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Presentation of Self on Online Dating sites
Dr. Monica WhittyQueen’s University Belfast
[email protected] talk: Bath University ESRC series: 30th
Janurary 2006
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Personal Ads
• “Reminiscent of a heterosexual stock market"
• Favourable traits
• Stereotypical sex role characteristics were valued commodities
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Strategic advertisers
• Offer characteristics the opposite sex will find appealing Whitty & Carr 2006; Whitty, forthcoming).
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Exchange theory
• Individuals pursue relationships with others only so long as they are satisfying in terms of the overall rewards and costs.
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Self-disclosure
I'm sometimes sick at heart from falling out of love with those I grew to care for enough that I stopped risking their health. I have a Herpes virus infection with yearly outbreaks. I would like to meet a woman who shares this difficulty…
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Plea for honesty
Wealthy, entrepreneurial, fun loving, energetic, playful, said to be handsome, single WM, thirtyish. Seeks cute, young, petite, single WF for travel-mate and all around companion. No B.S., no gold-diggers, sincere only need apply…
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Selective truth telling
• e.g., individuals only advertised their weight when it was socially desirable.
• e.g., single women with children tended to omit any mention of having children in their personal ads.
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Video dating
• Matching hypotheses
• Gender differences
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Finding the ‘ideal’ partner
• Presenting a realistic picture of themselves will, in turn, lead to finding the ‘ideal’ partner
• Discrepancy between their ideal partner and the person who is realistically interested in their profile.
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Perfect match or Numbers game?
• Copious amounts of time writing/re-writing profiles
• Send many emails out hoping someone will respond
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Gender defined lies
• Women: photos, weight
• Men: height, SES
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Theories on self online
• Turkle (1995): liberating space for individuals
• Gergen (2000):self becomes saturated with too many identities
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Online romantic relationships
• Safe space to ‘play at love’ (Whitty, 2003).
• Joinson (2004): low self-esteem individuals
• Bargh & McKenna: true selves
• Cyberspace is not one generic space (Whitty, 2003; Whitty & Carr, 2006)
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My theory:
• Experiment with identities and feel safe to flirt
• Depth and breadth
• A need to present an ‘attractive’ but ‘real/actual’ self (Whitty, 2004, 2006, forthcoming)
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References
Whitty, M. T. (2003). Cyber-flirting: Playing at love on the Internet. Theory and Psychology, 13 (3), 339-357.
Whitty, M T. (2004). Shopping for Love on the Internet: Men and Women's experiences of using an Australian Internet dating site. Communication Research in the Public Interest: ICA, New Orleans, USA, May 27-31, 2004.
Whitty, M. T. & Carr, A. N. (2006). Cyberspace romance: The psychology of online relationships. Basingstoke: Palgrave Macmillan.
Whitty, M. T. (forthcoming). The joys of online dating. In E. Konjin, T. Martin., S. Utz, & A. Linden. (Eds.), Mediated Interpersonal Communication. Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.
Whitty, M. T. (forthcoming). Manipulation of self in cyberspace. In B. H. Spitzberg, & W. R. Cupach. (Eds.), The Dark Side of Interpersonal Communication (second edition). Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates
Whitty, M. T. (forthcoming). Love letters: The development of romantic relationships throughout the ages. In A. N. Joinson, K. Y. A. McKenna, T. Postmes, and U. R. Reips. (Eds.), Oxford Handbook of Internet Psychology. Oxford: Oxford University Press.
Whitty, M. T., Baker, A. J., & Inman, J. A. (Eds.) (in preparation). Online matchmaking. Palgrave Macmillan. To be published in 2006