daughters and four grandchildren who live in Washington, DC and Boston, MA. Cynthia is a re red literacy teacher. She is past president of the Middletown Chapter of Hadassah, and is presently on the board of the Times Herald Record’s People for People Fund and is also the president of Jewish Family Service.

Cynthia with Ethiopian students at Baal Sham Tov School

Joel covering irriga on hoses at Horshion Forrest for the KNF

Laurie Kaplan clearing land at JNF Horashim Forrest

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LOCAL SYNAGOGUES

These are the synagogues that serve greater Orange County, New York’s thriving Jewish community. To help you find the congregation that best suits your lifestyle, we have provided a brief overview. For more detailed information, we invite you to contact each synagogue directly.

Congrega on Agudas IsraelLoca on: NewburghPhone: 845-562-5604 Affi lia on: Conserva vecongrega onagudasisrael.org

Congrega on Beth HillelLoca on: WaldenPhone: 845-778-7374 Affi lia on: Conserva vecongrega onbethhillel.org

Congrega on B’nai TorahLoca on: Greenwood LakePhone: 845-477-3716Affi lia on: Conserva vebnaitorahgwl.org

Congrega on Eitz ChaimLoca on: MonroePhone: 845-783-7424 Affi lia on: Conserva veeitzchaim-monroe.org

Monroe Temple of Liberal JudaismLoca on: MonroePhone: 845-783-2626Affi lia on: Reformmonroetemple.org

Temple Beth ElLoca on: Port JervisPhone: 845-856-1722Affi lia on: Conserva vetemplebethelpjny.org

Temple Beth JacobLoca on: NewburghPhone: 845-562-5516Affi lia on: Reformtbjnewburgh.org

Temple Beth ShalomLoca on: Florida, NYPhone: 845-651-7817Affi lia on: Reformtbsny.org

Temple SinaiLoca on: MiddletownPhone: 845-343-1861Affi lia on: Conserva vetemplesinaimiddletown.com

KOL YISRAEL ARAVIM ZEH B’ZEHEVERY ISRAELITE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE OTHER...EVEN WHEN HE DOESN’T LOOK LIKE YOUBY RABBI REBECCA POMERANTZ SHINDER

PRACTICAL RABBI

Our family spends a lot of time in Sullivan County in the summer months. Upon my father’s retirement, my parents acquired a second home that is both “in the

country” and near his congregation in Livingston Manor. My children frolic in yards, pool, creek, and pond that makes “Saba’s Farm” a magical place of wonderment and endless adventures. Many people have shared their beloved stories of summers in the Catskills with their own grandparents – though their experiences took place decades ago.Indeed much has changed in Sullivan County since the heyday of the bustling bungalows and grand hotels. Scores of Jews still fl ock to these mountains, but the majority tends to look more like the actors in Fiddler on the Roof, and not Dirty Dancing. I have often felt disconnected to this community. I daven and dress differently. I know some Yiddish, but can’t hold a full conversation while in line at Shop Rite. These are “my people,” and yet there is so much that divides us.In spite of the chasm, I have a story. Much like a good Shalom Aleichem story, this one transpires before Shabbes. While on my way to Temple Beth Shalom, I noticed two young men on the side of the road who were dressed in black suits complemented by tzit-tzit and black kippot. They were hitch hiking, but more to the point, they looked lost and, even more to the point, they looked scared. So without giving it much thought, I pulled over and asked if they were allowed to get in the car with me (fi rst foolish question). They said yes and please and away we went. There is a camp a half a mile from where they were and I assumed it was just too hot and too long a walk to continue (my second foolish assumption).While in the cool air of the minivan, I told them that I had a great topic for them to discuss with their friends at the Shabbes table. I told them that I was on my way to my shul where I am the rabbi and was ready for the fallout (my third foolish assumption). The response was not a shrey gavault, but rather a question, “Oh...Reform or Conservative?” I was so busy preparing for the fall out, that I was not really paying attention to fi nding our destination. This led to another pointed question, “Don’t you have a GPS?”

A GPS? Of course I do! It seems I was distracted by my thoughts on that week’s Torah Portion of Balak. You see, that parasha also opens with a journey. King Balak sends the Prophet Balaam on a sinister errand to curse the Israelites, but an angelic messenger of God appears to Balaam’s donkey and thwarts the evil king’s plan. Instead of harsh words, blessings spring forth from Balaam. His mission changed mid-journey. Whereas I am no King Balak, I don’t think ever before would I feel such a connection and shared mission with anyone from the Ultra-Orthodox community. Then one of the young men shared his “aha” moment with me, “We had just started to recite Psalms before you came.” This book of the Hebrew Bible is rich with poems of praise to God. Psalms appear throughout Jewish liturgy AND are to be recited at times of distress and longing. How ironic that I, a female rabbi and liberal Jew, would be the blessing that the two sought. From Parashat Balak, “Ma tovu olhalecha Ya-akov, How goodly are your dwelling places O [House of ] Jacob.” On that hot pre-Shabbes afternoon, my minivan was that ohel, that tent – that meeting place where blessings could abound.We all can and should live our Judaism in a way that is meaningful and authentic to each of us. We can and should celebrate our individual communities. And yet, we can and should remember that we are all different stripes, colors, and variations of B’nai Yisrael. As the collective Children of Israel, we are all family.

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GERALD & JUNEKREISBERG

LAWRENCE & MARION R. LEVIN

MARION RIDER LEVIN

ESTHER & FALK LEVINE

FLORENCE & JACQUES LEVINE

HAROLD & CAROL LEVINE

HARRIET & JACK LEVY

ALLA & BORIS LIPKIN

DR. PAUL LIPSCHULTZ

RABBI KURT & LORE METZGER

SYLVIA & MURRAY MINTZ

DR. REUBEN & GERTRUDE MOKOTOFF

EDITH & EUGENE MULLIN

HAROLD & LEONA NADLE

PEARL & NATHANOLIVER

PAUL ORNSTEIN

EDNA & SHEPARDPRYLUCK

RACHEL & EMANUEL REISER

PATRICIA & DAVIDRIDER

THE RIEGER FAMILY

LIBBY & MAT SCHLEIFER

JOSEPH SCHULHOF

GLORYA COVEL SMITHHHH

MORRIS & ESTELLE SPIVACK

THE SURESKY FAMILYY

FLORENCE & LEO SUSSMAN

Rabbi Rebecca Pomerantz Shinder has served as the spiritual leader of Temple Beth Shalom in Florida, NY for seven years. She was the second Rabbi Pomerantz to serve a community in Northern NJ. Her father, Rabbi Fredric S. Pomerantz, was the rabbi at Temple Beth El in Closter, NJ for thirty-two years. He has since re red and now serves Congrega on Agudas Achim in Livingston Manor. Rabbi and Larry Shinder are the proud parents of Jeremy, Jacob, and Hannah.