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forthearms
thatholdme
myheartwokemecryinglastnighthowcanihelpibegged
myheartsaidwritethebook
contents
thehurting
theloving
thebreaking
thehealing
aletteraboutthewriteraboutthebook
howisitsoeasyforyoutobekindtopeopleheasked
milkandhoneydrippedfrommylipsasianswered
causepeoplehavenotbeenkindtome
thefirstboythatkissedmeheldmyshouldersdownlikethehandlebarsofthefirstbicycleheeverrodeiwasfive
hehadthesmellofstarvationonhislipswhichhepickedupfromhisfatherfeastingonhismotherat4a.m.
hewasthefirstboytoteachmemybodywasforgivingtothosethatwantedthatishouldfeelanythinglessthanwhole
andmygoddidifeelasemptyashismotherat4:25a.m.
itisyourbloodinmyveinstellmehowi’msupposedtoforget
thetherapistplacesthedollinfrontofyouitisthesizeofgirlsyourunclesliketouching
pointtowherehishandswere
youpointtothespotbetweenitslegstheonehefingeredoutofyoulikeaconfession
how’reyoufeeling
youpullthelumpinyourthroatoutwithyourteethandsayfinenumbreally
-midweeksessions
hewassupposedtobethefirstmaleloveofyourlifeyoustillsearchforhimeverywhere
-father
youweresoafraidofmyvoiceidecidedtobeafraidofittoo
shewasaroseinthehandsofthosewhohadnointentionofkeepingher
everytimeyoutellyourdaughteryouyellatheroutofloveyouteachhertoconfuseangerwithkindnesswhichseemslikeagoodideatillshegrowsuptotrustmenwhohurthercausetheylooksomuchlikeyou
-tofatherswithdaughters
i’vehadsexshesaidbutidon’tknowwhatmakinglovefeelslike
ifiknewwhatsafetylookedlikeiwouldhavespentlesstimefallingintoarmsthatwerenot
sextakestheconsentoftwoifonepersonislyingtherenotdoinganythingcausetheyarenotreadyornotinthemoodorsimplydon’twanttoyettheotherishavingsexwiththeirbodyit’snotloveitisrape
theideathatwearesocapableoflovebutstillchoosetobetoxic
thereisnobiggerillusionintheworldthantheideathatawomanwillbringdishonorintoahomeifshetriestokeepherheartandherbodysafe
youpinnedmylegstothegroundwithyourfeetanddemandedistandup
therapewilltearyouinhalf
butitwillnotendyou
youhavesadnesslivinginplacessadnessshouldn’tlive
adaughtershouldnothavetobegherfatherforarelationship
tryingtoconvincemyselfiamallowedtotakeupspaceislikewritingwithmylefthandwheniwasborntousemyright
-theideaofshrinkingishereditary
youtellmetoquietdowncausemyopinionsmakemelessbeautifulbutiwasnotmadewithafireinmybellysoicouldbeputoutiwasnotmadewithalightnessonmytonguesoicouldbeeasytoswallowiwasmadeheavyhalfbladeandhalfsilkdifficulttoforgetandnoteasyforthemindtofollow
hegutsherwithhisfingerslikehe’sscrapingtheinsideofacantaloupeclean
yourmotherisinthehabitofofferingmorelovethanyoucancarry
yourfatherisabsent
youareawartheborderbetweentwocountriesthecollateraldamagetheparadoxthatjoinsthetwobutalsosplitsthemapart
emptyingoutofmymother’sbellywasmyfirstactofdisappearancelearningtoshrinkforafamilywholikestheirdaughtersinvisiblewasthesecondtheartofbeingemptyissimplebelievethemwhentheysayyouarenothingrepeatittoyourselflikeawishiamnothingiamnothingiamnothingsooftentheonlyreasonyouknowyou’restillaliveisfromtheheavingofyourchest
-theartofbeingempty
youlookjustlikeyourmother
iguessidocarryhertendernesswell
youbothhavethesameeyes
causewearebothexhausted
andthehands
wesharethesamewiltingfingers
butthatrageyourmotherdoesn’twearthatanger
you’rerightthisrageistheonethingigetfrommyfather
(homagetowarsanshire’sinheritance)
whenmymotheropenshermouthtohaveaconversationatdinnermyfathershovesthewordhushbetweenherlipsandtellshertoneverspeakwithhermouthfullthisishowthewomeninmyfamilylearnedtolivewiththeirmouthsclosed
ourkneespriedopenbycousinsandunclesandmenourbodiestouchedbyallthewrongpeoplethateveninabedfullofsafetyweareafraid
father.youalwayscalltosaynothinginparticular.youaskwhati’mdoingorwhereiamandwhenthesilencestretcheslikealifetimebetweenusiscrambletofindquestionstokeeptheconversationgoing.whatilongtosaymostis.iunderstandthisworldbrokeyou.ithasbeensohardonyourfeet.idon’tblameyoufornotknowinghowtoremainsoftwithme.sometimesistayupthinkingofalltheplacesyouarehurtingwhichyou’llnevercaretomention.icomefromthesameachingblood.fromthesamebonesodesperateforattentionicollapseinonmyself.iamyourdaughter.iknowthesmalltalkistheonlywayyouknowhowtotellmeyouloveme.causeitistheonlywayiknowhowtotellyou.
youploughintomewithtwofingersandiammostlyshocked.itfeelslikerubberagainstanopenwound.idonotlikeit.youbeginpushingfasterandfaster.butifeelnothing.yousearchmyfaceforareactionsoibeginactinglikethenakedwomeninthevideosyouwatchwhenyouthinknoone’slooking.iimitatetheirmoans.hollowandhungry.youaskifitfeelsgoodandisayyessoquicklyitsoundsrehearsed.buttheacting.youdonotnotice.
ican’ttellifmymotheristerrifiedorinlovewithmyfatheritalllooksthesame
iflinchwhenyoutouchmeifearitishim
whenmymotherwaspregnantwithhersecondchildiwasfouripointedatherswollenbellyconfusedathowmymotherhadgottensobiginsuchlittletimemyfatherscoopedmeinhistreetrunkarmsandsaidtheclosestthingtogodonthisearthisawoman’sbodyit’swherelifecomesfromandtohaveagrownmantellmesomethingsopowerfulatsuchayoungagechangedmetoseetheentireuniverserestedatmymother’sfeet
istrugglesodeeplytounderstandhowsomeonecanpourtheirentiresoulbloodandenergyintosomeonewithoutwantinganythinginreturn
-iwillhavetowaittilli’mamother
noitwon’tbeloveatfirstsightwhenwemeetit’llbeloveatfirstremembrancecausei’veseenyouinmymother’seyeswhenshetellsmetomarrythetypeofmani’dwanttoraisemysontobelike
everyrevolutionstartsandendswithhislips
whatamitoyouheasksiputmyhandsinhislapandwhisperyouareeveryhopei’veeverhadinhumanform
myfavoritethingaboutyouisyoursmellyousmelllikeearthherbsgardensalittlemorehumanthantherestofus
iknowishouldcrumbleforbetterreasonsbuthaveyouseenthatboyhebringsthesuntoitskneeseverynight
youarethefaintlinebetweenfaithandblindlywaiting
-lettertomyfuturelover
nothingissaferthanthesoundofyoureadingoutloudtome
-theperfectdate
heplacedhishandsonmymindbeforereachingformywaistmyhipsormylipshedidn’tcallmebeautifulfirsthecalledmeexquisite
-howhetouchesme
iamlearninghowtolovehimbylovingmyself
hesaysiamsorryiamnotaneasypersontowantilookathimsurprisedwhosaidiwantedeasyidon’tcraveeasyicravegoddamndifficult
theverythoughtofyouhasmylegsspreadapartlikeaneaselwithacanvasbeggingforart
iamreadyforyouihavealwaysbeenreadyforyou
-thefirsttime
idonotwanttohaveyoutofilltheemptypartsofmeiwanttobefullonmyowniwanttobesocompleteicouldlightawholecityandtheniwanttohaveyoucausethetwoofuscombinedcouldsetitonfire
lovewillcomeandwhenlovecomeslovewillholdyoulovewillcallyournameandyouwillmeltsometimesthoughlovewillhurtyoubutlovewillnevermeantolovewillplaynogamescauseloveknowslifehasbeenhardenoughalready
i’dbelyingifisaidyoumakemespeechlessthetruthisyoumakemytonguesoweakitforgetswhatlanguagetospeakin
heasksmewhatidoitellhimiworkforasmallcompanythatmakespackagingfor—hestopsmemidsentencenonotwhatyoudotopaythebillswhatdrivesyoucrazywhatkeepsyouupatnight
itellhimiwriteheasksmetoshowhimsomethingitakethetipsofmyfingersplacetheminsidehisforearmandgrazethemdownhiswristgoosebumpsrisetothesurfaceiseehismouthclenchmusclestightenhiseyesporeintomineasthoughi’mthereasonformakingthemblinkibreakgazejustasheinchestowardmeistepback
sothat’swhatyoudoyoucommandattentionmycheeksflushasismileshylyconfessingican’thelpit
youmightnothavebeenmyfirstlovebutyouwerethelovethatmadealltheotherlovesirrelevant
you’vetouchedmewithouteventouchingme
howdoyouturnaforestfirelikemesosoftiturnintorunningwater
youlooklikeyousmellofhoneyandnopainletmehaveatasteofthat
yournameisthestrongestpositiveandnegativeconnotationinanylanguageiteitherlightsmeuporleavesmeachingfordays
youtalktoomuchhewhispersintomyearicanthinkofbetterwaystousethatmouth
it’syourvoicethatundressesme
mynamesoundssogoodfrenchkissingyourtongue
youwrapyourfingersaroundmyhairandpullthisishowyoumakemusicoutofme
-foreplay
ondayslikethisineedyoutorunyourfingersthroughmyhairandspeaksoftly
-you
iwantyourhandstoholdnotmyhandsyourlipstokissnotmylipsbutotherplaces
ineedsomeonewhoknowsstruggleaswellasidosomeonewillingtoholdmyfeetintheirlapondaysitistoodifficulttostandthetypeofpersonwhogivesexactlywhatineedbeforeievenknowineeditthetypeofloverwhohearsmeevenwhenidonotspeakisthetypeofunderstandingidemand
-thetypeofloverineed
youmovemyhandbetweenmylegsandwhispermakethoseprettylittlefingersdanceforme
-soloperformance
we’vebeenarguingmorethanweoughtto.aboutthingsneitherofusrememberorcareaboutcausethat’showweavoidthebiggerquestions.insteadofaskingwhywedon’tsayiloveyoutooneanotherasoftenasweusedto.wefightaboutthingslike:whowassupposedtogetupandturnthelightsofffirst.orwhowassupposedtopopthefrozenpizzaintheovenafterwork.takinghitsatthemostvulnerablepartsofoneanother.we’relikefingersonthornshoney.weknowexactlywhereithurts.
andeverythingisonthetabletonight.likethatonetimeyouwhisperedanamei’mprettysurewasn’tmineinyoursleep.orlastweekwhenyousaidyouwereworkinglate.soicalledworkbuttheysaidyou’dalreadyleftacouplehoursago.wherewereyouforthosecouplehours.
iknow.iknow.yourexcusesmakeallthesenseintheworld.andigetalittlecarriedawayfornogoodreasonandeventuallybegincrying.butwhatelsedoyouexpectbaby.iloveyousomuch.i’msorryithoughtyouwerelying.
that’swhenyouholdyourheadwithyourhandsinfrustration.halfbeggingmetostop.halftiredandsickofit.thetoxininourmouthshasburntholesinourcheeks.welooklessalivethanweusedto.lesscolorinourfaces.butdon’tkidyourself.nomatterhowbaditgetswebothknowyoustillwannanailmetotheground.
especiallywheni’mscreamingsoloudourfightingwakestheneighbors.andtheycomerunningtothedoortosaveus.babydon’topenit.
instead.liemedown.laymeopenlikeamap.andwithyourfingertracetheplacesyoustillwantto****outofme.kissmelikeiamthecenterpointofgravityandyouarefallingintomelikemysoulisthefocalpointofyours.andwhenyourmouthiskissingnotmymouthbutotherplaces.mylegswillsplitapartoutofhabit.andthat’swhen.ipullyouin.welcomeyou.home.
whentheentirestreetislookingouttheirwindowswonderingwhatallthecommotionis.andthefiretruckscomerollingintosaveusbuttheycan’tdistinguishwhethertheseflamesbeganwithourangerorourpassion.iwillsmile.throwmyheadback.archmybodylikeamountainyouwanttosplitinhalf.babylickme.
likeyourmouthhasthegiftofreadingandi’myourfavoritebook.findyourfavoritepageinthesoftspotbetweenmylegsandreaditcarefully.fluently.vividly.don’tyoudareleaveasingleworduntouched.andiswearmyendingwillbesogood.thelastfewwordswillcome.runningtoyourmouth.andwhenyou’redone.takeaseat.causeit’smyturntomakemusicwithmykneespressedtotheground.
sweetbaby.this.ishowwepulllanguageoutofoneanotherwiththeflickofourtongues.thisishowwehavetheconversation.this.ishowwemakeup.
-howwemakeup
whenmymothersaysideservebetterisnaptoyourdefenseoutofhabithestilllovesmeishoutshelooksatmewithdefeatedeyesthewayaparentlooksattheirchildwhentheyknowthisisthetypeofpaineventheycan’tfixandsaysitmeansnothingtomeifhelovesyouifhecan’tdoasinglewretchedthingaboutit
youweresodistantiforgotyouwerethereatall
yousaid.ifitismeanttobe.fatewillbringusbacktogether.forasecondiwonderifyouarereallythatnaive.ifyoureallybelievefateworkslikethat.asifitlivesintheskystaringdownatus.asifithasfivefingersandspendsitstimeplacinguslikepiecesofchess.asifitisnotthechoiceswemake.whotaughtyouthat.tellme.whoconvincedyou.you’vebeengivenaheartandamindthatisn’tyourstouse.thatyouractionsdonotdefinewhatwillbecomeofyou.iwanttoscreamandshoutit’susyoufool.we’retheonlyonesthatcanbringusbacktogether.butinsteadisitquietly.smilingsoftlythroughquiveringlipsthinking.isn’titsuchatragicthing.whenyoucanseeitsoclearlybuttheotherpersondoesn’t.
don’tmistakesaltforsugarifhewantstobewithyouhewillit’sthatsimple
heonlywhispersiloveyouasheslipshishandsdownthewaistbandofyourpants
thisiswhereyoumustunderstandthedifferencebetweenwantandneedyoumaywantthatboybutyoucertainlydon’tneedhim
youweretemptinglybeautifulbutstungwhenigotclose
thewomanwhocomesaftermewillbeabootlegversionofwhoiam.shewilltryandwritepoemsforyoutoerasetheonesi’veleftmemorizedonyourlipsbutherlinescouldneverpunchyouinthestomachthewayminedid.shewillthentrytomakelovetoyourbody.butshewillneverlick,caress,orsucklikeme.shewillbeasadreplacementofthewomanyouletslip.nothingshedoeswillexciteyouandthiswillbreakher.whensheistiredoffallingapartforamanthatdoesn’tgivebackwhathetakesshewillrecognizemeinyoureyelidsstaringatherwithpityandit’llhither.howcansheloveamanwhoisbusylovingsomeonehecannevergethishandsonagain.
thenexttimeyouhaveyourcoffeeblackyou’lltastethebitterstateheleftyouinitwillmakeyouweepbutyou’llneverstopdrinkingyou’dratherhavethedarkestpartsofhimthanhavenothing
morethananythingiwanttosaveyoufrommyself
youhavespentenoughnightswithhismanhoodcurledinsideyourlegstoforgetwhatlonelinessfeelslike
youwhisperiloveyouwhatyoumeanisidon’twantyoutoleave
that’sthethingaboutloveitmarinatesyourlipstilltheonlywordyourmouthremembersishisname
itmusthurttoknowiamyourmostbeautifulregret
ididn’tleavebecauseistoppedlovingyouileftbecausethelongeristayedthelessilovedmyself
youmustn’thavetomakethemwantyoutheymustwantyouthemselves
didyouthinkiwasacitybigenoughforaweekendgetawayiamthetownsurroundingittheoneyou’veneverheardofbutalwayspassthroughtherearenoneonlightsherenoskyscrapersorstatuesbutthereisthunderforimakebridgestrembleiamnotstreetmeatiamhomemadejamthickenoughtocutthesweetestthingyourlipswilltouchiamnotpolicesirensiamthecrackleofafireplacei’dburnyouandyoustillcouldn’ttakeyoureyesoffmecausei’dlooksobeautifuldoingityou’dblushiamnotahotelroomiamhomeiamnotthewhiskeyyouwantiamthewateryouneeddon’tcomeherewithexpectationsandtrytomakeavacationoutofme
theonewhoarrivesafteryouwillremindmeloveissupposedtobesoft
hewilltastelikethepoetryiwishicouldwrite
ifhecan’thelpbutdegradeotherwomenwhenthey’renotlookingiftoxicityiscentraltohislanguagehecouldholdyouinhislapandbesofthoneythatmancouldfeedyousugaranddouseyouinrosewaterbutthatstillcouldnotmakehimsweet
-ifyouwanttoknowthetypeofmanheis
iamamuseumfullofartbutyouhadyoureyesshut
youmusthaveknownyouwerewrongwhenyourfingersweredippedinsidemesearchingforhoneythatwouldnotcomeforyou
thethingworthholdingontowouldnothaveletgo
whenyouarebrokenandhehasleftyoudonotquestionwhetheryouwereenoughtheproblemwasyouweresoenoughhewasnotabletocarryit
lovemadethedangerinyoulooklikesafety
evenwhenyouundressheryouaresearchingformeiamsorryitastesogoodwhenthetwoofyoumakeloveitisstillmynamethatrollsoffyourtongueaccidently
youtreatthemliketheyhaveaheartlikeyoursbutnoteveryonecanbeassoftandastender
youdon’tseethepersontheyareyouseethepersontheyhavethepotentialtobe
yougiveandgivetilltheypulleverythingoutofyouandleaveyouempty
ihadtoleaveiwastiredofallowingyoutomakemefeelanythinglessthanwhole
youwerethemostbeautifulthingi’deverfelttillnow.andiwasconvincedyou’dremainthemostbeautifulthingi’deverfeel.doyouknowhowlimitingthatis.tothinkatsucharipeyoungagei’dexperiencedthemostexhilaratingpersoni’devermeet.howi’dspendtherestofmylifejustsettling.tothinki’dtastedtherawestformofhoneyandeverythingelsewouldberefinedandsynthetic.thatnothingbeyondthispointwouldaddup.thatalltheyearsbeyondmecouldnotcombinethemselvestobesweeterthanyou.
-falsehood
idon’tknowwhatlivingabalancedlifefeelslikewheniamsadidon’tcryipourwheniamhappyidon’tsmileiglowwheniamangryidon’tyelliburn
thegoodthingaboutfeelinginextremesiswheniloveigivethemwingsbutperhapsthatisn’tsuchagoodthingcausetheyalwaystendtoleaveandyoushouldseemewhenmyheartisbrokenidon’tgrieveishatter
icameallthiswaytogiveyouallthesethingsbutyouaren’tevenlooking
theabusedandtheabuser
-ihavebeenboth
iamundoingyoufrommyskin
itwasn’tyouiwaskissing—don’tbemistaken
itwashimonmymindyourlipswerejustconvenient
italwayscomesbacktoyouboilscirclesitchesitswaybacktoyou
iwasmusicbutyouhadyourearscutoff
mytongueissourfromthehungerofmissingyou
iwillnothaveyoubuildmeintoyourlifewhenwhatiwantistobuildalifewithyou
-thedifference
riversfallfrommymouthtearsmyeyescan’tcarry
youaresnakeskinandikeepsheddingyousomehowmymindisforgettingeveryexquisitedetailofyourfacethelettinggohasbecometheforgettingwhichisthemostpleasantandsaddestthingtohavehappened
youwerenotwrongforleavingyouwerewrongforcomingbackandthinkingyoucouldhavemewhenitwasconvenientandleavewhenitwasnot
howcaniwriteifhetookmyhandswithhim
neitherofusishappybutneitherofuswantstoleavesowekeepbreakingoneanotherandcallingitlove
webeganwithhonestyletusendinittoo
-us
yourvoicealonedrivesmetotears
idon’tknowwhyisplitmyselfopenforothersknowingsewingmyselfuphurtsthismuchafterward
peoplegobuthowtheyleftalwaysstays
loveisnotcruelwearecruelloveisnotagamewehavemadeagameoutoflove
howcanourlovedieifit’swritteninthesepages
evenafterthehurtthelossthepainthebreakingyourbodyisstilltheonlyoneiwanttobeundressedunder
thenightafteryouleftiwokeupsobrokentheonlyplacetoputthepieceswerethebagsundermyeyes
stayiwhisperedasyoushutthedoorbehindyou
iamconfidentiamoveryou.somuchthatsomemorningsiwakeupwithasmileonmyfaceandmyhandspressedtogetherthankingtheuniverseforpullingyououtofme.thankgodicry.thankgodyouleft.iwouldnotbetheempireiamtodayifyouhadstayed.
butthen.
therearesomenightsiimaginewhatimightdoifyoushowedup.howifyouwalkedintotheroomthisverysecondeveryawfulthingyou’veeverdonewouldbetossedouttheclosestwindowandallthelovewouldriseupagain.itwouldpourthroughmyeyesasifitneverreallyleftinthefirstplace.asifit’sbeenpracticinghowtostaysilentsolongonlysoitcouldbethisloudonyourarrival.cansomeoneexplainthat.howevenwhentheloveleaves.itdoesn’tleave.howevenwheniamsopastyou.iamsohelplesslybroughtbacktoyou.
heisn’tcomingbackwhisperedmyheadhehastosobbedmyheart
-wilting
idon’twanttobefriendsiwantallofyou
-more
iamlosingpartsofyoulikeiloseeyelashesunknowinglyandeverywhere
youcannotleaveandhavemetooicannotexistintwoplacesatonce
-whenyouaskifwecanstillbefriends
iamwater
softenoughtoofferlifetoughenoughtodrownitaway
whatimissmostishowyoulovedme.butwhatididn’tknowwashowyoulovedmehadsomuchtodowiththepersoniwas.itwasareflectionofeverythingigavetoyou.comingbacktome.howdidinotseethat.how.didisitheresoakingintheideathatnooneelsewouldlovemethatway.whenitwasithattaughtyou.whenitwasithatshowedyouhowtofill.thewayineededtobefilled.howcrueliwastomyself.givingyoucreditformywarmthsimplybecauseyouhadfeltit.thinkingitwasyouwhogavemestrength.wit.beauty.simplybecauseyourecognizedit.asifiwasalreadynotthesethingsbeforeimetyou.asifididnotremainalltheseonceyouleft.
youleavebutyoudon’tstaygonewhydoyoudothatwhydoyouabandonthethingyouwanttokeepwhydoyoulingerinaplaceyoudonotwanttostaywhydoyouthinkit’sokaytodobothgoandreturnallatonce
iwilltellyouaboutselfishpeople.evenwhentheyknowtheywillhurtyoutheywalkintoyourlifetotasteyoubecauseyouarethetypeofbeingtheydon’twanttomissouton.youaretoomuchshinetonotbefelt.sowhentheyhavegottenagoodlookateverythingyouhavetooffer.whentheyhavetakenyourskinyourhairyoursecretswiththem.whentheyrealizehowrealthisis.howmuchofastormyouareandithitsthem.
thatiswhenthecowardicesetsin.thatiswhenthepersonyouthoughttheywereisreplacedbythesadrealityofwhattheyare.thatiswhentheyloseeveryfightingboneintheirbodyandleaveaftersayingyouwillfindbetterthanme.
youwillstandtherenakedwithhalfofthemstillhiddensomewhereinsideyouandsob.askingthemwhytheydidit.whytheyforcedyoutolovethemwhentheyhadnointentionoflovingyoubackandthey’llsaysomethingalongthelinesofijusthadtotry.ihadtogiveitachance.itwasyouafterall.
butthatisn’tromantic.itisn’tsweet.theideathattheyweresoengulfedbyyourexistencetheyhadtoriskbreakingitforthesakeofknowingtheyweren’ttheonemissingout.yourexistencemeantthatlittlenexttotheircuriosityofyou.
thatisthethingaboutselfishpeople.theygambleentirebeings.entiresoulstopleasetheirown.onesecondtheyareholdingyouliketheworldintheirlapandthenexttheyhavebelittledyoutoamerepicture.amoment.somethingofthepast.onesecond.theyswallowyouupandwhispertheywanttospendtherestoftheirlifewithyou.butthemomenttheysensefear.theyarealreadyhalfwayoutthedoor.withouthavingthenervetoletyougowithgrace.asifthehumanheartmeansthatlittletothem.
andafterallthis.afterallofthetaking.thenerve.isn’titsadandfunnyhowpeoplehavemoregutsthesedaystoundressyouwiththeirfingersthantheydotopickupthephoneandcall.apologize.fortheloss.andthisishowyouloseher.
-selfish
todolist(afterthebreakup):
1.takerefugeinyourbed.2.cry.tillthetearsstop(thiswilltakeafewdays).3.don’tlistentoslowsongs.4.deletetheirnumberfromyourphoneeventhoughitismemorizedonyourfingertips.5.don’tlookatoldphotos.6.findtheclosesticecreamshopandtreatyourselftotwoscoopsofmintchocolatechip.themint
willcalmyourheart.youdeservethechocolate.7.buynewbedsheets.8.collectallthegifts,t-shirts,andeverythingwiththeirsmellonitanddropitoffatadonation
center.9.planatrip.10.perfecttheartofsmilingandnoddingwhensomeonebringstheirnameupinconversation.11.startanewproject.12.whateveryoudo.donotcall.13.donotbegforwhatdoesnotwanttostay.14.stopcryingatsomepoint.15.allowyourselftofeelfoolishforbelievingyoucould’vebuilttherestofyourlifeinsomeone
else’sstomach.16.breathe.
thewaytheyleavetellsyoueverything
perhapsidon’tdeservenicethingscauseiampayingforsinsidon’tremember
thethingaboutwritingisican’ttellifit’shealingordestroyingme
donotbotherholdingontothatthingthatdoesnotwantyou
-youcannotmakeitstay
youmustenterarelationshipwithyourselfbeforeanyoneelse
acceptthatyoudeservemorethanpainfullovelifeismovingthehealthiestthingforyourheartistomovewithit
itisapartofthehumanexperiencetofeelpaindonotbeafraidopenyourselftoit
-evolving
lonelinessisasignyouareindesperateneedofyourself
youareinthehabitofco-dependingonpeopletomakeupforwhatyouthinkyoulack
whotrickedyouintobelievinganotherpersonwasmeanttocompleteyouwhenthemosttheycandoiscomplement
donotlookforhealingatthefeetofthosewhobrokeyou
ifyouwerebornwiththeweaknesstofallyouwerebornwiththestrengthtorise
perhapsthesaddestofallarethosewholivewaitingforsomeonethey’renotsureexists
-7billionpeople
staystrongthroughyourpaingrowflowersfromityouhavehelpedmegrowflowersoutofminesobloombeautifullydangerouslyloudlybloomsoftlyhoweveryouneedjustbloom
-tothereader
ithanktheuniversefortakingeverythingithastakenandgivingtomeeverythingitisgiving
-balance
ittakesgracetoremainkindincruelsituations
fallinlovewithyoursolitude
thereisadifferencebetweensomeonetellingyoutheyloveyouandthemactuallylovingyou
sometimestheapologynevercomeswhenitiswanted
andwhenitcomesitisneitherwantednorneeded
-youaretoolate
youtellmeiamnotlikemostgirlsandlearntokissmewithyoureyesclosedsomethingaboutthephrase—somethingabouthowihavetobeunlikethewomenicallsistersinordertobewantedmakesmewanttospityourtongueoutlikeiamsupposedtobeproudyoupickedmeasifishouldberelievedyouthinkiambetterthanthem
thenexttimehepointsoutthehaironyourlegsisgrowingbackremindthatboyyourbodyisnothishomeheisaguestwarnhimtoneveroutstephiswelcomeagain
tobesoftistobepowerful
youdeservetobecompletelyfoundinyoursurroundingsnotlostwithinthem
iknowit’shardbelievemeiknowitfeelsliketomorrowwillnevercomeandtodaywillbethemostdifficultdaytogetthroughbutiswearyouwillgetthroughthehurtwillpassasitalwaysdoesifyougiveittimeandletitsoletitgoslowlylikeabrokenpromiseletitgo
ilikethewaythestretchmarksonmythighslookhumanandthatwe’resosoftyetroughandjunglewildwhenweneedtobeilovethataboutushowcapableweareoffeelinghowunafraidweareofbreakingandtendtoourwoundswithgracejustbeingawomancallingmyselfawomanmakesmeutterlywholeandcomplete
myissuewithwhattheyconsiderbeautifulistheirconceptofbeautycentersaroundexcludingpeopleifindhairbeautifulwhenawomanwearsitlikeagardenonherskinthatisthedefinitionofbeautybighookednosespointingupwardtotheskylikethey’rerisingtotheoccasionskinthecolorofearthmyancestorsplantedcropsontofeedalineageofwomenwiththighsthickastreetrunkseyeslikealmondsdeeplyhoodedwithconvictiontheriversofpunjabflowthroughmybloodstreamsodon’ttellmemywomenaren’tasbeautifulastheonesinyourcountry
ourbackstellstoriesnobookshavethespinetocarry
-womenofcolor
acceptyourselfasyouweredesigned
yourbodyisamuseumofnaturaldisasterscanyougrasphowstunningthatis
losingyouwasthebecomingofmyself
otherwomen’sbodiesarenotourbattlegrounds
removingallthehairoffyourbodyisokayifthat’swhatyouwanttodojustasmuchaskeepingallthehaironyourbodyisokayifthat’swhatyouwanttodo
-youbelongonlytoyourself
apparentlyitisungracefulofmetomentionmyperiodinpubliccausetheactualbiologyofmybodyistooreal
itisokaytosellwhat’sbetweenawoman’slegsmorethanitisokaytomentionitsinnerworkings
therecreationaluseofthisbodyisseenasbeautifulwhileitsnatureisseenasugly
youwereadragonlongbeforehecamearoundandsaidyoucouldfly
youwillremainadragonlongafterhe’sleft
iwanttoapologizetoallthewomenihavecalledprettybeforei’vecalledthemintelligentorbraveiamsorryimadeitsoundasthoughsomethingassimpleaswhatyou’rebornwithisthemostyouhavetobeproudofwhenyourspirithascrushedmountainsfromnowoniwillsaythingslikeyouareresilientoryouareextraordinarynotbecauseidon’tthinkyou’reprettybutbecauseyouaresomuchmorethanthat
ihavewhatihaveandiamhappy
i’velostwhati’velostandiamstillhappy
-outlook
youlookatmeandcryeverythinghurts
iholdyouandwhisperbuteverythingcanheal
ifthehurtcomessowillthehappiness
-bepatient
thenamekaurmakesmeafreewomanitremovestheshacklesthattrytobindmeupliftsmetoremindmeiamequaltoanymaneventhoughthestateofthisworldscreamstomeiamnotthatiammyownwomanandibelongwhollytomyselfandtheuniverseithumblesmecallsoutandsaysihaveauniversaldutytosharewithhumanitytonurtureandservethesisterhoodtoraisethosethatneedraisingthenamekaurrunsinmyblooditwasinmebeforetheworditselfexisteditismyidentityandmyliberation
-kaurawomanofsikhi
theworldgivesyousomuchpainandhereyouaremakinggoldoutofit
-thereisnothingpurerthanthat
howyouloveyourselfishowyouteachotherstoloveyou
myheartachesforsistersmorethananythingitachesforwomenhelpingwomenlikeflowersacheforspring
thegoddessbetweenyourlegsmakesmouthswater
youareyourownsoulmate
somepeoplearesobitter
tothemyoumustbekindest
weallmoveforwardwhenwerecognizehowresilientandstrikingthewomenaroundusare
foryoutoseebeautyheredoesnotmeanthereisbeautyinmeitmeansthereisbeautyrootedsodeepwithinyouyoucan’thelpbutseeiteverywhere
hairifitwasnotsupposedtobetherewouldnotbegrowingonourbodiesinthefirstplace
-weareatwarwithwhatcomesmostnaturallytous
mostimportantlylovelikeit’stheonlythingyouknowhowattheendofthedayallthismeansnothingthispagewhereyou’resittingyourdegreeyourjobthemoneynothingevenmattersexceptloveandhumanconnectionwhoyoulovedandhowdeeplyyoulovedthemhowyoutouchedthepeoplearoundyouandhowmuchyougavethem
iwanttoremainsorootedtothegroundthesetearsthesehandsthesefeetsinkin
-grounded
youhavetostopsearchingforwhyatsomepointyouhavetoleaveitalone
ifyouarenotenoughforyourselfyouwillneverbeenoughforsomeoneelse
youmustwanttospendtherestofyourlifewithyourselffirst
ofcourseiwanttobesuccessfulbutidon’tcravesuccessformeineedtobesuccessfultogainenoughmilkandhoneytohelpthosearoundmesucceed
myheartbeatquickensatthethoughtofbirthingpoemswhichiswhyiwillneverstopopeningmyselfuptoconceivethemthelovemakingtothewordsissoeroticiameitherinloveorinlustwiththewritingorboth
whatterrifiesmemostishowwefoamatthemouthwithenvywhenotherssucceedbutsighinreliefwhentheyarefailing
ourstruggletocelebrateeachotheriswhat’sprovenmostdifficultinbeinghuman
yourartisnotabouthowmanypeoplelikeyourworkyourartisaboutifyourheartlikesyourworkifyoursoullikesyourworkit’sabouthowhonestyouarewithyourselfandyoumustnevertradehonestyforrelatability
-toallyouyoungpoets
givetothosewhohavenothingtogivetoyou
-seva(selflessservice)
yousplitmeopeninthemosthonestwaythereistosplitasoulopenandforcedmetowriteatatimeiwassureicouldnotwriteagain
-thankyou
youhavemadeittotheend.withmyheartinyourhands.thankyou.forarrivingheresafely.forbeingtenderwiththemostdelicatepartofme.sitdown.breathe.youmustbetired.letmekissyourhands.youreyes.theymustbewantingofsomethingsweet.iamsendingyouallmysugar.iwouldbenowhereandnothingifitwerenotforyou.you’vehelpedmebecomethewomaniwantedtobe.butwastooafraidtobe.doyouhaveanyideahowmuchofamiracleyouare.howlovelyit’sbeen.andhowlovelyitwillalwaysbe.iamkneelingbeforeyou.sayingthankyou.iamsendingmylovetoyoureyes.maytheyalwaysseegoodnessinpeople.andmayyoualwayspracticekindness.mayweseeeachotherasone.maywebenothingshortofinlovewitheverythingtheuniversehastooffer.andmaywealwaysstaygrounded.rooted.ourfeetplantedfirmlyontotheearth.
-aloveletterfrommetoyou
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