Parenting in the 21st century; the roles and

responsibilities of parents.By

Shakirah OlajobiPGD (Guidance and counselling), M.Ed (Educational

Psychology)CEO, Brainy Educare Services, Lagos

Outline of presentation

Definitions; What is Parenting What is effective parenting? What is peculiar to the 21st century?

Parenting The transitions Parenting styles Basic Elements The endangered species? The game plan Lets be the change that we seek

Chat House

The life of a young elephant

It is trainable

It has been primed

It never crosses its mind to make another attempt

What is parenting?

Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social

and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood.

Features:

Full time job

No formal training

No vacation or breaks

No one-method solves it all

No preparation!

b

Parenting can sometimes be like being lost and alone in the desert

Effective Parenting

A style of raising children that increases the chances of a child becoming the most capable person and adult he or she can be.

The 21st century challenge

The transitions

Adult

Child

2

Why are they peculiar?

They have conflicts in their head.

They are egocentric and feel they can handle any situation.

They always feel attacked especially by their parents comment

They believe their parents have suddenly become old fashioned

They believe so much in their peers and believe that adults don’t

understand them

They want financial freedom

They feel over-protected and therefore wants less restrictions from their

parents.

They gravitate toward the very things you fear and dislike

a

They want their privacy and enjoy being on their own, especially when at

home.

They begin to pull away from you, their life style suddenly changes and

they develop ‘attitude’; they question your authority

They may become disrespectful and unruly

They pick up funny and sometimes unhealthy habits

They want to explore very dangerous grounds without giving a thought for

the consequence

They want to start relationships with the opposite sex.

They want to choose their meals or they want to eat incessantly

They become overly concerned about their appearance

Years of Crises

Physical Changes

Emotional changes

Intellectual changes

Psychological changes

HORMONES

There is therefore a need for self identification

?

Parenting styles

Authoritarian ParentsAuthoritative Parents

Permissive ParentsNonchalant Parents

Basic Elements

Unconditional LoveCommunication

Discipline

The endangered specie?

Being Africans;◦Our past can’t help but hunt us◦With new challenges, should come new

strategies.

Being 21st century Muslims;◦Breeding confident children requires going the

extra mile.◦We need to provide exciting alternatives for our

kids.

Just like the young elephant.

GAME PLAN ICatch them young………

Moving parent-teenager relationship to the next level

THE GAME PLAN II Now that they are already grown……

Trust

Compromise

Persuasion

Lets be the change that we seek

Seek help as soon as possible; don’t wait to have big crisis in your hands.

Co-operate with your spouse

Join a parent group or support group where you can share ideas and rub minds on becoming even more effective.

Parting words

“We put so much effort into

leaving a better world for our

children that we forget to leave

better children for this world”-anonymous

Jazakumllahu Khairan!

Thank you for listening;Parents are the greatest of

teachers.