Paradigms of Interdependence

Public Victory

Paradigms of Interdependence

• Business Manager and being married

– Quick fix don’t work– Have to like yourself before you can like others– Independence-proactive, centred in correct principles,

value driven and able to organize and execute around personal priorities will we attain interdependence

Golden Goose

• From the story of the Golden Goose we could conclude the reasoning for the Goose to lay GOLDEN eggs to be numerous.

• From this analogy, in your groups come up with a scenario showing what relationship you can build upon by action of a role play in class to improve on to attain productivity or personal well being

The Emotional Bank Account

• Deposits

– Courtesy– Kindness– Honesty– Commitments

• Withdrawal

– Discourtesy– Disrespect– Interrupting– Over-reacting– Ignoring– Betraying trust– Threatening

The Emotional Bank Account

• Be very careful of what you say!

– Marriage– High School Friend– Teenager told to clean the room, Vacuum all the time!

– Need Positive balance –deposits i.e. (Dinky Toy out of the blue by being spontaneous or offering to help with homework)

• It takes a great many deposits to cover 1 withdrawal

• After all we are all independent and we all have different views of what we believe is true

Emotional Bank Account Exercise

• In your groups compare two scenarios where:

– 1. More deposits are being made– 2. More withdrawals are being made

• Role play

Six Major Deposits

• Understanding the Individual

• Attending to little things

• Keeping Commitments

• Clarifying Expectations

• Showing Personal Integrity

• Apologizing Sincerely when you make a withdrawal

Understanding the Individual

• Father and Son– Baseball– Soccer

• Professor the Son, trades and the great wall of China

• Don’t perceive that you always understand another without really wanting to understand

Attending to the little things

• Covey, boy’s night our and the coat

• Small acts of kindness and concern go a long way! Strong deposits!

Keeping Commitments

• In small groups discuss how commitments can become deposits or major withdrawals. Provide examples

Clarifying Expectations

• Ambiguous• Unclear• Incorrect

• Course Outline• Project Plan• Strategic Plan • IT Strategic Plan

Expectations need to be Clear and explicit

Otherwise may cause misunderstandings, personality clashes and communication breakdowns

Showing Personal Integrity

• Personal Integrity generates trust

• Honesty is telling the truth

• Integrity is keeping promises and fulfilling expectations

• Provide some examples if integrity or lack off?

Apologizing Sincerely when you make a withdrawal

• I was wrong• That was unkind of me• I showed you no respect• I gave you no dignity• I apologize

• If you apologize to make a decent deposit you need to be “sincere”

• Covey’s son banging on bathroom door!

Laws of Love and Life

• Dean of prestigious school and son resisting– Unconditional Love– Accepted sons decision unconditionally

• Covey and right-hand man with issue affecting organization– Overcoming pride, ego, stubbornness, fixation on a point

of view is very noble helping to strengthen relationships fro the betterment of all

• Student teams

Production (P) Problems are Production Capacity (PC) opportunities

• Take the OPPORTUNITY to build relationships from a negative to a positive

• Parents and Children• IBM

• Can you think of any examples where you could potentially see this in teams?