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Painless (no, really!) Negotiating
Mary Ellen Bates 2015 QPLA Conference BatesInfo.com 20 October 2015
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What is negotiation?
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Negotiation ≠ confrontation
It’s not either/or
Assertive ≠ aggressive
Just show up!
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5 Myths of Negotiation
Negotiation is a power struggle
Compromise is weakness
You have to look out for #1
Never show your cards
You must be shrewd and cunning
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Who is running your life?
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‘You're the boss’
Let the external world drive you
‘I had no choice’
‘He makes me so mad’
‘I can't / I wish / if only...’
‘My boss never lets me...’
‘People take advantage of me’
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‘I'm the boss of me’
Let the external world drive you
Own your power to affect your world
‘I had no choice’
‘I didn't look at all the alternatives’
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‘He makes me so mad’
‘I'm choosing to react angrily’
‘I can't / I wish / if only...’
‘What do I need to do to accomplish...?’
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‘I'm the boss of me’
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‘My boss never lets me...’
‘I haven't yet negotiated with my boss about...’
‘People take advantage of me’
‘Thanks for asking; I can’t do that right now.’
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‘I'm the boss of me’
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Negotiate from abundance
It’s never a zero-sum game
There’s always a larger pie
Shift from worst-case to best-case thinking
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Focus on results you both want
Interest-based rather than position-based discussion
Aim for what's ideal, not what you'll settle for
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Focus on now, not history
Current situation, not what got you there
Focus on the problem, not each other
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Ask more questions!
Do you know everything you need to know about the situation?
What else do you need to know?
How could you add more value?
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Know when you have leverage
When offered job or promotion
‘Hmmmm, the figure I was expecting was closer to $X. Could you walk me through how you arrived at $Y?’
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‘No’ isn’t always ‘NO’
‘No’ just means ‘give me a reason to say yes’
What else can you offer?
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Be able to walk away
Never invest more than you can leave on the table
Listen to your gut
Stop caring about the outcome
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Leave ego at the door
Mad? Scared? Feeling like a victim?
Deep breath. And another.
Take counterpart’s perspective
Maybe they’re not evil after all!
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De-fuse negotiation anxiety
Create situation to succeed
‘Can I have it for free?’ doesn’t count
How can you solve counterpart’s problem?
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It's business, not personal
...even when it’s personal!
You are your own best advocate.
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Your assignment
In the next week, negotiate something
Did you survive the ordeal?
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