marriage 8
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7/28/2019 Marriage 8
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Struggling to Forgive
How do you forgive someone who was never supposed to hurt you in the first place? Why
forgive them? What about all the damage to your marriage and family? The best answer is youmust; forgiveness was extended to you. Jesus said in Matthew 6:14-15, "If you forgive those who
sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, yourFather will not forgive your sins." If you refuse to forgive, you operate in sin and in covenant
with Satan.
These questions and declarations are hard to swallow. I have battled with them in my marriage,
but I came out victorious. I battled so much with unforgiveness because I could not see my own
sin. I could not see that my unwillingness to forgive was just as ugly to God as the things Iblamed my husband for. The reason we battle unforgiveness is because we can only see the
depravity in the souls of others, ignoring the beams in our own eyes. I won the battle of
unforgiveness when I realized that I was in need of forgiveness from God and my sweet
husband. I won the battle when I was willing to face the ugliness of my own heart and surrender
my heart to God. I realized my enemies were my own flesh and Satan, who loves to work in myflesh. Unforgiveness is a work of the flesh, and it will remain until you crucify it on the altar of
forgiveness.
We struggle to forgive because we justify our rights and inappropriately apply God's Word.Many of us have declared inwardly or outwardly, "The Bible said, 'Be ye angry.' " We forget the
rest of the Scripture verse: " and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath" (Ephesians
4:26, KJV). If we are honest, many of us are angry and sin for days, weeks, months, years. Manyof us will carry the sin of unforgiveness to our grave.
Forgiveness becomes a struggle when we seek to please our flesh. We struggle because the Holy
Spirit demands that we be like Christ. God is as displeased with unforgiveness as he is withsexual sins, deception, lying, and envy. We must remember that any sin either of us couldcommit, Jesus paid for at Calvary. Who gave us the right to make our spouses pay for sin when
we did not?
Due to the gravity of their offenses, we believe we have the authority to execute judgment on our
mates. But God would never entrust vengeance into our hands. Why? Our sin-stricken souls willnever view our spouses purely through the eyes of God's grace. We should be concerned for
ourselves when we seek revenge on the people we promised to love, honor, and cherish.
Unforgiveness unequivocally implicates the wickedness hidden in our hearts and the depravity ofour own souls.