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Admist all happenings and hammerings worldwide .Kids. Parents, teachers nowadays dont seem
to understand the correct way of upbringing, within the social taboos and rituals. Kids, if I have one, will
nurture them within the limits of limitations, largely based on the idea that the kid should be a positive
icon oneself and not follow one immaterial of it being a positive or a negative one.
Every parenting style may appear to have definite influences on kid's behavior. However, society alsoinfluences the result, especially for school success. The percentiles of parents fall into one of these
categories most of the time. When parents are inconsistent in their parenting approach, it is very
damaging to their children because they do not know what to expect as the result.
Plagued by disease these days called the identity pressure; a process whereby a kid changes his attitude
and the values of ethical sense in order to be accepted and to fit in with the group he approves and
thinks the one to be in. Identity pressure is often a form of bullying when a kid is forced to do something
to prove to be allowed to be a part of the group. The effects of identity pressure can be seen from the
smallest things like fashions, hairstyles, tattoos to more serious things like teenagers smoking and
drinking to show that their "cool". Most children light that first cigarette or sip that first drink to make a
statement of identity and not because they have any interest in either of the activity.
Each one would like their kids to be sociable, even popular, but not at the cost of their losing their
identity and individuality. Friendships give kids the chance to share common experiences and interests,
to become part of a group, and define who they are. Each one of us will notice that from the age of
seven or eight, their kids become more pro active with regard to making friends. They gravitate towards
kids who they think have similar interests or towards those they would like to emulate or be associated
with. This is their way of seeking an identity and defining who they are.
Moreover at times parents feel that some friendships seem to have a negative effect on their children.
They find their children behaving differently with their friends, sometimes going to the extent ofbreaking family rules and forgetting family values. But when they try to talk to their children about it,
they usually meet with resistance and it ends up in an argument. So how do parents cope? It would help
if parents were a little empathetic. Most parents tend to forget how desperately they wanted to be
when they were children and how awful it can be to be left out.
While identity pressure and children's succumbing to it is understandable, it does not mean that parents
should loosen up the rules and reins of discipline. They must be consistent and firm. It is important that
parents not bend household rules and regulations, even if their children suddenly seem to think that
these rules can be ignored in order to gain favour with their identification. Parents should be prepared
for running battles with their children and the fact that they may not be very popular with their childrenwhen they adopt this stance. But in the long run, it is more important that children be made aware of
right and wrong emphatically. If children find that parents refuse to budge no matter how much they
argue and fight, they will fall in line sooner or later. When this happens, parents should welcome their
rebellious child back into the fold without comment, teasing or recrimination.
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If this recrimination goes around your kid,the kid will pay a high price if they don't conform. Non-
conformists have to deal with physical aggression, cruel teasing and even ostracism. None of these
things are easy to handle irrespective of age so identity pressure can cause a great deal of stress. While
giving in to the pressure may be the easiest thing to do, it is not necessarily always the right thing to do.Parents can help their children to decide when to conform and when not to. The way to do this is not by
nagging and getting into confrontations, but by encouraging the child to indulge in a little introspection.
The kid needs to question and reexamine oneself, friendships to see if the balance seems unreasonably
tipped in favour of others.
Parents should explain to their children that friendship does not mean that friends must like the same
things and do the same things at all times. If that were the case, people would just be clones of one
another and there would be no individuality. A good friendship will allow you the freedom to express
your own opinions and the space to follow your own pursuits. A kid must have the option of refusing to
do things that the kid doesn't want to without living in fear and guilt that it will affect the friendship.
This becomes more of a bullying kind of relationship than a friendship between equals.
Kids should remember that friendship is a relationship of give and take. Are they giving more than they
are getting? Is the kid always the accommodating one? Is the kid always the lender, the follower, the
shoulder to cry on? Are these gestures appreciated and reciprocated? While life should not be measured
only in these terms, there has to be a general sense of equity. Friendships must balance out somewhere.
A friendship cannot always be on an even kneels. Friends are bound to stumble upon each other at
some point. Friends should be able to communicate their hurt or anger to each other not immediately
start to resent. It's not much of a friendship if their way of dealing with differences is to avoid
confrontation and pretend that everything is fine. Basically, parents need to instill the confidence intheir kids at the very wee ages , not to wait thinking the task can wait till the right tide appears, that
they are individuals in their own right who deserve to be treated well by their friends and to remind
them that friendship is always a two-way street.
Harshit Patel.