parenting challenge #1 from think it through parenting

Parenting Challenge #1:

by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com

Parents, to get better results . . .

Don’t Say

“Don’t”

Watch my slides to learn why “don’t” is confusing and get strategies to use instead.

from a series of Positive Discipline Parenting Challengesto Help You Improve Your Parenting


YourChallenge … Don’t say

“don’t”“stop” or“uh uh”

to your kids for a day

Sounds impossible, right?

Wait, I’ve got suggestions for what to say instead.


Instead of using the negatives to tell kids

what not to do,

use the affirmative to help kids know what

TO DO instead.

Want some examples?


Instead of . . . Try . . .

“Don’t Run!”

“Walking feet”Or

“Tip toe”

Beginner Level Statements

Want another example?



“Don’t smack your

food!”

“Please chew with your

mouth closed.”

Beginner Level statements

Advance your skills


Once you’ve learned how to focus your child on what TO DO instead of what NOT to do,

ask questions that help your child SAY what to do.


Asking the right questions will help your child’sbrain problem solve and say the answer

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Saying the words helps your child know what to do the next time.

“I chew with my mouth closed.”

Want to know how to ask the right questions?



Ask questions that begin with the words,

“What” or “How”`

Examples



“Don’trun!”

“How do we travel safely

in the parking lot?”

Advanced Level Questions

(Before getting out of the car.)

Get one more example



“Don’tsmack your

food!”

“How can you chew so

others can’t hear you?”

Advanced Level Questions

Want an extra tip


Remember that tone says everything.

Your tone and choice ofwords communicate how

you feel about theperson to whom

you’re speaking.

Why is this tool so important?



Why is this tool so important to your

parenting and your child’s behavioral

success?

On the next slide is a quick demonstration...


Don’t think about

PINK ELEPHANTS!


Did you picture a pink elephant in your mind?

Even if it was only for a split second?

Most people do. Learn why . . .

With our language,we have the power to plant(suggest) ideasinto our kids' brains.

It’s the power of suggestion


If you say, "Don't hit" most likely your child either hears "hit" or sees an

image of someone hitting, because the brain thinks in pictures.


What images do you want to plant in your child’s brain?

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Kelly Pfeiffer

Certified Positive Discipline Lead Trainer

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