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Values-Based Conflict Resolution
Oregon Alliance of Children and Families
June 19, 2015
Dennis Morrow, MAEd, MBA
(503) 542-4607
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Dennis L. Morrow
Dennis Morrow, M.A.Ed., MBA, has been the Executive Director of Janus Youth
Programs, Inc. since 1980. The agency has a $9 million budget, employs a staff of 250
in Oregon and Southwest Washington and provides a wide array of services to high-risk
adolescents. Dennis is also a management consultant working with both nonprofit and
for-profit businesses, and he serves as an instructor at Portland State University
(Institute for Nonprofit Management) and Portland Community College (Alcohol and
Drug Counselor Education). He has provided training and workshops for over 25,000
people and hundreds of businesses/organizations ranging from small nonprofits to some
of the largest accounting firms in the world. His primary focus is on Values-Based
Management, a unique model for supervision and support of employees in the
nonprofit/public service sector, but he has also provided training in the areas of
organizational change, team building, staff conflict resolution, and race/gender issues in
the workplace. Dennis has been recognized by the University of Portland’s Pamplin
School of Business at their 75th Anniversary as one of the “Significant 75” graduates
from the Business School, by Portland State University for Outstanding Contributions
to the Division of Public Administration, and by Portland Monthly’s Light a Fire
Awards as the 2012 “Extraordinary Executive Director”. In 2013 he received the Natalie
S. Bimel Community Partner Award from the Annie E. Casey Foundation for his
leadership in Juvenile Detention Reform. As a working manager himself and a parent
of eight children, Dennis tends to focus on concrete strategies and techniques even for
complex organizational/human dynamics.
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Conflict 2015 Agenda
Welcome, Introductions, Overview
Definition and Characteristics of Conflict
The Conflict Process: Origin and Response
Diagnosis and Strategies
Skills for Work and Life
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Definition and Characteristics
Conflict is: That which happens naturally between two or more people who are
together 20 or more seconds.
Characteristics of Conflict:
1. Conflict “happens”
2. Conflict resolution does not “happen”
3. All conflicts are the same
4. All conflicts are not the same
5. Perceived risk in dealing with conflict is always greater than the actual risk
6. Perceived benefit in avoiding conflict is always better than the real outcome
7. Conflict at work has significant benefits
8. Unmanaged conflict at work has enormous costs
9. Can’t give/Don’t get
10. No 100% in any human relationship
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Definition: A highly structured psychotherapeutic method used
to alter distorted attitudes and problem behavior by
identifying and replacing negative inaccurate
thoughts and changing the rewards for behaviors
Model
Action
Thoughts
a
Beliefs
Core Response
Emotion
or
Feeling
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Conflict Cycle
TRIGGER Feeling
(Physiological Response)
Interpretation
Ouch/Hurt/Injury
Shame (I've done something bad)
You’re having a bad day
You must have had a traumatic
childhood
You’re off your meds
You intended to hurt me
(start of time travel)
Automatic Defense:
Push Away
Becomes second “Missile”
Sends parents into time travel
“Mud War”
Self Medicating
(Sooth the pain)
Drugs
Chocolate
Running
Healing
(self soothing) Biology is reset
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Diagnosis and Strategies
Issue Person
Responsible
Strategy Skills
1) Employee Performance Supervisor Meet/Train/Release Expectations
Listening
Feedback
2) Conflict with Supervisor Supervisor Listen/Consider/Respond
& (if necessary) Change
Listening
Questions
3) Team: Between Members Member or
Supervisor
Meet Alone
Meet with Facilitator
Team
Agreements
Structured
Process
4) Safety/Harassment/
Discrimination
Supervisor and
Management and
HR
*Meet
*Report
*Act
Respect
5) “Personality Conflict” Dr. Phil No such Thing Accurate
Diagnosis
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Communication & Respect
Speaker Listener Message
Response
Message Concept
Behavior Attending
Content You’re saying ___
Feeling You’re feeling ___
Source because ____
Me
Listening: The unnatural act of verbally demonstrating to another person that
she/he has been heard.
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THE SUPERVISORY LOOP
“Maximizing Employee Success”
Clear
Expectations
Training &
Resources
Coaching/Mentoring
Observe
Feedback
Coaching/Mentoring
Observe
Assess and
Plan
Value
&
Respect
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The Feedback Model and Process
Steps in Giving Feedback
See – Use eyes and ears to collect objective data
Think – Your assessment about intention of employee
Feel – Your level of response, support or concern
Say:
1. “When I saw you do …….” Or “I saw/heard……….”
2. “……..I assumed………” or “………I thought………”
3. “I felt…………………”
Feedback Process
1. Permission
2. Feedback
3. Replay/Confirm
4. Discuss
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Facilitated Interaction Process
1) Under stress, structure is your friend
2) Start with pre-meeting
Goal = mutual safety
Explain Purpose: Create Mutual Agreements
Explain Process: Each has a role
3) The Process:
Start with Mutual Permission
Feedback Giver Feedback Receiver
1) Give Feedback
Replay Feedback in own words
Behavior
Impact
Feeling
2) State Specifically
What would Make Better
Give Example to ensure understanding
3) Commit to let know how you’re
Doing
Commit to “Try”
4) Follow-up Check-in
Safety
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Values Based Management
Values Based Management is a system of management techniques built on the concept that the mission and objectives of
any organization can best be met when management uses skill-based supervision grounded in the values of the agency and
the needs of its employees. The workforce of today is increasingly diverse in many areas; race and culture, gender, age,
and physical abilities. This diversity brings differences in life experience, values, expectations and needs in the work
force. Dealing with these differences can be a challenge for supervisors and managers. Values Based Management
provides a way to meet that challenge that is flexible and respectful. Four basic courses are available, each modeled on
the same core concepts.
Values Based Management (VBM) Supervision is the “second most important job we’re ever given to do and not told how.” It involves assuming responsibility for the
lives of others and for the success of the organization. Values Based Management is a concrete approach to professionalizing
supervision in the nonprofit sector. It provides a framework which any agency can adopt to ensure that workers will feel supported as
well as a set of survival skills to prepare supervisors to function as professionals. Participants will come away with a clear definition
of supervision, a model for providing what workers need, a simple way to implement a “system of supervision”, and an answer to the
basic question of why workers do not perform successfully. Values Based Management has been presented to thousands of nonprofit
managers in hundreds of organizations across the country and continues to receive outstanding support because of its unique
tailoring to the needs of nonprofit workers and organizations.
Building a REAL Team “TEAM” is the management buzzword of the ‘90’s, but managers and supervisors rush headlong into trying to function as a team
without a framework to build on. This workshop provides a structural model for answering key questions regarding team functioning
that are applicable to any team such as: “Why are we using a team approach anyway?”, “What is this team going to do/why are we
here?”, “How do we make decisions, and what if we don’t agree?”, and “What is my role as a team leader (or team member)?”. This
course can be offered either in conjunction with VBM or independently, depending on the needs of your organization. The course is
valuable for anyone in your organization who is called on to work in a “team” setting. Any manager or director contemplating
movement to a more team-centered approach will find this a critical first step. Workshops are also available for use as team
“retreats” to create a new team, to re-energize an existing team, or to resolve difficult issues and personal conflicts, which are
blocking team functioning.
Managing Staff Conflict Conflict has become a “dirty word” for many teams. In many businesses staff conflict is often either ignored until a major problem
exists or is dealt with at such a personal level, that little else can be accomplished by the team. Our approach is that conflict is the
inevitable result of two or more people working together and that problems occur primarily when the “conflict” is avoided, hidden or
ignored. This course builds on the concepts of the team-building model and can be used either in conjunction with VBM or Team
Building or standing alone. The course provides the basic structure needed for effective team functioning and presents a simple
model for understanding the real dynamics of interpersonal conflict. Concrete tools and processes are provided to build team
agreements about direct professional communication; to develop effective conflict resolution processes, and to implement these
processes in a work setting.
Managing and Surviving Organizational Changes
Designed for employees, managers, and leaders of organizations facing conflict resulting from any type of internal
change. The focus is on understanding how real change happens for people and for organizations. Gain a clear definition
for organizational change vs. re-organizational non-change. Concrete strategies are presented to maximize the likelihood
of a successful change process, to survive in a rapidly changing organization, and to assess your own
personal/organizational style of response to change.
Contact: Dennis L. Morrow, MAEd, MBA, Executive Director phone: (503) 542-4607
Janus Youth Programs, Inc. e-mail: [email protected]
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