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Qingjiao LiQingjiao Li

11/02/200911/02/2009

Mr. Right is the man that a woman may be hoping to find as an ideal mate, esp. in marriage. They would love each other, and spend a happy life based on their true love.

How to find the “Mr. Right ”? We need to know what is love first.

What Is Love?

Love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person.

• This is how many people approach a relationship. Consciously or unconsciously, they believe love is a sensation (based on physical and emotional attraction) that magically, spontaneously generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. You fall in love, and you can fall out of it.

• The key word is passivity. Erich Fromm, in his famous treatise "The Art of Loving," noted the sad consequence of this misconception: "There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love."

So what is the real, lasting love?

I would like to explain it according to my personal experience here! I had got my “Mr. Right” in my mind several years ago. Firstly, he must have a nice look, then an engaging personality, and lastly, intelligence and talent. So the man, my present boyfriend, who meets these requirements attracted me when we got to know each other. But I want to say his goodness is what moves me to love.

Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness.

• The word "goodness" may surprise you. After all, most love stories don't feature a couple enraptured with each other's ethics.

• What we value most in ourselves, we value most in others. God created us to see ourselves as good (hence our need to either rationalize or regret our wrongdoings). So, too, we seek goodness in others.

Love is a choice• Just focus on the good in another person. If

you can do this easily, you'll love easily. But seeing goodness is the beginning.

• Then, choose to love him. Somebody said: “Love is the mother of love.” You believe that love is unconditional and you can overcome all the obstacles on the path of love.

Giving leads to love.The more you give, the more you love.

• True giving is other-oriented, and requires four elements.

• The first is care, demonstrating active concern for the recipient's life and growth.

• The second is responsibility, responding to his or her expressed and unexpressed needs (particularly, in an adult relationship, emotional needs).

• The third is respect, "the ability to see a person as he is, to be aware of his unique individuality," and, consequently, wanting that person to "grow and unfold as he is."

• These three components all depend upon the fourth, knowledge. You can care for, respond to, and respect another only as deeply as you know him.

My Mr. Right

Fortunately, I have found my Mr. Right and own the true love. We will always cherish it.

Thank you!