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Paske Bob

From: G PRATT [[email protected] ]

Sent: Monday, July 12, 2004 11:45 PM

To: paskeb; Paske Bob; Paske Bob

Subject: hi

This month has been fun. I have been on the ice four times a week and I have had football practice every morning. On Mon, wed, and Fri I have football at 630 in the morning and on tue and thur I have it at 700. I got new skates for hockey and hockey is going really well. The real season will start in Aug and so will football. I will come out to see you on the 27th. Hopefully we will have a good time. The weather here was very hot today; it got up to 101. The hottest all year. It has been cooler though most of the time. Work is going very well. am making a steady paycheck but I am not working full time because of my activities. I hope that you and your family are doing well w/ the new move.

Joey

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Paske Bob

From: G PRATT [[email protected]]

Sent: Monday, July 26, 2004 9:26 PM

To: Paske Bob; paske.paskegbronline.com ; [email protected] ; [email protected]

Subject: trip

Bob,

I have been trying to call you but your number wont work so can you give it to me again please? I was just letting you know that I fly out tommorrow at 1030 and just e mail me back if any questions.

J oey

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Paske Bob


Sent: Sunday, September 19, 2004 3:00 PM

To: paske.paskegbronIine.com ; paskeb; Paske Bob; Paske Bob; [email protected]

Follow Up Flag: Follow up

Flag Status: Red

I just wanted to say hi. This month has been a good one. I have been playing hockey almost every day. For some weeks it is every day. We had a tournament for our high school team and we got 1st place. I got 4 goals in 4 games (1 goal in one game and a hat trick in another). I am doing fairly good in school but one of the classes is pretty hard because it is an AP class. Work is also good. I only work on Saturdays because of hockey and school. I got a 25 cent raise which isn't much at all but that's alright. I hope your doing well in the storms. When I called it was a day before your birthday so happy birthday. I'm sorry I didn't call you on your birthday. My mom reminded me but when I went to call you it was too late.

Joey

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Paske Bob


Sent: Sunday, October 03, 2004 8:23 PM

To: paskapaskegbronline.com ; paskeb; Paske Bob; Paske Bob; [email protected]

This month has been good. School is going well and I have good grades. A couple of classes are hard (the ap classes Work is fine because I am just working once a week on Saturdays for about four hours. Hockey is going well and it is fun. Our travel team played in AA tournament with teams from all around California, Arizona, and Utah. These were the first games we have ever played together in and we didn't do so well. We ended up 1-4. I had three goals and four assists. I hope you are doing well, and that the weather doesn't bring any more hurricanes your way.

Joey

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Paske Bob


Sent: Sunday, October 03, 2004 8:33 PM

To: Paske Bob

Bob,

This month has been good. School is going well and I have good grades. Some of the classes are hard (the AP classes). I am also enjoying work. I work once every week on Saturdays. I work for four hours each Saturday. Hockey is good and our travel team had a tournament over the weekend. These were the first games we ever had together as a team. We went 1-4. I had three goals and four assists. I hope you are doing well and you don't get any more hurricanes.

Joey

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Paske Bob

From: Paske Bob

Sent: Tuesday, October 05, 2004 8:36 AM

To: 'G PRATT'

Subject: RE:

Hi Joey, Thanks for the note..... Glad to hear things are going well......Even though the team didn't do too well at least you were involved with 7 goals .... that's quite a few in 5 games!!! Guess fall is coming soon.....snowboarding and all .... hope you have fun along with your hard work at school/job..... Things are going fine for all of us... David is loving school and doing well, and Mark is getting all As again... Never had anything other than an A!!! Looks like no more hurricanes on the horizon.....I guess 4 in one season is plenty .... although only 2 of them affected us ... and luckily did no damage to us... Other homes in the area weren't so lucky with some very big trees falling. ...I'm amazed at how big of a tree the wind can bring down .... Some were even bigger than our old Oaks in our yard ..... Well, take care.. .We look forward to seeing you sometime in December...... Love, Your Dad

From: G PRATT [mailto:GEPRATr©MSN .COM] Sent: Sunday, October 03, 2004 8:33 PM To: Paske Bob Subject:

Bob,

This month has been good. School is going well and I have good grades. Some of the classes are hard (the AP classes). I am also enjoying work. I work once every week on Saturdays. I work for four hours each Saturday. Hockey is good and our travel team had a tournament over the weekend. These were the first games we ever had together as a team. We went 1-4. I had three goals and four assists. I hope you are doing well and you don't get any more hurricanes.

Joey

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Paske Bob

From: Edwin Gantt [email protected] ]

Sent: Friday, October 08, 2004 2:59 PM

To: Liz Pratt

Subject: Re: IceCats Game

Liz,

I want to assure you that the coaching staff has been tremendously impressed with

Joey's dedication to this team. We really feel that his dedication and hard work paid off

this last weekend when he had a great individual showing at the tournament. He was one

of the few players who was consistently doing what he was supposed to be doing and being where he was supposed to be out there. If we can get everyone else on the same

page as Joey, this team will be amazing. Hopefully, we now have everyone else's attention and the team can really start working on the systems that are going to win us

games.

Look forward to seeing Joey tomorrow night!

Ed Gantt

Original Message ----- From: LizPratt To: edgantt(msn.com Sent: Friday, October 08, 2004 12:48 PM Subject: Re: IceCats Game

Coach Gantt,

Joey informed us that there will not be practice tomorrow and that you all will be attending the IceCat's game. Joey will be there to support the team.

It's been difficult lately for Joey to attend his acceleration program, lift, and run. Do know that Joey is dedicated and on his off days will stay in shape. He is meeting with his trainer after school today to do plyo work. Saturday mornings he plans to do weight lifting to strengthen his lower body. Just wanted to keep you informed. Thanks, Liz

>>> "Edwin Gantt" <[email protected] > 10/08/04 11:42AM >>> F-ti

Just a reminder to you all that I've got 16 comp tickets to Saturday's Icecats vs Utah State game. The game starts at 8:15, but I'll be outside at 7:45 with the tickets. That should ensure us enough time to get together, go inside and find a decent place to sit together as a team. I'm working my "back channel" contacts to see if I can't get us some team tickets to a Grizzlies game this season as well. I can probably squeeze a few extra tickets out of the IceCats so that coaches and managers get in free as well.

Take care and see you there!

Coach Gantt

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Paske Bob

From: G PRA17[[email protected]]

Sent: Sunday, October 10, 2004 4:17 PM;

To: Paske Bob

Subject: Social Security


Flag Status: Red

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Yesterday we received a notice of Greg's appeal on behalf of Joey. As expected, the appeal was denied. The Social Security Administration Rule GN00306.232 is cast in stone. It states: A stepchild initially entitled must have been receiving at least one-half support from the wage earner during the last 12 months. As you are aware, Greg has not been working at BYU for two years now. Therefore, unless Greg is able to adopt Joey, a benefit of approximately $850/month for 21 months will be forfeited.

I realize I am asking a great deal of you. However, $18,000 represents a substantial portion of a college education for Joey.

Again, Joey is unaware of this potential benefitiPer our conversation over the phone, this could be a great and unselfish gift you could offer Joey. I would like to know your thoughts regarding this situation. As I mentioned already, I do not care about the name issue. Joey is, and will remain, Paske on his driver's license, in Joey is playing on a AA hockey travel team. This has opened Joey's eyes at potential Div. 2A colleges in the Midwest and East to pursue both education and hockey. I will make arrangements for you to attend Joey's HS graduation if your are at all interested.

I have no clue on how long these processes take. I have not proceeded to take the time because I wanted to discuss this further with you.

Please let me know when you have arrived on your decision/conclusion.

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Paske Bob

From: Liz Pratt [[email protected] ]

Sent: Monday, October 11, 2004 10:49 AM

To: Paske Bob

Subject: Fwd: Re: lceCats Game


Flag Status: Red

Attachments: Re: IceCats Game

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Paske Bob

From: Liz Pratt [[email protected] ]

Sent: Tuesday, October 19 1 2004 3:25 PM

To: Paske Bob

Subject: EMAIL

Bob,

I sent you an email a few weeks ago as a follow up to our phone conversation regarding Joey. I have not heard back from you so you probably didn't receive the email. Would you please acknowledge either way if you're receiving my emails? Thanks.

Regards,

Liz

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Paske Bob

From: Paske Bob

Sent: Wednesday, October 20, 2004 11:36 AM

To: Liz Pratt

Subject: RE: EMAIL

Hi Liz,

Yes, I have received all your emails. You asked me to give it some thought, so I did. I thought I would wait to see if I changed my mind, but no, there has not even been a second since you talked to me on the phone that I thought I would agree to letting someone else adopt my son. If the shoe were on the other foot, I'm sure you would understand.

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From: Liz Pratt [mailto: [email protected]] Sent: Tuesday, October 19, 2004 3:25 PM To: Paske Bob Subject: EMAIL

I sent you an email a few weeks ago as a follow up to our phone conversation regarding Joey. I have not heard back from you so you probably didn't receive the email. Would you please acknowledge either way if you're receiving my emails? Thanks.

Regards,

Liz

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Paske Bob

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Sent: Tuesday, November 02, 2004 9:20 PM

To: Paske Bob

Subject: JOEY

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I have received and read your latest eA'ail. I am very disappointed, but not surprised at your answer. I was hoping that you woulcflealize the tremendous opportunity available to Joey and for once put your hatred for me aside and do what is only in the best interest of Joey.

You wondered what I would do in similar circumstances. To be honest, I'm not sure. I just know that your feelings concerning Greg adopting Joey will cost Joey over $18,000. You have previously indicated that you are putting money into an account for Joey for his 18th birthday. It would be very beneficial for Joey to be able to combine the two amounts to be used for a quality college education.

Joey's hockey coach has informed us that Joey has the talent level to play college hockey as least at a Division II level. This is something that key definitely wants to pursue. There are 75 non Div I schools that have a hockey program. Of this total, 49 are located in the New England states areas. They are small schools that have excellent academic programs but do not offer athletic scholarships. Additionally these schools are more expensive than larger private universities or state universities. The $18,000 available to Joey would go a very long way to help pay for this education without the necessity of pursuing significant student loans which now become a distinct possibility.

My request of you to allow Greg to adopt Joey was thoroughly thought out before asking you to consider it. Adopting key would not change his DNA, blood type or his finger prints. Biologically Joey is and always will be a Paske. The adoption would simply change a name and for that change, key would receive a substantial sum of money.

We have informed Joey of this financial benefit opportunity and of your answer. As is typical of Joey, his reaction was very subdued. I would appreciate you calling or emailing Joey to discuss your reasons for your decision. Both Joey and I think you owe that to him.

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To: Paske Bob

Subject: Re: Message for JOEY

ma It isn't fun to be a teenager of divorced parents who live far apart, especially when both

parents blame the other. For that reason I am glad that Greg is in my-life. He tries to balance out the conflict with out taking sides. I don't think that you owe me an explanation regarding the $18000, but I would think to myself sense $18000 is a lot of money that you would want to tell me why you don't want to let me have that much money; that is a lot of money that could be put to good use for me. And yes Ibejieve that I can be, !,tpgq to a good college, however my deal with my mom is that I will pay for half of the college costs. I have had a job at Hogi Yogi for a while and I am earning money for myself to help pay for college and may be even a mission. missions cost about $400 a month for 24 months, don't you think that the $18000 would lighten my load just a little bit? I don't know how much mom and Greg make or what equity they have in there house. I don't think they should go deeper in debt just to help me out. they would have to go deeper into debt to help me out and all you would have to do is let me be adopted. What one is easier? Probably the second alternative huh? I know that Greg paid child support for Kelsea for 13 years and he still helps her fund her college education. I asked my mom if you pay child support and she said no. I asked why not and she suggested that I should ask you. So here is the question- "Why don't you pay child support?" It seems to me that everything I have comes from my Mom and Greg. Because I have had good grades and have been good I was given a car for my 16th birthday. I have insurance, gas, and everything I need for my car, you have never offered, any assistance. There are a lot of unanswered questions I have for my mom and you that may be one day will be answered honestly. I mean, Bob, common am I just suppose to believe your side? I think not. I am just glad that Greg has come into my and my mom's life because he has made things a lot easier for us. I think that you are being unfair to Greg when you say that he only wants to adept me so he can save $18000. He is not saving $18000, I am. I am sorry that you don't see it that way and I think that you are being way selfish and I think that you know that you are too. No matter what, I will be ok financially. I hope that you can see it in a way that I am benefiting from this.

Joey

Original Message From: Paske Bob To: geprattmsn.com Sent: Wednesday, November 03, 2004 8:39 PM Subject: Message for JOEY

Hi Joey,

Your Mom informed me that you think I owe you an explanation. I do not know if it is true since I have not heard that from you, but I will assume it is.

I guess I need to give you an explanation of why I will not allow Greg to adopt you so they can save $18,000.

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I word it that way on purpose, because that is exactly what I believe. I believe you will be able to go to any college you want, and that they have enough money to pay for it. They just want to be able to save $18,000 off the price of college. What is the total cost of college? Do you really believe that $18,000 is really going to make a difference as to whether or not you can go to a certain college? Of course it won't.

But a more important reason why I have chosen as I have is that any Father worth his salt would not give his children up for adoption for any reason - especially for money. Children are worth more than all the money in the world. You probably already understand that because you are a smart teenager, but you will understand that much more deeply some day when you have children of your own. A child should never have to think that his Father or Mother was willing to give him up for any reason - especially a reason as lame as saving a few bucks.

I want you to know I love you, and would never give you up for adoption for any reason. Every child should know that about his/her parents. I know you don't feel the same way about me. And I don't expect you to. You weren't raised that way.

You have seen me interact with Mark and David on many, many occasions. You know how I treat them, and you know what they are like because of how I treat them. I will always treat you the same way - you just aren't here often to experience it. They are very responsible, intelligent kids who think on their own. That is because I have always treated them with respect, given them all the information I could, and have always fried to make them take responsibility for themselves. I try to do that with you, but again, you aren't around very often. They - and you - are the most important things in my life. Life is full of tough choices, but I always do try to do what is best for them - and I do that with you too.

They know, and you should too, that they can ask me anything, anytime. I love to talk about anything and everything with my boys. I always give them as much and the best information I can. And I encourage them to make their own opinions and decisions.

Sometimes they ask me for things, and sometimes I say no - they might not like the answer all the time, but I am always doing what I think is best for them. I am not perfect, and every decision I make may not be popular or even correct, but I do make my choices based on what I think is the best thing for everyone involved.

I strongly encourage Mark and David - at every opportunity - and you too - to use their own brains - to talk to many people, to find out all the sides of a story - to make up their own minds about everything, not just follow or believe what I say, or what others say. I encourage them to make their own choices in life, in beliefs, in everything - not follow what I believe. I also teach them to respect other people's choices and decisions.

Like I said, I am always ready for discussing anything. There are many things I have never told you that I would love to tell you, but you have never asked. Things I wouldn't want to tell you unless you wanted to know.

Believe me, there are plenty of other ways to come up with $18,000. How much equity does Greg and your Mom have in their house? Have you ever heard of a home equity loan? Could Greg work a part time job between now and when you start college to save up $18,000? There is no reason why they cannot afford to pay for your college. Again, they just see a way of

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making $18,000 and trying to capitalize. Parents are not for sale. I don't think your Mom would let someone else adopt you for $18,000. No good parent would.

Always ask questions. Always find out the truth. You deserve to do that for yourself.

Imp

PS.. ..I'm sure you will discuss this with your Mom and Greg - and you should.

However, I'm sure they will discount my reasons and try to convince you I am declining her request to spite her, to be a bully, and many other negative things. That just isn't true - and I will never be able to convince them of that. I know that because I've lived it for the past 12 years. I truly - to my core - just do not feel that being a parent is for sale.

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Paske Bob

From: Paske Bob

Sent: Friday, November 12, 2004 7:11 AM

To: 'G PRATT

Subject: RE: Message for JOEY

Dear Joey, I'm sorry it has taken a while to respond to your email. First of all, thank you for taking the time to write down your thoughts and feelings in an email and sending it to me. I have thought about nothing else for the past few days - in fact since your Mom sent me an email telling me she told you about this "opportunity" and my answer.

After receiving that email, I have been very very sad, and very upset and very angry. It has brought back all the memories and feelings I have had to go through over the years since your Mom and my divorce. I'm trying to deal with them, but it is difficult.

There has never been anything more important in my life than my sons - and you were my first son. It absolutely devastated me how everything turned out and how you were taken from my life. You can't even imagine. I know your first line in your email said it is difficult being a teenager of divorced parents - and I know that must be very true. I never wanted you to have to go through that. You can't even imagine what I have had to go through.

I don't know why your Mom decided she had to tell you about this "lost opportunity". When she called me she told me she hadn't told you about it - and wasn't going to - for me to think about my answer. After I answered, she obviously told you. I'm not sure her purpose for telling you after she knew the answer was no. All that could happen then, was bad feelings and using you to try to get me to change my mind.

I would not give any of my sons up for adoption for anything in the world. If someone offered me a million dollars I wouldn't do it. That's just how I feel about it. I'm very, very sorry this hurts you, but it is something I cannot and never would do.

I will respond further and answer the questions you had in your email as soon as I possibly can.

Love, Your Dad

From: G PRATT [mailto:GEPRATT©MSN.COM ] Sent: Tuesday, November 09, 2004 6:53 PM To: Paske Bob Subject: Re: Message for JOEY

Bob,

It isn't fun to be a teenager of divorced parents who live far apart, especially when both parents blame the other. For that reason I am glad that Greg is in my life. He tries to balance out the conflict with out taking sides. I don't think that you owe me an explanation regarding the $18000, but I would think to myself sense $18000 is a lot of money that you would want to tell me why you don't want to let me have that much money; that is a lot of money that could be put

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to good use for me. And yes I believe that I can be able to go to a good college, however my deal with my mom is that I will pay for half of the college costs. I have had a job at Hogi Yogi for a while and I am earning money for myself to help pay for college and may be even a mission. missions cost about $400 a month for 24 months, don't you think that the $18000 would lighten my load just a little bit? I don't know how much mom and Greg make or what equity they have in there house. I don't think they should go deeper in debt just to help me out. they would have to go deeper into debt to help me out and all you would have to do is let me be adopted. What one is easier? Probably the second alternative huh? I know that Greg paid child support for Kelsea for 13 years and he still helps her fund her college education. I asked my mom if you pay child support and she said no. I asked why not and she suggested that I should ask you. So here is the question- "Why don't you pay child support?" It seems to me that everything I have comes from my Mom and Greg. Because I have had good grades and have been good I was given a car for my 16th birthday. I have insurance, gas, and everything I need for my car. you have never offered any assistance. There are a lot of unanswered questions I have for my mom and you that may be one day will be answered honestly. I mean, Bob, common am I just suppose to believe your side? J think not. I am just glad that Greg has come into my and my mom's life because he has made things a lot easier for us. I think that ydu are being unfair to Greg when you say that he only wants to adopt me so he can save $18000. He is not saving $18000, I am. I am sorry that you don't see it that way and I think that you are being way selfish and I think that you know that you are too. No matter what, I will be Ok financially. I hope that you can see it in a way that I am benefiting from this.

Joey

Original Message ----- From: Paske Bob To: gprattmsn.com Sent: Wednesday, November 03, 2004 8:39 PM Subject: Message for JOEY

Hi Joey,

Your Mom informed me that you think I owe you an explanation. I do not know if it is true since I have not heard that from you, but I will assume it is.

I guess I need to give you an explanation of why I will not allow Greg to adopt you so they can save $18,000.

I word it that way on purpose, because that is exactly what I believe. I believe you will be able to go to any college you want, and that they have enough money to pay for it. They just want to be able to save $18,000 off the price of college. What is the total cost of college? Do you really believe that $18,000 is really going to make a difference as to whether or not you can go to a certain college? Of course it won't.

But a more important reason why I have chosen as I have is that any Father worth his salt would not give his children up for adoption for any reason - especially for money. Children are worth more than all the money in the world. You probably already understand that because you are a smart teenager, but you will understand that much more deeply some day when you have children of your own. A child should never have to think that his Father or Mother was willing to give him up for any reason - especially a reason as lame as saving a few bucks.

I want you to know I love you, and would never give you up for adoption for any reason. Every child should know that about his/her parents. I know you don't feel the same way about me. And I

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don't expect you to. You weren't raised that way

You have seen me interact with Mark and David on many, many occasions. You know how I treat them, and you know what they are like because of howl treat them. I will always treat you the same way - you just aren't here often to experience it. They are very responsible, intelligent kids who think on their own. That is because I have always treated them with respect, given them all the information I could, and have always tried to make them take responsibility for themselves. I try to do that with you, but again, you aren't around very often. They - and you - are the most important things in my life. Life is fill of tough choices, but I always do try to do what is best for them - and I do that with you too.

They know, and you should too, that they can ask me anything, anytime. I love to talk about anything and everything with my boys. I always give them as much and the best information I can. And I encourage them to make their own opinions and decisions.

Sometimes they ask me for things, and sometimes I say no - they might not like the answer all the time, but I am always doing what I think is best for them. I am not perfect, and every decision I make may not be popular or even correct, but I do make my choices based on what I think is the best thing for everyone involved.

I strongly encourage Mark and David - at every opportunity - and you too - to use their own brains - to talk to many people, to find out all the sides of a story - to make up their own minds about everything, not just follow or believe what I say, or what others say. I encourage them to make their own choices in life, in beliefs, in everything - not follow what I believe. I also teach them to respect other people's choices and decisions.

Like I said, I am always ready for discussing anything. There are many things I have never told you that I would love to tell you, but you have never asked. Things I wouldn't want to tell you unless you wanted to know.

Believe me, there are plenty of other ways to come up with $18,000. How much equity does Greg and your Mom have in their house? Have you ever heard of a home equity loan? Could Greg work apart time job between now and when you start college to save up $1 8,000? There is no reason why they cannot afford to pay for your college. Again, they just see a way of making $18,000 and trying to capitalize. Parents are not for sale. I don't think your Mom would let someone else adopt you for $ 18,000. No good parent would.

Always ask questions. Always find out the truth. You deserve to do that for yourself.

Bob

PS ......m sure you will discuss this with your Mom and Greg - and you should.

However, I'm sure they will discount my reasons and try to convince you I am declining her request to spite her, to be a bully, and many other negative things. That just isn't true - and I will never be able to convince them of that. I know that because I've lived it for the past 12 years. I truly - to my core - just do not feel that being a parent is for sale.

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Paske Bob

From: Paske Bob Sent: Friday, November 12, 2004 7:36 AM To: ([email protected] ) Subject: Joey and my relationship

Liz, I had written the below email the day you let me know you told Joey about his "lost

opportunity". I had chosen not to send it because it would not help, and it brings up a difficult and sore

subject for you. you would not but I am so angry at you right now that I am going to send it

anyway.

Hi Liz,

Please forgive me for saying so, but your email has once again confirmed my belief that the

psychological counseling you received to get you over your mental illnesses in the past was just

not enough. I firmly believe you are in need of more.

You went ahead and told Joey of the so-called "opportunity" and my answer after you had made

it very clear to me you were not going to tell him about this. Once I said no, the only thing that

could possibly happen was that it would hurt Joey and my relationship further - and I am sure it

probably has. The considerate person would have not told Joey unless the answer was yes -

what was the purpose of telling him about a supposed "lost opportunity"? After you found out

from me the answer was no, there was nothing that was going to help Joey by telling him of this

"lost opportunity". But still, you decided to tell Joey. You seem to be willing to USE JOEY to

get WHAT YOU WANT. That is a sign of a very sick woman - not of a person who is trying to

do what is best for her son. That is sick, sick, sick, And just to save a few bucks.........sick......

First you try to bribe me into doing what YOU want by offering to pay for my trip to Joey's

graduation .... sick.... Neither you nor I know that Joey will even want me to be at his graduation,

but now that you have chosen to hurt our relationship even further I'm guessing he will not.

This reminds me a lot of the last time you were asking me to allow Greg to adopt Joey. I would

have thought you would have been a little more sensitive to Joey's feelings considering what he

went through during that fiasco - which lasted a couple of years, and has probably damaged

Joey for life - even though he doesn't even realize it right now.

You always tell me to - for once in my life - do what is in Joey's best interest. Has it ever

occurred to you that that is exactly what I have always done my whole life, and that we may

just differ in opinion of what is in Joey's best interest? It has occurred to me. And in the

past I have always tried to give you the benefit of the doubt as to that was what you are trying

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to do, but I just can't do it any more. This is just one more example in a long, long string of

examples where you are witting to hurt Joey in hopes of getting your way. It shows your true

colors.

People see right through you. I don't believe for 1 second that this $18,000 would help JOEY

in any way, shape, or form. I believe it would help YOU. You have always been self centered,

selfish and all about money. Look in the mirror, you will see it too - you know it - if you can

possibly be honest with yourself.

I do dislike you for all the things you have done in the past - to myself and to Joey - how could

I not? However, mostly I feel sorry for you, and I am saddened that Joey has a mother like

this.

Again, I apologize for what I say, but it is as I see it. Now, at the time, I had no idea about

your "deal" with Joey about college, but I don't think that really changes my opinion about if it

would help you or Joey. I am going to pay for all the college for Mark and David. I think you

can pay for Joey. I do not feel an obligation since you took him away from me. I do pay for all

his expenses when he is with me. You should do the same.

All that aside, I think you owe me answers to these questions.

You stated you thought this out thouroughly before even asking me about this.

You also said you hadn't told Joey about this.

1. WHY did you tell Joey about his "lost opportunity"?

2. How did you think it would affect him when you told him?

3. Would you be willing to let someone else adopt Joey from you?

4, bid you even consider what Joey and I had already been through once about this adoption

issue?

5. Do you even remember what happened last time you guys asked me to let Greg adopt Joey?

I'm sure the answers to these questions will be enlightening. Please respond, I deserve at least

that.

I sent this specifically to your work email so Joey would not accidentally see some of what is

written. I have never told him about your past mental history, and I do not know if you have.

Perhaps it makes you happy to make me sad, angry, and upset. Perhaps it makes you happy to

hurt my relationship with my son, I really don't know.

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From: Paske Bob

Sent: Sunday, November 14, 2004 2:03 AM

To: [email protected] Subject: For JOEY

Hi Joey,

Before I read it in your email, I never knew you were going to pay for half your college. So, now I fmally understand where you feel you are losing out on $18,000. I am very sorry you have to feel that way. However, you haven't earned that money. It is just easy money, given to you, for no real reason. If you used that money for college, you wouldp't be paying for half. You would be being subsidized by Uncle Sam - a loophole in the law - nothing you earned yourself. Is that what you have been taught - to take the easy way, even though it hurts others? And that's what it would do, and has already done, hurt me. I have been very, very upset and hurt over this whole situation.. Perhaps we all have. This subject should have never even come up. Or at the very least it should have been handled differently.

Here are a few other things to think about. I know it must be very difficult being a teenager of divorced parents, especially when they live far apart, and they don't seem to agree on anything. However, I also know I can't possibly understand it to the depth that you do, since I never had to go through it myself since my parents - your grandparents - are still together.

But I always wanted to and tried to take that into top consideration while I went through the divorce with your Mom and at all times since. However, since your Mom and I could never agreed on anything - and still can't - it seems you were always the one hurt the most. As a matter of fact, during the divorce, I said I thought the house should go to Joey, and we could take turns living in the house - half a year each, or every other month— something fair - 50-50. Something where I could see you half the time - and be a real parent to you. However, she would have nothing to do with that. As a matter of fact, quite a few years ago now, that house sold for over $80,000 more than what we paid for it - all money that would have been yours. Last time I checked, $80,000 is about $62,000 more than $18,000. Another lost opportunity. I mention this to put $18,000 into perspective and to let you know about "lost opportunities". It sounds like a lot of money - especially to a teenager - but $80,000 is even more. Also, you will probably have many more "lost opportunities" for even more money during your lifetime.

I have always felt and will always feel an obligation to ensure you are taken care of and receive the college education you deserve and desire. However, I do not feel an obligation to fund your mission. I am not at all against you being Mormon. However, I am totally for you opening your eyes about religions, choosing on your own, not just following what others do, say, and believe. If you do that, and still want to belong to the Mormon faith, I am totally behind you. I don't think you have done that, and I don't think a person could possibly do that at your age yet. That is why I do not feel an obligation to tI.znd your mission. However, as you know, when you visit here, I am more than willing to support you by driving you to your church and waiting for you in the parking lot, or if you like, I would even come in, but I know you don't want me to.

I have always known your Mom has been able to afford to give you all you needed. If she could not, then I would have. If there was ever one second I didn't think your Mom could afford those things for you, I would have paid for them. And that goes for the future too. God forbid, if anything happened to your Mom and she wasn't able to take care of you, be assured I absolutely would. You will go to the

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college you want.

You say it would be easier with the $18,000. If easy is what you want, then your Mom should give you a different deal - she should pay for it all. Or, perhaps she should give you the same deal I am giving Mark and David - to pay for ALL their college - except for that portion they WANT and CAN pay for using theft best effort.

To answer the questions in your email: "Why don't you pay child support?" I don't pay child support because that was the agreement your Mom and I came to. It was an agreement she proposed to me. I remember it was not an easy decision for me, but I finally agreed to it. Later, she tried to go back on her portion of the agreement and asked the court for me to pay child support, but the court said I should not. I could look up more details in all my paperwork, but basically the reason is because that is what your Mom and I agreed to and the court upheld it at a later date when she tried to go back on her agreement.

Don't think for a moment that your Mom and Greg are "in debt". I have to believe they have hundreds of thousands of dollars in their home. I'm sure they have possessions worth thousands and thousands of dollars. Yes, they may have a mortgage, car payments, that reduce those assets, but their NET WORTH makes $18,000 seem like NOTHING. Why don't you ask them? Seriously, why don't you ask them?

If you ask Mark and David what is the most important thing in life, they will both say "To be a good person". And if you ask them what else is important, they will say family, friends, and to never lie. They will tell you money is important, but not as important as those other things.

Giving a person up for adoption is giving away your family. To me it is not an option. You ask "What one is easier?". You may not agree with it, but I think giving a child up for adoption is impossible, getting a loan is easy. If I gave you up for adoption, I would hate myself for the rest of my life. I know it is difficult, because you aren't living it - but if you tried to put yourself in that position - would you give your child up for adoption for money? I would hope your answer would be no. I know what Mark and David would say - family is more important than money.

I hope you have been raised better than to think that the easy way is always the best way and that money is more important than the above mentioned things. I am concerned you may not have been raised that way because I do know how important money is to your Mom.

You also ask "Am I supposed to believe your side?". Yes, you should believe my "side". Why? Because I do not lie - I tell the truth. I've never told you a lie and I never will. You should also believe your Mom's "side" - if she has proven herself to be trustworthy - and I assume and hope to you, she has. I don't really look at things as "sides". I look at things as facts - what really happened, what really didn't happen. Take away all the rhetoric, and look at the facts. The truth speaks for itself The facts are the facts. The truth is the truth.

You say it seems tome everything I have comes from my Mom and Greg. I totally agree with you. Almost all of it does. You may have a coin I gave you, or a putter, or some other small items - not much. I do feel bad about that. If you lived here with us, where do you think it would come from - it would come from me. But you don't - not by my choice. Where does everything Mark and David have come from? From me - they live with me. Again, if your Mom and Greg couldn't afford it, then it would come from me. But they can, and that is why it comes from them. For me to pay the expenses for a child/teenager who I see two times a year doesn't seem reasonable to me. It seems more reasonable to pay for everything when that child is with me. I don't ask your Mom or Greg to pay for your expenses while you are with me. That also would not be reasonable because I can afford it.

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Think about it. Again, most importantly, if they could not afford things for you, then I would pay for them, but since they can, I do not feel obligated - that is what your Mom and I agreed upon.

When you come here, who pays for the plane tickets? Who pays for the activities? I pay for everything every day you are here, your Mom pays for everything every day you are there - that was your Mom's choice, not mine. If it were up to me, it would have been 50-50. And just so you know, I have paid in the past, in many ways you do not even know about.

Open your eyes.. ..use your brains.... Whose house is nicer? Whose house is bigger? Whose house is furnished better? Who has nicer cars? If they couldn't afford things for you, I would buy them - I am your safety net - but I know they can afford it so I feel they should.

How much has your Mom just given to the church in the past 16 years? Another "lost opportunity"? Could have gone to you.

Just so you know, I paid for all of my college education. So did my brother and my sister. I am glad I did. I get satisfaction knowing I did so. I worked ever since I was 13 on a paper route, then at restaurants, then during college and during summer breaks from college. I also earned academic scholarships by working hard in school and getting good grades. However, I think it is probably much more difficult to do that nowadays. But just to let you know, I do think there is some satisfaction in paying for at least part of college yourself.

I think I may know where your Mom is coming from making that deal of 50-50 with you for paying for college. I'm not positive, but if I remember right, I think her parents paid for all her college, and she said she never fully appreciated it because she did not pay for any part of it. However, I've known plenty of people who have had their parents pay for it all and they did appreciate it. I think Mark and David would be that way. I think you would too. Just because your Mom didn't appreciate it, doesn't mean you wouldn't. People think and act differently.

As far as me making the decision to not give you up for adoption, I have told you my reasons. You may not agree with them, but you certainly should respect them.

You said it yourself in your email. "No matter what, I will be OK financially" and "Yes, I believe I can be able to go to a good college". Bottom line - that's what really matters.

Now it is up to you to decide how to react to all this. You can be upset, angry, and mad at me forever, or you can try to understand. You can accept it, or fight it. It is up to you. You are the master of your own attitudes.

Take care.

-Bob

PS. Since Christmas is coming up, please let me know what you want to do as far as visiting goes. Thanks.

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To: Paske Bob

Subject: Re: For JOEY

Bob,

I do not agree with your decision but as you said, I will respect them and not bring this up again. After receiving your email, I had a long talk with mom and greg about what was said. You are right, greg and mom have very nice things and they take very good care of me. It helps that greg is I think 20 years older than mom and has had a very successful career even tho he is now retired. He has a masters degree and mom is well on her way to getting her masters degree. They explained to me how important it is to get a higher degree if you want to increase your salary and have nicer things.

I am not asking you or mom to fund my mission. I want to do that on my own. I know you don't believe in my religion but I do and I wish you would stop saying that I am just following others. That bothers me a lot. I pay tithing on what I earn working and mom and greg also pay tithing. Tithing is important in my religion and is not a "lost opportunity" as you think it is.

Greg explained to me how social security works and that the 18000 is not free money. Greg worked over 40 years to get this benefit and my not taking it is just throwing the benefit away. a lost opportunity as you call it.

You told me to ask mom about certain things so I asked her about why you don't pay child support. Mom said she gave up support to reduce the number of visits that the court required I go to Florida. She said you readily agreed to the proposal. Mom paid for my trips to florida for many visits. She also paid for you and Jen to visit me in California. Plus she gave up back support that you owed. Adding everything up thru my 18th birthday, I think mom will give up well over $100,000 dollars that could have gone to or for me. As you said, a "lost opportunity" that is in addition to the 18,000 that I am giving up now. That is a lot of money to give up. Mom told me she went back to court when her laywer told her she gave up my support ilegally,

I'm sorry if I have hurt your feelings or made you mad. I did not mean to do that. More important, I'm sorry you and mom don't see eye to eye about what is best for me. Like I said earlier, I'm glad greg is in my life at this time.

Original Message From: Paske Bob To: geprattmsn.com Sent: Sunday, November 14, 2004 12:02 AM Subject: For JOEY

Hi Joey,

Before I read it in your email, I never knew you were going to pay for half your college. So, now I finally understand where you feel you are losing out on $18,000. I am very sorry you have to feel that way. However, you haven't earned that money. It is just easy money, given to you, for no real reason. If you used that money for college, you wouldn't be paying for half. You would be being subsidized by Uncle Sam - a loophole in the law - nothing you earned yourself. Is that what you

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have been taught - to take the easy way, even though it hurts others? And that's what it would do, and has already done, hurt me. I have been very, very upset and hurt over this whole situation. Perhaps we all have. This subject should have never even come up. Or at the very least it should have been handled differently.

Here are a few other things to think about. I know it must be very difficult being a teenager of divorced parents, especially when they live far apart, and they don't seem to agree on anything. However, I also know I can't possibly understand it to the depth that you do, since I never had to go through it myself since my parents - your grandparents - are still together.

But I always wanted to and tried to take that into top consideration while I went through the divorce with your Mom and at all times since. However, since your Mom and I could never agreed on anything - and still can't - it seems you were always the one hurt the most. As a matter of fact, during the divorce, I said I thought the house should go to Joey, and we could take turns living in the house - half a year each, or every other month - something fair - 50-50. Something where I could see you half the time - and be a real parent to you. However, she would have nothing to do with that. As a matter of fact, quite a few years ago now, that house sold for over $80,000 more than what we paid for it - all money that would have been yours. Last time I checked, $80,000 is about $62,000 more than $18,000. Another lost opportunity. I mention this to put $18,000 into perspective and to let you know about "lost opportunities". It sounds like a lot of money - especially to a teenager - but $80,000 is even more. Also, you will probably have many more "lost opportunities" for even more money during your lifetime.

I have always felt and will always feel an obligation to ensure you are taken care of and receive the college education you deserve and desire. However, I do not feel an obligation to fund your mission. I am not at all against you being Mormon. However, I am totally for you opening your eyes about religions, choosing on your own, not just following what others do, say, and believe. If you do that, and still want to belong to the Mormon faith, I am totally behind you. I don't think you have done that, and I don't think a person could possibly do that at your age yet. That is why I do not feel an obligation to fund your mission. However, as you know, when you visit here, I am more than willing to support you by driving you to your church and waiting for you in the parking lot, or if you like, I would even come in, but I know you don't want me to.

I have always known your Mom has been able to afford to give you all you needed. If she could not, then I would have. If there was ever one second I didn't think your Mom could afford those things for you, I would have paid for them. And that goes for the future too. God forbid, if anything happened to your Mom and she wasn't able to take care of you, be assured I absolutely would. You will go to the college you want.

You say it would be easier with the $18,000. If easy is what you want, then your Mom should give you a different deal she should pay for it all. Or, perhaps she should give you the same deal I am giving Mark and David - to pay for ALL theft college - except for that portion they WANT and CAN pay for using their best effort.

To answer the questions in your email: "Why don't you pay child support?" I don't pay child support because that was the agreement your Mom and I came to. It was an agreement she proposed to me. I remember it was not an easy decision for me, but I finally agreed to it. Later, she tried to go back on her portion of the agreement and asked the court for me to pay child support, but the court said I should not. I could look up more details in all my paperwork, but basically the reason is because that is what your Mom and I agreed

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to and the court upheld it at a later date when she tried to go back on her agreement.

Don't think for a moment that your Mom and Greg are "in debt". I have to believe they have hundreds of thousands of dollars in their home. I'm sure they have possessions worth thousands and thousands of dollars. Yes, they may have a mortgage, car payments, that reduce those assets, but their NET WORTH makes $18,000 seem like NOTHING. Why don't you ask them? Seriously, why don't you ask them?

If you ask Mark and David what is the most important thing in life, they will both say "To be a good person". And if you ask them what else is important, they will say family, friends, and to never lie. They will tell you money is important, but not as important as those other things.

Giving a person up for adoption is giving away your family. To me it is not an option. You ask "What one is easier?". You may not agree with it, but I think giving a child up for adoption is impossible, getting a loan is easy. If I gave you up for adoption, I would hate myself for the rest of my life. I know it is difficult, because you aren't living it - but if you tried to put yourself in that position - would you give your child up for adoption for money? I would hope your answer would be no. I know what Mark and David would say - family is more important than money.

I hope you have been raised better than to think that the easy way is always the best way and that money is more important than the above mentioned things. I am concerned you may not have been raised that way because I do know how important money is to your Mom.

You also ask "Am I supposed to believe your side?". Yes, you should believe my "side". Why? Because I do not lie - I tell the truth. I've never told you a lie and I never will. You should also believe your Mom's "side" - if she has proven herself to be trustworthy — and I assume and hope to you, she has. I don't really look at things as "sides". I look at things as facts - what really happened, what really didn't happen. Take away all the rhetoric, and look at the facts. The truth speaks for itself The facts are the facts. The truth is the truth.

You say it seems to me everything I have comes from my Mom and Greg. I totally agree with you. Almost all of it does. You may have a coin I gave you, or a putter, or some other small items - not much. I do feel bad about that. If you lived here with us, where do you think it would come from - it would come from me. But you don't - not by my choice. Where does everything Mark and David have come from? From me - they live with me. Again, if your Mom and Greg couldn't afford it, then it would come from me. But they can, and that is why it comes from them. For me to pay the expenses for a child/teenager who I see two times a year doesn't seem reasonable to me. It seems more reasonable to pay for everything when that child is with me. I don't ask your Mom or Greg to pay for your expenses while you are with me. That also would not be reasonable - because I can afford it. Think about it. Again, most importantly, if they could not afford things for you, then I would pay for them, but since they can, I do not feel obligated - that is what your Mom and I agreed upon.

When you come here, who pays for the plane tickets? Who pays for the activities? I pay for everything every day you are here, your Mom pays for everything every day you are there - that was your Mom's choice, not mine. If it were up to me, it would have been 50-50. And just so you know, I have paid in the past, in many ways you do not even know about.

Open your eyes.. ..use your brains.... Whose house is nicer?

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Whose house is bigger? Whose house is furnished better? Who has nicer cars? If they couldn't afford things for you, I would buy them - I am your safety net - but I know they can afford it - so I feel they should.

How much has your Mom just given to the church in the past 16 years? Another "lost opportunity"? Could have gone to you.

Just so you know, I paid for all of my college education. So did my brother and my sister. I am glad I did. I get satisfaction knowing I did so. I worked ever since I was 13 on a paper route, then at restaurants, then during college and during summer breaks from college. I also earned academic scholarships by working hard in school and getting good grades. However, I think it is probably much more difficult to do that nowadays. But just to let you know, I do think there is some satisfaction in paying for at least part of college yourself

I think I may know where your Mom is coming from making that deal of 50-50 with you for paying for college. I'm not positive, but if I remember right, I think her parents paid for all her college, and she said she never fully appreciated it because she did not pay for any part of it. However, I've known plenty of people who have had their parents pay for it all and they did appreciate it. I think Mark and David would be that way. I think you would too. Just because your Mom didn't appreciate it, doesn't mean you wouldn't. People think and act differently.

As far as me making the decision to not give you up for adoption,! have told you my reasons. You may not agree with them, but you certainly should respect them.

You said it yourself in your email. "No matter what, I will be OK financially" and "Yes,! believe! can be able to go to a good college". Bottom line - that's what really matters.

Now it is up to you to decide how to react to all this. You can be upset, angry, and mad at me forever, or you can try to understand. You can accept it, or fight it. It is up to you. You are the master of your own attitudes.

Take care.

-Bob

PS. Since Christmas is coming up, please let me know what you want to do as far as visiting goes. Thanks.

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Paske Bob

From: Paske Bob

Sent: Friday, November 19, 2004 12:29 AM

To: [email protected]

Subject: To JOEY

Hi Joey, Thank you for apologizing for hurting my feelings. I don't know that you really hurt my feelings, but your Mom did by bringing this whole situation up and handling it the way she did. After she told you I said No, you were understandably upset with me, probably still are, and will probably be for a long time, if not forever. You looked at it as lost money. Well, I just received an email from your Mom saying she is going to fund 100% of your college, so at least that is something good that has come out of this.

What hurt my feelings - the one thing that is very hurtful to me - is anything that hurts our relationship - it has already been hurt enough by all the things that have happened over the years. We went through this a few years ago for over a year when you wouldn't even talk tome on the phone - you would hang up - because I would not allow you to be adopted then - so you could be sealed in the church. I have always valued my relationship with you and Mark and David, as the most important thing in my life. When something happens to hurt that, I am hurt badly. But again, I don't think you did that, I feel your Mom did.

I also appreciate you respecting my decision. It was not made to hurt you, and if it did/does, I apologize. However, it is a decision I feel is the only one I can make. I have talked to seven other people and they ALL said they would not ever give their child up for adoption for any reason - especially for money. Some of them also indicated, without me even asking, "who in the world would even ask another person to do this?" You may not understand it now, but when you are a parent, and have a child, you will.

I will stop saying you are following others when choosing your religion. I did not know you had looked into others. I apologize. I did not know I ever said it before, but to tell you the truth, that is how I saw it, since you once were Catholic when your Mom was, then changed over to Mormon when she became that. But now that you tell me different, I will not say it again. I'm sorry. I do think there are a lot of good things that religions teach people. And I do support you going as you know. You're right I don't believe in the Mormon religion, but there are many other religions I also do not believe in. However, that is not to say I don't believe in God, or some other higher power.

Your Mom said "I readily agreed to the proposal". That just is not true. I think I should know, I was the one who had to go through it and decide. Actually, there was a lot more to that situation than just that - someday we can talk about that if you like. Interesting how it could be so illegal when the court again said it was OK (for the second time). Your Mom does not take responsibility for taking me back to court, but instead says it was her lawyer. A person needs to take responsibility for their own actions. She made the choice to try to go back on her word and her deal with me and take me back to court. It may have been her lawyer's suggestion, but it was her decision. I don't know how much more clearly I can make that fact.

Just to let you know, I also, am glad that Greg is in your life. I think every person should have a male role model living with them as they grow up. Of course, I wish that would have been me, but it did not turn out that way.

Again, I am very sorry for the pain and hurt you have gone through during this situation. I know it is very difficult to be a child whose parents went through a divorce and don't seem to agree on anything. Just understand, your Mom has her point of view, and I have my point of view. But facts are facts and the truth is the truth. Also, you have three people who love you very much and wish for nothing but the best for you - Your Mom, Greg, and I. Unfortunately for you, we just can't agree.

- Bob

PS. Again, let me know if you plan on coming to Florida at all for Christmas break. If so, I will need to buy your plane tickets.

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Sent: Thursday, February 02, 2006 10:35 PM

To: Paske Bob

Subject: Re: To Joey!!:)

Bob, I hope everything is well with you and your family this New Year. A lot has happened since you and I have last talked. Thought you would be interested in knowing the following: SCHOOL-My GPA this year is 3.9 with two more terms left. I am already into my third term HOCKEY-I played my last regular season high school hockey game on Monday. We're in third place and stand a good chance for state if we play our game. We start the playoffs next week some time. I have really enjoyed being a captain this year. My AAA team has been great! We have already been to Vancouver, BC and Long Beach. We are playing the Regulators (Montana) and Long Beach this weekend in Utah. We are going to be traveling to Canada again and have regionals in Arizona. Were looking to travel to New York, Philadelphia and Denver. COLLEGE-I only applied to one college for the fall. I really want to play hockey out east but still need a year or two to grow and gain more speed. Speed is the name of the game. I applied and was recently accepted to BYU! I am really excited because BYU is very difficult to get accepted into. BYU looks at ACT/SAT, grades, extra activities, awards, church callings, Eagle Scout---basically EVERYTHING! I have the whole package and am very excited. There will be 40,000 kids applying as freshman and probably only 5,000-7,000 kids getting in. I will begin college in the fall and live in the dorms on campus. SCHOLARSHIPS-1 was nominated by my hockey.. coaches for the "Tim Hixon Memorial Award. One forward or goalie and one defensiveman are chosen out of the entire state of Utah for the award. I submitted my scholarship packet back in December and was one of two finalist. I was called to interview in front of a panel of four people two Saturdays ago. I received a phone call on Monday telling me I received the scholarship!!! I will get a commemorative plaque, monetary scholarship, presentation on Ice at the Grizzly game on February 11th, and get my name placed on a trophy that is displayed in my High School trophy case. GRADUATION-I will be graduating from Orem High School on Friday June 2, 2006. I want you to know that you and your family are invited to come if you wish. You are welcome here and if I can help you with arrangement please let me know. Our graduation will be held at Utah Valley State College just down the road from us.

I'll send you a copy of my grades, awards, letters and picture soon.

Original Message From: Paske Bob To: G PRATT Sent: Friday, December 02, 2005 12:58 PM Subject: RE: To Joey!! :)

Hey Joey, The new quarters came in a couple days ago. I sent them out to you yesterday, so they should be arriving soon. Tonight we go pick up the newest addition to our family - PENNY - a female Beagle - 12 weeks old... I'll attach a picture...

Glad everything is going so well for you....

Doesn't sound like you have any time to visit during Christmas break.....maybe some other time.. ..just let me know.... If you like, I can come out there and visit sometime too....

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Take care.

- Bob

Bob Paske Applications Administrator Pinellas County Schools

From: G PRATT [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: Sunday, November 13, 2005 7:35 PM To: Paske Bob Subject: Re: To Joey!! :)

Bob, I was waiting to contact you about the Christmas holiday because my PF Flyer Team was coming down to Florida. Once our team got all the details I was going to let you know. We were going to play In the Sherwood Invitational in Estero, Florida on December 28-Jan 2. (Naples area I think). Anyways, just this past week our team manager told us plans have changed. Apparently the area where we were going was hit hard by the hurricane. Some college playoff tournament was cancelled also. So here is my schedule for the holidays.

Thanksgiving we're traveling to California for a large tournament. (Long Beach area) I don't have all the details yet about Christmas, but we are now traveling to Vancouver BC, Canada from Dec 26-]an2. School starts back tip on Jan 3. We are off from school beginning Dec 21. Since our holiday tournament plans have changed, so will our practices. Our current schedule shows us practicing on Dec 20, I have a high school game on Wednesday Dec 21st, AAA practice/scrimmage probably on Thursday & Friday. The bus trip up to Vancouver is about a 15 hour drive. Don't know what day or time we're leaving.

School is going good and so is my KS hockey team. I am an Assistant Captain on the team and we have not lost a game. We play our big rival this Wednesday.

We're filling out college applications, scholarship applications and trying to get things organized for next year. Most all of the deadlines are Jan, Feb, & March 06. I have been nominated by my hockey coaches for the Tom Hixon Award-Scholarship. That paperwork is due in by December 13th. I am also going to take the ACT one more time. I need to beat my score of 25. I want to get a 27. I take that on Dec 10th.

I was also wondering if the new quarters would come?

Thanks

Joey

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Hi Joey,

Just wondering if you had thought about visiting around Christmas this year? We would all like to see you, and Mark would like someone to ride on the crazy new ride(s) at Busch Gardens with!!!

Please let me know as soon as you know so I can look for plane tickets!!

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Bob, I was waiting to contact you about the Christmas holiday because my PF Flyer Team was coming down to Florida. Once our team got all the details I was going to let you know. We were going to play in the Sherwood Invitational in Estero, Florida on December 28-Jan 2. (Naples area I think). Anyways, just this past week our team manager told us plans have changed. Apparently the area where we were going was hit hard by the hurricane. Some college playoff tournament was cancelled also. So here is my schedule for the holidays.

Thanksgiving we're traveling to California for a large tournament. (Long Beach area) I don't have all the details yet about Christmas, but we are now traveling to Vancouver BC, Canada from Dec 26-Jan2. School starts back up on Jan 3. We are off from school beginning Dec 21. Since our holiday tournament plans have changed, so will our practices. Our current schedule shows us practicing on Dec 20, I have a high school game on Wednesday Dec 21st, AAA practice/scrimmage probably on Thursday & Friday. The bus trip iJp.toiLancoLJletis about 15 hour drive Don'

School is going good and so is my HS hockey team. I am an Assistant Captain on the team and we have not lost a game. We play our big rival this Wednesday.

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We're filling out college applications, scholarship applications and trying to get things organized for next year. Most all of the deadlines are Jan, Feb, & March 06. I have been nominated by my hockey coaches for the Tom Hixon Award-Scholarship. That paperwork is due in by December 13th. I am also going to take the ACT one more time. I need to beat my score of 25. I want to get a 27. I take that on Dec 10th.

I was also wondering if the new quarters would come?

Thanks

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Original Message From: Paske Bob To: 4çy Sent: Friday, November 11,200511:10 PM Subject: To Joey!! :) Hi Joey,

Just wondering if you had thought about visiting around Christmas this year? We would all like to see you, and Mark would like someone to ride on the crazy new ride(s) at Busch Gardens with! Please let me know as soon as you know so I can look for plane ticketsl!

12/2/2005

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I would just like to communicate to you that I am responding to your email not because you think I owe you, but merely out of respect for myself. I also need to clarify a few things before I proceed to answer you questions.

To seek counseling for something does not define an individual as mentally ill. If you are referring to my experience with Bulimia/Anorexia portion of my life then boy----that was how many years ago????25 years ago! I was unaware you went back to school to obtain your PhD in Psychology. To my knowledge bulimia/anorexia are disorders tied directly to an individual's self esteem and self-worth. Obsessive-compulsive is behavior that is a disorder as well. I suppose you consider 'nail biting" a mental illness too. The only week perspective in regards to counseling is the individual that never goes. Secondly, I was not trying to "bribe you" by offering to pay for you to see Joey graduate. That was meant as a kind gesture on my part. Thirdly, you have never given me the benefit of the doubt and never will. Your obligation is noted, but the courts took Joey away from you. Joey has been, and will continue to be, well provided for by Greg and I. I just thought it would be a great opportunity for you to do something unselfish for Joey.

You obviously do not know They very well. I consider Joey's and my relationship to be very special and unique. Joey knows that I love him, will always provide for him, have open honest dialogue, treat him like an adult, and will be available for him at all times. It will give me great pleasure to foot the complete bill for Joey's college education. Joey will be a very successful young man in what ever he decides to do. Joey, Greg, and I also pays tithing as commanded in many scriptures in the Bible. But you would not know that since you have no spiritual guidance. I believe Greg and I are in the positions we are in because we do pay tithing.

Please do not feel sorry for me. I am doing quite well actually. I have a successful career because Greg encouraged me to return to school and complete my undergraduate studies. Currently I am 65% finished with my Master's of Public Administration degree at BYU with a GPA in excess of 3.8! 1 have a wonderful husband that not only supports my ambitions, but encourages me 100% to excel. And finally I have a loving son that is an excellent student, athlete, has great friends, and simply is a wonderful human being.

The following are answers to you questions

Joey had no knowledge of his benefit prior to your answer. I never told you that I would not communicate this information to Joey. I told you that Joey was unaware of the opportunity. You heard what you wanted to hear. This is not "free money". Greg worked and paid into social security for 40 plus years. We told Joey because I did not want Joey to find out later of his opportunity and wonder why we had not pursued it. Joey is an adult and we treat him as an adult. I thought Joey would be disappointed, but in the next breath thought that you and he have come to certain decisions without my involvement. If this was important enough to Joey, then I

expected that he would talk to you about the situation. Bottom line is I felt that Joey had a right to know about this benefit.

3. What a dumb question. Greg has been in Joey's life since Joey was five years old. Greg has been the father in our two parent household for ten years. A father is not a sperm donor, but is there for a child emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

4. I had forgotten about the adoption issue previously. From what I recall, you sent a letter home with Joey during a Christmas break almost three years ago allowing Joey to be sealed to Greg and I in the Temple.

Liz

Liz, Are you serious?????

I never made such an agreement. In fact, what we agreed to was that he would visit the whole spring break here every year since it was such a short spring break (three school days if there was no snow day, two if there was a snow day plus Saturday and Sunday making it four or five days total). It was even discussed in our last court hearing - but you wern't there. And your statement of Florida one year, Utah another

year makes no sense to me at all.

Since you have already made plans with Joey, I am once again put in another bad position. I ruin his snowboarding trip if I insist on his Spring Break visit.

So, I will tell you what I am willing to do. I am willing to forego my visit with Joey this Spring Break. However, I will need something in

writing stating you will give me 5 days (3 really because of travel days) of makeup time, and from next year on, I will get the entire Spring Break with Joey.

If you don't intend on keeping your word, I will look forward to going back to court to let them know what is going on.

PS. Keep this in mind too. Just to make the summer visit perfectly clear. What I have agreed to so far is to let Joey visit just the first

four weeks of summer to allow him to pursue and complete his Eagle Scout. However, I have not said I am willing to give up my other two

weeks I am entitled to for summer (you will agree it is 6 weeks, not 5

1/2 weeks, correct? - half of the summer break). I told Joey you and

I would work something out so he could finish his Eagle Scout and that would include him visiting the first 4 weeks of summer. He very well could come again later in the summer for two weeks after his Eagle Scout requirements are met.

I know this sounds pretty hard nosed, but I am really, really sick and tired of getting the shaft when it comes to Joèy' s visitation. Put

yourself in my position for once and just imagine what it has been like. Maybe what I will do is just give you a call tomorrow and we can discuss it - or you can give me a call.

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Sent: Sunday, March 18, 2001 7:13 PM

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Our mediation agreement (9/7/99) that we both signed outlined Easter/Spring vacation visits. Item 2(b) identified that the vacation 'shall be equally divided between the Parties". You and I both thought the vacation was more than the "2" days that Joey's school allows. When we discovered the duration of the break we realized our agreement didn't make economic sence. I offered a solution that I thought you agreed to. You take the entire vacation in 2000 (which you did) and I would take the entire vacation the following year (2001). The vacations to rotate from Florida to Utah on a year by year basis. Joey's spring break this year is again 2 days (April 19 & 20). With that in mind and our verbal agreement to modify that portion of the mediated agreement, we have made tentative reservations to take a skiing vacation (snowboard for Joey) during that period. Hopefully you will honor your agreement. If you have a different understanding concerning the Spring Break vacation, please let me know.

Liz

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Joey

Sent: Tuesday, March 13, 2001 9:28 PM

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rcfa-'-cA —fti t,z_, Dear Joey, - I'm sorry it has taken a while to respond to your email. First of all, thank you for taking the time to write down your thoughts and feelings in an email and sending it to me. I have thought about nothing else for the past few days - in fact since your Mom sent me an email telling me she told you about this "opportunity" and my answer.

After receiving that email, I have been very very sad, and very upset and very angry. It has brought back all the memories and feelings I have had to go through over the years since your Mom and my divorce. I'm trying to deal with them, but it is difficult.

There has never been anything more important in my life than my sons - and you were my first son. It absolutely devastated me how everything turned out and how you were taken from my life. You can't even imagine. I know your first line in your email said it is difficult being a teenager of divorced parents - and I know that must be very true. I never wanted you to have to go through that. You can't even imagine what I have had to go through.

I don't know why your Mom decided she had to tell you about this "lost opportunity". When she called me she told me she hadn't told you about it - and wasn't going to - for me to think about my answer. After I answered, she obviously told you. I'm not sure her purpose for telling you after she knew the answer was no. All that could happen then, was bad feelings and using you to try to get me to change my mind.

I would not give any of my sons up for adoption for anything in the world. If someone offered me a million dollars I wouldn't do it. That's just howl feel about it. I'm very, very sorry this hurts you, but it is something I cannot and never would do.

I will respond further and answer the questions you had in your email as soon as I possibly can.

Love, Your Dad

Liz,

What are your thoughts about spring break???

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