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Parent Roles in Student Achievement

1.6

C H A P T E R O N E : P O S I T I V E PA R E N T I N G

EncouragingBuilding an Achievement Identity /“Can Do” Spirit /Positive Self Image

SupportingChildren and Teen’sLearning & Development

Creating StructureFamily Routines /Boundaries for Time and Behavior.

CommunicatingTalking Together /Expressing High Expectations

LeadershipAdvocating -Parents as Leaders at Home,School, and Community.

ModelingLifelong Learning / Reading Daily /Enthusiasm for Education

PartneringConnecting Home to School /Monitor School Work /Plan for Further Education

CollaboratingWorking Together for School Improvement /School & Community Networks

Parents Hold the Keysto Student Success!

PA R E N T I N G PA R T N E R S : P R A C T I C A L TO O L S F O R P O S I T I V E PA R E N T I N G

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Research DemonstratingParent Engagement Outcomes

Research from the Harvard Family Research Project, Columbia University and the U.S. Department of Education

Source: Copyright© 2014 President and Fellows of Harvard College. Reprinted with permission from Harvard Family Research Project. www.hfrp.org., A Meta-Analysis of the Efficacy of Different Types of Parental Involvement Programs for Urban Students.2

GPA

GPA

UP.51

UP.27

UP.28

UP.35

COMMUNICATING

STRUCTURE

MODELING

PARTNERING

Parent/TeacherCommunication

Parent CheckingHomework

SharedReading

Parent/TeacherPartnership

FRAMEWORK PARENT ACTION

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Skills

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Skills

Shield EndsArguments

PositiveDiscipline

StudySkills

PowerfulListening

Schedulesand Routines

ReadingDaily

ClearInstructions

PositivePower Words

Supporting

Communicating

Collaborating Encouraging

Modeling

Partnering

Leadership

Creating Structure

Creating Structureand Skills for Achievement

C H A P T E R O N E : P O S I T I V E PA R E N T I N G



Day What We Will Do Today Done

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Here are some STRENGTHS we identified and affirmed.

Today DoneTT

“Positive Parenting is linked to improved academic outcomes.”

Positive Parenting examples

include:

• Reading together• Playing together• Showing high expectations.• Talking together about a student’s

career and educational aspirations.6

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Implementing Best Practicesin Parent Engagement


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LISTENING

2.3

Identity Builders

Say “I love you” every day, and give

your child hugs!

Give children focused attention rather than always multitasking.

Provide opportunities for your children to explore their interests.

Do special things with each individual child.

Give your child choices.

Invite your child’s opinions and ideas.

Give your child a personal place or space.

Listen to your child’s feelings, and honor those feelings.

Praise your child using descriptive praise such as

“You are very creative.” “You are very athletic.”

Let them teach you things like technology, music, dance steps and sports.

CHOICES

PRAISE

HUGS


Identity Builders

C H A P T E R T W O : C R E AT I N G C O N F I D E N T K I D S

DIFFERENCES

Tell your children how much you admire and respect them. Honor them in the presence of

family and friends!

Give your child opportunities to help you and others.

Allow your child to make decisions.

Share key responsibilities so they can learn, such as caring for pets,

car care, vacation planning.

Accept your child’s differences from you in temperament,

personality, interests, abilities, and energy level.

Create traditions that you can share, such as camping,

cooking specialty meals, and crafts.

Make promises that you can manage.

Allow your child to sometimes fail as well as succeed.

2.4

HONOR

DECISIONS

PROMISES



2.7

Recognizing and Affirming Strengths:Creating a Vision for College

Examples of strengths include:• Coaching–helping others learn• Bringing diverse people together• Conflict resolution• Learning technical procedures• Inventing• Good hearted–connecting with

people that others ignore• Organizational skills• Speaking talents

• Sports performances• Performing music• Computer software skills• Visual arts–painting, graphic art,

illustrating, photography, etc.• Leadership skills• Dancing• Composing music• Creative writing


C H A P T E R T W O : C R E AT I N G C O N F I D E N T K I D S

2.8

Positive Identity: Elements of Self-Esteem

Nine Elements of Self-Esteem

1 Belonging

2 Purpose

3 Security

4 Empowerment

5 Confidence

6 Competence

7 Resiliency

8 Leadership

9 Respect

It’s really exciting to guide our children in acquiring the valuable treasures of positive self-esteem. At the same time, we also instill values that steer our children in using these treasures to make positive contributions to society.

Discoveringthe Treasures

of Self-Esteem!


Untangling Mixed Signals

3.6

1. Being inconsistent Arguments

2. Having double standards Confusion

3. Bouncing between parents Manipulating Parents

4. Coaxing and pleading Manipulate or Tantrums

5. Avoiding: Saying “Maybe” Confused instead of “No” or Discouraged

6. Mixing praise and criticism Why try? I’ll never be good enough.

Be consistent and follow through.

Follow your own rules.

Parents discuss together first.

Give clear, direct instructions.

Give honest answers.

Let praise stand on its own.

Mixed Signal Result Best Practice

C H A P T E R T H R E E : C O M M U N I C AT I O N T H AT W O R K S



Clear Instructions, Direct Communication

Who: Say your child’s name.

Example: • Leticia, turn off the TV.

What: Be specific. Describe what you want done. Start with words that motivate to action, such as “stop,” “take,” “make” or “pick up.”

Examples: • Pick your clothes up off the floor.

• Put all dirty clothes in the laundry basket. • Fold all your clothes and put them in your drawers.

• Put all the trash in the trash basket.

When: Tell your child when you want something done.

Examples: • Now! • Before you watch TV. • By Saturday at noon. • Immediately after school.

Where: Be specific about where you want them to be and where you expect them to put things.

Examples: • Play only in the front yard. • Take the sheets off your bed and put them in the laundry room in the green basket. • Stop jumping on the sofa and put your feet on the floor.

Put It All Daniel. Clear the dishes off the table and put them in the sink. Together: Do this after dinner tonight and after dinner every night.

How Often: Is this a daily or weekly expectation?

Example: • Every Saturday. • Every day. • Every night. • Just this once.



Ending Argumentsand Setting Boundaries

4.5

The keys to practicing with the Shield:

• Use few words.

• Don’t engage.

• Repeat calmly.

• Stand strong.


C H A P T E R F O U R : C R E AT I N G S T R U C T U R E F O R A C H I E V E M E N T

The Power of Arguing is Gone!

The Shield:

• Eliminates the “Five Reasons Why Kids & Teens Argue.”

• Reduces drama and intensity.

• Succeeds even when parents are exhausted.

• Practices the “Power of Boredom.”

• Models positive conflict resolution.



Parents in the Lead:Don’t Take the Bait!



Eight Guidelines forSetting Logical Consequences

5.5

Consequences must:

1. Be put into action without anger.

2. Be communicated first.

3. Be perceived by the child as negative.

4. Relate to the misbehavior.

5. Allow freedom of choice.

6. Be age-appropriate and reasonable.

7. Be allowed to work.

8. Be manageable for the parents.


Parents Ignore the Polls

5.10

C H A P T E R F I V E : D I S C I P L I N E : P R A C T I C E F O R S U C C E S S

What stands in the way of followingthrough with consequences?

• Therefore we should ignore the popularity polls and give our children the gift of positive, consistent discipline.

• The Buddy Trap. We can get caught up in trying to please our children.

• It is important to remember that our primary responsibility

is to “be the parent”.


C H A P T E R S I X : W H AT C H I L D R E N & T E E N S N E E D TO S U C C E E D

Parent Roles in Family –School Partnerships

Supporting

Communicating Collaborating

Encouraging

Modeling

Partnering Leadership

Creating Structure

Connecting Home and School



Multiplying Family Engagement

“Family engagement is a shared responsibility of families, schools, and communities for student learning and achievement.”8

Copyright© 2014 President and Fellows of Harvard College. Reprinted with permission from Harvard Family Research Project. www.hfrp.org. Beyond Random Acts: Family, School, and Community Engagement as an Integral Part of Education Reform.8

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