Positive Starters

Deepening and Developing

Relationship

Mature Love

Sex

One-Sided

Communication

Not so great

Not much there

Not really

You Have No Commitment/Trust Non

e

Meant something only to one

person

Few Common Interests

Time Together Not Much Fun

Doesn’t Feels Like a Friend

Inverted Relationship Pyramid

Not Really Mature

No Development

One-SidedRelationship

No Positive Starters

CommunicationNot Great

Few Common Interests; Time Together Not Much Fun

Doesn’t Feel Like a Friend

YOU HAVE NO COMMITMENT, NO TRUST!

SEX

No Foundation

Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved.

   

Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved.

   

Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved.

   

FUTURE

WHICH SIDE IS MISSING?

When Tom and Mary were 19 years old they fell in love practically at first sight. They were magically drawn to each other and couldn't bear to be apart. They quickly got sexually involved and within two weeks had moved in with each other. A month later they eloped. A year and a half later they discovered they really weren't very compatible. They had totally different interests and values. They were not good friends, their communication wasn’t very good and they didn’t have much fun anymore.

WHICH SIDE IS MISSING?

Kevin and Keisha were very good friends. They enjoyed talking to each other and could talk for hours. They shared tons of interests. They had no better friend. But there was no heat, no physical attraction, or chemistry. After 18 months of being inseparable as pals, they thought “Why not? Let's get hitched, since we're so compatible and enjoy each other’s company.”

1. Seek a good match – Someone with common interests2. Pay attention to values 3. Don’t try to change someone into someone he or she is not 4. Don’t change yourself to get someone’s love or friendship 5. Expect good communication6. Don’t play games, be phony, or pressure someone 7. Expect respect—Have standards for what you expect

DECIDE, DON’T SLIDE

Different interests Values and goals not compatible Discover you don’t really like his or

her personality The relationship feels complicated No freedom to experience other

people Find you like someone else better Poor communication; you’re not

able to talk and share freely Not so fun; not the kind of

relationship you had imagined

Don’t like the way he or she treats you

Lied to; cheated on Feeling used Put down; controlled; disrespectful

or abusive treatment Feeling unsupported Wanting to change your

boyfriend/girlfriend Discover he/she has serious

problems (drugs, alcohol) Getting an STD Getting pregnant or getting

someone pregnant Raising a child alone

Attraction Learn More Decide

Attraction Slide Then Learn Risks…

PERSONAL ADS