F.A.S.D. An OverviewBRENDA MCCREIGHT PH.D. WORKSHOPS 2014

F.A.S.D. brain Neglect & Abuse brain

Challenges….

adhd speech/language information processing patterning sequencing learning deficits short/no impulse control inability to relate behaviour to consequences no sense of connection to societal rules

….and a few more…. inconsistent knowledge base

poor personal boundaries

confusion under pressure

difficulty grasping abstract concepts

poor short term memory

can’t generalize

inability to manage anger

poor judgment

appear to be stubborn

      

Parent factors…things to consider if you want to adopt a child with fasd…

 

What is your experience with failure & frustration

How do you manage chronic frustration and disappointment?

What is your history of commitment?

Are you prepared to be actively parenting forever? Possibly raising grandchildren?

What do you need from a child academically? Socially?

Do you believe in supports? Can you access supports? What about the extended family? Grandparents?

And some more….Can you give examples of experiences that were unexpectedly life changing?

How did you manage life changing experiences?

Can you live with uncertainty? Unpredictability?

Do you need quick success?

Do you need your children to make you look capable as parents?

Can you be, or learn to be, life long advocates for your children?

Can you create joy in the face of stress and other negative feelings?

Can you build in fun despite lack of predictability?

Home based strategies…Keep to a routine when possible

Prepare for transitions ie getting in and out of the car or bathtub, waking up, going to sleep, settling for dinner, change in television program, leaving for school, vacations…..

Keep complex carbohydrates and proteins around for regular snacks

Break all tasks down to one step at a time

Don’t do homework assigned from school unless it is a special group assignment

Create some fun in every day

Lots of cuddling and hugging – even in the “hands off” years of adolescence

 

A few more…Use individual sports such as swimming – lots of exercise!!

Learn to distinguish between flexibility and chaos

Re- teach everything

Use lots of picture prompts around the house

Get and use respite

Invest in the long term success

Get the child re-assessed every four years

Take care of yourselves – breathing, exercise, support

Thank you for sharing this time with me

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