BEThe Voice!Child Domestic Violence

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A Domestic violence case happens every 2 minutes. The abusers are not strangers but they are the ones that you love the most. My name is April Thomas and I am a voice for my brother Mike Thomas. Mike died from child abuse which our dad abused him. If there where save homes available for us then maybe my brother would be alive. After my brother died then it became noticed that’s the he was being abused and removed me from the home. A few years have pasted and I decided that somebody should stand up and be the voice for abused children. In 2012 I started a fundraiser to help build homes for children and women who had experienced child abuse. By 2013 we raised over 100,000 for the Statesboro area.

Phone: (912) 576-1234Email:

info@speakup.orgWeb: bethevoice.gov

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SPRING 2016

Being more aware of child abuse, here are the 10 signs

10 Signs of Child Abuse:

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Our Mission:

let’s see how you do!Every season you will get a puzzle,

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Sudoku Puzzle

Start the maze until you finish to the end!

To protect, educate, and be the voice of children who are domestic violence victims of emotional and/or physical abuse by providing support and outreach servicesStaff:

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Quote for Spring“I am not a victim, no matter

what I have been through, I’m still here. I have a history

or victory.” – Dr. Steve Maraboli

Maze Puzzle Fun

Evelynn AlexanderHealth Educator

Mariah BandoHealth Educator

Sam HansonClerk

Jessica JohnsonCounselor

Malinda PersonsUndergraduate

Intern

Jamison JeffersonGraduate Intern

1. Unexplained injuries – verbal signs of physical abuse, unexplained burns or

bruises

2. Changes in behavior – scared, anxious, depressed, withdrawn

3. Returning to earlier behaviors – thumb sucking, bed-wetting, fear of dark or

strangers

4. Fear of going home – fear of going home to be abused by abuser

5. Changes in eating – weight gain or weight lost due to fear, stress, or anxiety

6. Changes in sleeping – frequent nightmares, trouble falling asleep

7. Changes in school performance and attendance – concentrating in school, not

attending

8. Lack of personal care of hygiene – uncared for, dirty, severe body odor

9. Risk-taking behaviors – using drugs or alcohol or carrying a weapon

Shatiria Taylor

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SPRING 2016

Upcoming Spring Events

“Through Their Eyes”Do you like to bring your creative side out every once in a while? If you cannot draw then who cares. Come out and join your peers and put your thoughts/ideas/inner pictures on paper. Afterwards there will be a group discussion about what you come up with in small groups. Date: May 9th and May 23rd @ 4pm (ages 8-17)

“Play That Role Back”Instead of the regular “talk it out” group sessions role-play with your peers to see different ways to react!-“Freeze the action” where you stop and brainstorm other ways to respond the violence situation.-“Fishbowl” where you will let the audience step into the role of the child who has been

The Child Next DoorCheck out all the discussions for spring!-March 28 @ 3pm (ages 5-10) 7pm (ages 11-17)-April 25 @ 3pm (ages 5-10) 7pm (ages 11-17)-May 30 @ 3pm (ages 5-10) 7pm (ages 11-17)

What is your future?Need some guidance to see where you want to do after high school? Need help on your resume?Whether you want to go to college or not, whether you want to go to college or need more information about it, come out to hear speakers from Clark University, Alabama State, Albany State, Job Corps, IBM and many more. (ages 15-17)

LOCATION: BTV (BE THE VOICE) PLACE

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SPRING 2016

Dating Violence Quiz

True/False

1. _______ Dating violence is rare among high school students, college students and other educated people.2. ________ When someone leaves an abusive relationship, the abuse usually ends3. ________ Drug and/or alcohol abuse is often a factor in dating violence incidents.4. ________ The best way to get a friend to leave an abusive relationship is to “”cut ties” with them.5. ________ If violence occurs once in dating relationship, it is likely to happen again.6. ________ Police hardly ever make arrests in dating violence situations.

Multiple Choice (Can have more than one correct answer)

7. What kind of behavior could be considered a sign of relationship abuse?a. Your partner takes a nap while you’re talking to him or her about something

important. b. Your partner tells you that you’re fat and uglyc. Your partner lets you know that he/she doesn’t like it when you “flirt” with other

peopled. You’re a vegetarian, and your partner makes you eat at a restaurant with no

veggie menu.8. What’s a good way to help a friend who’s in an abusive relationship?

a. Offer to beat up your friend’s partnerb. Offer to burn down your friend’s partner’s housec. Listen when your friends want to talk about the relationshipd. Remind your friend that he/she is beautiful, smart, and fun to be around

9. True love is….a. Never having to say, “I’m sorry”b. Feeling that your partner’s needs are just as important as your ownc. When your partner is jealous and possessive—that’s how you know he/she loves

youd. When you and your partner love spending all your time together

10. Why do people abuse their partners?a. Because the abuser drinks too much and can’t control him/herself when drunkb. Because the partner makes the abuser so angryc. Because the abuse is trying to control the partnerd. Because they don't have much money and this causes stress in the relationship

11. Which of the following behaviors could be considered a sign of dating violence?a. You and your partner are having an argument in the car, and your partner keeps swerving into the oncoming lane until you agreeb. When you try to end the relationship, your partner says he/she can't live without you and threatens suicidec. You have an argument about what to do on a Friday night, so you decide to spend the evening alone and don't speak until the next dayd. After you go out on a Friday night with your friends, your partner falsely accuses

you of cheating

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Test your dating knowledge by answering the following questions below (ages 11-17 preferred)

BE THE VOICE Walk for Love 5k Registration:

Last name __________________________ First name ___________________________ Initial ______

Address _____________________________________________________________________________

City ________________________ State _______ Zip Code ____________

Day phone (include area code) ___________________ Email ______________________________

Age on race day___________ Date of birth_____________ Male______ Female _______

(Check one) 5k run_______ Volunteer __________ 5k walk_________ pee wee fun run _________

T shirt size S___ M____ L___ XL____ XXL___ XXXL___ Youth S____ Youth M___ Youth L____

Release of Liability

I know that running/walking in a road race is a potentially hazardous activity. I represent that I am medially able and properly trained to participate in this event. I assume all risks associated with this event including, but not limited to, heat exhaustion, falls, and contact with other participants, effect of weather, dangerous traffic conditions, etc., all such risks being known and recognized by me. I hereby agree, for myself and my heirs, assigns, personal representative, executors and administrators, to waive, release, and forever discharge the Be The Voice Group and its respective directors, officers and employees, volunteer, and any and all sponsors, suppliers and any other personnel assisting or connected with this event, any rights, claims, or demands therefore which I many have or which I may hereafter accrue to me arising out of injury to my person or my property incurred in connection with participation in the Walk for Love 5k Run/Walk held on April 11th 2015.

Signature: ___________________________________ Date: ________________Parents Signature: _______________________________ Date: ________________

13. Which of the following may be a reason a person would have a difficult time leaving an abusive relationship?

a. The victim likes the abuse--it spices up their sex lifeb. The victim still loves his/her partner.c. The victim feels obligated to help his/her partner stop drinking and is afraid the drinking will get worse if he/she leavesd. The victim has been lying to you, and the abuse isn't really happening

14. How do you keep safe in a dating relationship?a. Communicate with your partner about your expectationsb. Carry a gunc. Just don’t date—it’s the only way to stay safed. Get to know yourself and your beliefs before jumping into relationships

Scoring

All Correct Congratulations! You’re a genius when it comes to knowing about dating violence. Proceed to your healthy relationship!

12 or more correct Good Job! You’re pretty good when it comes to knowing

about dating violence. Knowing lots of information increases your chances of staying away from abusive relationships and shows that you can be a good friend to someone who is experiencing abuse. You scored a Green on the Healthy Relationship-o-meter.

11-10 correct Not Bad! You’re doing okay, but you could still do better on

the Healthy Relationship-o-meter. The more you know, the better chance you have of staying safe and building a strong, healthy relationship. Yellow for you on the Healthy Relationship-o-meter.

9 or less correct Uh-oh! You need to head back to remedial dating violence

school. You scored a red on the Healthy Relationship-o-meter.

ANSWERS:1. F 2. F 3. T 4. F 5. T 6. F 7. B,C,D 8. C,D 9. B,C, 10. C, 11. A,B,D 12. B,C 13. B 14.

A,D

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References:

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Child Next Door

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April Fools Day

Kevinwmoore. (2009, March 9). How NOT To Talk About Domestic Violence. Retrieved March 4, 2015,

from http://incontempt.mooretoons.com/tag/misogyny/

Fountain, S. (n.d.). Our right to be protected from violence. Retrieved March 4, 2015, from

http://www.unicef.org/violencestudy/pdf/Our Right to be Protected from Violence.pdf

Free Printable: Valentine Maze. (n.d.). Retrieved March 4, 2015, from

http://dollarstoremom.com/2013/01/free-printable-valentine-maze/

DATING VIOLENCE QUIZ. (n.d.). Retrieved March 4, 2015, from http://www.ncdsv.org/images/dating

violence quiz.pdf

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