pointe! magazine - winter 2012 - mt. pleasant/downtown
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Bringing together the best of what women want and need - body, soul and spirit. Presenting new, fun and insightful ways to do daily life, connect with other women, and serve the community.TRANSCRIPT
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pointe! magazine asked 300 women questions
relating to Our Favorite Th ings. Look
for these diamonds throughout our
magazine to see their responses!
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Ask Meg . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .4
How Do I Love You? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .14
It’s the Little Th ings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .18
Pointe! East, West, North , South Discover Mount Pleasant . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .5
Charleston Favorites . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .6
The Main Pointe!All of My Favorite Th ings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .10
Untangled . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .20
Design Pointe!rsTh e Consigning Fashionista . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .12
Favorite Winter Wardrobe . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .13
Photography Hints & Tips . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .32
A Designing Woman’s Favorite Th ings . . . . . . . .34
Welcome to the World of Pinterest . . . . . . . . . . .34
Connecting Pointe!sFor the Love of Coff ee . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .16
I’m a MOP, I’m a GMOP . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .22
My Kids’ Favorite Th ings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .24
Oh, She’s My Favorite . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .26
Th e Great Outdoors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .37
Pointe! YummyComfort Food . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .27
Health Simplifi ed . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .36
EDITORS LAYOUT & DESIGNLori Stephanoff Sherie LaPrade
Wanda Litchenberg Chris Duckett
Cindy Van Horn Jennifer Harvey
ADVERTISINGCara Adams
Madeleine Th omas
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growing rootsMajor changes are taking place outdoors as trees and shrubs
prepare for winter. Soon, most will be able to withstand
temperatures well below zero. Scientists have found that short
days and cold temperatures trigger the development of cold
hardiness. During winter dormancy, usually no above ground
growth happens, but the plant continues basic metabolic
functions and minimal growth/repair below ground.
Do you feel the nudging as well this winter season to put
down deeper roots and do some reparative work? Do you
hear the chilled breezes of winter whisper your name?
“Come deeper. Th ere is more for you.”
Suggestions for going deeper this winter:
1. Assess your family system. What has served you well
and what has not? Pick just one area for improvement
and focus on it. Remember, the truth sets you free. You
cannot grow deeper without being honest with yourself.
2. Read. One of the greatest resources for growth and
repair is the Bible. Th e intake of new information
supports growth.
3. Find a friend who listens well. If you’re feeling really
gutsy, pick someone who’ll tell you the truth. You
cannot grow deeper without sharing your thoughts
and feelings – good or bad!
4. Do not isolate. You cannot grow deeper alone! It’s fi ne
to sit by the fi replace and read a book but too much time
alone, particularly if you’re emotionally isolating, is not
good. Inner isolation produces frigid conditions that
stifl e growth. Your soul cannot survive prolonged chills.
5. Forgive. Unforgiveness in relationships, be it with
dad, mom, sister, brother, friend, co-worker or even an
ex-spouse, will stifl e any deepening of your inner root
system. Choose to release and let it go. No forgiveness
means no growth.
Winter can be the best season of the year. As you refl ect,
correct and put your roots down deeper, you will emerge a
stronger and more fruitful person in the spring because of
the growth and reparative work you did this winter.
In great expectation,
Senior Pastor, Cathedral of Praise
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“My one year old is whining all the time and seems constantly frustrated. I'm not sure what to do or how to help. Do you have any advice?” — Desperate Mother
Th ree Words! Baby Sign Language. It will change your life. With
a little positive reinforcement, babies learn quickly. Th ey can pick
up sign language as early as six to seven months. Recently, my one
year old kept waking up several nights in a row. Finally, the other
night she did the sign for “eat, eat” and I realized that she must be
going through a growth spurt and getting hungry in the middle of
the night. I gave her a snack and she went right back to sleep.
Trust me, being able to communicate with your child will alleviate
so much frustration. Th ere are free online resources that will help
you teach your little bundle of joy. Start with the basics (hurt, help,
more, eat, drink, and please) and build from there. You’ll love it
when they are able to express their needs and wants. Good Luck!
“I really like this girl and have tried to do everything I can to get her to notice me. Why is she not interested in me?” — Boy Looking for Love
Every girl ultimately wants to end up with a sweet, perfect Romeo
and have the princess, fairy tale story. And there has to be some
intrigue! What do I mean by this? Well, women are hunters, too!
Imagine you’re planning to go on an amazing hunt. You took time
to get all the right gear and make sure your clothes were scent-free,
went to bed early, and got up before sunrise to be in the woods at
the best time. After all that work, you fi nd the deer tied up in the
woods, standing right in front of you. No nervous waiting, no
chase, no mystery, and no chance to use your new scope — just
there and available. Let’s be honest, it would not be fun, because the
heart-racing anticipation of the hunt is a huge part of the adventure.
Likewise, in courting a girl, the hunt is a big part of the fun for
her. Now I am NOT saying to always be playing games. What I
AM advocating is spending time to make yourself intriguing to
her. Don’t always come on super strong. Show confi dence when
you’re around her. Let her know you are aware of her; but, at the
same time, spend time with your friends and talk to other girls.
Who knows? You might just catch yourself a doe!
“I have been married for eleven years and it still seems that my husband and I are sometimes on a diff erent page. I love him but we fi ght over the small things. I am just getting tired of it and don’t want to spend the next eleven years having the same petty arguments. How can we move past this?” — Tired Sarah
Here’s the number one advice that changed my marriage: assume the best. Th is is such a foreign concept. Th e average person you
meet does not have your best as their focus. Our experiences
growing up often reinforce that message. However, God means
for marriage to be diff erent. He intended it to be a safe place
where you both feel prized, cherished, valued, and honored. Th is
can be diffi cult in the beginning and does take practice, but the
payoff is priceless.
Let’s try it. You call and he says, “Sorry, I’m working late.” What
you should not assume is…He always works too much. He doesn’t
want to spend time with me. Work is more important than the family.
What he should not assume is…She is such a nag, always checking
on me. She has no appreciation for the hard work I do and money I
bring home.
What if you both ASSUMED THE BEST? And you thought…He
works hard to provide for us because he cares so much. I know he wishes
he could be here. We will make the most of it when he gets home. And he
thought…She really misses me; that’s why she keeps calling and texting.
She is such a dependable mother; I know when I am gone she takes great
care of the kids! Th en, when he walks in the door, instead of tension
and a cold night, you’re both waiting with passionate anticipation
to see each other; and as soon as the kids are in bed, then the sparks
fl y…just how God intended married life to be!
Have questions? [email protected]
MEGAN TURNERAS A WIFE AND WORKING MOM WITH 3 GIRLS, MEGAN UNDERSTANDS THE CHALLENGES OF BALANCING HOME, FAMILY AND FRIENDSHIPS. ENERGETIC AND PASSIONATE, SHE LIVES LIFE WITH CONTAGIOUS JOY AND FREEDOM.
Ask MEG
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On a clear day, a scan of the horizon reveals the Sullivan’s Island
Lighthouse. A walk or jog on the bridge in its separate pedestrian
lane will satisfy those seeking to enjoy a longer bird’s eye view.
Th ere’s great parking available at the foot of the bridge at the
Waterfront Park.
Boone Hall Plantation and Gardens is a must-see. Several annual
events are held on the main property, including the Lowcountry
Oyster Festival, Taste of Charleston, Barbecue and Bluegrass
Festival, the Scottish Games and Highland Gathering, as well as
numerous concerts. At its fi elds located on Highway 17 North, you
can enjoy events such as the Strawberry Festival and the Pumpkin
Patch. History lovers will enjoy the Re-enactment of the Battle of
Secessionville that happens every November.
Mt. Pleasant’s parks are simply stunning and very well done.
At the Memorial Waterfront Park, you’ll fi nd a great play area,
museum and meeting venue. Th e pier, which is also used for events
throughout the year, has a spectacular view of the downtown
Charleston skyline. Th e newest park at Shem Creek has quickly
become a favorite spot for its boardwalk and panoramic scenery.
Palmetto Island County Park is a beautiful, natural park with great
trails for walking, running or bicycling. Cool off during the heat of
summer at Splash Island Water Park.
Tucked away from the main thoroughfares, you’ll fi nd the Old
Village of Mount Pleasant with a number of historic churches and
Mount PleasantMount Pleasant
homes from the colonial and antebellum periods. Don’t miss the
collection of unique shops and boutiques. Alhambra Hall, a popular
event venue, boasts a stunning view of the Charleston Harbor.
Dining options range from local establishments to national chains.
If you’re looking for updated classic southern cooking, try Boulevard
Diner and Page’s Okra Grill. For a more upscale experience with
comfort food, check out 17 North Roadside Kitchen. Th e Palmetto
Pig serves up great barbeque at aff ordable prices.
Whether you’re making a day trip or planning a longer stay, you’ll
fi nd plenty to do, see and eat in Mount Pleasant! Explore and enjoy!
DISCOVERDISCOVER
A visit to Mt. Pleasant begins as one travels across the Arthur Ravenel Bridge from downtown Charleston. Gorgeous views of the Cooper River, Charleston Harbor, and
the USS Yorktown from the bridge make the drive a thrilling adventure.
Visit TownofMountPleasant.com to explore Mt. Pleasant, learn its history,
and see what's happening.
January 29, 2012Lowcountry Oyster Festival
Boone Hall Plantation
1235 Long Point Road
(843) 577-4030
boonehallplantation.com
Patriots PointHome of the USS Yorktown
Medal of Honor Museum
40 Patriots Point Road
(843) 884-2727
www.patriotspoint.org
Things to Do in Mt. Pleasant
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charleston favorites
When our pointe! editor requested an article for this issue, I immediately knew I would have to write on our favorite things about Charleston. This area of South Carolina, called “The Lowcountry” by locals, is an eclectic mix of cultures, religions, and opinions. Newbies will discover that there are some things on which lifelong residents agree.
Charleston, historically known as “Th e Holy City” due to the
number of churches established here, was founded by those
seeking freedom to worship God in their own way. So it’s not
unusual that lifelong residents count God and freedom as two of
their most cherished rights. Steeples dot the low skyline in the
City of Charleston and throughout the Lowcountry. Th e variety
of architectural styles represent a broad range of denominations all
living harmoniously together. Whether old or new, the messages
spoken in these sanctuaries are the same: to love one another and
be kind to our neighbors.
Charleston residents also proudly support our military (Navy, Air
Force, and Coast Guard bases are located here). We value people,
smiling, and hospitality. And on the list of personal food favorites:
we love boiled peanuts and pork barbeque.
I have taken the liberty of altering the lyrics of Julie Andrews’s
popular song, “My Favorite Th ings” to fi t Charleston’s way of life.
So please, take a moment, join me in being goofy and be glad that
my voice isn’t in your heard! When you get a moment, play the
original…it’ll make you smile.
The smell of MagnoliasAnd warm sandy beaches
A day of fi shingAnd believing in Jesus
Bouncing kids fl ying high on swingsThese are a few of our favorite things
Juicy, rich melonsAnd home-grown peanuts
Iced tea that’s sweetAnd a few jalapeños
Chefs who are masters at cooking hot wingsThese are a few of our favorite things
Horses and carriages strolling the streetsSaying hello to new people we meet
Mild winters, hot summers, azaleas in springThese are a few of our favorite things
Dodging hurricanesKeeping cool over 90 degrees
When we could be sadWe simply remember our favorite things
And then we don’t feel so bad
charleston favoritesestont
— Stacy E. Domingo
charleston
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Th rough day trips and overnight stays, our family has visited quite a
number of the local attractions, restaurants and hotels. We started by
spending a day in the downtown area just walking and enjoying the
architecture, history and little gems we found “off the beaten path.”
Whether we travel the city in a carriage, on a trolley or by plain old
“fl at-footing it,” discoveries abound!
When you’re ready to take a break from shopping or touring the
historical buildings and homes, you’ll fi nd some amazing restaurants.
If you’re in town to celebrate a special occasion or looking for an
exceptional dinner, there’s no better place than Th e Library at Vendue
Inn. Located just a few steps from Waterfront Park and well within
walking distance of many Charleston landmarks, Vendue Inn is a
well-appointed boutique hotel with excellent service, breathtaking
views and a stellar restaurant.
Th e Library is a small, sophisticated restaurant which exudes comfort
and luxury, without being stuff y. Th e atmosphere and service, combined
with an award-winning chef, makes Th e Library a favorite of both
residents and visitors. While the focus is “Lowcountry” cuisine, the
menu includes updated classics like Shrimp and Grits and slightly
more unusual fare like Antelope Shepherd’s Pie. Th e restaurant
highlights local farms, markets and artisans, as evidenced by the
nightly fresh seafood specials.
No trip to Charleston is complete without an exceptional dining
experience and Th e Library at Vendue Inn is just that. While you’re there,
check out the unparalleled view of Charleston from their rooftop! Enjoy!
exceptional diningexceptional diningThe picturesque streets of downtown Charleston, South Carolina beckon all to explore. Visitors and residents alike agree there’s nothing like a stroll along the historic streets and around the beautiful parks. With a bit of intentional planning, even busy locals can fi nd time to enjoy all the city has to off er.
— Cindy Van Horn
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charleston
RACES(From charlestonrunningclub.com)
Jan 7: Bulldog Breakaway 5KThe Citadel, CITADELSPORTS.COM
Jan 15: Charleston Marathon Marathon & 5K, N. CharlestonCHARLESTONMARATHON.COM
Jan 28: Charlie Post Classic 15K/5K, Sullivans Island
Feb 4: Nativity School Flapjack 5KJames Island County Park
Feb 4: Ashley Ridge Fox Trot 5KRun/Walk, Summerville
Feb 11: Go Red Heart 5K Run/WalkMount PleasantMUSCHEALTH.COM/GOREDRUN
Feb 25: LifePoint Gift of Life5K/2K Run & Walk, James IslandLIFEPOINT-SC.ORG
Feb 25: MESSA 8K for H2OFolly Beach PierSPINNER.COFC.EDU/~MESSA
Mar 10: Flowertown Festival Run 10K/5K, SummervilleSUMMERVILLEYMCA.ORG
Mar 15: Catch the Leprechaun 5K, Mt. PleasantCATCHTHELEPRECHAUN5K.BLOGSPOT.COM
Mar 31: Cooper River Bridge Run 10K, Mt. Pleasant/CharlestonBRIDGERUN.COM
RACE DISTANCES5k = 3.1 miles, 10k = 6.2 miles,
Half Marathon = 13.1 milesMarathon = 26.2 miles
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— Jeff King
I had a favorite T-shirt once. It was a birthday gift from a friend and fi t me perfectly. It was the softest tuxedo T-shirt I had ever seen. My wife, however, did not share my love for this T-shirt.
I’m not sure what she did with it, but after I wore it to my cousin’s wedding rehearsal dinner, she made sure I’d never fi nd it again. Actually,
I think she cut it into pieces and sent them to the far corners of the earth. Fortunately, that T-shirt was not my favorite thing.
ALL MY
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My favorite football team is the New Orleans Saints. It’s
probably less of a “favorite football team” and more of
an “obsession.” I grew up in New Orleans and being
a Saints’ fan is part of my DNA. I know it’s crazy that the entire
week’s mood rests on the ability of 53 guys that I’ve never met
to score more points than 53 other guys that I’ve never met, who
happen to be wearing a diff erent color outfi t. Th at’s the rational
side of me. Th e more dominant irrational side of me, though, still
forks out $300 per season to make sure I’m able to watch every
game, all while wearing a jersey and screaming at strangers on my
television. And this thirty-something year old man, with a wife
and kids, even got a tattoo of a fl eur-de-lis (the Saints’ logo). Even
still, the Saints are not my favorite thing.
I love exercising and playing all sports. So much so that I wake up
at 4:40 a.m. every morning to make sure I’m able to get to the gym
that day. Th e problem is, however, exercising doesn’t love me. I’ve
dislocated both shoulders and a hip and torn ligaments in both
ankles, both knees, and an elbow. My body cracks so much that
when I get out of bed, it sounds like I was lying on bubble wrap.
Working out is not my favorite thing.
We have four chickens, two cats, and one dog. Reluctantly, I’d have
to say the chickens are my favorite because they’re relatively quiet,
don’t use the restroom in the house, and they give us eggs. Initially,
my wife let them sleep in a modifi ed Tupperware container in our
bedroom. I woke up thinking I lived on “Green Acres,” without
the talking pig. After six weeks and $800, I built a chicken coop
in our backyard. So far, we’ve gotten about four dozen eggs. Th at
comes out to roughly $16 per egg…not dozen…PER EGG! Th e
chickens are not my favorite thing.
So what IS my favorite thing? It’s not something I own, watch, do
or wish I could eat. No, my absolute favorite thing is the feeling I get
during those seemingly tiny moments that happen throughout the
day. It’s the kiss my nine-year-old daughter gives me every morning,
the noise my wife makes when I start to massage her shoulders. It’s
the dry delivery of a joke my 11-year old tells that reveals he has
my sense of humor. It’s staring at my four-year-old in the rearview
mirror as he’s asking me the absolute craziest questions. Th ese are
the moments I live for. Th ese are the moments I will cherish forever.
Because these moments, these beautiful moments, may be the only
time my mind is off how much money I’m spending per egg.
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The Consigning Fashionista My love for “thrifting” and “consigning” started while I was in college, working part-time, with very little money for clothes. Still wanting to look cute, I hit the local thrift stores and soon fell in love.
I found so many great clothes at incredibly low prices. Imagine a
whole outfi t for under $20! Now college, a husband and three kids
later, my heart still beats strong for consignment shops and thrift
stores. Here are a few things I have learned along the way:
1. Give yourself timeLike the saying goes, “You may have to kiss a few frogs before
you get a prince.” With thrift stores, you may have to look
past the polyester pants and faded jeans before you fi nd a gem.
I’ve found so many name brand clothes sandwiched between
a tacky Christmas sweater and a neon windbreaker. However,
many consignment stores now only accept “in style” clothes
which really saves the shopper a lot of time.
2. Shop for th e futureAt the end of last summer, I found winter gloves for my kids
for $0.25 each. I wasn’t shopping for gloves, but knew my
kids would need them in a few months and I couldn’t beat
the price. Many people donate their old Halloween costumes
which are great for dress-up clothes. Pick up that adorable
sweater, even if it is 100 degrees outside. Come winter, you
will be so happy you did.
3. If you don’t love it ...don’t buy it !I always tell myself, “Somebody gave this away or is selling it
for a reason.” It could be their weight fl uctuated or it may fi t
funny. Be sure to check the item over completely. Just because
something is $2 doesn’t mean you have to buy it!
4. Don’t be specifics crazyIf you need a new pair of jeans, certainly look at the jeans
section, but look throughout the entire store. You may fi nd
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a cute scarf or even that cheesecake pan you keep forgetting to
buy. My favorite piece of furniture in my house is an old wooden
dresser purchased for $20 at a thrift store (while I
was actually looking for black pants.)
5. Get free cloth es!Every consignment store works diff erently. But many will buy
your clothes and give you store credit or cash. Why not organize
your closet and make room for new items? Also, when you
donate items, many thrift stores will give you a discount coupon
to use on your next purchase.
6. Shop wit h companyIt’s always more fun to shop with friends and hunt for treasures
together. And if sometimes you question your fashion taste, a
true friend will tell you if you are headed
in the right direction.
Take a break from the mall and outlets. Give your local thrift and consignment stores a chance! I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.
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Nearly everyone has a favorite item in their closet. It may be a go-to black dress, a knit scarf, a hat with sentimental value, or a pair of shoes that just seems to tie any outfi t together. Being a lover of fashion, I can’t settle on just one favorite. Trends and seasons come and go, but some items are worth keeping around from year to year. Of course, if it’s staying in your wardrobe, it’s worth keeping in top shape. Prolong the life of a favorite pair of shoes by using shoe polish or
protectant. You may also take shoes to be professionally repaired
between seasons. I have a beloved pair of riding boots that
desperately need to be resoled in order to make it through the
upcoming fall/winter season. Because these boots were such an
amazing fi nd, I consider them nearly irreplaceable, and therefore
worth the extra maintenance.
Closet pests are no joke. I discovered this fi rsthand upon pulling
a favorite argyle sweater off the shelf, only to discover a large
moth hole in the right sleeve. Protect out-of-season items by
storing them in containers that keep pests away. Additionally, you’ll
gain extra closet space to help you sort through in-season clothes
and accessories.
Proper tailoring can allow you to continue wearing favorite pieces. A
creative tailor or seamstress may also “reinvent” a beloved but tired
article into something fresh.
A word of caution to those who hold on to everything in their closet:
it may be time for a little fashion intervention. If you don’t know the
diff erence between “vintage” and “last season,” ask a trusted friend
or family member to lend their (constructively) critical eye to your
wardrobe. If the item is beyond repair, you may want to consider
letting it go. Decide which pieces will be wearable and which ones are
just taking up closet space.
Certain garments and accessories can always recall great memories or
accentuate your best features. With a little care and a discerning eye,
you can keep a balance between fashion-forward and favorite pieces
to maximize your personal style.
wardrobe
favorites
revisited— Brooks Hearn
Favorite go-to accessory?
40% will choosea purse
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Th e answer may lie in the way you think about your sweetheart.
By focusing on what’s good and what you like in your mate, your
feelings become more positive and you’re more likely to receive
goodness back. Th is does not mean you ignore problems or deny
they exist. Certain unloving, disrespectful, and sinful behaviors
need to be addressed and dealt with in order to have a happy and
healthy marriage.
It is important and fun to go on a daily treasure hunt of your
favorite things about your honey. Here are some simple ways to
motivate your thinking.
Remember th e reasons you fell in love.What fi rst attracted you to him? What qualities captivated your
heart and soul? Was it his strength and self-confi dence that made
One characteristic of happily married couples is their ability to appreciate each other. They seem to actually like each other. Not only do they touch and look at each other aff ectionately, they say wonderful things to each other. Did they marry a perfect person? What is the secret of all that joy and pleasure?
HOW DO I LOVE YOU?L E T M E C O U N T T H E W A Y S
— Alyce Reeves
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you feel secure? Was it his sense of humor that made you laugh
when you were angry? Was he easy to get along with and a good
listener? Or maybe it was his big broad shoulders and the way you
felt when he held you close? He is still that person. Tell him your
favorite memories.
Make a “Love List”Begin a journal of your favorite things about your husband. Write
down two or three things daily for a month, even if you are currently
unhappy with each other. Watch how God works in you and your
husband as you change your focus from the negatives to the positives.
You can discover things to add to your love list when you:
THINK ABOUT HIM. Remember good things he has said
and done for you in the past, and you will fi nd many ways to
admire and appreciate him. Th ink about the intentions of his
heart, the ways he shows his love and commitment to the family,
and the good times you have had together. Add those qualities
to your love list.
OBSERVE HIM. What are the physical things you love about
this man? Note anything you like that is part of his masculinity
— like his large build, his strong muscles, his manly beard, his
deep voice, his amazing athletic abilities, his competitiveness to
win, or even his lovemaking. Maybe you appreciate his work in
the yard, his ability to repair something, or his desire to carry
heavy things for you. Watch him and take notes.
IDENTIFY HIS TRAITS
Emotional What are the things about your husband that touch your
soul? Does he make you feel loved, capable, beautiful, sexy,
smart, secure, or successful? Do you love the way he is with
the children? Does he help with the meals, laundry, chores, or
fi nances? Is he good with people? What are the ways he makes
your life better? Write them down and watch your love grow.
Mental In what areas do you appreciate his ability to think and solve
problems? Th ink of the times he has had a good idea or a plan
that worked for your situation. How does his way of thinking
complement yours? Appreciate the way he thinks and works.
Spirit ualIf your mate seeks to know God, goes to church, desires to
please God, is teachable and growing in the Lord, then you
have many precious blessings to add to your list of favorites.
Don’t take these qualities for granted. What Christ-like
characteristics do you see in your sweetheart – love, joy, peace,
honor, courage, unselfi shness or a desire to protect and provide
for his family?
LISTEN TO HIM. Get him to talk about himself, his work, his
recreational activities, his favorite team, or his politics. Do not
listen only to what he is saying, but to the man who is saying it.
As you really hear him, you will fi nd many wonderful things about
this man you love.
PLACE FRAMED PICTURES IN VIEW. What you look at will
aff ect your thinking, so make sure to have many photos of you two
around the house. Photos from milestone events, routine days, and
good memories will visually remind you of things you love about
your sweetheart.
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one fi nal thing. Fix your thoughts
on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and
admirable. Th ink about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
Philippians 4:8
There are tremendous rewards for counting all the ways you love and cherish your husband. Begin today!
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I’m going to Seattle for the fi rst time around the time this article goes to print, and I shall make a pilgrimage. Not to a cathedral or a shrine, but to the original
Starbucks™ store in the Pike’s Place Market. It will probably be the high point of my visit. You see, I am a certifi able, committed, happily caff einated, coff ee afi cionado.
For th e Love of CoffeeTh e scent, the fl avor, and the company of a cup of coff ee.
— Dr. Linda Karges-Bone
Starbucks™ began its climb toward fame in 1971; but my
relationship with the java began even earlier, in my grandmother’s
kitchen in Queens, that part of New York City where little Italian
ladies brew some of the richest coff ee this side of Italy. My sisters
and I learned to sip coff ee in colorful china cups, a concoction of
café con leche — much heavier on the sugar and milk than the
coff ee, but the taste still unmistakable. Hence, one of my favorite
things, to this day, is a cup of coff ee.
I like a big mug of coff ee in the morning, early. Setting up my
fancy brewing machine the night before, so that no time is wasted
before the scent and sounds of freshly ground beans permeate the
house, is a nightly ritual.
Th e formula includes the dark roast beans, a tablespoon of
sugar-free vanilla or hazelnut syrup (per pot) and cold water.
Each cup, and I need at least two to participate fully in human
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company, will require a packet of sugar-free sweetener and two
squirts of fat-free whipped topping (canned) or a tablespoon
of the tub variety. Years ago, my sisters and I discovered that
whipped topping adds the “lightness” of milk, plus an added, sweet
creaminess.
My grandmother, Anna Peretti LaPorta, would have found the use
of anything other than cream or full-bodied milk to be a sacrilege.
I can still hear her saying, “Where is the cow?,” her name for the
milk. Once, as a new bride, Grandma visited my home. I wanted
the coff ee service to be perfect, so I baked a cake, spent half my
weekly grocery budget on premium coff ee, and found an actual
china “cow” creamer to pour the milk from. She talked about it for
years afterward and I was very pleased.
In addition to the china “cow,” I have collected a number of
artifacts to support my coff ee commitment: tins for the beans,
mugs from workshops and travels, and at least three types of
brewing machines. Details on these would require another article,
but at least one of them makes individual frothy cups of diff erent
coff ee beverages. Amazing!
What goes in these machines? Coff ee from places that I visit is
part of the ritual. Costa Rica provided some of the most robust
fl avor ever and a pound bag cost less than two American dollars in
the “supermercado.” I brought home as much as my luggage and
US Customs would allow. It was gone in a month. Lots of folks
rave about the Kona blends of Hawaii. I brought some back, but
they weren’t as amazing as I had hoped. Th e coff ee in Italy was
fabulous, but I may be prejudiced, since it is the homeland of my
ancestors.
My favorite things…coff ee is certainly one of them, but it isn’t the
brew alone that brings me pleasure. Th e company and memories
attached to so many cups of hot java over the years contribute to
my passion. Long afternoons with my best friends and sisters.
Early mornings with my daughters. Meetings with clients and
colleagues. Each of these scenarios include coff ee and conversation,
a special, signifi cant connection.
Oddly, my husband of three decades doesn’t like coff ee. At all.
In the early years, he would balk at dollars spent on the brew
or grudgingly allot time on trips fi nding coff ee for his bride. I
consider it an authentic sign of his love for me and his ability to
grow and change that he now hunts the coff ee for me, especially
when we travel. “Look,” he’ll say, “they have the kind you like.”
It’s so sweet. Or, maybe he has learned that I am much sweeter
when my coff ee needs are met.
At any rate, when I thank God for the small things that make life
a bit more pleasant and pliable, I thank Him for “Coff ea Arabica”
the scientifi c name for my favorite plant. Clearly, this was part of
the work of Genesis chapter one: “God saw all that He had made
and it was very good.”
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Whether you’re decorating a room, creating a beautiful centerpiece or getting ready to plant those seasonal fl owers, it’s the little nuances of personal touch that make the diff erence. By paying attention to details, a space becomes a favorite place.
IT’S THE little THINGS— E. Otto Tilley
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So what if you took the same principle of personal touch and used it
in your relationships with family, friends and acquaintances?
I don’t think there’s a better New Year’s resolution than deciding
to take time for the people in your life.
So here are my favorite “personal touches”:
1. SMILE AND LAUGH; it’s contagious! It’s a proven fact that
smiling is contagious and changes our mood. Even if we don’t
feel so well, the act of smiling or laughing will change our mood
and the atmosphere around us. You’ve seen it in Charles Dickens’
A Christmas Carol. Even old Scrooge himself would get caught
up in the smiles and laughter of the scenes he watched. A smile
warms the heart and laughter breaks the bitter crust that can
make hearts cold.
2. “LOOK INTO MY EYES.” Th at corny catch phrase of hypnotists
holds tremendous power because eyes are the window to the soul.
Th e simple art of eye contact has been lost in our culture. When
you make direct eye contact with someone, you validate them as a
person and they gain a greater sense of connectedness.
3. “HAVE YOU HUGGED YOUR ______ TODAY?” Th ere
really is power in a touch. A fi rm handshake is great; but as the
conversation continues, take the next step. A gentle touch on
the arm or shoulder says, “You have my full attention.” And, if it
seems appropriate, you can even give them a big hug. Bill Keane,
the Family Circus cartoonist said it well, “Th ey invented hugs to
let people know you love them without saying anything.”
4. “IF YOU DON’T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY...” Words
are incredibly powerful. Th ink of people as paintings and your
words as the brush strokes that bring out the hidden details of
each masterpiece. What can you say to someone that maybe no
one else has noticed? Maybe it’s the way they light up a room
with their smile or the way they make you feel when they’re near?
Take time to speak kind words.
Now let’s put it all together. You have a “get together” and invite your
coworkers, friends, and neighbors. Notice the touches, a pat on the
shoulder, a gentle grasp of the arm. Watch as they look into each
other’s eyes, smile and laugh. Th e laughter becomes contagious and
spreads across the room, warming the hearts of all. Conversations,
fi lled with love, kindness and hope, fi ll the love tanks of those who
were empty and bring life to the atmosphere! Now you’re getting it.
You’re making an investment that will pay
great dividends for years to come.
You’ve discovered the greatest
resource on the face
of the planet...people.
estment that will pay
ars to come.
greatest
What is your favorite gift
that you have ever received?
Almost HALF said a hand-written
note, card, or drawing
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As a woman in my early forties, I’m proud to admit I still love a cartoon. Bring on the animated features. We often miss them in the theater, so it was about a year after it’s release that we fi nally saw Tangled.
It’s a captivating story – a lost damsel searching for her true
identity, somehow knowing deep inside that she was meant
for more than the walls of her tower. If you haven’t seen
Tangled, it’s the modernized Disney version of the German fairy
tale about Rapunzel, a beautiful princess with long golden hair,
imprisoned in a tower.
In this animated version, Rapunzel was stolen
from her royal nursery as a small child. Th e evil
captor lies to her, deceiving her into believing that
she is her mother. She really only wants Rapunzel
for the age-defying powers in her golden locks.
On the day Rapunzel was born to the king and
queen of a nearby kingdom, all the residents fi lled
the sky with beautiful, fl oating lanterns. Each year
on her birthday, her brokenhearted parents still
release the lanterns — hoping, longing, wishing,
praying, and dreaming of fi nding their precious daughter. Year
after year, Rapunzel has seen the lanterns from her tower and
dreams of seeing them in person one day.
It’s their daughter’s 18th birthday. Th e king and queen prepare yet
again to launch their one light that will signal thousands to send
up their lanterns. Will the princess see? Will she return? Had they
decided this would be the last year they would try or had they
committed to continue until the princess returned or death snuff ed
out their own lights? Little did they know she was still alive and
had grown into a lovely young lady who would soon prove that
royalty will fi nd a way to express itself, even in obscurity.
Th e expression on the king’s face told more than any dialogue or
narration ever could. A parent’s heart never stops looking. Kingly
countenance clouded with wearying grief. I was struck to the
core. For the fi rst time, I think I glimpsed how God’s face would
look every time He thinks of children of His heart who have
not yet found their way home. Hearts deceived by an evil force
using them to satisfy an insatiable desire for eternal life and glory
reserved only for the true heirs and heiresses.
Just one more time. Let the light shine. Let all inhabitants of
the kingdom join in. Send up the beacons. Seek the lost. Bring
them home.
And fi nally, this year, as in all good fairy tales,
the princess returns and the whole kingdom
celebrates. If that’s what happens in the wonderful
world of Disney, can you imagine the celebration
in heaven when one child of God who has been
lost for so long, escapes the clutches of evil and
comes home?!?! It’s a party of eternally extravagant
proportions. A celebration that outshines all
celebrations.
And isn’t that the true heart of all celebrations? Th e
WHO and not the WHAT. We celebrate the people in our lives
and restored relationships.
Perhaps there are things in your life that need a little untangling:
in your relationship with God or with a parent, loved one or
friend. Go ahead and take the chance. You may well fi nd the light
has been burning and the arms are wide open. Or maybe someone
simply needs to come home to you. Open the door. Perhaps this
is the time the favorite part of all fairy tales will happen to you —
“And they lived happily ever after.”
the joy of a
fairy-tale ending
Th e expression on the king’s face told more than any dialogue or narration ever could.
A parent’s heart never stops looking.
— Anna Micheaux
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Our Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS) group has been a huge blessing and encouragement to me since joining almost two years ago. It’s always the highlight of my week because it’s an uplifting time spent with friends. I enjoy every minute!
My husband and I moved to Charleston two years ago and didn’t
know a soul. Once we found a church, I started looking for ways
to meet other people. I had previously heard of MOPS but didn’t
know much about it. So, I thought I’d give it a try and I fell in
love with it the fi rst time I went! Here were other women in the
same stage of life with so many things in common. We all had
kids, loved the Lord and wanted to grow through friendships with
one another. God designed us to have relationships and some of
life’s greatest joys can be found in those positive relationships. Th e
women at MOPS genuinely cared and wanted to know about me
and who I am. I felt loved and accepted immediately and knew
this was right where I was supposed to be.
Th is year, I’m serving as a table leader and having a blast! I love
getting to know all the ladies at the table! Th ey each have a unique
and beautiful personality. It’s so much fun watching them open up
and share more as the weeks go on. I love having the opportunity to
pray for each of them and hopefully be an encouragement to them.
We enjoy listening to wonderful speakers and doing fun crafts.
It can be a melting pot of ideas, too. Moms share craft ideas
they’ve done with their kids. At Christmas time we all throw in
ideas on decorations, baking, family traditions or fun things to do
with kids around town. It’s also wonderful seeing ladies encourage
each other through sharing their struggles and victories of
motherhood. MOPS is a safe place where moms feel comfortable
being themselves and enjoy doing life together.
I’d love to see more moms get involved with MOPS. Not only do I
believe all moms need a break at least once a week while someone
else watches the kids, we need and enjoy time with each other.
Th rough our relationships, teaching topics and personal tips/ideas,
we grow in our confi dence of being a godly mom and wife. MOPS
has blessed me tremendously and I know it has done the same for
many others!
— Rachel Scholl
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When a good friend asked me to be a Mentor Mom for MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers), even the name appealed to me. I love to mentor. I love being a mom. What could be more fun than getting together with young women who are looking for friendship, parenting tips, or just a well-needed break?
I was amazed at my fi rst meeting with this group. I was told to just
pick a table and whoever sits at the table would be our mentees. As I
begin to meet these young women, I couldn’t help but remember what
it was like at this age when I was a young Air Force wife and mother
of three. I didn’t have a MOPS group, but I am so grateful to have had
some mentor moms to help me through those early years.
Even more special was discovering most of the women sitting at
our table were military wives. Now THAT is one of my favorite
things. Th ey have to deal with everything here at home that life
throws at them while their husbands are gone. And they’re not
gone for just a few weeks; these husbands are overseas, fi ghting for
our freedom. I love being able to tell them that God, not Uncle
Sam, is the Author of their assignments. He always puts us on
a path where our journeys merge with others to do life together.
And, as in my own journey, you become fast friends for a lifetime.
I love watching their lives connect with each other. I love hearing
one mom tell another about some great tip on potty training. I
love watching their faces as I tell them that not one of my children
graduated high school wearing a diaper. As I look in their faces,
they are just asking the same question we’ve all asked ourselves at
one time. Do I have what it takes to be a mother? Do I have what it
takes to be a wife? Will I make friends? Am I loveable? Do I matter?
Will I be safe here?
Th is is where my heart wants to jump out of my body and exclaim,
“YES, YES, and YES!” Th ere is nothing more fulfi lling than
off ering hope to someone; and MOPS is one of those amazing
places to connect, fi nd a bit of advice, or just get a big hug. And,
much to my delight, I now call myself a GMOP (Grandmother of
a Preschooler)!
I'M A G— Vicki Vincent
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I have to say, my most favorite thing is my family. I absolutely adore my husband. Even when I get him into all sorts of events and harebrained schemes, he hangs in there with me. Most of my schemes involve something for our fi ve children, so he’s usually not opposed to the silly things in life that make memories. We both understand the value of a strong family heritage for our children.
My favorite memory-maker for our children has always been date
night for me and my husband. You would think a date (I mean a
real “leave-the-house and leave-the-kids-with-a-babysitter” date)
wouldn’t excite them, but it does. We’ve explained to them that
when they’re grown with families of their own, Dad and I want to
still be in love with each other. Th at means we have to spend time
together now. Of course, the fi rst thing we do when we get home
is check on them and kiss them good night.
When the two oldest asked how they could know for sure we had
checked on them, I started leaving a Hershey’s Kiss under their
pillow with a note that said, “You’ve been kissed.” Since chocolate
melts in the heat of summer, I often cut out a Kiss from brown
foam paper and write on it “You’ve been kissed.” In the morning,
they turn it in to me for one real kiss and one chocolate kiss.
It’s very important to our kids, especially the younger ones,
to celebrate half-birthdays. Our fi ve-year-old was having a
particularly hard couple of weeks. When I realized it was close
to his half birthday, we celebrated with his favorite cake and
dinner. We asked as many times as possible, “How old are you?”
so he could say the half year with a big smile! We now celebrate
everyone’s half-birthday, often letting the half-birthday child also
pick the family movie or game. Th is gives us another night on the
calendar to be together.
I have to confess, I’m not a big picture-taker or scrapbooker, but
I wanted a way to record what was happening in our lives. Our
solution: take an hour on one Sunday each month to remember
our favorite things about the previous month. Each child gets a
sketchbook page to record their memories. Last August one son
did a page about his birthday party. Another child did a page on
her new friends and classes; one did a page on his fi rst time knee
boarding and another on his All-Star baseball tournament. Th e
youngest had a page of pictures taken with him and everyone else
on their fi rst day of school. We’ve had such fun encouraging the
children to share their own story.
Our family always enjoys dramatizing stories, commercials or
whatever. Our daughter loves to act and direct and can talk her
brothers into all sorts of roles. We created a new dinnertime game
we call “imitate a person in our family.” One person acts out happy
emotions and events while the others guess. Absolutely hysterical!
We’ve learned a lot about how our kids see us. And it’s brought up
great conversations about how to handle life. Th e best part is my
husband and I have been able to respond to things we didn’t know
were happening in times when the kids were together playing on
the trampoline or walking the dog. It’s been a great insight into
their hearts and ours.
You, too, can make everyday life something to celebrate. Just start
looking for a few small things and make a big deal out of them.
Remember — it’s the silliness that makes it fun!
My Kids’Favorite things — Tracy Perrine
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ning,
Sock Snowman (Family Fun Magazine)
1. Take an empty water bottle and fi ll halfway with rice.
2. Pull a child’s sock over the bottle.
3. Take a rectangle piece of fl eece, wrap around the top,
and hold together with a rubber band.
4. Glue on eyes, buttons, and an orange pipe cleaner
for a nose.
5. Tie another piece of fl eece around middle of bottle for
a scarf.
6. Proudly display on your counter, shelf, or mantel!
Air-Dry Clay3 cups fl our1 cup salt
½ cup glue1 cup water
1 teaspoon lemon juice
1. Mix all ingredients. Roll onto clean surface. 2. Cut with cookie cutters or mold into shapes. 3. Let dry overnight and then paint.
Bye-Bye Winter BluesCrafts That Cheer!
Stained Glass Candleholder1. Remove label from a baby food jar.2. Cut small pieces of various color tissue papers.3. Apply watered-down Elmer’s glue to jar with sponge brush.
4. Press on tissue paper and apply another layer of glue.5. Let dry.
6. Insert tea light candle and enjoy the ambiance!
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I am the oldest of three girls. From my two sisters, I have been tremendously blessed with four beautiful nieces who range in age from ten-years to fi ve-months old. Because my nieces live in other states, I don’t have the opportunity to see them as often as I would like.
I fi nd myself in frequent conversations with my sisters for
updates on their activities. Not an update goes by without me
being in stitches, laughing at some new adventure, word, or
story shared about one of the girls. Th ere is nothing like hearing
the unedited, uncut, version of how a chain of events really
happened. Like how the letters from the computer keyboard
really came off , how the hair moisturizer really ended up as facial
cream, or how the crayon colorings on the windows in the front
of the house really got there. And with every moment shared, I am
transported into their world, not just in my mind, but also in my
heart.
Recently, during one of those catch-up conversations, my daughter
and I were in the same room. She listened intently to my dialogue
with my sisters and to my frequent outbursts of laughter as I heard
yet another hilarious saga. As my sisters off ered the update on
each one, at the end of the story, I would end my laughter with,
“Oh, she’s my favorite!” While it didn’t matter which niece or how
naughty or nice the story, my response was consistently the same,
“Oh, she’s my favorite!”
When I ended the call with my sisters, my daughter sat and
listened to my recap of the events as I shared a second laugh with
her. We chatted about how smart, mischievous, and precious they
each are. And, then she asked, “But Mom, how can they all be your
favorite?” Without pause, I responded, “It’s easy; I just love them
like that!”
One of the defi nitions in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary for
favorite is, “a person who is specially loved.” Isn’t it amazing how
specially loving others causes us to fi nd our “favorite” in them?
Pause for a moment and think about each person in your life
whom you “specially love.” Consider the joy you receive from
their smile, the laughter you receive from their stories, even the
compassion you feel as you walk with them in their challenges.
Each one holds a place in your heart reserved only for them – a
place that is uniquely theirs which no one else can fi ll. A place
created by God with the capacity to accommodate unending
delight, enjoyment, amusement, and so much more.
And I am confi dent that the same place exists in His heart for me
and for you. Each day, in every hour, and within each moment, His
special love comes to each of us wrapped in gifts of blessings, with
an aff ectionate declaration…“Oh, she’s my favorite!”
— Katrina Spigner
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App le Pie1 package refrigerated piecrust
¾ cup sugar
¾ cup brown sugar
¼ cup fl our
1 teaspoon cinnamon
¼ teaspoon nutmeg
¼ teaspoon salt
8 medium Granny Smith apples, peeled, cored and sliced
3 tablespoons butter
1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Combine sugars, fl our,
cinnamon, nutmeg and salt together in mixing bowl. Toss in
apple slices; mix well. Pour mixture into unbaked prepared
crust. Dot apples with butter. Place second crust on top of
fruit mixture.
2. Bake 50-55 minutes or until apples are tender.
Banana Pudding⅔ cup sugar
Dash of salt
¼ cup cornstarch
1 cup canned evaporated milk
1 cup water
2 eggs, separated
2 tablespoons butter
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Vanilla wafers
Ripe bananas
1. You will need to double this recipe for an 8 x 11" baking dish.
2. Separate eggs, yolks in small dish and egg whites in mixing
bowl for meringue.
3. Put vanilla wafers on bottom of baking dish; add sliced
bananas on top of wafers.
4. In a medium saucepan combine sugar, salt and cornstarch.
Gradually stir in evaporated milk and water, cooking over
medium heat. Add egg yolks one at a time and stir constantly
until mixture thickens. Take off heat; add butter and vanilla.
5. Pour fi lling over bananas and wafers. Add another layer of
wafer, bananas and fi lling. Top with meringue.
Meringue:2 egg whites
¼ teaspoon cream of tartar
1 teaspoon vanilla
¼ cup sugar
6. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. In mixing bowl combine egg
whites, vanilla and cream of tartar. Beat with an electric mixer
on high speed. When soft peaks form, gradually add sugar
into mixture. Continue beating until mixture forms stiff ,
glossy peaks. Immediately spread meringue over pudding and
bake in oven 10-15 minutes or until meringue browns.
Chocolate Chip Cookies2½ cups all-purpose fl our
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon salt
1 cup unsalted butter, softened
1½ cups brown sugar
½ cup sugar
2 large eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla
2 cups chocolate chips
1. Preheat oven 375 degrees.
2. Spray cookie sheets with nonstick cooking spray.
3. Combine fl our, baking soda, and salt in medium bowl, set aside.
4. In large bowl, beat the butter, slowly add in sugars and blend
until light and fl uff y. Add eggs 1 at a time, mixing well. Stir
in the vanilla. Add the fl our mixture at low speed, then stir in
the chocolate chips. Drop by heaping tablespoonfuls, 2 inches
apart onto the prepared baking sheets. Bake until the cookies
are lightly browned, about 12-15 minutes. Serve warm with a
cold glass of milk!
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Baked Mac 'n Cheese½ pound elbow macaroni
3 tablespoons butter
3 tablespoons fl our
1 tablespoon powdered mustard
3 cups milk
½ cup yellow onion, fi nely diced
1 bay leaf
½ teaspoon paprika
1 large egg
12 ounces sharp cheddar, shredded
1 teaspoon kosher salt
Fresh black pepper
Topping:3 tablespoons butter
1 cup panko bread crumbs
1. Preheat oven 350 degrees and cook the pasta to al dente.
2. While the pasta is cooking, in a separate pot, melt the butter.
Blend in the fl our and mustard until free of lumps. Stir in the
milk, onion, bay leaf, and paprika. Simmer for ten minutes and
remove the bay leaf.
3. Stir in the egg, then 3/4 of the cheese. Season with salt and
pepper. Fold the macaroni into the mix and pour into a
2-quart casserole dish. Top with remaining cheese.
4. For the topping, melt the butter in a small pan and toss
the bread crumbs to coat. Top the macaroni with the bread
crumbs. Bake for 30 minutes. Remove from oven and rest for
fi ve minutes before serving.
Creamy Garlic Mashed Potatoes3½ pounds russet potatoes
2 tablespoons kosher salt
16 fl uid ounces (2 cups) half-and-half
6 cloves garlic, crushed
6 ounces grated Parmesan
1. Peel and dice potatoes, cover with water. Bring to a boil over
medium-high heat and then reduce heat to maintain a rolling
boil. Cook until potatoes fall apart when poked with a fork.
2. Heat the half-and-half and the garlic in a medium
saucepan over medium heat until simmering. Remove from
heat and set aside.
3. Remove the potatoes from the heat and drain off the water.
Mash and add the garlic-cream mixture and Parmesan; stir to
combine. Let mixture thicken for 5 minutes and then serve.
Chili1 pound ground chuck
1 large onion, chopped
3 garlic cloves, chopped
2 (16 ounce) cans light red kidney beans
1 (16 ounce) or 2 (8 ounce) cans of tomato sauce
2 large cans of diced or chopped tomatoes
1 packet chili seasoning mix
2½ teaspoons Worcestershire sauce
12 ounces angel hair pasta
1 teaspoon sugar
1. Brown ground beef in 6 or 8-quart stockpot. Add diced
onions and garlic; sauté until translucent. Add remaining
ingredients.
2. Fill each can with water; whisk and pour into pot. Bring to
a boil. Reduce heat to a simmer and cover. Cook 2-3 hours
stirring occasionally.
3. Add pasta and cook an additional 10 minutes uncovered.
Black Bean Soup10 slices bacon, fi nely chopped
2 cups onions, chopped
6 garlic cloves, pressed
1 (14½-ounce) can chicken broth
1½ cups canned chopped tomatoes
2 tablespoons ketchup
2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce
1 tablespoon chili powder
4 (15½-ounce) cans black beans, drained but not rinsed
Salt/pepper
1 bunch cilantro (optional)
juice of ½ lime (optional)
Sliced scallions, sour cream, grated cheese for garnish
1. Fry bacon, then chop. In some of bacon grease, saute the
onions and garlic for 1 minute. Add the broth, tomatoes,
ketchup, Worcestershire, and chili powder. Stir in the chopped
bacon and beans, turn the heat to high and bring to a boil.
Adjust the heat so the soup is bubbling gently and cook 10
minutes. Season with salt and pepper.
2. Meanwhile, pick off all the thick stems from the cilantro,
wash and shake dry. Chop the cilantro coarsely and stir into
the soup after it has been simmering 10 minutes. Cook until
the soup is thickened, about 5 more minutes. Stir in the lime
juice. Serve with the garnishes.
Favoritecomfort food?
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Buttermilk Fried Chicken1 (3 pound) fryer chicken
2 cups buttermilk
1 large onion, sliced
¼ teaspoon chopped parsley
½ teaspoon paprika
½ teaspoon cayenne pepper
2 cups fl our
½ teaspoon garlic salt
½ teaspoon onion salt
Salt and pepper
2 cups canola or peanut oil
1. Soak chicken overnight (at least 8 hours and up to two days)
in buttermilk with onions, herbs, paprika, and cayenne pepper.
2. Drain in colander, leaving some herbs on chicken.
3. Heat 2 cups oil in a large skillet on medium high heat until a
pinch of fl our starts to sizzle when dropped in the hot oil (but
not so hot that the pan is smoking).
4. In a large paper or plastic (sturdy) bag, mix fl our with
seasonings.
5. Place chicken pieces in bag with fl our and shake until
thoroughly coated. Add chicken to hot pan and fry on 1 side
for 12-15 minutes, until golden brown, and then use tongs to
turn the pieces over and fry for another 10-12 minutes, again
until golden brown.
6. Be careful to keep the oil hot enough to fry the chicken, but
not so high as it burns the chicken.
Chicken and DumplingsCooked chicken, shredded
Chicken broth or stock
5 cups Original Bisquick mix
1½ cups milk
1. Prepare and cook chicken in broth/stock.
2. In bowl, mix Bisquick and milk until soft, add more Bisquick
if needed so not too sticky. Drop by spoonfuls onto boiling
soup. Reduce heat; cook uncovered 10 min. Cover; cook 10
minutes longer.
3. Salt/pepper to taste.
MeatloafMeatloaf:1½ pounds ground beef
1 onion, fi nely chopped
1 green pepper, fi nely chopped
¾ cup bread crumbs
2 eggs, beaten
Sauce:16 ounces tomato sauce
2 tablespoons mustard
2 tablespoons brown sugar
1 tablespoon white vinegar
1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Mix sauce; set aside.
2. In large bowl combine ingredients for meatloaf and mix with
hands. Add ¼ of sauce continue mixing. Mold into loaf in a
rectangular baking pan. Top with ½ cup sauce.
3. Bake 1½ hours.
4. Warm up the ¼ cup remaining sauce to serve with meatloaf.
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Lots of people agree on the importance of photos to preserve memories. Sometimes it’s diffi cultto know how, when and where to get the best shots. It’s great to have the quick photos we snap
at life events, but to preserve this moment in time can take a little planning and knowledge. We asked three local photographers for some pointers.
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LOCATIONTh e Charleston area is fi lled with great locations, whether it’s
a favorite park, the beach or historical sites. Billy Hyer of Hyer Images suggests “Philadelphia Alley, Chalmers Street and the
Queen St. Washington Park area in downtown Charleston. All
these areas provide a variety of options and tons of character.”
Beach scenes are very popular, as well. If you take a short walk
to the lighthouse on Folly Beach, not only will you fi nd great
photographic spots along the way, you’ll fi nd it to be fairly private.
Be sure to include the sand dunes, beach grass, driftwood and even
the dead trees still standing in the sand.
Shannon Buss of Cameron Blake Photography extols the landscape
and beauty of the Charleston area as a perfect backdrop for any
occasion. Currently, her favorite locations are the new Boardwalk
on Shem Creek, Mepkin Abbey and the Rustic Train. “On Shem
Creek, you get the beautiful waterfront, the boats, sunset and, best
of all, you can have the Ravenel Bridge as a back drop!”
LIGHTINGAnother key to great photos is lighting. Most portraits are taken in
“soft” lighting, which basically means the light doesn’t come from
one source that directly shines on your subject. Rather, it comes
from multiple directions and sources which create refl ected light.
For example, in direct sunlight your shadow is clear but when
you step into the shade, your shadow disappears because you are
in refl ected light. Your best photos will be taken on a cloudy day
and the best times of day can be right at sunrise or an hour or two
before sunset.
PHOTOGRAPHING CHILDREN When you’re working with children, location and timing are
especially important. Secluded, quiet areas tend to be less
distracting for young children. Try to work in a timeframe when
your children are happiest, typically in the morning, well before
naptime. Bring snacks, drinks and a favorite toy to entertain
them between shots. Jessi Stormer of Palmetto Portraits suggests
timeless classic outfi ts that match along with hats, scarves and
other props. She adds, “Th e most important element of a successful
child’s photo shoot…allow them to have a good time.”
If you decide to hire a professional photographer, understand
that the cost covers more than just the actual photo shoot. It also
includes travel time, editing, ordering, shipping and delivery. Th e
editing process alone can be several hours long but is well worth it
for the custom, edited photos you’ll receive.
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erhaps you have already been introduced to Pinterest; if so then you have begun to understand what I am talking about. If not, then I am extremely pleased to be the one to tell you about this website that has absolutely changed my life! No woman should go through life without having the opportunity to explore its riches!
A Beginner's Guide to ee
You can discover so many things: do-it-yourself projects,
fashion and beauty, party planning, delicious recipes,
photography ideas, decorating and so much more!
Whatever your mind can think of, you’ll be able to fi nd
something on Pinterest! It is spreading like wildfi re
among the women (and some men) that I know, from
teens to grandmothers. You will not be disappointed! I do
need to throw out a word of caution . . . You may need to
set a timer to avoid being sucked into this world for an
indefi nite amount of time!
Many of my friends, including me, have become, shall
I say, slightly addicted! I do hear from time to time, “I
just don’t have time for it.” Well, the good thing about
Pinterest is that it’s not something that you have to
keep up with. You can just jump on (has a great phone
app, too) when you need ideas to decorate for a party or
something to cook for dinner this week.
I recently decorated my guest bedroom based on
inspiration from Pinterest. I made a “board” and titled
it Guest Bedroom and then searched for blue and white
rooms, and décor, as well. Th en I just “pinned” anything I
liked to that board. When I felt like I had enough material
to go from, I just went back to that “board” and got started.
It was all in one place for me. I didn’t have fi ve folders
of stuff I had saved on my computer or bookmarked to
search through. It was all in one place! And even better,
any DIY project I saved, by just clicking on the picture it
took me directly to the site that told me how to do it! I will
defi nitely be using many of the ideas I have found here on
decorating for the holidays and for good eats, too!
Pinterest can be a little diffi cult to navigate at fi rst, so
to the right are a few tips to get you started. Of course,
if you are having any trouble just stick with it or ask a
girlfriend. I promise it will be worth it!
— Jennifer MalonePINTEREST
— Karie Calhoun
There are several favorite things that I like to keep an arm’s length away in case that decorating mood hits me. You know what I’m talking about…the actual moment when you cannot stand it any longer, and you must re-arrange a room; or that empty spot on the bookcase keeps calling out for an accessory, and you can no longer look at the void.
Most people think they need to run out to the store and purchase
an item for here, there or wherever. Years ago, I started creating my
own in-house store. I would see something on sale or at a yard sale
and pick it up to add to my collection. Now I keep several items
on hand, not only for my own personal clients but for myself, too.
My kids never know when they walk into the house whether or
not I’ve re-arranged or added something new. Th ere is always a
surprise at our house and never a dull moment.
Some of my favorite things include:
• PAINT FAN for selecting colors.
• NOTEBOOK for keeping magazine photos or other ideas that you like.
• TREASURES from a yard sale – think about using someone else’s trash as your treasure even if you have to paint it or add to it.
• FABRICS! FABRICS! FABRICS! Stripes, solids, patterns, I just love fabrics!
• ARTWORK – unusual artwork is fun or create a family photo collage.
• WINDOW TREATMENTS add so much to a room.
• BOOKS – use them to stack on a bookcase. With the spines outwards, you will create color; with the pages turned out, you will create a neutral palette.
• AREA RUGS can help anchor a seating area.
• FRESH FLOWERS are an amazing addition for company or especially for your family, just because!
• DISHES or CHINA to set a breakfast room table – colorful or neutral.
Inspiration can come at any moment…be prepared with your own
collection of favorite things!
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3. Check your front page
Your main page will be all the cool stuff that your friends or people you follow are 'pinning.'
6. Don't be afraid to follow
If you end up on a rabbit trail and like the 'pins' of someone you don't know, by all means follow them!
7. Click for more info
For instructions on a 'pinned' DIY project, just click the photo until it takes you to the original site where it was posted.
8. Get the 'Pin It' button
To 'pin' items from other sites, add the 'Pin It' button to your toolbar. Click the 'About' button on the top right of Pinterest and click 'Pin It' button. Follow the simple instructions there.
4. Search and explore
There is a 'search' box at the top left where you can type in anyting you want to explore!
9. Happy Pinning!
I am so excited for you as you begin your adventures in the life-changing world of Pinterest!
5. 'Pin' to your 'Boards'
You will create 'boards' to 'pin' to. Click the 'Add+' button at the top right of the website. Be specifi c; instead of just a 'Decorating' board, create a 'Christmas' board.
1. Create an account
Have someone invite you via email or go to www.pinterest.com and request an invitation. You will be added within a few days.
2. Add your friends
You can fi nd your friends from Facebook or Twitter to follow. You just have to provide Pinterest with your login info.
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—Amy Brace
Who among us doesn’t want to live a healthy lifestyle? Yet our fast-paced lives often leave little room for the realization of our health goals. Be encouraged! Healthy living starts with basic principles that we can incorporate into each day. Here are ten tips by Dr. Don VerHulst, M.D. from his book 10 Keys That Cure:
LEARN TO RELAX
• A continual adrenaline rush will put your health into a
downhill slide.
• Four-Six It! Philippians 4:6 says, “Be anxious for
nothing, but in everything by prayer and petition, with
thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.”
GET TO BED ON TIME
• Rest time is restoration time.
• Studies show that the hours between 10pm and midnight
are four times more restorative than those after midnight.
EXERCISE
• Going for a walk is a great place to start! Endorphins
released during exercise literally make you feel better.
• Exercise prevents illness; statistics show that for every
hour you exercise, you add two hours to your life!
BREATHE FRESH AIR
• Some experts believe that oxygen defi ciency is the single
greatest cause of all disease.
• People who quit smoking can see 80% of the negative
changes in their lungs disappear after only two years and
almost all negative respiratory eff ects gone further down
the road!
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SOAK IN THE SUNSHINE
• Sunshine is intimately related to your body’s wake-sleep
cycle (circadian rhythm).
• Sunshine converts cholesterol in the skin into Vitamin
D which strengthens bones; bones are where the body’s
immune cells are formed.
EAT FRUIT
• Bananas are excellent because they most closely parallel
the mineral content of the human body; two apples a day
will keep the doctor away twice as long!
EAT VEGETABLES
• Th ey fi ght cancer and aging, and they make you feel good!
Raw veggies are the best and they satisfy hunger. Cut them
up and make them available for snacking.
EAT WHOLE GRAINS
• Th e nutrition in white bread has been processed out
and replaced with sugars and preservatives that sap our
strength rather than supply it.
WHITE IF YOU CHOOSE MEAT
• Scientifi c research continues to prove the validity of dietary
guidelines found in the Old Testament of the Bible dealing
with “clean” and “unclean” meats. “Unclean” animals are
scavengers and can accumulate toxins in their tissues; any
meat with antibiotics and hormones should be avoided.
Clean fi sh is the healthiest.
WATER
• Drink what you’re mostly made of; a well-hydrated body is
a healthy body because water is the ultimate detoxifi er. Try
to drink half your body weight in ounces each day.
*Information in this article is used with permission by Dr. Don VerHulst.
Health SIMPLIFIED
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The Great Outdoors IN YOUR OWN BACKYARD
Some families love enjoying the great outdoors by traveling, hiking, backpacking and camping.
Outdoor living simply means relaxing,playing, eating, and having fun in the fresh air.
Today’s trends in outdoor living bring the adventure to your own backyard with outdoor kitchens, patios, living rooms, dining rooms and more. What a great way to enjoy nature with all the creature comforts.
Think about your health and the well being of your family. As you know, breathing fresh air is vital to longevity. Simply taking slow, deep breaths can bring a much-needed sense of calm. Spending time in a natural setting also improves brain function which helps restore your ability to focus and your memory. Your outdoor space will attract friends and family to gather. With that, laughter is sure to be found, and we all know laughter is some of the best exercise (and medicine) you can get!
Economically speaking, outdoor living allows you to invest in your home and, more importantly, in your family. Everyone wants to save money these days. Why throw your hard-earned money away
on extra gas and eating out when you can invest in your own backyard paradise? Many people in the Lowcountry have invested in creating their own outdoor oasis using items such as hot tubs, patio furniture, pools, and more.
Anytime you have the family gathered in one place, opportunities abound for relationships to deepen and better communication to happen. Bring a fi re pit into your
backyard and roast some marshmallows! Add a beautiful deep-seating patio set and enjoy that part of the night where the sun is just going down and the light of the moon is falling upon you. For cooler evenings, simply add an outdoor patio heater and you can stay outside all night!
Being outdoors has something for everyone. Th ere is unlimited space for a child’s imagination to soar and adults can enjoy the beauty of the world after a day of hard work. Whether you are adding to your existing outdoor space or
creating a new one, you’ll enjoy the freedom, beauty, and peacefulness outdoor living can provide for you.
Anytime you have the family gathered in one place, opportunities
abound for relationships to deepen and better
communication to happen.
— Meredith Cunningham