Men and Women

The beginning…

Trust

Becoming Friends

•Similarities•Proximity•Where do you meet friends?•Opposites•Complements•Social Exchange Theory

•Attraction•Selection•Transition•Infatuation

LOVEWhen the satisfaction, security, and development of another person is as important to you as your own satisfaction, security, and development, love exists.

Passion

Intimacy

Commitment

•Lasts Forever

•Conquers All•Positive•Awareness•No Control

TYPES OF LOVE

Games

Possessive

Logical

Altruistic

Companionate

Exotic

Adjustment

• Changes

• The Bad

• 5:1

Calm

Validate

Not being defensive

Practice

Codependency

Growing Apart• Infinite wisdom of Dr. Phil

• When to make large decisions

• Do everything else first

Exercise: Personal Ads

• Describe yourself: physical characteristics, hobbies, interests and beliefs

• Describe the characteristics you want your date to have

• Example: Divorced black female (DBF) in her 30’s, interested in hiking, skiing, reading, dancing, the beach and just having a good time; seeks a black male (BM) 28-35 for companionship, attractive, not too heavy, not too tall, interested in outdoor activities and country western music, must be sincere

My white brothas, this one is for you. It's time for you to come home to Africa. Some of your brotheren are already following suit. Halle Berry's man, movie critic Roger Ebert, Mr. Big from sex and the city, Matthew Mcounghy, chef Wolfgan Puck hell even he has seen the light. Come to the light my white brothas, leave Barbie behind and come home to Africa and claim your queens. We'll be waiting...

Note: Ok if you didn't laugh at least a little, you must not have a good sense of humor.:)

I am looking to meet some new people and somehow picking up men in the bar hasn't led me to the finest men, Hello there, I am a girl who wants to have fun but also to get serious I mean I think I can do both, I don't know what to say exactly,

Just looking for a fun loving guy who is smart funny and above all honest.

Happiness depends upon ourselves

The Revolution will be Televised - 36

Yes, it's true. I'm picky that way... What do you "love" and "hate"? Sitting home on Valentine's wondering why. Any attractive CL women want to get to know a cute, smart, tall, funny, 30's guy? Send me a pic and maybe your IM and we can chat the night away. You never know until you try and it's all about chemistry. We might have it.

Love Tomatoes, Hate Mushrooms

Discussion1. How did most people describe themselves: by

physical characteristics, interest or attitudes?

2. What were most people looking for in a date: attractiveness, similar interest, or satisfaction?

3. Why do you think most people advertise? Is it because they’re lonely, because it’s a a quicker way of screening your dates or because they’re weird?

4. Can you believe what most people are saying about themselves?

5. Should a person advertise? What are the advantages and disadvantages?

6. Have you or anyone you know advertised? What were the results?