mentoring&befriending foundation: “training mentors: how to develop mentors’ interpersonal...
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How to develop your mentors’ interpersonal and communication skills
Date: 8th November 2014 Location: Barcelona Facilitator: Val Barritt, Head of training & quality assurance ([email protected])
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To provide an overview of the key stages in a typical mentoring relationship – starting out together; getting to know the person; identifying issues to work on; action planning; standing alongside and concluding the relationship
To explore the interpersonal and communication skills required at each stage and what educators can do to help their mentors to develop these skills, for example: rapport building; empathetic listening; helpful questioning; setting goals with someone and managing the end of the relationship
Aims of the workshop
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The Mentoring and Befriending Foundation provides services which aim to increase the effectiveness and quality of mentoring and befriending as methods of enabling individuals to transform their lives and/or reach their full potential:
Training and resources – we provide high quality training and resources to support the development and management of mentoring and befriending projects
Quality Assurance – we encourage organisations to achieve our quality standard, the Approved Provider Standard (APS) as a way of promoting good practice
MBF network membership – we provide a membership network for individuals and organisations interested in mentoring and befriending
About MBF
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Mentoring is...
A voluntary, mutually beneficial and purposeful relationship in which an individual gives time to support another to enable them to make changes in their life.
(MBF)
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Mentoring definition
“Social mentoring is a tool for educational intervention which promotes the voluntary relationship between people who offer to provide individual support and people who are at risk of social exclusion.
This relationship is motivated and supervised by a professional. The volunteer (mentor) “helps the mentee make their way” and supports them in their personal and/or career development.”
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Social mentoring
Stages of mentoring relationship
1.STARTING OUT Beginning the relationship Getting to know the person
2. GETTING GOING Focusing on issues Helping develop new perspectives Action planning
33. MAKING PROGRESS Standing alongside
4. REACHING THE DESTINATION Ending the relationship
HANDOUT 1
Mentoring is about a helping and supporting relationship.
It involves interaction between people - the mentor and the
mentee
A mentor needs to develop and use skills related to:
Rapport building
Empathetic listening
Questioning approaches
Setting goals
Managing the end of the relationship
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Skills of mentoring
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The learning cycle
Do something
(Activist)
Think about it
(Reflector)
Make sense of it
(Theorist)
Test it out
(Pragmatist)
Close and harmonious relationship in which there is common understanding.
It’s a relationship in action, our sense of connection with each other.
The link and mutual understanding that exists between two people, often built over time and through shared experiences.
Rapport works on features of ‘sameness.’
Rapport – what is it?
Empathy is the ability to:
Listen and attend to the other person and enter their reality
Make sense of what you hear
Identify key experiences, thoughts and feelings and communicate your understanding sensitively
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Empathy
Empathy involves:
The skills of active listening
Awareness of your own feelings and perceptions
Good communication skills
Sensitivity and respect towards the other person’s viewpoint and frame of reference
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It enables the other person to:
Feel valued and understood
Develop trust and openness towards the listener
Open up about what is on their mind
Focus on what they are trying to express
Express themselves without pressure
Feel supported
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Empathetic listening skills practise
Working in pairs
Handout 2: listening skills brief
Handout 3: 10 steps to positive communication
Empathetic listening skills
Stages of mentoring relationship
1.STARTING OUT Beginning the relationship Getting to know the person
2. GETTING GOING Focusing on issues Helping develop new perspectives Action planning
33. MAKING PROGRESS Standing alongside
4. REACHING THE DESTINATION Ending the relationship
HANDOUT 1
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The wheel
H handout 5
Finding employment
Life skills
Social
Technical skills
Education & training
Other
Personal wellbeing
Soft skills
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Managing endings
What will a good ending look like for mentor and mentee?
How will you help your mentors to manage the ‘ending’ of their mentoring relationship?
Summary
Final questions
Find out more about our training, resources, network membership and our Quality standard (APS) by visiting our website www.mandbf.org
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Wrap up of session