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Goal Setting Onward and Upward

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Pre-work

►Review Creating Your Best Life by Caroline Adams and Michael

Frisch (particularly chapters 1-7)

►Watch Steve Jobs’ commencement speech at Stanford University

►Watch Dan Heath talk about self-control

►And, just for fun, watch the Bucket List movie trailer

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Coaching Mastery Journal

►How would you like your “Portrait of Life” to read?

►What five goals do you believe will lead you to lasting happiness?

►What words of appreciation do you want to share with the authors?

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Agenda

►Discussion: Based on Goal Setting Theory, Miller and Frisch

challenge the word “realistic” in the SMART goal acronym. What is

your reaction to their assertion that goals could also be unrealistic

and even risky?

►Discussion: Which of the 16 “Happiness House” components do you

most value?

►Discussion: What are your experiences of being exhausted by self-

control?

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Agenda

►Coaching Practice: What are the risks you have taken that have led

to greatness?

►Coaching Practice: What are the costs/benefits of staying in “safe

harbor” rather than launching your ship in the open sea? What could

your life be in 1, 5, 10 years if you continue on the same course?

►Coaching Practice: How would you like your “Portrait of Life” to read

(page 249)?

►Coaching Practice: What are the Not Urgent, yet important matters in

your life that you could take action on today?

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The Value of Planning

►“Ask yourself what makes you come alive and do that because what

the world needs is people who have come alive.”

- Howard Thurman, author and civil rights leader

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What Matters Most

Urgent and Important Not Urgent and Important

Urgent and Not Important

Not Urgent and Not Important

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Happiness House

►Health

►Goals and Values

►Money

►Play

►Creativity

►Self-esteem

►Spiritual life

►Work

►Learning

►Helping

►Love

►Children

►Home

►Community

►Friends

►Relatives

►Neighborhood

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The Value of Planning

►“Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do

something about it now.”

- Alan Lakein, author of How to Get Control of Your

Time and Your Life

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Goal Analysis

1. Write down the result/intended outcome

2. Write down everything someone would have to say/do for you to

agree that it represents the achievement of the outcome

3. Look for “fuzzies” and return to Step 2 to identify the actions that

will lead to it

4. Write a complete sentence for each item

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Recognizing Fuzzies

1. Smiles a lot

2. Says she believes in the ability of the client to achieve

3. Feels deeply about others

4. Is confident in his or her ability

5. Can recognize symptoms

6. Is able to speak with enthusiasm

7. Knows how to listen

8. Is able to follow ethical guidelines

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Replenish Self-Control and Create Goal Primers

►Smile; eat sugar; hide temptations; exercise; avoid alcohol; meditate;

remove technology temptations

►Remove distractions; remind yourself of the goal; explore the support

and structures needed for success

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Onward and Upward!