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Psychology 301Social Psychology Lecture 21,
Nov 18, 2008Attraction and Attraction and RelationshipsRelationships
Instructor: Cherisse SeatonInstructor: Cherisse Seaton
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OverviewDefining Intimacy & LoveTheories of LoveWhy relationships? Evolutionary
perspectiveMaintaining close relationships:
Social Exchange Theory
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Readings for this sectionAronson et al. Chapter 9
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ReviewII. Relationships
SimilaritySelf-disclosureSatisfactionEnding
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What Defines a Close Relationship?
Different types:FriendsRomantic partnersParentsChildrenSiblings
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Interpersonal attraction: The positive attitude that we form about another person.
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Love versus liking: Quantitative Vs Qualitative difference
Unidimensional: Heider
LOVE Liking Neutral DislikeHATE
Distinct:Freud:
love = sublimated sexual desireMaslow:
love = stems from self-deficienciesRubin (1973)
Distinct – overlapping
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LoveThe movement from close relationships to
romantic relationships involves greater interdependence and intimacy.
Love appears to come in several varieties that arise in different ways and have different consequences.
How many kinds of love are there?
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In fact, there are quite a few kinds of love . . .
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LoveHatfield and Walster (1981)
Two major kinds of love:1.Companionate love2. Passionate love
Distinction between these two
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Companionate loveDefinition:
“The feelings of intimacy and affection we feel for another person about whom we care deeply”
FriendshipFamilial love High level of likingMutual respect Care
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Passionate LoveDefinition:
“The feelings of intense longing, accompanied by physiological arousal, we feel for another person; when our love is reciprocated, we feel great fulfillment and ecstasy, but when it is not, we feel sadness and despair”
Characteristics:Intense pain and pleasure Preoccupation Idealize High arousal
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Gender & LoveMen:
Fall in love more quickly than women.
Are more likely to endorse romantic beliefs such as ‘true love lasts forever’.
Women:Hold a more practical,
friendship-based orientation to love (i.e. a companionate view of love).
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Close RelationshipsThe movement from casual to close
relationships involves the development of interdependence.
The first close relationships develop in the family and set the stage for the relationships that we will form throughout our lives.
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John Bowlby’s Theory of John Bowlby’s Theory of Attachment RelationshipsAttachment Relationships
Infants have two competing needs: The need for safetyThe need to explore
There must be an evolutionary mechanism that provides a balance between these two needs
This mechanism is attachment“Attachment” is a pre-wired, biological mechanism
that is best understood in an evolutionary contextAttachment to parents provides the infant with a
secure base
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Patterns of Infant AttachmentPatterns of Infant AttachmentSecure
Use the attachment figure as an effective secure base from which to explore the world.
AvoidantAnxious about the attachment figure's
responsiveness and have developed a defensive strategy for managing their anxiety.Bartholomew splits category into:
FearfulDismissive
AmbivalentBoth anxiety and mixed feelings about the
attachment figure are readily observable.
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Attachment RelationshipsAttachment RelationshipsOur earliest developmental experiences allow us to
form two working models--one about the self and another about other people.
The working model about the self reflects our basic feelings of self-worth or self-esteem.Model of self = the self as worthy of love and
supportThe working model about others reflects our basic
beliefs involving interpersonal trust.Model of others = other people are seen as
trustworthy and available vs. unreliable/rejecting
Romantic attachment styles vary along these two dimensions
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Romantic Attachment StylesRomantic Attachment Styles MODEL OF SELF
(Dependence)
Positive (Low)
Negative (High)
Positive (Low)
SECURE Comfortable with
intimacy and autonomy
PREOCCUPIED Preoccupied with
relationships
MODEL OF OTHER (Avoidance)
Negative (High)
DISMISSING Dismissing of
intimacy Counter-dependent
FEARFUL Fearful of intimacy Socially avoidant
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The Four Romantic The Four Romantic Attachment StylesAttachment Styles
Secure (47%) = a sense of worthiness (lovability) plus an expectation that other people are generally accepting and responsive.
Preoccupied (14%; F > M) = a sense of unworthiness (unlovability) combined with a positive evaluation of others.
Fearful (21%)= a sense of unworthiness (unlovability) combined with an expectation that others will be negatively predisposed (untrustworthy and rejecting).
Dismissing (18%; M > F) = indicates a sense of love-worthiness combined with a negative disposition toward other people.
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Types of LoveHenrick & Henrick’s “wheel of love”
Eros -- emotionally intense
Ludus -- selfish love; practiced as a game
Storge -- friendship love
Mania – possessive, dependent love
Pragma -- practical love
Agape -- selfless, sacrificing love
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Aspects of Romantic Love:Aspects of Romantic Love:Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of LoveSternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
Sternberg claims that different types of relationships are based on different combinations of three qualities: Intimacy – warmth, closeness and sharing of self Passion – an intense emotional response to another person Commitment – the decision to maintain the relationship
Different combinations of the three results in seven different ‘forms’ of love
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Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of LoveSternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
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Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of LoveSternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
The components of Sternberg’s model change in level over time, accounting for the changing nature of love in most long-term relationships.
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What’s Love Got to Do With It?Evolutionary psychologists (e.g., Buss & Schmitt, 1993)
argue that “love” is just an adaptation to insure survival of the species. It keeps parents together to provide protection of offspring who require a lengthy period of development before they can fend for themselves.
According to this view, men and women have quite different mate selection strategies that can be detected today in their views about sexual relations, desirable features in a mate, and infidelity.
Genetic or evolutionary ‘fitness’ = reproductive success (ability to pass on genes)
Human behaviour adapted to maximize reproductive success
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Evolutionary perspectiveWe behave in ways to further the existence of
our offspringFor women, reproduction is more demandingFor men, reproductions is much less
constrainingLeads to different types of mate preferences
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How do the different evolutionary concerns of men and women affect their attitudes about sex and love?
How many sexual partners do you desire?
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Buss & Schmidt (1993)
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How do the different evolutionary concerns of men and women affect their attitudes about sex and love?
How important is good financial prospects in a mate?
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How do the different evolutionary concerns of men and women affect their attitudes about sex and love?
How important is physical attractiveness in a mate?
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Gender and the Personal Columns
Males Females
Offer Seek SeekOffer
Money
Status
Career
Young
Physically attractive
Physical attractiveness
Money
Job information
Personality traits (e.g., sincerity)
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InfidelityNational surveys
indicate extramarital infidelity in 20-25% of American marriages (Atkins et al., 2001).
Men – more likely sexual; women more likely ‘love affair’ (emotional)
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Sexual Vs. Emotional InfidelityBuss et al. (1992): Jealousy and Distress
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Sexual Vs. Emotional Infidelity
Buss et al. (1992)Physiological
correlates
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Maintaining close relationshipsJealousy caused by infidelity
One of the most damaging issues for a relationshipOne of the most difficult problems to treat in
therapy; although therapists estimated 50-65% of couples undergo therapy as a result of infidelity (Atkins et al., 2001)
Other issues:Existence of low rewards and high costs.Inequity in relationship (E.g., Equity theory)
What (other) theories explain why people maintain relationships?
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Social Exchange TheoryDefinition:
How people feel about their relationships depends on: Their perception of the rewards and costs of the relationship. The kind of relationship they deserve. Their chances of having a better relationship with someone
else.
Based on the Max-Min principle
People seek to maximize their benefits and minimize their costs
A relationship is more satisfying the more rewards and fewer costs it entails
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Social Exchange TheoryRewards: All positive things that a close
relationship offers people. These are all of the reasons why somebody would want to be in a relationship.
Costs: All of the downsides to a relationship. These are all of the reasons why somebody would not want to be in a relationship.
Outcome: The difference between the rewards and costs of a relationship.
Outcome = Rewards - Costs
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Social Exchange TheoryAdditional factors that influence one’s
interpretation of the outcome:
Comparison level (CL): The standard against which the outcome is compared
Comparison level alternative (CLalt): A person’s expectations about his or her other alternatives.
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• Costs (Inputs)
• Benefits (Outputs)
• Comparison Level (e.g., a standard)
• Comparison Level for Alternatives
Loss of freedom, $, time, etc.
Companionship, sexual fulfillment, etc.
Other person in a relationship, yourself in the past, an ideal
Evaluation of the value of other partners
Social Exchange Theory
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Social Exchange Theory:The investment model
Rusbult (1983)The investment model suggests that people’s
commitment to a relationship depends on:Their satisfaction with the relationship in
terms of rewards, costs, and comparison level for alternatives.
How much they have invested in the relationship that would be lost by leaving it.
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The investment model argues that commitment (C) to a relationship is determined by satisfaction (S) with the current relationship, investment (I) in the current relationship, and the availability of attractive alternatives (A) to the current relationship.
Social Exchange Theory:The investment model
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Social Exchange Theory:The investment model
The investment model explains why people will sometimes remain (High Commitment) in unhappy (Low Satisfaction) relationships. Low alternatives may keep a person in an unhappy
relationship just because there is nowhere else to goHigh investments create a situation of psychological
entrapment. The trapped person stays to justify the past investments. More may be invested in the relationship to try to make it better, but that escalates the need to remain to justify those investments. What theory explains this?
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Social Exchange Theory: The investment model
Rusbult (1983)
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CommitmentPersonal dedication
Motivation to maintain or enhance a relationshipConstraint commitment
Negative factors that keep a relationship goingMoral commitment
Based on sense of obligation
Factors that impact commitmentInvestments of time, money, energy, and emotions in the
relationshipThe availability of alternatives
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Commitment & “mate poaching”: The availability of alternatives
Schmidt (2004)N = 16,00053 countriesMate poaching:
Approx 20% of long-term relationships begin when 1 or both partners are involved with others
Attempted to
poach
Succumbed
Men 62% 47%
Women 40% 32%
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In Summary,Although “love”, or at least commitment, may have
evolved to insure protection of offspring that required a lengthy period of development, today it is influenced by a large number of situational and cultural factors.