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Etiquette SchmetiquetteReinforcing the Magic Word and a Few OthersReinforcing the Magic Word and a Few Others
Juggling the Holiday FrenzySecret Savings UnwrappedSecret Savings UnwrappedCelebrating Around the World
Five Steps to a Sitter
Resolute Resolutions
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Anyone with children
in their lives cant help
but smile at a childsexcitement as Santas
big day approaches.
That excitement also
means you are likely stressing over
making sure the most sought-after
gifts magically appear under your tree.
My daughter Sydney is only four, so,
despite her asking for everything she
sees advertised on TV, I hope I have
one more year of witnessing her
pure excitement while ripping open
whatever packages appear under the
tree, even though it wont be every
item advertised. She has asked for
some things I thought wouldnt be
requested for a few more years, such
as a Nintendo DS. Someone once
told me that the gifts get bigger
and more expensive as the kids getolder. I want to add noisier because
the top two things on her list are
a guitar and drums. I am counting
on Santas wisdom to make the
choice.
The squeals of delight on that special
morning make great memories, but
this is also the season to teach our
children to appreciate how muchthey have. Last year we started a
tradition in our home of picking an
angel off a charity organizations
tree for a child the same age as
Sydney. This year she shouldbe able to help a bit more with
shopping for that gift and better
understand its important. Her
school also had a great idea:
having a baby shower for Jesus.
The children brought in baby
items that were donated to a local
shelter.
At parenting: TODAY&TOMORROW
we hope to help you with
suggestions on how to teach your
children the core values that are
important to you. We are always
open to suggestions, so please
dont hesitate to contact us if you
have a topic you would like us to
explore.
In this issue you can read about
teaching your children manners
and gratitude, hiring a baby-
sitter, managing your hectic
holiday schedule, suggestions for
inexpensive and creative gifts
and wrapping, a variety of holiday
traditions and flu facts. We hope
you take a few minutes from your
busy schedule to find some useful
tips among our pages and keep thewarmth of the holidays in your
heart despite the cold outside.
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CONTENTS
Etiquette Schmetiquette 3
Juggling the Holiday Frenzy 6
Secret Savings Unwrapped 9
Family Snapshot 10
Celebrating Around the World 12Five Steps to a Sitter 18
Resolute Resolutions 20
Wholesome Living 23
Daytripping 24
Media Moment 25Family Functions 27
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F or many of us, its a familiar scene. As you makeyour way through the cereal aislepossibly agrave errorthe otherwise well-mannered childsitting in the front of your cart begins lunging for thecolorful boxes that line the shelves, eventually lather-
ing themselves into a class-five meltdown. You quickly
scoot out of the aisle (relatively) unscathed.
This classic Dr. Jeckle/Mr. Hyde moments, asMomma Kloser refers to them, can leave many a par-ent scratching their head. How can such a sweet,
well-mannered child turn into a world-class headache-inducer at the drop of a hat (simply due to spying a
box of Fruity Pebbles)?
While we at parenting: TODAY&TOMORROW can-not guarantee the transformation of your part-time
EtiquetteSchmetiquetteReinforcing the Magic Word and a Few Others
terror into a full-time angel, there are ways to preventMr. Hyde moments. And one of the best places to
start is by taking a long look at the way we, as adults,behave toward one another.
Model StudentsWhile it might have been decades since our last
freak-outs in the cereal aisle, Teresa Fischer, childcarecoordinator at the Dubuque Community Y/FinleyChildcare Center, advises adults to think about their
reactions the last time they were cut off in trafficandwho was watching. Children watch us all the time,
said Fischer. As adults we forget to be polite. Tak-ing an extra moment to calm ourselves in an instance
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Parents and kids Have to be present and i n themoment to make manners happen.
Teresa Fischer
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of intense irritation can keep
kids from imitating us in ourleast flattering moments.
It follows thenlike anyother life skillkids pick
up their manners from theadults around them. Fischersaid fostering good manners
is dependent on an adults
ability to model them. Setthe example, she advised.Its the only way.
For Fischer and her colleagues at the DCY/FinleyChildcare Center, this means working manners into
the day-to-day routine. Teaching manners effectivelycan start from birth, she said, noting that please,
thank you and excuse me are all part of the dailydialogue childcare providers at the DCY/Finley Child-care Center engage in with infants.
Infusing manners seamlessly into conversations helpsmake these phrases second nature later in life. Fischer
noted that while dialogue is started with infants (i.e.,saying excuse me after an infant burps), manners are
more actively exercised with toddlers as they use signlanguage to communicate. Eventually, these manners
become an expected part of conversation with old
children. There are so many things you can do include manners in daily communication, Fischsaid.
Politeness PitfallsRegardless of the effort adults put forward in exhi
iting model behavior, there are some situations, thcereal aisle included, where all manner bets are oHowever, rather than avoiding these situations a
together, addressing the issue head-on can help reduthe likelihood of mishandled manners.
Kids are more likely to forget their manners when thare part of an exciting situation. Fischer said that
times when something newlike a toy or activityintroduced, kids find it harder to share and wait theturn. She has found this becomes particularly evide
on birthdays because of a sensory overload. In thmidst of gifts and increased attention on their speci
day, kids can forget to say thank you before tearininto the next brightly wrapped package.
Fischer advised a few methods for curtailing thesituations. Keep a routine, she said. If you kno
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something is going to happen that excites a child,
give prompts. For example, give ten, five and oneminute warnings before expecting the pick-up oftoys or leaving the play area at a park. Forewarning
kids about the beginning and ending of a particu-larly exciting moment can help them remain mind-
ful of their manners and ease them in and out oftheir glee. Regardless of birthdays and special occa-
sions, manners should be reinforced.
Sit-down dinners can also be a fundamental place toreinforce please and thank you, Fischer noted,as this encourages all family members to be aware of
their manners during conversational exchange.
Shut off the TV and sit down for dinner, Fischer
advised. Parents and kids have to be present and inthe moment to make manners happen. That means
the Nintendo DS, television, and the Blackberryhave to be shut downat least for dinner.
Manners MaintenanceIn our increasingly electronic social environment,many manner-musts have fallen by the wayside. Per-
haps the most neglected is the thank you card. Whengifts are sent in the mail, kids should at least partici-
pate in returning a card expressing their gratitude.Fischer noted that even the youngest gift recipients
can draw or color on a sheet of paper to be enclosed ina card which also shows kids the lost art of snail mail.Besides, Fischer added, thank you cards arriving in the
mailbox just brighten someones day. If the gift giver ispresent when a child opens a gift, a verbal thank you
will suffice to illustrate appreciation.Unfortunately, the conveniences of an electronic
world have also increased the pace of our day-to-daylives. Fischer said that many parents feel rushed, and
the guilt of not being able to spend more time withour kids builds, interfering with our jobs as parents.
This often leads kids to ask and parents to automati-cally give, allowing children to expect instant gratifi-
cation without please and thank you as part of the
conversation.
Again, routine, consistency, and modeling good
behavior are all part of helping kids remembertheir manners, said Fischer. Manners have fallen
by the wayside for everybody, said Fischer. Addingthat we all need to slow down and remember ourmanners.
With that in mind, Fischer said parents should havethe expectation that kids use manners all the time,
making manners a central part of the daily routine,even when disciplining kids. Older children may
also have a set of consequences for mismanagedmanners. Parents can have friendly moments with
kids, but can never be their kids friends, explainedFischer.
Learning manners as a life skill can also help shapea childs future. Fischer pointed out that well-
mannered kids have an easier time making friendsbecause politeness helps them with peers as they getolder. Manners can also be a huge asset as kids go to
look for a job. No matter the motivation, it becomesclear that Fischers characterization of manners as a
necessary life skill is dead on, as children return tothis social behavior repeatedly as they begin to inde-
pendently explore their world.
Manners are a skill we often take for granted. Many
of uschildren and adultshave soundly forgottenthe magic behind the magic word. Though Fischer
pointed out that manners can be introduced at anyage, parents can try harder from the start to cementpoliteness as an everyday part of speech. Leading by
example, maintaining expectations and keeping a
routine are all keys toward helping our kids remembertheir manners and giving adults a healthy reminder aswell. By brushing up on our politeness we can all work
together to create a much more peaceful cereal aisleand social arena at large.
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Juggling
the HolidayFrenzy
DECEMBER
With the holiday season in full swing, time to finish shop-
ping, wrapping and baking may be in short supply, oftenleaving little time to spend with family and truly enjoy the
season. Implementing some time management techniquesand setting limits can gain some of those precious minutes
back, help your pocketbook and teach your children somecore values and skills.
Susan Taylor, family finance specialist with Iowa StateUniversity Extension, suggests implementing the Keep It
Simple, Silly method. K.I.S.S. makes this time of year lessstressful and more enjoyable for everyone.
We need to come back to basics, explained Taylor. Partof the deal of surviving the holidays is scheduling your
time. Time is one of those resources that is here this secondand goneyou cant bank it.
The first step is early planning. With two sets of grandpa
ents who want to see the kids for the holidays, plus auntuncles, cousins and friends who want their face time, not
mention school and church programs, it can be hard to pon a happy face while you are constantly in the car runnin
from one event to the next.If there was a divorce in your family, this problem mbe doubled. Some families resolve the issue by rotatinwho they visit each year so no one is left out and ever
one knows the routine. If that is not an option for yohere are some tips to drop your stress level to manageab
proportions.
Parents should start with a list of items they want or need finish for the season. Include shopping, wrapping, mailincards, cooking, baking, parties and other events. If you ca
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make this list early, possibly in Novem-ber, and spread tasks out, it becomes lessdaunting.
Make your list then pare it back, advises
Taylor. Do the things that are mostimportant to you. Dont try to keep upwith the Joneses.
Parents need to sit down together andmap out the various parties they are beingasked to attend. If parents are separated,
this communication will be key to mak-ing the holidays harmonious for theyoungsters in their lives.
It is okay to decline an invitation to a
party if you are feeling overwhelmed bythe number of places you are asked to stop
for the holidays. Graciously tell your hostthat the date wont work,but ask to set aside some
time to get together in
January when you areaway from the hustle andbustle of the holidays.
You will have the oppor-tunity to visit in a lessstressful environment
and will likely enjoy thetime more.
Hosting a holiday partycan leave mom and dad
feeling frazzled, so, again, keep it simple.One option is to create a menu, thenreduce. Is it necessary to have ham and
turkey or potatoes prepared two or threeways? Pick the foods that you know are
favorites among many of your guests andthen prepare those special foods.
People set themselves up to fail, said
Taylor. Sometimes you create your ownworst nightmares trying to be perfect.
The big meal is not really necessaryit is
about spending time with the people youcare about. With this in mind, Taylor said
you could have a party without the meal.An afternoon gathering with cookies andhot cocoa is less stressful, not to mention
cheaper, and serves the same purpose.
The holiday season is stressful to begin with, but adding a
divorce, especially a contentious one, can make the season
less-than-joyous for parents and children alike.
Milly Kaiser, University of Illinois Extension family life
coordinator, offers families a few tips to keep the peace. First,
no matter how strong your negative feelings are toward the
other party, remember that the kids did not divorce their otherparent or grandparents.
When parents divorce, everyone in the family is making
adjustments in dealing with the holiday visitation schedule,
said Kaiser. How children adjust to these changes will
depend on how well the parents adjust to their new roles.
Parents who focus on creating a positive, nurturing setting for
their children can be the key to a more harmonious holiday.
The needs of the children must come first, said Kaiser.
Parents need to openly communicate and be civil with one
another because it is about the children. Talk to the kids and
find out what they are feeling and what they are concerned
about. Try to put a positive spin on the situation. For example,
tell kids they now have two families to love them.
Parents need to discuss the visitation schedule so both
know when they can plan special events. Share this with
the children as well so they know what to expect. A family
meeting would help coordinate expectations and schedules.
Be flexible with this schedule. If there is a gathering for one
side of the family that doesnt match up with the visitation
schedule, consider negotiating different times so kids can
see they have two families who love them.
A divorce is stressful for everyone, so parents need to
remember to help children deal with that stress as well.
Keeping a routine and openly communicating about changes
keeps everyone from being caught off guard. Make sure
everyone is maintaining a healthy diet (at least as much
as possible during the holidays), getting enough sleep and
exercising to reduce stress.
Finally, dont compete with the other parent, advises
Kaiser. It is not going to matter how much you spend on
the kids or how many gifts you give them. In the long run,
what they will remember is the quality time you spent with
them and the nurturing they felt when with you.
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Other options for the meal include sim-pler fare, such as ordering pizza. You couldmake lasagna or a casserole a week or two
ahead of time and freeze it so the day ofthe party you only have to reheat it and
perhaps add a salad and bread.
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perhaps a potluck is in order. You can
offer to prepare the meat and let the restof your family and friends provide theside dishes, salads and desserts. Families
with children old enough to help shouldinvolve the kids. Let them choose a dish
to be responsible for or assist in all thepreparation. This is a great way to spend
time with your family and lessen yourworkload, said Taylor.
Holiday baking is another place toinclude the kids. This is an important
tradition for many families, and Taylorstresses that you need to keep those typesof traditions going to build memories for
your children. These traditions can alsooffer a sense of stability to a family that
is in transition because of a divorce ordeath in the family. However, you dont
have to make 12 varieties of cookies. Pick
a couple of favorites and call it done. The
youngest members of the family can cutout cookies or add sprinkles. Of coursethis may be a little messier, but your chil-
dren will have great holiday memories ofthe smells and sounds of a busy kitchen.
Another aspect of the holidays is gift giv-ing. Keep your gift-giving simple. How
many dolls or trucks do the kids reallyneed? A family gift may work well because
it promotes family time that seems to be insuch short supply. A game or gift card for
the entire family to go out to eat togethermay be a good choice. A gift for the entirefamily also means you have fewer gifts to
buy, helping your pocketbook and givingyou back some precious time.
Prioritiesits not how many gifts youget, its that you were recognized, said Tay-
lor. Helping children understand it is the
thought that counts and not the gift is
valuable lesson. This tip is essential ffamilies dealing with a divorce to demostrate that love cannot be bought. Divorc
parents should agree on what they are eacgiving a child and not go overboard.
With an uncertain economy, cutting bacon gift giving would likely be a relief f
everyone. Is it necessary to buy a gift fall of the aunts, uncles, nieces and nep
ews? Discuss other options such as drawing names; then everyone receives a g
but you dont have the expense of buyinfor everyone. Again, this saves you timwith less shopping to do.
Whether your holiday gathering ha
pens in November, December or Janary, remember to build in memorabmoments, especially for the children sa
Taylor. The gathering should be abomore than gifts and food. Even if you a
not the host of a party, offer to plan a family activity. It could be as simple as a ca
game or board game. Weather permittinyou could spend some time outside sleding, playing football, playing basketba
or even ice skating. These are opportunties to talk and reconnect with the fami
you and yours dont often see, and the
are the moments the children will remember and talk about when they are adults
Bear in mind that every clan is differen
and you need to do what is right for yofamily. Family dynamics are constantchanging. If you are hosting a party, b
sure to keep the newest members of thfamily in mind to show them your trad
tions and make them feel comfortable. Othe flip side, if you are the new memb
of the family, attend gatherings with aopen mind said Taylor. There are boun
to be differences and some traditions thyou may even find odd, but take the timto watch or participate and see how th
family functions together.
Remember, the gravy may be lumpy
the turkey a little dry, but in the end, this the time to cherish your family, sha
some laughs and support one anoththrough another special holiday.
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The holiday season can be full ofstress coming at us from all direc-tions. One significant concern for manyis pressure on family finances.
Problems with the economy are no secret
to anyone, so smaller, simpler gifts makesense for holiday-strained budgets. You
can still recognize the special people inyour life and let them know you care, butit isnt necessary to drain the bank. Susan
Taylor, family finance specialist withIowa State University Extension, offers
the following gift suggestions to makeeveryone on your list feel special:
A coffee mug stuffed with a variety
of coffees, teas, hot cocoas or candy
A canister filled with baked goods,
coffee, tea, etc.
A loaf of bread attached to a cuttingboard with a bread knife
A jar containing the dry ingredients
for cookies, brownies or soup
Jams, jellies or other spreads in a
reusable container with a spreader,spoon or crackers attached
Cookies packaged in a flowerpot
Cookies wrapped with the cookiecutters used to make them
A storage box with a hand-decorated
lid; fill it with goodies as an extrabonus
A decorative loaf pan filled with
quick-make breads
A cookie jar filled with decorating
accessories such as food coloring,
sprinkles, cookie cutters and yourfavorite recipe
A homemade garden stepping stone
A family gift, such as a gift card fordining or the movies, instead of apresent for each person
A game that everyone can enjoy
If you like to cook or are crafty, there is aplethora of ideas at your fingertips with
a quick Google search. Notmadeofmoney.com has compiled a list of ideas on their
website, complete with instructions, andfamilycrafts.about.com offers ideas to getthe entire family involved.
Once you have all those wonderful gifts,you still have to wrap them, and sometimesthe wrapping paper costs as much as the gift.
Taylor offers some creative tips that are
also green for any environmentalists onyour shopping list.
Place the gift in a reusable grocery bag
For large gifts, use a vinyl tablecloththat could be used again
Wrap kitchen gifts in a dish towel
Decorate an oatmeal or cereal box
Make a throw out of fleece and wrapthe rest of the gift inside
Edible goods can be packaged in reus-
able kitchen containers with a bow
Use reusable lunch bags to hide a gift
For sweet treats, pick up platters,baskets or other containers from
garage sales
Let kids decorate white or brown
paper
Reuse gift bags, wrapping paper and
bows
Using any of these ideas or your own home-made creations will save you money andmake the receiver feel special, because
you put in the extra efforta homemadetouch.
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treatments.
It was difficult when we had lon
stretches in the hospital, said Krist
The couple was able to stay in touc
using Skype. Mike, Noah and John vited when they could.
When Noah and John were in Iow
City with Anna, they were typical b
brothers trying to help her. They let h
squeeze their hands when she neede
injections. She thought it hurt u
when she squeezed, but it didnt, sa
Noah.
Live, Laugh, Love has become a popular say-ing in home dcor, but it is also the perfect motto for
Krista and Mike Weitzs young family.
The Weitz family was leading an average American
family life with their three children, Noah, 10, John,
6, and Anna, 5. That all-American life was turned
upside down when Anna started experiencing back
pain. It took doctors a little time, but she was diag-nosed in October 2010 with Rhabdomyosarcoma, a
very rare and aggressive cancer.
There was a real mind-set that had to be changed,
said Krista about figuring out how to get through
this crisis. First, the couple realized that the basic
household chores like laundry and dishes could
wait, because time together as a family needed to be
cherished, even if it was as simple as cuddling on the
couch while watching a movie. The second part they
had to deal with was learning how to accept help.
I dont see how we could have done all of this without
our families, said Krista. The Weitzes know they are
fortunate to have so many family members who live
nearby and are willing to help. Those family members
have recognized the need for the couple, who have
been married 13 years, to make time for each other,
so they take the kids to give Krista and Mike a break.
Mike said it was difficult knowing how to be thank-
ful and accept things. We have received so much
help; it is hard to get past the feeling that we owe
people or have to pay it back.
Once the family dealt with the initial shock of the
diagnosis for such a young person, they put their
hands together and started praying for a miracle.
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The illness does not define Anna or her
family. A few short minutes with them
and you realize that the boys simply view
her as their kid sister and enjoy teasing
her. Anna isnt afraid to give them a taste
of their own medicine. They have a lot
of fun together, said Mike.
The Weitzes have tried to keep life as
normal as possible. Noah and John play
soccer and enjoy time with their friends.
Noah wants to be a zookeeper, which
explains the reptiles and other creatures
he likes to pick up and bring home. And,
as the admiring younger brother, John
plans to be his assistant. John is also the
family comedian and always has some-
thing to say to put a smile on your face.
Anna enjoys going to the park, riding her
bike and playing board games such as
Sorry, Life and Monopoly. She wants
to teach first grade because John has
told her how much fun it is and maybe
also be a model.
When asked what makes her family spe-
cial, Anna put it only as a five-year-old
can: Because they play with me.
Anna is enrolled in preschool, but cant
attend often because her immune system
is weak and she is more susceptible to ill-
nesses. At home the family has become
germ-a-phobes to try to keep Anna
healthy. Despite her young age, Anna will
correct even some of the adults in her
life when they do something that would
spread germs to her, such as sharing
her food. Krista acknowledges that their
lives have changed drastically because
of the cancer. They avoid crowded places,
FOR MORE INFORMATION
The Weitz family recommended a few of their favorite web sites to find out more about can-
cer, support groups and how you can help.
Cure Search has great accurate information.
http://www.curesearch.org/
Super Sibs is a web site for siblings of kids with cancer through the University of
Iowa Childrens Hospital. The Weitz family said it has helped their children cope.
http://www.supersibs.org/Loras College Dance Marathon is a wonderful local organization for any child who
spends time at the University of Iowa Childrens Hospital. They sponsor local social
events for families dealing with a childhood illness and raise money for the kids.
The money goes toward making a hospital stay fun and more comfortable.
http://lorasdm.org/
This is the general web site for University of Childrens Hospital Hematology Department.
http://www.uihealthcare.com/depts/med/pediatrics/divisions/hemonc/index.html
, .
and at times family members cant visit
because they have colds.
She is amazing with it! said Mike.
Anna understands that these extra
precautions need to be taken for her
health, and she is doing what she has
to so she can be healthy again.
Anna is scheduled to finish her chemo-therapy at the end of December. The
treatment appears to be working, but
the family wont know Annas true prog-
nosis until she has been cancer free for
5 years.
In the meantime, the Weitz family will
continue to Live, Laugh and Love one
day at a time and always together.
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Celebrating
by Kelly Burtis Having grown up in this area, I know that the population ofthe tri-state region is relatively homogeneous. However, intodays global society, it is important for children to be aware
of different traditions and to be respectful of classmates whomay not set up a Christmas tree or receive gifts because theirfamily has different customs.
Statistics from the U.S. Census Bureau and the Associationof Religion Data Archives show that more than 75 percent
of Dubuque County residents are Christian. Because ourlocal population lacks a lot of religious diversity, it takes
extra effort to teach our children about these traditions.
parenting: TODAY&TOMORROW hopes a brief look athow some people in the tri-state area celebrate the holi-day season will help you educate your children and perhapseven start some new traditions of your own.
Around the
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How to play dreidel
Use pennies, nuts, raisins or chocolate coins(gelt) as tokens.
A player spins the dreidel. When it stops, theletter that is facing up decides the outcome.
NUNnothing happensnext player spinsthe dreidel.GIMELplayer takes all tokens inthe pot.HEYplayer takes half ofthe pot.SHINplayer mustput one token intothe pot.
HanukkahThis Jewish holiday seems to be the one most Ameri-cans know about and can give a brief synopsis of,but, according to Rabbi Ann Landowne with Temple
Beth El in Dubuque, Hanukkah is a relatively minorfestival.
In the history of the Jewish faith, Hanukkah is a fairly
new holiday and is not even included in Jewish scrip-tures. The celebration commemorates the victoryof the Maccabees over the Syrian army in 165 B.C.
and the liberation and rededication of the Temple inJerusalem. It is celebrated for eight days because theMaccabees only had enough oil to last one day when
they regained control of the Temple. Miraculouslythe oil lasted eight days, giving the warriors enough
time to get more oil and purify the Temple. Land-owne explained that Jewish ancestors debated making
Hanukkah a holiday because of its military history.Today, the celebration is about religious freedom andrededicating ones self to Jewish values. This year the
festival begins December 21.
The holiday is marked with lighting the menorah foreight days. If you have ever seen a menorah, you maywonder why it has nine candles since only eight days
are celebrated. The candle in the middle is called ashamash or helper candle and is used to light the
other candles. Special blessings are said with eachlighting. The idea of the menorah is to put the meno-
rah in the window to be proud of your Jewish heri-tage, explained Landowne.
When Hanukkah was first celebrated, children wouldbe given spare change. With the holidays proximity
to Christmas in the United States, gifts have becomea normal part of the holiday with children receiving agift each day of the festival.
Some Jewish holidays restrict travel, so they are notspent with family. Hanukkah has no travel restric-
tions; it is a family holiday. In religious services theholiday is very minor, and there are a few additions
made to blessings that are said daily. The bulk of thecelebration is done at home, explained Landowne.
Children enjoy playing dreidel during Hanukkah.They use gelt which can be coins, candy or other
snack items, and a spin of the top-like game piecedetermines their prize.
As with any celebration, food is a key component. Inthe United States latkes (potato pancakes) are most
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popular. Donuts are also made. Landowne said in
Israel many families enjoy jelly-filled donuts. Friedfoods are most common because of the oil used andthe miracle associated with the oil. Traditions are
different around the world because the types of foodavailable vary.
Christmas Around th e WorldBotswanaAccording to Loras College students Chedu
Machola and Michael Segolodi, their home-land, Botswana, is primarily Christian.
The pair agreed, though, that Christmasin Botswana is more about gathering with
friends and family than anything else.Machola said it is common to have villag-
ers gather for soccer games at Christmasbecause it is a very popular sport there.
Christian families attend mass. Segolodi explained
that mass begins on Christmas Eve and families areat church all night. That is usually followed by a large
feast.
A few Christmas decorations are used said Machola,but they are mostly available to families that arewealthier. Those decorations consist of a plastic tree
and perhaps a few lights.
As for gifts, children always ask for new Christmas
clothes. You wont see these packaged in a box undera tree, said Segolodi. They dont believe in Santa
Claus. More extravagant gifts, like toys, are purchasedby wealthier families.
Ethiopia
Loras College student Amanuel Hmariam is fromEthiopia and a member of the Ethiopian Ortho-dox Church, one of the most ancient Christian
denominations.
Because Ethiopians follow a lunar calendar, the bir
of Jesus is celebrated slightly later than in the UnitStates. Christmas falls on January 7th or 8th. The
is a strong Christian following in Ethiopia, so mucso that their calendar is 7.5 years behind the Greg
rian calendar followed in the United States; the yeis 2004 in Ethiopia. Hmariam explained that the dference came about more than 2000 years ago as
took 7.5 years for the news of Jesuss birth to travel
Ethiopia.
The Christmas ceremony in the Ethiopian OrthodChurch is very important. Hmariam explained that
regular mass is rather long in his orthodox faith, bthe Christmas mass is even longer. Worshippers go
church at 9 P.M. on Christmas Eve and stay until 3 4 in the morning. There is a lot of music but no guita
or organs. Traditional instruments playin church include drums and flutes.
As in the United States this is a timof year for families to gather and sha
large meals. Hmariam said Ethiopia
eat a lot of meat with rich flavors. Thcountry has been influenced by Wes
ern cultures and families decorate wiChristmas trees and lights.
At the end of January or early FebruarEthiopians celebrate Tiket, or Jesuss ba
tism. This celebration is not as familoriented, but it is very important in th
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Colombia
Christmas in Colombia has the same theme as the
previous celebrations: Family. Luisa Jimenez, a LorasCollege student from Colombia, said the Christmas cel-
ebration actually starts nine days before December 25with novena. Jimenez explained that novena isabout preparing for Jesuss arrival. She said the books
containing these special prayers are so common inColombia that you can walk into any grocery store
and find them.
The novena prayers are reflective prayers for individu-
als to consider how they have treated others and thechanges they may need to make in their lives. Mod-
ern novenas are shorter but still have the same idea.Colombians may be listening to the radio or be at the
mall and hear the daily novena.
During these days, families visit other family members
and pray together. Each of these days, the family hasmeals together and sings carols. Christmas Eve is the
big meal and families attend services. Jimenez said herfamily opens their gifts at midnight on Christmas Eveto celebrate Jesuss birth. The gifts are usually small,
thoughtful gifts.
Jimenez said Santa Claus visits Colom-
bia, but the mainstream belief is that Jesus brings gifts. Decorations are also
similar to those in the United States, butbecause Colombia lies on the equator,
live Christmas trees are not an option.
KwanzaaKwanzaa is an African American eth-
nic holiday celebrating values that areheld in high-esteem in African cultures,
explained Dan Johnson, vice principal
at Senior High School.
There is a similar cel-ebration in Africa calledKwanzaa to celebrate the
harvest. The Americanversion was started in 1966
and draws from variousAfrican cultures.
This is not a religious holi-
day, stressed Johnson. Theholiday focuses on sevencore principles: Unity, Self-
Determination, CollectiveWork and Responsibilities,Cooperative Economics, Pur-
pose, Creativity and Faith.Kwanzaa begins December 26
and lasts seven days, with eachday dedicated to one of the core
principles.
Johnson said his family starts each morn-
ing discussing the principle of the day.During this time he reflects on how
he utilized that core value in the pastyear and how he will use it in the nextyear.
The holiday urges African Ameri-cans to focus on the seven principles
for community and individual success.
If you incorporate those values in your life youwill have success, said Johnson. For my family itcomes down to looking at those valuesthey tie well
with my Christian values and my African-American
heritage.
Part of the Kwanzaa celebration is the kinara, which isa candleholder containing seven candles, one for each
principle. Johnsons family does not light the kinarauntil the last day of Kwanzaa. At this time he said
his family recaps what each principle means to eachof them.
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Some families do exchange gifts for Kwanzaa. Johnson
advises those gifts should be homemade to maintainthe root of the principles being celebrated.
Tiha r and Maghe SankrantiNepal has a large Hindu population so their celebra-tions are not at the same time of year as most of us
are accustomed to. Surya Pandey,a Loras College student, explainedthat the Hindu celebration most
closely resembling Christmas isTihar in late October. This cele-
bration lasts five days and includesa lot of fireworks and lights. Each
day, Hindus worship different ani-mals, including crows, dogs, cows
and oxen. On the fifth day theyhonor their brothers and sisterswith blessings and gifts.
Maghe Sankranti is celebrated in
January. It usually happens on oneof the coldest days of the year, butit is a celebration to welcome the
warmer weather of spring. Pandeysaid people gather with their fami-
lies and eat foods that will keepthem warm, such as quati, a soupmade with different types of beans,
and khichadi, which is lentils andrice. He said the closest American
holiday to this one is Thanksgiving because the fam
lies come together for large meals, but it is a religioholiday for the Hindu people.
Lun ar New YearThis celebration has strong Asian roots. In Chinthe celebration is called the Chinese New Year, b
other countries have different names for the samcelebration. The Vietnamese culture refers to th
holiday as the Lunar New Year, and it is the bigest festival of the year. Students and staff at DivinWord College offer tri-staters a glimpse of what th
festival is about.
The traditional holiday lasts three days, but prepartions start weeks before, explained Rev. Linh Phamassociate director for development at Divine Wo
College in Epworth, Iowa. The holiday celebratthe new year and the coming of spring. It is a time
reflect on the past year and give thanks, then to looforward to a prosperous new year. Families general
start with a good house cleaning before the celebrtion, which allows for a fresh start in the new year. addition, you are not supposed to clean or take out th
garbage during the celebration because you are alremoving the good fortune brought by the new year
Pham associates the celebration with Thanksgiving the United States. He said it is a very family-center
holiday. In the days leading up to the holiday, chdren return to their parents home and help with th
preparations. In Vietnam, you spend the first day the new year with your immediate family and shou
not travel to other homes. On the second day yovisit extended family and on the third day you visyour teachers, who are revered in Vietnamese cultur
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Food is a must in this celebra-
tion, too. Pham said familiesprepare an abundance of food
and this also brings good fortunefor the year ahead. He recalls
sticky rice cakes as the one itemhis family had to have every yearfor the Lunar New Year celebra-
tion. In China, families prepare fishin abundance for their celebration.
Pham explained that the Chineseword for fish is very similar to the word
for prosperity, so fish are considered asign of prosperity.
Another custom associated with the holiday is giv-ing money to children. Pham said children go to
their elders to wish them good health and offer theirrespect. In return, elders give children money, oftensealed in red envelopes which symbolize luck.
As with any celebration, there are variations on how
the Lunar New Year is celebrated around the world.Pham pointed out that in Vietnam alone there are54 ethnic groups, each with their own traditions. In
Western culture we often associate dragon dances withthe New Years celebration. Pham said this is more of a
Chinese tradition, but there are parts of Vietnam thatalso dance with colorful dragons. The drum and gong
often mark the beginning of the celebration, but againPham said this depends on the region.
January 23, 2012, will mark the beginning of theyear of the dragon. In an effort to teach the publicabout this important tradition, Divine Word College
will host a one-day celebration on January 28, 2012,beginning with a celebratory mass at 3 P.M. followed
by a banquet and entertainment, including dragondancers. The event is free and open to the public, but
tickets are needed. For tickets call Divine Word Col-lege at (563) 876-3353.
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Baby-sitter vs. childcare provider: Do you know the
difference? A baby-sitter is someone a parent hires foran evening or during the day to watch their children.The baby-sitter that is referred to in this article is not
a child care provider, a professional who maintainstraining hours and makes a living caring for children.
For the purpose of this article, we are going to talkabout hiring a baby-sitter.
The first step in hiring a baby-sitter is finding one.In many cases, you can talk to other parents and get
a word-of-mouth referral. The only downfall to thismethod is that sometimes you and the other parentsmight be out together, and then you have to decide
who gets to hire the baby-sitter. When a parent callsthe Child Care Resource and Referral office, we
always recommend looking at the colleges in our area.Sometimes there is a student building with a bulletin
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board, and you can advertise there or
directly contact the specific depart-ments that might be related to chil-
dren. This might include education,early childhood, sociology, psychol-ogy as well as others. Parents could
also advertise in the paper or look inthe paper for baby-sitters. Remem-
ber, a baby-sitter doesnt have to bea young person; it could be someonewho is any age and enjoys being with children (such as a
retired teacher or family member).
Once you have found a baby-sitter or two, it is best tointerview them to make sure they are someone you wouldfeel comfortable leaving your children with. You may also
want to check and see if they have CPR/first aid training.Have your children present at the interview to see how he
or she treats your children. This includes how they talk tothem and how they interact with them (are they smiley or
are they grumpy and rough?). All of these things will giveyou some indication of how the baby-sitter will respondwhen they are alone with your children. Trust your gut too;
if it doesnt feel right when you meet with someone, youwill never have a good time when you are away from your
children and they are in that persons care.
When you find a baby-sitter you are comfortable with, you
may want to contact a few references. Ideally, these would
be other families they have baby-sat for. If they are a newbaby-sitter, you might want to speak with their parents or ateacher to decide on how responsible they are.
At some point you will want to talk about how much youare going to pay the baby-sitter. If you find someone who
baby-sits other families, they might already have a set ratethat they charge. In that case, you would want to make surethe rate is reasonable for you. If this is a new baby-sitter, you
may want to take into consideration their experience andhow many children they will be watching before
deciding what to pay them.
When the time has come for the baby-sitter to
actually baby-sit, there are some things to keep inmind. As a parent you will want to give them a
tour of the house and a list of household rules, assome children like to exaggerate the rules when
someone new is at the house. You will also wantto have a list of emergency numbers and whereyou will be for the time that you are gone. If it is
your first time leaving the children, you may wantto call and check in, but that all depends on your
level of comfort with the baby-sitter. It is best to
make it clear that they can
call you at any time if needed.
When you return, talk withyour children about how the
experience with the baby-sitter went. You will be able
to tell if they had fun and ifthe baby-sitter is someone you
may want to hire again.
Tara Roddick is acting director of Child Care Resourceand Referral in Dubuque. She has been with Project
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resolute
Resolutions
New Years resolutions: Many are made, few are kept.This time-honored tradition often inspires new ambi-tion as many of us pledge to finally read the Iliad in its
entirety or lose those pesky ten pounds; unfortunately,not all resolutions find themselves fulfilled as we
fall back into our habits.
That is not to say, however, that the
cause is lost. Keeping resolutions showsour kids and ourselves that dedication
and discipline does result in a job well
done and a goal accomplished.This stick-to-it-ism can be particu-larly infectious for area teens as they
explore the uncharted territories ofhigh school academics, looming col-lege applications and staying cool on
the social front. Katie Peterson, Youth Program Spe-cialist for the Iowa State University Extension and
Outreach program, noted that New Years resolutionsare very effective and can help guide teens to reach
their goals, as they are often more peer focused.
The ART of Crafting GoalsAs many adults know, one of the largest challengesin creating constructive goals, especially around the
New Year, is honestly evaluating your lifestyle andthings you would like to change about it. With somany areas of improvement to focus on, Peterson
suggested that teens reflect on three larger pointsof their lifestyles to make adjustments: health,
happiness and scholarship. Teens are faced with
opportunities forunhealthy lifestyles on a day-to-daybasis, Peterson pointed out, which may inspire the
to rethink their Facebookor Playstation 3 usacompared to time spent on the basketball cou
or ultimate frisbee pitch. Teens may also wato reevaluate their own happines
levels by reflecting on goals they caachieve emotionally, socially anmentally, Peterson said. Of cours
a school-based goal is always a goo
idea to include as well.
After a teen has identified thegoals, applying the ART princip
will help achieve success, Petersosaid. ART, an acronym for ActioResult, and Timetable, is a tool 4-
participants use to narrow down and better defin
their goals. Teens should ask themselves: what dI want to do? (Action), how can I do it? (Resuland when can I get it done? (Timetable). Finall
teens should consider the attainability of their goaPeterson suggested teens start with goals that a
relatively short-term, allowing them a better oppotunity to track their progress.
Peterson cautioned against too much parental involvment as teens create their resolutions. Parents shou
be more of a cheerleader behind it, she explained. a parent sets the goal for the child, its not the childgoal, making it more difficult for a teen to stick
the resolution. Rather than making resolutions ftheir teens, parents can focus on helping their tee
achieve their goals.
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Getting Down to BusinessSetting goals is a great way for teens to better them-selves, but these goals cannot be completed in state-ment alone! Staying motivated until the resolution
is complete can prove to be one of the most diffi-cult steps in the process. Peterson recommends that
reminders of the goal remain in visual sight at alltimes to prevent an out-of-sight/out-of-mind lapse.
Something akin to a goal-setting sheet should beposted in a place of visual prominence so that teens
can physically see both the goal itself and the prog-ress theyve made toward completion. Visual objects[are] definitely an asset, Peterson said.
She also emphasizes the importance of consequencesfor progress made or failure to maintain the laid out
schedule. Have there be an outcome for success andmissteps along the way, Peterson said. This will hold
a teen accountable throughout theentire process of their achievement.
One of the most common signs of ateens waning ambition is that theyare no longer following the steps to
achieve the goal they laid out. Goingback to the visual can prove very help-
ful in these instances. Ask how youcan help them rather than harping on
them, advised Peterson.
Keeping the goal in sight is criticalthroughout this process. Motivators
are one of the biggest things in keep-ing teens on track because kids often
expect to get something out of what
they do, said Peterson. However,she notes that one of the most
important factors can be good old-fashioned encouragement to reen-
ergize teens to keep working ontheir goals. Kids just need to hear
that encouragement from theirparents, she explained.
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Before and After ShotsAchieving goals can be gratifying for all of us, but par-
ticularly so for teens. Successfully reaching a goal canhave a huge effect on a teens self esteem and sense of
accomplishment. If they are able to reach a goal, itsan instant moral booster, said
Peterson.
Reaching goals as a teen can
teach many life lessons as well,including time management
and determination to succeed.One New Years resolution kept,Peterson said, can teach teens to
plan for the future and learn theprocess of tracking and attaining
their goals. She added that stud-
ies have also shown a correlationbetween setting and keepinggoals and flourishing in collegeand financially.
On the flip side, failing to see agoal to its end can be detrimental
to how a teen feels about him orherself, said Peterson. Add to that
the fact that the teens time man-agement skills and self-motivation
have not been sharpened, and it becomes apparent tha teen has missed out on more than an opportunity f
personal achievement. Working the resolutionanjust as importantly, its outcomeinto conversatio
with a teen can help maintain their ambition and prvent them from letting their goals slip to the waysid
Have it be a conversation topic rather than somethindiscussed on a daily basis [and] relate the goal to postive benefits in the childs life, such as mentioning
college scholarship when discussing grade improvments, advised Peterson.
Peterson also emphasized the importance of cotinued goal making and achieving throughout th
year. January is a good starting point [and] shorattainable goals are good for teens, she said. How
ever, maintaining an ongoing process of settinand reaching goals can help teens make the pr
cess a habit. Once they reach a goal, they can sdown with their parents and set another, Peteson said. She also mentioned that some goals, pa
ticularly health and wellness oriented resolutioncan be shared between parent and child as th
work toward the same end.
The most critical thing, Peterson stressed, is
keep track of the progress your teen makes alonthe way. The biggest thing is to celebrate any su
cess as you go . . . because thats going to be thbiggest encouragement to the child, she said. Th
will also help them maintain dedication to th
goal as their smaller achievements are positivereinforced.
Whether your teen is looking to bump their gradpoint average, make more friends or knock a few mo
books off their must read list, wisely setting goawhile tracking achievement is the ticket to succe
With a little encouragement and gentle remindeteens can turn wayward New Years resolutions in
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Tis the season of giving; unfortunatelythis means germs too. If you and your fam-ily have ever been couch-ridden with the flu,youve probably tried to pinpoint just where
and when it might have been contracted andhow you could have been spared the misery.Lots of variables can cause people to get sick, andno one is completely immune to coming downwith somethingits the cold, hard truth thatno matter what steps are taken, after one familymember gets sick, someone else often gets sicktoo. But with the right precautions and educationabout the flu virus, you can reduce the chances ofyour family getting the gift that keeps on giving.
During the cold months, from late fall throughspring, the aches and chills of the influenza (flu)
virus are most likely to appear. Marty Kluesner, phar-macy manager at Walgreens, 2260 Kennedy Road inDubuque, said some potential reasons for the influxof flu during the winter months are weather fluctua-tions and increased contact with people in indoorsettings. Studies have shown that the flu virus ismore stable when air is cold and dry, so combiningthat with school gatherings, shopping and family get-togethers you have the perfect recipe for catching abug along the way.
Influenza is thought to be transmitted from youngchildren to older children and adults; therefore agood place to start with your familys flu prevention
is with the little ones. According to theCenters for Disease Control and Pre-vention website, infancy through agefive is when children are at the great-est risk for flu complications. The fluvirus is transmitted through the air andthrough direct contact, so arguably themost important prevention method is toteach young children proper hand wash-ing techniques and the importance ofcovering their mouths when sneezing
or coughing. Asidefrom hand washing and
mouth covering, the flu vac-cination is another highly
recommended preventionmethod for children older than six
months of age. The flu vaccine is alsohighly recommended for adults. The vaccine, whichprevents against the most common strains of fluvirus, including influenza B, influenza A (H1N1) andinfluenza A (H3N2), contains inactivated viruses thatprepare the body to fight off infection when in con-tact with a live flu virus. Although the flu shot has ahigh success rate, like anything else, it isnt a guar-antee against getting sick.
When you hear the word flu, you might think of
agonizing head-in-a-vice congestion, or you mightgrimace at the thought of vomiting. The true influ-enza virus is a respiratory disease and not a stom-ach or intestinal disease, although we usually seeboth during the winter.
Other ways to reduce your familys chances ofgetting the flu are to encourage thorough handwashing, reduce the amount of direct contact withcrowds of people, eat nutritious foods, drink plentyof water, get enough rest and keep physically activeto boost healthy immune systems.
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The National Mississippi RiverMuseum & Aquarium
Sometimes the greatest adventures awaityou just down the street. This certainlyholds true at the National Mississippi RiverMuseum & Aquarium nestled along the river-bank of the mighty Mississippi in downtown
Dubuque. Designed for adventurers of all
ages, this Smithsonian Institutionaffil-iated museum and aquarium boastsas many surprises and as muchexcitement around every turn as the
great river itself.
Your expedition starts at the Diamond JoNational River Center where you are swept into
an encompassing history, geology and drama ofthe Mississippi River. Artifacts become interac-tive as beaver pelts, lead and arrowheads are atvisitors fingertips. Daring adventurers can even gospelunking in a river cave and be treated to a few
river stories.Around the bend, modern-day pioneers find the Riv-ers to the Sea Gallery, home to many aquatic anom-alies, including an octopus, seahorses and starfish.The massive Gulf of Mexico tank houses a variety ofcreatures that inhabit this rich ecological zone. Thisgallery also illustrates the importance of conserva-tion with an interactive globe teaching about globalwarming and the ecological causes behind it. Abovethis exhibit, the Riverworks area invites explorers tocheck out the water cycle, energy transference andhabitat by creating their very own thunderstorm!
The next stop on your journey brings you to theWilliam Woodward Discovery Center where adven-turers can go nose to nose with beavers, three-foot-long catfish and a bayoualligator. Interactive exhib-its also show the effects offlooding when the Missis-sippi outgrows her river-banks. In the Carver WetLab, trekkers can getup close and personalwith crustaceans in thetouch tank and check
out the sleekness ofriver mammal pelts.
Through January, theNational MississippiRiver Museum &Aquarium will alsohost an exhibittitled In theDark. This exhibit
gives explorers theinside scoop on every-thing that goes bumpin the night, including theecholocation of vampirebats, a shrews perspectiveon lawn mowers and a catsbuilt-in night vision.
Adventurers are also invited to
explore the Mississippi through great noveliMark Twains eyes at the Mark Twain River ExhibHere, journeyers can pilot a barge, explore the innworkings of steamboats and check out Tom Sawyers cave. The boat shop invites explorers to watccraftsmen assemble paddles for the iconic craft thonce dominated the Mississippis river traffic.
The National Mississippi River Museum & Aquariuprovides an entire campus to explore, making it onof the most exciting destinations in the tri-state arefor family adventures. The museum and aquarium open 10 A.M.5 P.M. daily November through Memor
Day weekend and admission is charged. Check owww.mississippirivermuseum.com or call (563) 559545 for updates on exhibits, 3D/4D films and othexciting activities coming to the campus.
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Answers to Nothing R 12/2
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Music Neighborhoods Blink-182(2011 DGC Records) by Amanda Kloser
From legendary (and, perhaps infamous) punk rockband Blink-182 comes their long awaited sixth stu-dio album, Neighborhoods. Born out of the firstrecording session after a long hiatus, Neighbor-hoods follows Blinks 2003 self-titled album and2001 widely acclaimed effort Take Off Your Pantsand Jacket. While the band definitely retains its hard-hitting, fast-paced punk tempo, Neighborhoodsproves to be a more reflective collection than theirprevious albums.
The Bad News: Blink-182 has made a career outof defying the appropriate, and this album is cer-tainly no exception. While they dont push thebounds of the unseemly quite as hard as they havein previous efforts, Neighborhoods does includea few f-bombs and melodramatic references toearly deaths (e.g., Natives, Ghost on the DanceFloor). Blinks iconic irreverence for authority alsopresents itself from time to time, illustrating that,
even through the blossoming of the bandmatesadulthoods, old habits die hard (e.g., This IsHome).
The Good News: As front man Mark Hoppusexclaimed at the MTV Music awards: Blink-182 isback! Fans of their earlier albums will enjoy thereturn of Blinks fast-tempoed, mosh-pit-worthybeats while appreciating a more mature (or atleast more retrospective) tone in their writing (e.g.,
Books The Juggler by Jeanette Hop-kins, il. by Stormy Mochal. $16.95 (autographedcopies available), Ice Cube Press.
Toss a chicken, catch two doors, juggle three cab-bages . . . Farmer Henri dreams of juggling all dayand all night. Jeanette Hopkins The Juggler is arhyming tale of perseverance and dreams cometrue. Sound sweet? Tis. But what really makesthis picture book outstanding are the illustrations.Admittedly I may be biased since the artist StormyMochal co-owns the Dubuque art gallery Outside
the Lines. But, Ive been in the childrens bookbusiness for 22 years andreally, really consider The
Juggler to be one of thecutest picture books I haveever seen. Its whimsicaland fanciful. The collages,the paintings, even thetitles are delightful. I love itand know you will too.
Kaleidoscope). Lyricsconsist mostly of relatable,almost whimsical phras-ing as the band presentsstruggles with spouses,families and heartbreak(e.g., Wishing Well, LoveIs Dangerous). It seems asthough members of Blink-
182 apply the experiences gained during their hitus to their latest album and illustrate that they areaching a punk-rock coming of age. Gone are threferences to barnyard anatomy; here to stay, seems, are thoughtful vignettes of everyday emtional experiences accompanied by Blink-182s sinature punk-rock delivery.
The Bottom Line: Though many die-hard fans wnote that Blink has become slightly subdued their latest effort, their growth in other areassucas lyric craftingis apparent when listening to thten tracks that make up Neighborhoods. Matu
themes, such as death, bitter heartbreak and rebelion, are covered in this album, along with a fecustomary four-letter words. Your teens especiamay relate to these themes, and using them as coversation pieces can help you remember the typeof restlessness and frustration you may have felt aa teen. Neighborhoods is a thoughtful compilatioassembled by an older and wiser Blink-182. Neand old fans alike can appreciate this bands retrspective effort.
Okay for Now by GaryD. Schmidt. $16.99, ClarionBooks.
Its hard to shell out $17.00for a kids chapter book inhardcover these days, butOkay for Now is worth everypenny. Im officially predict-ing it will win the 2012 New-bery Award. Author Gary D.Schmidt lets fourteen-year-
old Doug Swieteck narrate his story directly to yothe reader. He has just moved to a new town, witno friends, an abusive father, and a louse for aolder brother. Doug finds a safe haven in the loclibrary and discovers himself while learning abothe plates of John James Audubons birds. Aftloads of laugh-out-loud scenes and many lovemoments, things turn around a little too quickly the end of the book. But hey, Im a sucker for happy ending.
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Teen Caf, Carnegie-Stout Public Library, DubuqueDecember 1,3:305 P.M. The Teen Zone area will transform into the Teen Caf
for you to drop in after school for some fun and refreshments.Look at books, work on a simple craft projects, surf the Internet
or hang out with your friends. Ages 12High School. No
registration required.
Reflections in the Park, Louis Murphy Park, DubuqueDecember 1January 1, 510 P.M. nightly. The hills of Louis
Murphy Park will be alive with glitter and glitz as the glow of
thousands of Christmas bulbs and animated displays light upthe annual Reflections in the Park: A Hillcrest Lights Festival.
All new displays will be blinking their colors and strutting their
charm to an estimated 50,000 visitors. Cost: $8.00 per car.
For more information, call 563.583.7357 or visit Hillcrest FamilyServices.
Toddler Time, Carnegie-Stout Public Library, DubuqueDecember 1, 8, 16, 6:306:50 P.M., December 5, 12, 9:159:35A.M. and 10:3010:50 A.M. These 20-minute programs feature
short stories, songs and movement activities for children ages
1835 months with a favorite adult. No registration is required;
parental participation is a must.
Read-Aloud Crowd, Carnegie-Stout Public Library, DubuqueDecember 2, 9, 10:3011 A.M. Stories, sing-alongs, movement
activities, circle games and lots of funrecommended for
children ages 36 with a favorite adult. No registration isrequired; parental participation is a must.
Scholastic Book Fairs Warehouse Sale, Carnegie-StoutPublic Library, DubuqueDecember 23, 10 A.M.5 P.M. daily,
December 4, 15 P.M., December 5, 10 A.M.7 P.M. Bigger thanever, Carnegie-Stout Public Library will host a special Scholastic
Book Fair Warehouse Sale Friday, December 2 through Monday,
December 5. It is a half price Book Fair and families, teachersand the community are invited to attend. Volunteers are
needed. Please call Danielle Day, Youth Services Manager at
589-4138.
Stockton Christmas Tree Lighting and Christmas Walk,Downtown StocktonDecember 23. Annual tree lighting,carols and hot cocoa on Friday at 5:30 P.M. in Landmark Park.
Victorian carolers, horse drawn wagon rides and Santasarrival on Saturday from 9 A.M.2 P.M. Snacks and refreshments.
Information phone: 815-947-2878.
Victorian Candlelight Christmas Tour, Ryan Mansion Bed &Breakfast, GalenaDecember 23, 910, 1617, 2324, 3031,57 P.M. daily. Guided candlelight tour of a magnificent mansion
decorated for the holidays by 1882 costumed servants. $10.
Information phone: 815-777-2750.
That Time of Year, Bell Tower Theater, DubuqueDecember 218.The Bell To