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Page 1: Owner - Association of Paroling Authorities International_TADCP/documents/DrugCourtIsitReallytheShoes.pdf · Owner –A Chance For Change ... Toto= Unconditional Love ... Isolation
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Owner – A Chance For Change www.achanceforchangesae.com

817-689-3510 817-874-6732

[email protected]

Substance Abuse Education, Programs & Services Director – ICDS Dallas

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Philosophy of OZ (Randall E. Auxier) The Adult Childs’s Journey ( Joy Miller &

Marianne Ripper) GOD Has A Dream For Your Life (Shelia

Walsh) The Yellow Brick Road (William J. Bausch The Wizard of Us ( Jean Houston)

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Learn to be your authentic self Find freedom in forgiveness Let go of shame and release anger Find peace through life’s challenges and

changes Deepen your spiritual relationship Enjoy every step of your journey

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Discontent Venture Insight Allies

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Poppies – substances causes forgetfulness Interrupt the journey Out of the will of God-Sin When we “forget” who we are, we fall to a

lower level of consciousness ? Spiritual Amnesia ?

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Awareness- how we live-love-act, is the key to a spiritual journey

Imperfection- a door to God's presence Wounded Hearts – lead to disease Loss- of innocence, dreams, confidence, time Priorities- what really matters Wisdom-comes from experiences Fear – interferes with risk taking

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Aunt Em : tired and gray from years of disappointment. Color is gone from her cheeks and sparkle from her eyes.

Scarecrow = knowledge Tinman=compassion Lion=Courage Toto= Unconditional Love

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Dorothy running away with Toto, is a means of escape. Escaping the clutch of Miss Gulch;

Escaping from life when we feel powerless

-Drugs, Alcohol, food, gambling, work, sex

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After a crisis, we see things differently. Journey into the unknown can be quite scary. Change is usually something we avoid, unless

we have a crisis that forces us to do something.

The “Cyclone” ( represents the “cycle” of turmoil ).

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Isolation Running Away Hidden feelings If ? Hopelessness Not in Kansas anymore

Isolation Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance

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Experience comes from the journey – not the destination.

Recovery is a journey. We do not arrive at a destination.. Growth continues Relapse / Plateau Symptoms ( The Poppy Fields)

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Represent the inner strengths The solution God given Many people do not realize they have them

nor do they know how to use them.

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Feeling of being fully alive and discovering a colorful new world.

Love and belief in one’s self Self Actualization Realization that we have the solution and

learning how to use it

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Dorothy mourns her loss of losing TOTO in her room.

Recognizing her loss and feeling her pain is the beginning of change.

The dress represents spiritual and human-ness.

White for purity Blue for comfort Everything in the universe is connected and

separate

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Means of distraction. Keep everything a mess so we can run in and

fix things Crisis junky An unconscious attempt at gaining self-worth The real paradox is we can’t survive without a

crisis.

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As Toto escapes Dorothy runs to Professor Marvel truly believing she can leave her problems behind.. She believes “escaping” is her only answer.

Alcohol and drugs become the answer, we can’t physically leave our family of origin.

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Physical in nature Fear Anxiety Self pity Isolation hopelessness

Headaches, backache Isolation Resentments helplessness

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With a brain he would be worthwhile and THEN others would love him

Trophy? Pay Raise Need for perfectionism Attempt to change the

world Assumes the enabler role as

adult Desires adventures and fun

enjoyed by the scapegoat.

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Develop trust Confront irrational

beliefs Get out of head, into

the heart Psycho educational

model / CBT Learn to love self

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Organized Self-reliant Leaderships qualities Makes decisions Determined Loyal Spiritual High energy High morals Gets results

Careers in a helping profession

Teacher Nurse Counselor Doctor Lawyer Social worker Office manager

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Bad guy Family black hat Distracts from the real

problem Desires the strokes

gained by the responsible child

Feed on negative attention

High rate of self –harm /suicide

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Alcohol/drug abuse Criminal involvement Attracted to others that

act out Strong wall of defense Feel hurt, lonely,

rejected, and angry Full of rebellion Defiance Job switching/job loss (switch to Hero-in

recovery)

Abstinence Accountability Positive peer support

Rapport / build trust Own feelings Identify distorted beliefs Consequences Choices Identify passion Healthy balance let

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Spontaneous Easygoing Always able to pull

through Gets needs met Loyal Open Doesn’t keep family

secrets Sensitivity (masked)

Compassionate

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Attaches to things not people Stays out of the way Self reliant Loyal Trustworthy Empathetic Patient Logial Takes care of others

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Security diminishes Criticized for making

mistakes Looking for unmet

needs Fearful of feelings Desire to escape to

safety Survival skills are self

destructive

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Works independently Self-reliant Loyal Shows emotions Punctual Flexible Compassionate Methodical Empathetic Makes steady progress

in recovery

Dependable Cares about others Creative Good listener Pays attention to detail Accepts own pace Fast learner Good worker Can delay gratification Choose careers, such as

painters, writers, accountant..etc

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The great and powerful OZ will surely fix thingsfor “ the deficient” ones. He has all thingsunder control and there is no need to worry.Creates crisis for others to master so theyneed to be rescued.

The OZ then gains more respect and morepower. Wearing masks of denial and aprotective “shield” ( curtain) hinders personalrecovery and growth. Everyone remains sick.

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Loyal to family Deals well with crisis Tired physically and

emotionally Smoothes over

embarrassment Saver and caretaker Skimp on budgets Appear to discourage

drinking

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CD

(Victim)

Hero

Lost Child

Mascot

Scapegoat

Enabler

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Organized Punctual Good worker Compassionate Good listener Excellent in crisis Has stamina Self-motivating Finishes tasks Makes decisions

Good leader Responsible Civic minded Strong willed Hard worker Honest Implements ideas Follows rules Good memory High tolerance for

others

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Leave Externalization Desire to be

recognized Medal – title Diploma – value Co-dependent –

broken hearts

Internalization God’s gift is inside-

waiting to be discovered.

“you are the miracle” –(my own backyard)

The integrated self is –the lion, the tin man-the scare crow

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With knowledge, compassions, courage and support our journey completes us.

Toto exposes the wizard Horse of a different color – looking at life through a

kaleidoscope The emerald city – possible world, vibrancy, growth Yellow brick road- streets of gold

Flying monkeys- monkey mind, things in life coming at us

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A return to who we really are

Our code Our potential destiny Isolation and domination

are over We are all connected

Who am I?Where am I going?Where do I belong?How do I get there?Who has the map?Which road to follow?Who is good? (Glenda)Who is bad? (Wicked Witch)

Who was the witch under the house?

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Toto –Unconditional Love

Haunted Forest –represents our fears

Munchkins –community where we live

Apples ? Forbidden fruit

Façade of Wizard –dishonesty with self & others

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We need

Knowledge,

Compassion,

Courage

and

“Unconditional

Love” for our

Journey