psychosexual development the journey toward becoming mature life-givers and lovers
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Psychosexual Development
The Journey Toward Becoming Mature Life-Givers and Lovers
Spirituality of Incarnation
“…and the Word became flesh.”
–John 1:14Logos (Word)
Sarx (Flesh)
Em-Bodiment To be incarnate at
this time and place, with our unique background.
Caro salutis est cardo The flesh is the pivot-point of salvation.
Tertullian
In-Carnation as Journey
Being in a body isn’t the same as being “incarnate”.
A demanding, disciplined process.
Embracing the human condition.
Escapes from Incarnation
Repression Flight from the
body.
Addiction Fusion with the
physical-emotional instincts.
Spirituality of Development
Our awakening is an awakening
of God and our rising is God’s rising.
--John of the Cross
Toward Mature Loving
Psychology: Growth Development Maturity Integration
Faith/Spirituality: Grace/gift On-going
Conversion Chastity (W)holiness
Chastity “A School for the gift of the
self…”--Catholic Catechism
Discipleship and Sexuality
Lay Down Your Life. “There is no greater
love than this—to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”
Take Up Your Life.You can’t lay your life
down, if you haven’t taken it up.
“Taking Up” Your Sexual Energy
Another way of describing psychosexual development.
The long journey toward integration
What Is Psychosexual Development?
All life unfolds. Person-in-
process. Psycho-cognitive-
emotional-spiritual-physical-social growth.
Peek-a-Boo: Metaphor for Growth in Intimacy
You can see me! Relationships are
joyful. I will be in charge of
my self-disclosure. Some day, you can
see my dreams, hopes, pain, vulnerable feelings.
Stages of Psychosexual Development
Prenatal
Childhood
Adolescence
Adulthood
Cycles of Psychosexual Development
Awakening
Exploring
Relating
Real Life Journey
Phases
Stages
Breakdowns
Challenges
Struggles
Breakthroughs
Cycles
Our Inmost Self“You created my
inmost self, knit me together in my mother’s womb. A wonder am I…”--Ps 139:13-14
Prenatal Psychosexuality
Primal rhythm of sexual response begins.
Biological influences on sexual orientation.
Strength and intensity of sexual arousal.
Toward Integration
Interiority—deepening self-awareness
Responsibility—emerging sense of agency
Creativity—developing passion and generative spirit.
Intimacy—increasing capacity for self-disclosure.
Integrated Sexuality
Compassion & Personal Warmth Tenderness & Gentleness with People Good Self-Esteem Healthy Self-Awareness Ability to Take Risks Psychic and Emotional Flexibility Body Comfort
Compartmentalized Sexuality
Judgmental Attitudes Toward Others Critical, Punitive, Secretive Subtle Lack of Genuineness Grandiosity or Low Self-Esteem Careless or Overly Cautious Superficially Charming or Aloof Rigidity (“rigid orthodoxy”).
On-Going Integration
What still hurts?
What needs healing?
Ongoing Integration How Can I
Still Grow In the Skill and Art of Intimacy?