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  • 1. +Problems in Friendships

2. +Quiz Name 2 of the 4 friendships we talked about in class. +2 (4) Why are cliques bad? +2 What is one solution to a clique? +1 (4) bring assimilation +1 Extra Credit: In order to have a good friend. +2 3. +Journal Have you ever been left out of a group? How did this feel?Have you left anyone out of your group? How did this feel? 4. +Clique A small circle of friends, usually with similar backgrounds or tastes, who exclude people viewed as outsiders. Why are cliques formed? What are some problems with cliques? Are their cliques in our school? 5. +Solution to Cliques Its okay to have groups of friends, it becomes a problem whenwe dont include other people. Have your own values, dont base your values on the groupyou are with Keep your social circles open and diverse. Speak out. Stand up for yourself and your beliefs. Have a mind of your own. 6. +The Office Gossip 7. +Gossip Great minds discuss ideas. Averageminds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.-Eleanor Roosevelt 8. +Gossip Casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about otherpeople, typically involving details that are not confirmed asbeing true. Who in hear has every talked about someone behind theirback? STAND UP Who in here has every had someone talk about them behindtheir back? 9. +Solution to Gossip Stand up for what is right. Dont continue the sting of gossip.Be the one who stops it. Who cares if its true or not? Is it anyof your business? Find friends. Find a friend or two who will stick by you and whowont listen to rumors. Care for yourself. Do things that strengthen your confidenceand positive feelings. 10. +Peer Pressure Positive peer pressure Negative Peer Pressure Harassment: persistently annoying others Manipulation: indirect, dishonest, way to control or influence other people 11. +Solution to Peer Pressure Have high self-esteem. Know your true self. Not everyone is doing it. 12. +Bullying Can be verbal or non-verbal, physical or non-physical. Can be direct (hitting, teasing or making threats). Can be indirect (rumors, manipulation, isolation, andexclusion). May be one person, or a group of people 13. +Cyber-Bullying The use of internet and related technologies to harm otherpeople. Remember that everything said over the interent, texting, etc. isALWAYS there. There is always a way to access what hasbeen sent. Even if you delete, it can still be accessed! 14. +Roles Victim The one being attacked or harassed Bully The harasser or attacker Bystander The watcher, doesnt say stop, doesnt say go. Doesnt sayanything. Ally The one to stand up and stop the harassment **Try to be the ally** 15. +Sometimes we may not know if we bully. Whoever said sticks and stonescan break my bones but wordswill never harm me, was a totalidiot! Unkind words can crushyou. Sean Covey Write a behavior that could hurtsomeone or make them feel badsuch as calling someone anethnic name, or trippingsomeone. 16. +Bullying: How to Handle it Dont give the bully a chance. As much as you can avoid the bully. Take a different route to avoid himor her if possible. De-friend them on facebook, twitter, etc. Stand tall and be brave When youre scared of a person youre probably not feeling yourbravest. Sometimes just acting brace is enough to stop a bully. Stand talland youll send the message: Dont mess with me. Feel good about you Nobodys perfect, but do what you can to look and feel your best. Get a buddy (and be a buddy). Two is better than one when trying to avoid being bullied. Make a planto walk with a friend or two on the way to school or recess or lunch orwherever you think you might meet the bully. Offer to do the same if afriend is having bully trouble. 17. +If the Bully Says or Does Something Ignore the bully. Try your best to ignore the bully treats. Pretend you dont hear them and walk away quickly to aplace of safety. Stand up for yourself. Pretend to feel really brave and confident. Tell the bully No! stop it! in a loud voice. Then walkaway or run if you have to. Students can also stand up for each other by telling the bully to stopteasing or scaring someone else, then walk away together. Dont bully back. Dont hit, kick, or push back to deal with someone bullying you or your friends. Fighting back justsatisfies a bully and is dangerous too. Youre also likely to get in trouble. Dont show your feelings. Plan ahead. How can you stop yourself from getting angry or showing youre upset? Tell an adult If you are being bullied it is important to tell an adult. Find someone you trust and go and tell themwhat is happening to you. 18. +Summary Friendships can enhance our lives, but there is the risk ofproblems in friendships. Being a good friend requires us towork at our relationships.