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Module one: Context of foster care (Assessment)
Module one: Context of foster care
Assessment
Participant's
name:
Date of training:
Worksheets
Please complete these questions in your own time and bring to the next session.
1 (a). List three reasons why children and young people require out-of-
home placement
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2 (a). How does the department decide whether a child or young person
needs to be placed in out-of-home care?
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2 (b). Who is involved in the decision making?
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3 (a). Describe how a child or young person in your care may feel if they
returned home to live with their parents even though they had
experienced harm at home.
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3 (b). Why are there special arrangements for Aboriginal and Torres Strait
Islander children young people and their families?
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3 (c). Name at least two requirements for the placement of Aboriginal and
Torres Strait Islander children and young people.
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4 (a). Describe the main role and responsibility of both Child Safety Service
and foster carers.
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4 (b). Name three principals that inform the care role and work with
families and three rights for a child in care.
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Personal Reflections
Module 1
Participant's
name:
Date of completion:
The Personal Reflections provided at the end of each module of training will provide
you with an opportunity to:
Reflect on the information you learn in training;
Reflect on your life experiences and how it will impact you as a foster carer; and
Record information that you will need to provide to the worker undertaking the
foster carer assessment, to inform their assessment.
You may have already answered similar questions in earlier stages of the assessment
process. Where this is the case, reflect on how your answers and views on fostering
children have changed, as you learn more about fostering.
The Personal Reflections for Module 1 focus on:
Life Experiences
Your life experiences can significantly influence your suitability to provide
care to children and young people.
1. What has been your primary source of motivation for wanting to become
a foster carer?
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2. What was it like growing up in your family as a child?
Some things to consider when answering this question include:
How would you describe your relationship with each of your family members as you were growing up?
Was there any member of your family who you were particularly close to? Why do you think this was?
What was your position and role in the family?
Who was most important to you when you were growing up?
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3. How has your relationship with your family members changed over time
and what is your relationship like now?
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4. Describe the ways in which your family communicated as you were
growing up. How were emotions and conflicts expressed and resolved in
your family?
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5. What methods of discipline were used when you were a child?
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6. What impact do you think this had on your childhood experience?
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7. What impact do you think this has had on you now as an adult?
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8. How would you describe the education you received and your experience
of school life?
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9. How do you think this has impacted on you now as an adult?
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10. Describe the members of your extended family (aunts, uncles, cousins)
with whom you had a close relationship with during your childhood?
Some things to consider when answering this question include: What was nature of your relationship with these people?
What factors contributed to the nature of these relationships?
How have your relationships with these people changed?
Are you still in contact with these people? If so, how would you describe
your relationship with them now?
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11. Did you have any significant relationships or friendships with any other
people outside of your immediate family during your childhood? For
example neighbours, parents of school friends, members of church.
Some things to consider when answering this question include:
What was the nature of your relationship with these people? How were these relationships important to you?
How have your relationships with these people changed?
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12. Identify some of the most stressful events that have occurred in your
life up to the present.
Some things to consider when answering this question include: How did these events impact on your life?
How did you manage these events?
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13. How has your method of handling crises and other negative events
changed since these events? Provide an example of how you have
managed a recent negative event.
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14. Describe the events/experiences of your life which have most
significantly shaped the person you are today.
Some things to consider when answering this question include: How did these events impact on your life?
How did you manage these events?
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Attached is a questionnaire that you may wish to provide to your children,
as an opportunity to include your children in the training process. The
questionnaire should be used as a starting point for discussion around what
it would be like to foster children and to provide an opportunity to share
information you have learned through training with them. Your children
may have already completed this questionnaire in earlier stages of the
assessment process. If this is the case, you can use this as an opportunity
to discuss how their answers and views on fostering children have changed,
as they learn more about fostering. You may even wish to use this as a fun
discussion point with adult children, getting their views about what
fostering will mean to them!
Thank you for your time and honesty
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Name:
Date of Birth:
I have
I am in grade
sisters and
at school.
brothers.
Insert a picture of yourself here
I go to School.
My favourite subject at school is:
I like to listen to music by:
My favourite TV show is:
During my spare time I enjoy:
Some of the things I enjoy doing with my family are:
Some of the things I will enjoy about my parents caring for another child are:
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I might find it difficult when my parents are caring for another child if:
Some of the things which will be different when my parents are caring for another child
are:
Some of the things which would help me get used to having another child in the family
include:
If I feel sad or upset when my parents are caring for another child, something I could do
to feel better might include:
Someone I could talk to about this is
I could help a new child feel comfortable in our family by:
When my parents are providing care to a new child, I could help them out by:
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My favourite TV
show is
My birthday is:
My name is: I am
years old
Insert a photo of
yourself here
My
favourite
food is
My favourite
thing to do with
my friends is
I have sisters and
When I
grow up I
want to be
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My favourite
thing to do
with my family
is
Something I would
like to do with my
family more is
I feel happy
when
I feel sad
when
Some of the
good things
about having a
new child stay
with us will be
Some of the things
that will be
different in our
house when a new
child stays will be
My mum and dad
want to look after
other children
because
If a new child
was feeling sad,
I could cheer
them up by
Sometimes it might be difficult
to have a new child stay with us
because