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Positive and Effective Parent Communication

8/26/13D. Adam and C. Turnbull

SLIDE SHOW: http://goo.gl/yoouJ HANDOUTS: http://goo.gl/dsafJ

Objectives:• To identify and share methods of parent

contact• To reinforce the components of effective

communication• To share experiences and scenarios that will

lead to confidence in communication with parents


Lightning Round:• Brainstorm a list of responses to the following

questions. You will have 30 second each:• What ways do you communicate with parents?• For what reasons do you communicate with parents?• What issues have you come across or heard about in

reference to parent communication?• What is essential to effective, positive communication?


Why involve parents?


Parent Involvement:• 86% of the general public believes that support from

parents is the most important way to improve schools

• When parents are involved students have:– Higher grades, test scores and graduation rates– Better school attendance– Increased motivation & better self-esteem– Lower rates of suspension– Decreased use of drugs and alcohol– Fewer incidents of violent behavior


Parent Involvement:

• Family participation in education was TWICE as predictive of students’ academic success as family socioeconomic status.


Why do some parents resist involvement?


Parents may resist involvement because:

• Fear divulging family conflicts• Panic over child’s possible failure• Guilt over lack of parenting skills• Reluctant to interfere in teacher’s work• Belief that they would not know how to participate in school

• Illegal alien issues• Past negative experiences as a student in school


Communication Strategies

• Newsletter• Phone calls• Emails• Calendars• Website/

Teacherpages

• Response journals• Blogs• Surveys• Standardized forms• Rubrics• Twitter


Effective Communication:

• POSITIVE• PERSONALIZED• PROACTIVE• PARTNERSHIP


POSITIVE• Start communicating at the beginning of the

year before you need parents’ help.• Begin and end every conversation with

something positive about the student.• Remember that each parent’s child is the

most important child to him or her.


Personalized• Make personalized phone calls home as soon

as possible.• Jot quick personal notes on letters home.• Write quick notes in students’ assignment

books, folders, etc.


PROACTIVE• Keep parents informed.• Give plenty of notice for special

assignments and events.• Let parents know immediately when you

have concerns. • Work together to prevent problems from

developing.


PARTNERSHIP• Utilize parents as the premier expert on their

own child.• When problems arise, ask for their

suggestions and ideas (including what works at home).

• Encourage parents to respond to your notes by leaving a comments/questions space.


COMMUNICATION DOs and DON’Ts:

DOs:• Send positive messages to

parents.• Show respect in your body

language and words.• Contact parents at the 1st sign of

problems. • Develop contacts and identify

personnel and other community agencies that can provide support and services to families.

• Identify personnel who can translate.

• Develop a class website.

DON’Ts:• Contact parent only when there

is a problem. • Talk down to parent.• Contact parent only after a

problem has gotten out of hand.• Contact parent when you do not

have a plan of action. • Send information only in English

when parents speak other languages.

• Blame parents .• Expect parents to do most of the

teaching.SLIDE SHOW: http://goo.gl/yoouJ

HANDOUTS: http://goo.gl/dsafJ

Basic Communication Skills:• Listen Actively

– Body posture– Eye contact– Facial expression

• Use Verbal and Non-Verbal Encouragers• Minimize Distractions• Focus on CONTENT of verbal statements• Focus on the person’s FEELINGS

– Tune into the person’s voice– Tune into the person’s non-verbal behavior


Basic Communication Skills:• REFLECTIVE STATEMENTS:

– Paraphrase speakers words– Reflect the speakers emotions– Pause at least 5 seconds after making a reflective statement

• ASK QUESTIONS:– Open Ended:

» “What would you like to discuss today?”» “What do you think about that?”

– Closed-Ended:» “Do you agree with the proposed solution?”» “How many times has that happened?”


Basic Communication Skills:– Indirect Questions

» “I wonder how often this has happened?”» “I wonder what might have caused this behavior?”

– Clarifying Questions» “You’ve stated that John has a bad attitude. What does

he say or do that indicates to you that he has a bad attitude?”

» “What’s an example of how Jane reacts when you tell her NO?”


Basic Communication Skills:• SUMMARIZING– How To Summarize:

– Begin with a phrase that introduces the summary» “Let’s go over what we have discussed so far.”» “Let’s review our next-steps.”

– Make the summarizing statement– Ask the person to confirm or reject the summarizing statement

» “Did I include everything?”

– Listen Actively

– If necessary, ask the person to correct the summarizing statement» “What have I omitted?”


5 Guidelines for More Effective Communication:

By Cathy Abraham

• Understand your intent or goal• Say what you mean• Use I statements• Listen for content, feeling, and intent• Check for understanding


I Statements• I statements tend to:

– Place responsibility w/ you, the speaker– Clarify your position, feelings or opinions– Build trust by giving others information about yourself– Be less threatening

• You statements tend to:– Elicit a negative or defensive response– Place blame or put people down– Come off as being accusatory or preachy

“I couldn’t understand what you said.” / “You didn’t make any sense.”“I missed having your input at the meeting.” / “You didn’t care enough to

come to the meeting.”SLIDE SHOW: http://goo.gl/yoouJ


10 Guidelines for Communicating w/ Families:

1. Don’t assume that you know more about the child, his/her needs, and how those needs should be met than his/her parents do.

2. Junk the jargon.3. Don’t let assumptions and generalizations about parents and families

guide your efforts. 4. Be sensitive and responsive to the cultural and linguistic backgrounds

of parents and families. 5. Don’t be defensive or intimidated. 6. Refer families to other professionals when needed. 7. Help parents strive for a realistic optimism. 8. Start with something parents can be successful with. 9. Respect a parent’s right to say “No.” 10. Don’t be afraid to say “I don’t know.”


Don’t Forget to Listen:

“I used to want to interrupt and explain and justify or defend – which only made people more upset. I’ve learned that letting an upset person feel heard, not interrupting, restating what they’ve said and allowing them plenty of time to get it off their chest goes a long way toward letting the problem resolve itself. I’ve also seen that people will often accept a decision or an outcome contrary to what they wanted originally if they believe their point of view was listened to respectfully and taken into consideration.” Lolli Haws (principal)


WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THINGS GO WRONG?

FACTS:• Dissatisfied customers will tell as many as 16

people about a bad experience• Only 4% of unhappy customers bother to

complain. For every complaint we hear, 24 complaints are communicated to others, but not to us.

• In the eyes of a customer, it takes 12 positive incidents to make up for one negative one.


BUT, Goodwill can be recovered!

FACTS:• 54-70% of customers who complain will do

business w/ you again if their complaint is resolved

• 95% will do business w/ you again if their complaint is resolved quickly


10 Tips for Handling Complaints:1. Get into the present. Focus your attention on the customer.2. Clear your mind of any preconceived notions or assumptions about the

customer or the problem.3. Open your ears and listen. Don’t jump to conclusions or speak for the

customer.4. Ask questions that focus on problem solving.5. When responding to the customer, don’t use jargon or language that

intimidates.6. Acknowledge that you understand what the customer is saying and what

he/she is feeling.7. Be honest. Don’t make excuses or be defensive.8. Work out a mutually beneficial plan of action9. Be sure to follow through on promises in a timely manner.10. Thank the customer for bringing the complaint to you. 2012 NSPRA


No matter what is said by the parent, keep bringing the focus back to how you and the parent can help their child succeed.


Final Thoughts:• You control the flow of communication with

parents.• Reach out early to every parent and build goodwill

by pointing out something positive. This will give you credibility if you have to call for something negative later.

• Call parents at work for good news.• You are never alone; just grab me if you need me.• Positive phone calls are a great investment.


Two SculptorsI dreamed I stood in a studio and watched two sculptors there.

The clay they used was a child’s mind, And they fashioned it with care.

One was a teacher. The tools she used were books, music and art.One was a parent who worked with a guiding hand and a loving heart.

Day after day the teacher toiled with touch that was deft and sure,While the parent labored by her side and polished and smoothed it o’er.

And when at last their task was done, They were proud of what they’d wrought.

For the things they had molded into the child Could neither be sold or bought.

And each agreed he would have failed If he had worked alone. For behind the teacher

Stood the school,And behind the parent,

The home.

-Author UnknownSLIDE SHOW: http://goo.gl/yoouJ


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