michelle.pavlick personal topic presentation
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LOVE, COMMITMENT, AND SELF-RESPECT
Michelle PavlickPSY220
February 27, 2011Lisa A. Tobler, MS
ATTACHMENT
STYLES
Warm and responsive
Cold and rejecting
Ambivalent and inconsistent
EXPLORING LOVE
Commitment Passion Intimacy
Caring 44% Happiness 29% Wanting to be with other
person 28% Commitment 14%
My Features of Love Poll Taken - Crucial Features
LOVE’S TRIANGLELikingInfatuated LoveRomantic LoveConsummate Love
BUILDING CLOSE RELATIONSHIPSTime to talkHandle Conflict ConstructivelyExpress admirationShow AffectionCreate Shared Meaning
ROMANTIC ATTACHMENT STYLES
Secure – trusting, caringAvoidant – dismissing,
highs and lowsAnxious – emotional,
possessive
CO
MM
ITMEN
T IN STR
IVING
S
Avoiding negative goalsDistressed and anxious
Seeking positive goalsBoldly approaching
conflict
REASONS FOR STRIVING Extrinsic – Someone
thinks it is good Introjected – Avoid
feeling anxious Identified – Important
goals taught to me Intrinsic – Enjoy the
experiences
SELF-RESPEC
T
Thoughts
Feelings
Actions
SELF-CONCEPT - OUR POSSIBLE SELVES
Culture Evaluate Self Social Strengths &
Weaknesses
SELF-ESTEEM
SELF-WORTH
Love, acceptance, and self-esteem
MULTIPLE CONTINGENCIES
Liability or Asset?
PRACTICING SELF-FORGETFULNESS
Cultivate Other Strengths
Experience Awe
Focus Beyond Self
Model Humility
Demonstrate Balance
LEAR
NIN
G TO
LOVE
Commitment to
break the cycle
REFERENCESAxia College (2004). Self-Respect. Retrieved from Axia
College, PSY220 website.
Axia College (2004). Love. Retrieved from Axia College, PSY220 website.
Axia College (2004). Commitment. Retrieved from Axia College, PSY220 website.
Michelle Morand (2011). What is Self-Respect? Self-Growth.com Retrieved February 27, 2011 from http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/what_is_selfrespect