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IS IT DIFFICULT TO BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX?

48% - remained friends with their ex

18% - did not remain friends with their ex

AN AMERICAN AUTHOR, RELATIONSHIP COACH, AND A LAWYER FROM NEW YORK CITY.STATES THAT EVEN AFTER

AN AMICABLE BREAKUP, IT IS EXTREMELY DIFFICULT TO BE FRIENDS,

AT LEAST ‘INITIALLY’.

Susan Jean Elliott (born November 19,

1956)

GETTING PAST YOUR BREAKUP: HOW TO TURN A DEVASTATING LOSS INTO THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO YOU

“MOST PEOPLE CANNOT REMAIN FRIENDS AFTER A BREAKUP, BUT IF IT WILL EVER BE, IT WILL BE LATER ... MUCH LATER. THE ATMOSPHERE IMMEDIATELY FOLLOWING A BREAKUP IS TOO EMOTIONALLY CHARGED FOR IT TO HAPPEN RIGHT AWAY, IF AT ALL.”

(ELLIOTT, 2012, PARA. 2 )

WHICH STATEMENT IS CORRECT?

Difficult to be

friends?Not Difficult to

be friends?

‘COUPLES THAT BREAK UP WILL STILL REMAIN AS

FRIENDS’.

100 PARTICIPANTS

10 Questions

Excludingpersonal

details

THE TOTAL NO. OF PARTICIPANTS (SEPERATED BY GENDER)

Yes No0

5

10

15

20

25

30

MaleFemale

TOTAL NO. OF PARTICIPANTS THAT HAD A RELATIONSHIP BEFORE

IN THOSE 44 PARTICIPANTS WHO HAD A RELATIONSHIP BEFORE, IT LASTED:-

IF YOU HAVE AN EX (IF YOU DON’T, IMAGINE YOU HAVE ONE), YOU WOULD:

The questinos

Q.1SAYS ‘HI’ WHEN YOU MEET HE/SHE/THEM.

Q.1

strongly disagree7%

disagree13%

not sure26%

agree28%

strongly agree26%

Male

SAYS ‘HI’ WHEN YOU MEET HE/SHE/THEM.

SAYS ‘HI’ WHEN YOU MEET HE/SHE/THEM.

Q.2STILL THINK OF HE/SHE/THEM AS FRIEND.

Q.2

strongly disagree11%

disagree9%

not sure26%

agree28%

strongly agree26%

Male

STILL THINK OF HE/SHE/THEM AS FRIEND.

strongly disagree9%

disagree26%

not sure17%

agree39%

strongly agree9%

Female

STILL THINK OF HE/SHE/THEM AS FRIEND.

Q.3CONTINUES CHATTING LIKE FRIENDS.

Q.3

strongly disagree11%

disagree20%

not sure26%

agree33%

strongly agree11%

Male

CONTINUES CHATTING LIKE FRIENDS.

strongly disagree22%

disagree17% not sure

33%

agree20%

strongly agree7%

Female

CONTINUES CHATTING LIKE FRIENDS.

Q.4WISHES THEM ON SPECIAL EVENTS (EG. BIRTHDAY, CHRISTMAS).

Q.4

strongly disagree15%

disagree9%

not sure11%

agree39%

strongly agree26%

Male

WISHES THEM ON SPECIAL EVENTS (EG. BIRTHDAY, CHRISTMAS).

strongly disagree20%

disagree13%

not sure28%

agree26%

strongly agree13%

Female

WISHES THEM ON SPECIAL EVENTS (EG. BIRTHDAY, CHRISTMAS).

Q.5VOLUNTARY OFFERS HELP WHEN HE/SHE/THEY ARE IN TROUBLE.)

Q.5

disagree11%

not sure26%

agree22%

strongly agree41%

Male

VOLUNTARY OFFERS HELP WHEN HE/SHE/THEY ARE IN TROUBLE.)

strongly disagree6%

disagree13%

not sure44%

agree31%

strongly agree6%

Female

VOLUNTARY OFFERS HELP WHEN HE/SHE/THEY ARE IN TROUBLE.)

Q.6CONTINUES TO HANG OUT WITH THEM.

Q.6

strongly disagree15%

disagree26%

not sure33%

agree17%

strongly agree9%

Male

CONTINUES TO HANG OUT WITH THEM.

strongly disagree31%

disagree20%

not sure30%

agree13%strongly agree

6%

Female

CONTINUES TO HANG OUT WITH THEM.

Q.7WILL MENTION THEM IN FRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS.

Q.7

strongly disagree30%

disagree17%

not sure41%

agree2%strongly agree

9%

Male

WILL MENTION THEM IN FRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS.

strongly disagree19%

disagree17% not sure

46%

agree15%strongly agree

4%

Female

WILL MENTION THEM IN FRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS.

Q.8KEEPS THINKING ABOUT THEM.

Q.8

strongly disagree17%

disagree22% not sure

33%

agree17%

strongly agree11%

Male

KEEPS THINKING ABOUT THEM.

strongly disagree30%

disagree35%

not sure20%

agree13%

strongly agree2%

Female

KEEPS THINKING ABOUT THEM.

Q.9Hopes to get back into a relationship with him/her.

Q.9

strongly disagree20%

disagree13%

not sure48%

agree9%

strongly agree11%

Male

Hopes to get back into a relationship with him/her

strongly disagree

39%

disagree24%

not sure31%

strongly agree6%

Female

Hopes to get back into a relationship with him/her

Q.10Not date another person.

Q.10

strongly disagree

46%

disagree20%

not sure24%

agree4%strongly agree

7%

Male

Not date another person.

strongly disagree

48%

disagree28%

not sure17%

agree6%

strongly agree2%

Female

Not date another person.

CONCLUSION

Out of 100 participants, 44 of them broke up before and 65% of those

who broke up, their relationship lasted less than a year.

CONLUSION: COUPLES THAT BREAK UP CANNOT REMAIN

AS FRIENDS

REFERENCEMcLeod, S. A. (2011), Psychology Research Report,

Retrieved from http://www.simplypsychology.org/research-report.html

 The Lifescript Editorial Staff ( 2007, November 09 ) ,

Should You Be Friends with Your Ex? Retrieved from http://www.lifescript.com/life/relationships/wreckage/should_you_be_friends_with_your_ex.aspx

Elliott, S. ( 2012, May 15 ), Friends With Ex: Should

You Be Friends With Your Ex Post-Split? Retrieved from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/15/friends-with-ex-should-yo_n_1516245.html

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