pixel perfect: strategies for overcoming perfectionism
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Pixel Perfect:Strategies for Overcoming Design
Perfectionism
12 June 1964: Robben Island
Mandela is Told He Will Die There
View of the Prison Yard
Prisoners are Shamed Daily
Guards Try To Rob Your Dignity
Within 20 Minutes, He Felt Good!
“I was relieved.Nobody has thepower to take away my dignity.”
Why Perfectionism?
Brian Sullivan.Hi, my name is
@BrianKSullivan@bigdesign
#perfect
Research and Testing Expert
The Director of User Testing and Research at Tonic 3, a division of W3.
International Speaker
Writer of Books and Articles
Conference Organizer
Creative with Many Talents
Industry Speaker
Conference Organizer
“Perfectionism Kills Productivity”
Re-tweeted over 5,000 times when it was mentioned at my SxSW 2013 talk.
We Talked about Design Phrases
We Talked about People We Know
We Talked about Unicorns
We Talked about Behaviors
Contrary to popular belief, Photoshop does not solve everything!
A Previous Student Sends An Email
J. Schuh has taught at Collin College for over 15 years.
He Decides to Open Up
Dear Mr. Schuh –
I need your advice. For the past 4 years, I’ve tried to be a designer, but I keep getting fired. I find it impossible to meet deadlines, as I agonize over every pixel.
My co-workers think I am slow. I think they are sloppy. I can’t hold down a job. I try to be creative, but I never finish anything. To me, my designs are never finished.
I desperately need your advice. What should I do?
We Read Eight Books
Types of Perfectionism
Exercise #1: Perfectionist Quiz
per•fec•tion•ism (pərˈfɛk ʃəˌnɪz əm) noun
1. a belief that religious, moral, social, artistic, or political perfection is attainable.
2. a personal standard or attitude that demandsperfection and rejects anything less.
Simple Definition
Psychologist View of Perfectionism
“Perfectionism is the desire to be faultless, a fear of imperfection, equating errors as personal defects, and viewing perfection as the only route to personal acceptance.”
--T.S. Greenspon, 2008.
(Unhealthy) (Healthy)
Maladaptive Adaptive
(Unhealthy) (Healthy)
Maladaptive Adaptive
(Unhealthy) (Healthy)
Maladaptive Adaptive
Exercise #2: Persona Note-taking
Adam the Adaptive:1. _______________________2. _______________________3. _______________________4. _______________________5. _______________________
Personal Motto:______________________________________________________________________________
• Satisfied with achievements made from intense effort.
• Tolerate imperfections without harsh self-criticism.
• Enjoy collaboration and cooperation.
• Value self-esteem and life satisfaction.
• Regulate and adjust their emotions.
• Manage their interpersonal relationships.
• Develop a social support system.
• Perform active coping when needed
• View relationships seriously.• Watch their procrastination tendencies.
Adaptive Perfectionists
Adaptive Perfectionist Motto…
Exercise #3: Persona Note-taking
Mary the Maladaptive:1. _______________________2. _______________________3. _______________________4. _______________________5. _______________________
Personal Motto:______________________________________________________________________________
• Unattainable personal performance standards.
• Extremely self-critical in self-evaluations.
• Approach their relationships aggressively.
• Lack self-awareness in social situations.
• View their environments as competitive.
• Feel a need to control their environment.
• Very passive-aggressive in certain situations.
• Enjoy defining policies, structures, and rules.
• Despise gray areas and prefer binary thinking.
• Notorious procrastinators.
Maladaptive Perfectionists
Maladaptive Perfectionist Motto…
Profiles in Perfectionism
Picasso = Adaptive Da Vinci = Maladaptive
13,000 Pages of Sketches
Two Masterpieces
Da Vinci Only Finished 30 Pieces
Da Vinci = Maladaptive
Picasso was Prolific
Picasso = Adaptive
• Traditional
• Blue Period
• Rose Period
• African-Influenced
• Cubism
• Neo-Classicalism
• Surrealism
10 of Top 50 Paintings Sold at Auction
Both Types Can Do Great Work
Picasso = Adaptive Da Vinci = Maladaptive
Maladaptives Struggle More…
Maladaptives Can Shut Down
Remember the student, who shut down. Da Vinci did at the end, too.
ContrastCompare and
Adaptive Characteristics:1. ________________________2. ________________________3. ________________________4. ________________________5. ________________________6. ________________________7. ________________________8. ________________________9. ________________________
Maladaptive Characteristics:1. ________________________2. ________________________3. ________________________4. ________________________5. ________________________6. ________________________7. ________________________8. ________________________9. ________________________
Exercise #4: Comparison Sheet
Adaptive Maladaptive
Journey is a straight line.Journey is an irregular spiral.
Adaptive Maladaptive
Fault Finder.Benefit Finder.
Adaptive Maladaptive
Feedback is failure.Failure is feedback.
F = Feedback
F = Failure
Adaptive Maladaptive
Enjoy destination only.Enjoy destination & journey.
Adaptive Maladaptive
All or Nothing Thinking.Complex, Nuanced Thinking.
Adaptive Maladaptive
Defensive.Open to Suggestions.
Adaptive Maladaptive
Harsh.Forgiving.
Adaptive Maladaptive
Imperfections = Curses.Imperfections = Gifts.
Adaptive Maladaptive
Very, Very Rigid.Flexible and Adaptable.
I love itwhen a plan
comes together(especially mine).
Plan A,Plan B,Plan C,Plan D
Attitude is the difference
between an Ordeal
and an Adventure.
PIXEL PERFECT
PICTURE #1
Embarrassment,Humiliation,
Guilt, andShame
(not the same thing)
• Shame ≠ Guilt
• Shame ≠ Embarrassment
• Shame ≠ Humiliation
• Embarrassment ≠ Guilt
• Embarrassment ≠ Humiliation
• Embarrassment ≠ Shame
Some Words are Not Synonyms
• Humiliation ≠ Embarrassment
• Humiliation ≠ Guilt
• Humiliation ≠ Shame
• Guilt ≠ Embarrassment
• Guilt ≠ Shame
• Guilt ≠ Humiliation
Embarrassment
“Embarrassment is something that is fleeting, often eventually funny and very normal.”
-- Dr. Brene Brown (Shame Researcher)
Example of Design Embarrassment
FOLD
Know the Nuance: Embarrassment
“A bad thing happened to me. It happens to everyone. It will be over soon.”
Humiliation
The act of mortifying a person to cause a painful loss of pride, self-respect, or dignity.
Examples of Design Humiliation
A usability test can be humiliating for customers and the designers.
Know the Nuance: Humiliation
“I deserve to be treated badly by these folks. I’m different. There’ssomething wrong with me.”
Guilt
Guilt is a feeling that you have consciously done something wrong, broken a law, or let someone down. You have committed a wrongful act.
Examples of Design Guilt
You knowingly use a dark pattern to entice a person to purchase the wrong option.
In this example, the bundled option looks best by using the dark pattern called the second-best first option.
Examples of Design Guilt
Examples of Design Guilt
You wanted this simple, beautiful design. But, your client wanted this ugly design.
Know the Nuance: Guilt
“I have done something bad.I got caught. I need to pay for my action. I can correct it.”
Shame
Shame is an emotion in which someone sees their “self” as defective, unacceptable, or fundamentally damaged.
Shame is most often felt by victims of trauma—911 and Holocaust survivors.
Perfectionists Feel Shame
Critiques Feel Like Character Attacks
Know the Nuance: Shame
“I am a bad person. There issomething wrong with me.This thing proves it.”
Know the Nuances
Shame:“I am a bad person.”
Guilt:“I did a bad thing.”
Embarrassment:“A bad thing happened.”
Humiliation:“I deserved it to happen.”
Perfectionism = Shame
“Perfectionism is a form of shame. Where we struggle with perfectionism, we struggle with shame.”
-- Dr. Brene Brown (Shame Researcher)
Resistance Versus Resilience
(Unhealthy) (Healthy)
Maladaptive Adaptive
ShameResistance
ShameResilience
Heart of Perfectionism
It is NOT about
RESISTANCEIt is about
RESILIENCE
Shame-Based Barriers of Perfectionism
1. Foreboding Joy
2. Procrastination
3. Sarcasm
4. Numbing
5. Viking-or-Victim
6. Smash and Grab
7. Zigzagging
Energy is contagious,
positive and negative
alike.
PIXEL PERFECT
PICTURE #2
Barrier of Foreboding Joy
Barrier of Foreboding Joy
Barrier of Foreboding Joy
Ellis Island (1890-1922)
20 MillionImmigrants
1 Million More than State of Florida
Lined Up for Health Inspections
Different Immigration Cards
They Came to America with a Dream
They Lived in Tenements
They Formed Communities
They Worked in Sweatshops
They Slept and Dreamed
Upstairs, Someone Dropped a Shoe
Barrier of Foreboding Joy
Foreboding joy is the fear of having your joy taken away.
Imagineif you found
no joy in your
Journey
Don’t Fully Enjoy a First Kiss
No Joy in Increased Sales
Don’t Enjoy Fully Milestones
Joy Can Be Terrifying
“The most terrifying emotion we experience as humans is joy.”
-- Dr. Brene Brown
Pixelate Perfect Moments of Joy
They Don’t Fully Enjoy Life
Perfectionists Despise Vulnerability
They Dress Rehearse Tragedy
Customers Line Up
Product Team is Stoked!
Sales Go Through the Roof
Something Must Be Wrong
THEREis
no joy in my
Journey
Exercise #5: Scenario
You have hired a new designer, who fits in with the rest of the designers and the product team loves their design. Your perfectionist boss is experiencing foreboding joy with the new hire.
1. How do you handle things with your boss?2. How do you handle things with the new hire?
The Antidote to Foreboding Joy is…
Gratitude: Enjoy the Journey
Express Gratitude at a New Launch
Express Gratitude at End of a Sprint
Gratitude is the Best Attitude
Make daily deposits of gratitude into people’s emotional bank accounts.
Positive Comment
Positive Comment
Critical Remark
Critical Remark
1-2-1 Critique: Gratitude Sandwich
Critiques = Additive, Not Competitive
In the early days, Pixar writers experienced the foreboding joy of story critiques by:
• John Lasseter
• Andrew Stanton
• Brad Bird
These meetings are done with honesty and candor.
An Original, Boring Ending
The original ending had Wall-E saving EVE from a trash compactor.
The Updated, Heartfelt Ending
Wall-E is badly damaged saving the human race. EVE repairs Wall-E.
Barrier of
Procrastination
It is a small island in Denmark. Shakespeare used as his setting for Hamlet.
Zealand Island
Prince Hamlet suspects his uncle killed his father. He delays seeking the truth.
Elsinore Castle
Act 1: Ghost of Hamlet’s father tells him to revenge his murder. Hamlet delays.
Hamlet Sees Ghost of Dead Father
Act 2, Scene 2: Hamlet has chance to kill Claudius. He delays…
Perfect Opportunity, First Delay
Act 3, Scene 1: Hamlet talks to a dead friend, Yorrick. He delays, again.
To Be or Not To Be?
Tries to Publicly Humiliate His Uncle
Act 3, Scene 3: Hamlet performs a play within the play. He delays, again.
Hamlet Still Has Bloody Thoughts
Act 4: Hamlet does not understand soldiers who fight in foreign lands. When the soldier leaves, Hamlet says how own thoughts are bloody. Hamlet still delays.
Act 5, Scene 5: Bloodbath
“There’s Something Rotten in Denmark.”
It is called procrastination. In “Hamlet”, his delay leads to a wasted life.
Purpose of Procrastination
“The purpose of procrastination is to protect us from the failure, success, or change we are terrified of, and it fulfills that purpose when we lose all hope and stop trying. It is fear-based.”
-- Hilary Rettig (2011)
Source: http://20px.com/
Source: http://20px.com/
Need to Break the Endless Cycle
You are working with a seasoned designer, who prides herself on doing pixel perfect designs. In the office, she is infamous for procrastinating.
1. Discuss project management solutions.2. What advice would you give a procrastinator?
Exercise #6: Scenario
Practice Effective Time Management
Proudly Show Early Design Concepts
Timebox Your Tasks
Test Early, Test Often
Establish a Daily Routine
Home Work Other
Shop/Gym Dinner Reading/TV Sleeping
WorkBreakfastGetting Ready Drive Time
Create Routines Within the Routine
• 09:00 AM: Answer emails and phone calls• 10:00 AM: Morning meetings• 11:00 AM: Work on projects (one hour)• 11:30 AM: Lunch• 12:30 PM: Work on projects (two hours)• 02:30 PM: Afternoon meeting (or work on projects)• 04:15 PM: Pick up child from school
Short Drive Time (estimated 5-10 minutes):• Make phone call (using Bluetooth)• Listen to podcast on design or usability• Meditate after a stressful day• Practice a presentation (for work or conference)• Make a mental checklist of things to do
Set Realistic Targets
Use Positive Self-Talk
65,000 thoughts/day. 65% are negative, roughly 42,000.
Imagination is the enemy of motivation.
Don’t Fantasize about Desired Results
Plan for Obstacles
List possible obstacles for completing an assignment, including procrastination habits. Develop counter-measures.
Reward Your Progress
Set up a reward system for positive reinforcement.Similarly, arrange small punishments for failures.
Putting It Off or Getting It Done?
“Putting it off does not make it go away. Getting it done does.”
— Ned Hallowell, Driven to Distraction
Break Large Tasks Into Smaller Units
Small chunks helps you see progress and builds momentum.
Fate or Destiny?
“Fate is what befalls a man who fails to act. Destiny is for men who refuse to accept failure, as their fate.”
— Lamar Wyatt (ABC’s Nashville)
PIXEL PERFECT
PICTURE #3
Barrier of Sarcasm
No Man is an Island
Poem by John Donne
Theme: Being Connected to Others
Simple Definition of Sarcasm
sar•cas•m (sahr-kaz-uh m) noun
1. the use of words that mean the opposite of what you really want to say in order to insult someone, to show irritation, or to be funny.
2. Greek (literal definition)…to render someone’s flesh (with a caustic remark).
Sarcasm ≠ Verbal Irony
In Seattle, a weatherman told viewers the forecast shows “sunny days ahead.”
Sarcasm ≠ Irony of Fate
An irony of fate is history’s greatest composer (Beethoven) went deaf.
Sarcasm ≠ Situational Irony
These two signs were right next to each other at a bus stop in Chicago.
Want to learn about great deals, ask the bus driver.
Don’t talk to the bus driver.
Sarcasm ≠ Dramatic Irony
The audience knows Juliet is about to wake up, but Romeo does not.
Sarcasm = Lowest Form of Wit
“Sarcasm’s insincerity offers a level of protection. At its most innocuous, it doesn’t hurt anyone and distances the speaker.
When you say the opposite of what you mean, you don’t have to own it. You’ve got someplace to hide.
You get attention, a laugh, and the upper hand —without having to stick your neck out.”
-- Dr. Jennifer Taitz
Social Media and Sarcasm
Fact: #yeahright was used 2,500+ times in one hour.
#winning #sarcasm #snicker #yeahright #fail
Body Language Can Be Sarcastic
You can be sarcastic with your body language, too. Let’s assume this guy said, “I will get right on that.” Do you believe any of these faces?
Secret Service: Social Media Sarcasm
In June 2014, Secret Services opened bids for software to detect sarcasm on social media as part of the Department of Homeland Security.
Imagine our five perfectionists using sarcasm everyday on your team.
Exercise #7: Scenario
During a design critique, two co-workers decide to make several sarcastic remarks. You do not know if you should follow their suggestions. Some of their comments seemed like personal acts. You left the room angry.
1. What do you say to the sarcastic person?2. Do you talk to your manager about it?3. What if your manager is the sarcastic person?
Antidote is to Limit Sarcasm
Create a “Sarcasm Free Zone” at work. You want open collaboration.
Use Sarcasm Like a Strong Spice
It is best to use sarcasm with close friends, who understand the humor.
Sarcasm is like a spice. Use it sparingly.
• Too much, the dish is overwhelmed.
• An occasional dash, the dish is spiced up.
• A steady serving, the dish is ruined.
Sarcasm Can Be a Form of Bullying
Perfectionists use sarcasm to disguise their hostility. Psychologists see sarcasm as a very subtle form of bullying.
Most bullies are angry, insecure, and frustrated (like perfectionists).
Pixar Uses Candor, Not Honesty
Ed Catmull devotes an entire chapter to the importance of candor.
“A hallmark of a healthycreative culture is that itspeople feel free to shareideas, opinions, and criticisms. Lack of candor,if unchecked, ultimately leads to dysfunctionalenvironments.”
Respect is the Antidote to Sarcasm
Ways to create a culture of respect:
1. Do not gossip, especially with envious people.2. Be intentional in your communication.3. Appreciate diverse opinions.4. Be a bridge builder to promote teamwork.5. Create a culture directed at competitors.6. Do not acknowledge sarcastic remarks.7. Promote ownership, so people’s voices matter.
Stop Sarcasm, Start with Empathy
Designers talk of empathy maps. How about living with empathy?
Take Your Shoes Off, Then Wear Mine
Before walking in another person’s shoes, you have to take your shoes off.
Walk a mile in my shoes. See what I see. Hear what I hear. Feel what I feel. Then, maybe, you’ll understand why I do what I do. Until then, don’t judge me.
Ask for an Explanation
If you hear a sarcastic remark, respectfully ask for clarification.
Examine Sarcasm Triggers
Some people are only sarcastic in specific situations. Examine the triggers.
Make Conversations Meaningful
Your statements should be these three things:
1. True2. Meaningful3. Necessary
Sarcasm never meets all three of these categories.
Do Not Combat with Humiliation
Humiliation is closely tied to shame, which is a severe issue with perfectionists. Be respectful and ask for clarification from the person.
If someone says a sarcastic remark about you, do not resort to humiliation. It is so tempting.
Diffuse Sarcasm By Agreeing
Sarcastic Remark: “Snails move faster than you.”Your Response: “Yes, they do. They are fast little buggers.”
When you receive a sarcastic remark, agree with them.
Announce Your Sarcasm
Sarcastic Remark: “I just thought of something sarcastic: ‘Snails move fast than you.’ I am totally joking.”
Diffuse your own sarcasm by announcing it.
PIXEL PERFECT
PICTURE #4
Barrier of
Numbing
Odysseus Visited Many Lands
Of the ancient heroes, only Hercules may have traveled more than Odysseus.
Island of Calypso (Oggygia)
In Homer’s The Odyssey, Calypso keeps Odysseus prisoner for 7 years.
Caves of Calypso
When Calypso sings, Odysseus forgets about his beloved wife, Penelope.
Hermes Tells Calypso to Release Him
Odysseus is enamored with Calypso. He is numb to all other things.
Calypso Sets Him Free
Calypso fell in love with Odysseus. She eventually sets free our numb hero.
Crazy-Busy or Numbing?
“We are culture of people who’ve bought into the idea that if stay busy enough, the truthof our lives won’t catch up to us. One of themost universal numbing strategies is whatI call crazy-busy.”
-- Dr. Brene Brown
We Numb Ourselves in Debt
U.S. household consumer debt profile:
• Average credit card debt: $15,611• Average mortgage debt: $155,192• Average student loan debt: $32,264
We Numb Ourselves with Food
• 66% of adults are overweight or obese• 35% of children struggle with obesity• By 2030, 51% of the US population may be obese• 20 years ago, no state had an obesity rate above 15%• Today 41 states have obesity rates over 25%• Since 1980, the obesity rate in teens has tripled.• 72% of older men and 67% of older women are now
overweight or obese
We Drink to Numb OurselvesIn 2014, American recycled enough aluminum cans to rebuild the entire fleet of US commercial aircrafts…twice.
And, this only accounts for what consumers recycled.
Source: American Beverage Association
Perfectionists Numb in Other Ways
Why Numbing Actually Hurts You?
“When you numb yourself, you try to not feel vulnerability. It is especially debilitating because it does not just deaden the pain of our difficult experiences; it deadens all of them—love, joy, creativity, and belonging.We cannot selectively numb an emotion. When you numb the dark, you numb the light.”
-- Dr. Brene Brown
Numbing ≠ Addiction
It is NOT about
RESISTANCEIt is about
RESILIENCE
Your manager uses different numbing methods during times of peak stress, such as before a major release or executive presentation. They drink, swear, work long hours, and smoke. They seem to promote people with same behaviors.
1. How would you handle this situation?
2. What coping strategies do you use for stress?
Exercise #8: Scenario
Antidote = Setting Boundaries
Each person is different. Identify numbing behaviors and set boundaries.
Use Positive Coping Strategies
Walking, going outdoors, or cooking a meal can be very positive ways to cope.
Plan for Breaks
Crazy-busy? It is a choice. Plan for breaks and vacations.
Manage Anxiety, Don’t Numb It
Ask for Help ≠ Weakness
Crazy-busy? Ask for help or delegate.
A lack of boundariesinvites
a lack of respect.
PIXEL PERFECT
PICTURE #4
Victim or
Viking Mentality
In DC comics, Paradise Island (Themyscira) is the home of the Amazon race.
Paradise Island
Home of Wonder Woman
In this comic, Wonder Woman is a warrior, hero, strategist, and spy.
Amazons Resemble Vikings
According to myth, Hercules and Theseus would have encounters with the Amazons. With each encounter, the Amazons would march to war.
Perfectionists: Victim or Viking?
“Either you are a Victim in life –a sucker or a
loser who’s always being taken advantage of or
can’t hold their own –or you’re a Viking –
someone who sees the threat of being
victimized as a constant, so you stay in control,
you dominate, you exert your power over
things, and you never show vulnerability.”
-- Dr. Brene Brown
Victim or a Viking?
Perfectionists do not like to show vulnerability, so they may adapt a persona.
Viking Characteristics
• Exerts power of perceived threats.• Stays in control.• Tries to dominate.• Never shows vulnerability.• Ruthlessly attacks enemies.• Uses any weapon available:
- Gossip- Schedule- Email- Deadlines- Meetings- Departmental Policies- Assignments
Victim Characteristics
• Constantly loses at home and work.• Taken advantage of by people.• Always loses, never wins.• Whines about everything.• Uses any tactic available:
- Excuses- Rationalization- Justification
• - Blame- Lying- Finger pointing- No instructions
Using Vulnerability ≠ Being Vulnerable
Viking = Invulnerable Victim = Helpless
Victim or Viking: Scary Thinking
“When we lead, teach, or preach from a gospel of Viking or Victim, win or lose, we crush faith, innovation, creativity, and adaptability to change.”
-- Dr. Brene Brown
A project manager does anything to get his way. People are either threatening or non-threatening to him. When he feels threatened, the project manager plays very dirty office politics including getting people written up and fired.
1. How do you handle this person?
2. Do ignore the behavior altogether?
Exercise #9: Viking Scenario
A co-worker continually whines about how things are unfair with work assignments. He constantly gets other people to his work. They “work” from home, but nobody believes him. This person says that he feels helpless.
1. How do you handle this person?
2. Do ignore the behavior altogether?
Exercise #10: Victim Scenario
Antidote = Relationship Building
Cultivate trust and commitment to counter Viking-Victim mentality.
Build an Emotional Bank Account
An emotional bank account
is a metaphor for improving
and maintaining scorecards
with your relationships.
The account begins with a
neutral balance. You make
deposits and withdrawals
based on your interactions with people.
Sometimes, It is Full
Sometimes, It is Injured
Sometimes, It is on Empty
Sadly, It Can Be Broken
Broken Banks Can Be Repaired
Mostly, It Grows and Shrinks
And, You Manage Multiple Banks
20,000Daily Interactions
The Golden Ratio is 5:1
Healthy relationships strive for 5 positive interactions to each 1 negative one.
Deposit = Listening with Empathy
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand. They listen with the intent to reply. -- Stephen Covey
Deposit = Keeping Commitments
Showing up to work on time, meeting your deadlines, attending meetings, doing what you say, and fulfilling obligations are regular deposits you make.
Deposit = Fighting with Respect
Every working relationship will have arguments and disagreements. When you do, always keep your communication respectful.
Deposit = Remember Little Things
All the little things count and they are the building blocks of our daily lives. Remembering a birthday, getting coffee, or a smile adds up.
Apologize for Withdrawals
When you make a mistake, apologize immediately. It’s a learning experience. Keep your account in the positive, which you have worked hard to create.
Antidote for Ideas: Story Building
At Pixar, Ed Catmull explains that originality is very fragile:
“In its first form, the films arefar from pretty. We call them‘ugly babies.’ They neednurturing—in the form of time and patience—in order to grow.”
Pixar usually gives 2-3 years to turn an “ugly baby” into a film.
The Beast and The Baby
With ideas, you can develop a Viking-or-Victim mentality, too.After the success of Toy Story 2, the Pixar team was exhausted.
It took nearly five years to create Monsters, Inc.
Pixar wanted to feed the beast, produce another sequel. Yet, the creatives wanted to protect the ugly babies.
Balancing The Beast and Ugly Babies
For Pixar, their Brain Trust (John Lasseter, Andrew Stanton, Brad Bird) balances the Hungry Beast and the Ugly Babies.
Design Studios: UX Ugly Baby Solution
For UX Designers, the Design Studio method provides us with a great mechanism to protect ugly babies..
PIXEL PERFECT
PICTURE #4
Barrier of Smash
and Grab
Easter Island
Known for Its Rock Statues
Two Mysteries Solved
For many years, historians tried to determine two things about Easter Island:
1. How were the statues created there?
2. Where did all of the people go?
Both mysteries got solved a few years ago.
Statues Were Pushed Up
Local inhabitants used stones, wood, and brute force to push the statues up.
Massive Deforestation Led to Collapse
The tribe on Easter Island was over 10,000 people during its height. When Captain Cook landed, it was reduced to about 100 people. It was avoidable.
Smash and Grab = Manipulation Tool
“The smash and grab occurs when someone smashes through people’s social boundaries with intimate information, then grab whatever attention and energy you can get your hands on…in our social media world, it’s increasingly difficult to determine what’s a real attempt to connect and what’s performance.”
-- Dr. Brene Brown
Helicopter Story of Brian Williams
Brian Williams was suspended from NBC for six months for smashing-and-grabbingheadlines about riding with Seal Team Six when their helicopter was under fire.
Gossiping is Smash-and-Grab
Gossiping is a smash-and-grab. Someone gossips to draw negative attention towards one of their rivals. Conversely, they start a rumor to draw attention to their self.
Seven Types of Social Sharing
90% of social sharing is about sharing relevant information with your connections. 10% of social sharing is a form of smash-and-grab (showing off, getting a reaction).
Smash and Grab = Manipulation Tool
“With smash and grab, perfectionists use vulnerability to connect with people. It is a way to fast-forward intimacy.”
-- Dr. Brene Brown
You have worked for two years designing a new product. A marketing person is assigned one week before the release. Several people share details about the last two years. She uses this information to take credit for the past two years.
1. How do you handle this situation?
2. What other smash-and-grabs have you seen?
Exercise #11: Scenario
Antidote = Understand the Intention
Protect yourself and others. Understand the reason(s) you might be hearing this information. Is it a smash and grab? Is there a legitimate business reason?
Tell Your Story to People Who Earn It
You do not want to share information with people, who have not earned it. They will misunderstand you.
Don’t Share Fresh Wounds Publicly
Allow for cooling off periods before sharing information with people. An unhealthy perfectionist will use it against you.
A Simple Checklist
What need is driving this behavior?
What outcome do I want?
Does it align with my values?
Is this sharing in the service of connection?
Am I genuinely asking people for what I need?
Since design is very collaborative, it is easy to mistake need for intimacy. For some reasons, artists and designers crave intimacy and attention.
If the words don’t add up,it’s usually because the truth wasn’t included
in the equation.
PIXEL PERFECT
PICTURE #5
Barrier of
Zigzagging
Ship-Trap Island
Setting for the short story called “The Most Dangerous Game”
Rainsford Battles General Zaroff
Our hero runs for his life, zigzagging over Ship-Trap Island.
Dodges Traps Before Final Showdown
Rainsford narrowly escapes 10 different traps before finally killing Zaroff.
Zigzagging = Avoiding
In some cases, perfectionists want to avoid conflict. So, they delay a potential confrontation for a long time.
Zigzagging = Disengaging
In some cases, perfectionists want to disengage from work and people.They duck, dodge, and de-prioritize tasks. They major in the minors!
Zigzagging ≠ Procrastination
Unlike procrastination, zigzagging is actually doing work-related activities. Procrastination is finding other things to do (laundry, watch a movie, sleep).
Similar to Maslow’s Jonah Complex
Maslow states, "So often we run away from the responsibilities dictated by nature, by fate, or by accident, just as Jonah tried—in vain—to run away from his fate."
Postpone a Hard Meeting
Perfectionist Meeting Has
Been Postponed to Next Week
Clean Your Desk, Again and Again
You are zigzagging when you clean your desk rather than finishing a project.
Waiting for the Perfect Moment
You go through multiple scenarios and seem to freeze up.
“We fear our highest (and lowest) possibilities. We are
generally afraid to become that which we can glimpse
in our most perfect moments, under the most perfect
conditions, under conditions of great courage.
We enjoy and thrill to the godlike possibilities we see
in ourselves in such peak moments. Yet, we
simultaneously shiver with weakness, awe, and fear
before these very same possibilities.”
-- Abraham Maslow
You know you should have a difficult discussion with another designer. You notice you have been avoiding this confrontation. You find other work to do, but you know the problem will only get worse. You zigzag constantly.
1. How do you stop zigzagging?
2. How do you handle difficult conversations?
Exercise #12: Scenario
Knowledgeis in
the EndBased on
Acknowledgement
Antidote = Name Your Fear
• Fear of the Unknown
• Fear of Change
• Fear of Sudden Pain
• Fear of Failure
• Fear of Losing Control
• Fear of the Spotlight
• Fear of New Ideas
• Fear of the Future
• Fear of Your Identity
• Fear of Standing Out
• Fear of Being Ridiculed
• Fear of Responsibility
• Fear of Massive Success
• Fear of Being Exposed
• Fear of New People
• Fear of New Technology
“To avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.” -Elbert Hubbard
Next Step is to Take Action
In the US Army, Captains tell their soldiers to shoot, move, and communicate.
The Most Dangerous Game
Rainsford continually acknowledged his situation, moved, and communicated.
Fear Has Two Meanings
• Negative = Forget Everything And Run
• Positive = Face Everything And Rise
It is really a choice!!!
There are only two options:
make progress ormake excuses.
PIXEL PERFECT
PICTURE #6
The Pit and
the Pendulum
SafeZone
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CreativityZone
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Risk Zone
Risk Zone
InnovationZone
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InnovationZone
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Exercise #13: GOSPA Worksheet
Example: GOSPA Worksheet
Reduce my own procrastination
Improve my time management
1. Project time management2. Manage my deliverables
1. Time management training2. Training on specific tools
1. Attend time manager webinar2. Put dates on team calendar
It’s better to cross the line
and suffer the consequences
than to just stare at that line
for the rest of your life.
Final Thoughts
11 February 1990: Robben Island
Nelson Mandela is Released
24 June 1995: Rugby World Cup
Mandela Takes Team to Robben Island
Mandela Talks about Invictus
Mandela Shares Another Story
He Removes Foreboding Joy
They are playing on their home field. Mandela says the nation is grateful.
He Removes Procrastination
He tells them to play with a sense of purpose and urgency.
He Removes Sarcastic Remarks
The retreat to Robben Island provided focus.
Their Training = No Numbing
Mandela talk about how they are prepared. They can do it.
He Removes Viking-Victim Thinking
Mandela tells them that they are men with wives and children, too.
He Removes Smash and Grab
Mandela took them away to Robben Island to focus and avoid the press.
Seize the Moment, Don’t Zigzag
They were playing New Zealand in a few hours. Face the competition.
It was NOT about
RESISTANCEIt was about
RESILIENCE
South Africa Wins Championship
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