PARENTING IS AN 'INTERNAL' AFFAIR Some tips by Dr. Balasandilyan

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Parenting is an art.

All of us want our children to behave we want them to ….whereas they are like clay in our hands…!

Children can be moulded to our pattern very easily…!

In fact it is Time for TWO (Parents) to come together!

We All Were Kids Once, Remember?

BEING A ROLE MODEL

Children often observe and take inputs from the behavior of the parents.

A child who had the habit of pulling the wallet of the dad and throwing it all around continued once they traveled in a train (the wallet had huge money and cards..etc..)

If you speak with love and kindness they reflect the same…and if you express anguish and irritation the same can be expected of them.

THOU SHALL BEHAVE...TO HAVE BETTER

CHILDREN

Open up with them as to how your image gets reflected based on their behavior at home and at other places.

If we say “I am busy working with office files”….they do understand for sure even if they are just 3.

Children are smart enough to understand what is happening around them…hence to have better children we are to behave properly.

IDEAS FOR EMPOWERING CHILDREN

Admire your children for

every small act of theirs…! If

we admire and appreciate 6

times we can for sure point

out mistakes once…!

Many children prefer to be

corrected rather than

ignored by parents…!

To draw attention of parents

they find a way or other….!

Observe…and admire every

correct thing they do…!

BE A PLAYMATE, NOT A PARENT

Go to the place where they play …whether it is floor, sand or garden or even when they are rolling….sit next to them … converse and be a playmate and not as a parent…to make them feel good with you…! They love it.

They get affected psychologically when their words and actions are completely ignored or unnoticed…!

NO KIDDING !

Fulfill every promise you

make…for their

accomplishment, success,

or performance…!

Don’t promise simply to

get things done the way

you want…!

When promises are met,

children tend to believe

parents and try to

accomplish more…!

So, when you promise…

see that it is done….!

PARENTS CAFE ...CHILDREN SAFE...!.

Some children get

enthused with few

things…such as

spectacles, mobile

phones etc….But when

you know they have the

habit of throwing and

breaking things…keep

them away from

children…! It could be

even medicines or

matchbox or TV remote

even…!

BEING DIFFERENT IS WISE...OTHERWISE

CRITICAL

If your children are busy doing something and it does not affect you by any way….just be watchful …but ignore…! They may even follow an ant..! It is ok.

Don’t put unwanted laws or rules at home…Given some freedom, it gives them self-confidence. Later on much conflicts and difference of opinions are avoided when they grow…!

DEALING WITH TWO DIFFICULT BOSSES

Don’t say “ok” when your spouse says “not ok”…It brings an idea to the kid to make a play or ploy between parents…!

With clarity and due explanation tell them “No” as children would always love to do what we tell them not to do.

Let them learn lessons from their own faults..(it could be not finishing home work…when they are punished in the school they understand)

DP TO SP (DIFFICULT PARENTS TO SUPER

PARENTS)

Make children feel they are important to you both and to our home.

Consider discussing with them for some decisions like buying a TV, computer or painting the house. Involve them…so that they feel they are given due importance…!

Making good fun with the children during dinner or lunch or get-together without hurting or insulting them would strengthen the bond in the family.

Humor is a great way of creating harmony in the family.

PASSION TO IGNITE FIRE IN THE BELLY!

Make children feel some

disappointments, failures in their

daily routine…! Just don’t give

everything they ask…! Let them

know the value of money and how

hard it is to earn.

Life is a combination of success

and failures and let the children

understand sometime they may

even fail to succeed..! This would

enable them to be perseverant and

take failures as stepping stones. It

is the duty of parents to make them

understand life is not a bed of

roses and it the law of the nature to

get us happiness and sorrows –

and not happiness or success

always…(it is like day and

night…and darkness and light)