manners of dialogue - wordpress.com...grade 11 – islamic education unit 2, lesson 3 pages 107 -...

Grade 11 – Islamic Education

Unit 2, Lesson 3

Pages 107 - 114

Theme: Values and Morals of Islam

MANNERS OF

DIALOGUE

8th Nov. 2020

22nd Rabi al Awwal 1442

www.muqith.wordpress.com

I can Explain the concept of the Manners of Dialogue.

I can Define the Manners & Characteristics of the Debater.

I can Describe about the Manners and Benefits of Good Listening.

I can point out the common mistakes people do while having debates of dialogues, and will surely avoid them in my real life.

Explain the concept of the ‘Manners of Dialogue’ in Islam.

Define the manners of Dialogue and the Characteristics of the Debater

List the Manners and Benefits of Good Listening

Learn about the common mistakes people do in debates & dialogues

Manners of Dialogue


»Definition of Dialogue

» 1: a written composition in which two or more characters are represented as conversing.

» 2 a: a conversation between two or more persons

» b: an exchange of ideas and opinions » c: a discussion between representatives

of parties to a conflict that is aimed at resolution

» 3: the conversational element of literary or dramatic composition

Dictionary Check


How do I behave when I have a Dialogue with: my parents? my teachers? with labourers, bus drivers…?

Ask Yourself


When was the last time I had a bitter experience while having dialogue with someone?

Ask Yourself

If yes, what I shouldn’t have done?


The Connecting Point

How can you link the topic

to the INTERACTIVE APPROACH in Online Teaching-Learning?


Power of Speech, Eloquence: Allah’s gifts.

A tongue can build or blast relationships. To preserve one’s Imaan, a Muslim must guard and control his tongue.

“The faith of a servant of Allah will not become straight unless his heart is straight and his heart is not straight unless his tongue is straight”. (Hadeeth)

Straight = Correct / Righteous

The Tongue Power!


“The tongue has no bone

but then it Crushes bones”

Arabic Proverb


Recall Learning Objectives

Every feature has its unique Islamic way

Concept of Dialogue

Manners & Characteristics

Good

Listening Skills

Common

Mistakes in Dialogue


Concept of the Manners of Dialogue

Meaning of the concept of Manners of Dialogue


Co

nce

pt

of

the

M

ann

ers

of

Dia

logu

e

Manners of Dialogue means…

the etiquette of conversation we embody with others. he means of reaching an understanding & having

harmonious relations among humans. For any debater to be successful and acceptable to the

other, he/she must choose the appropriate language & method of a good dialogue.

Manners of Dialogue You, your mind and your tongue


Aesthetic aspect of the Qur’anic Guidance on the Manners of Dialogue

Surah Saba: 24

Surah Saba: 24

ُقْل َمن يَ ْرزُُقُكم مَِّن السََّماَواِت ُكْم ۖ ُقِل اللَّ هُ ۖ َواْْلَْرضِ َوِإَّنَّ َأْو ِإَّيَّ

Say, "Who provides for you َلَعَلٰى ُهًدى َأْو ِف َضََلٍل مُِّبيٍ from the heavens and the earth?" Say, "Allah. And indeed, either we or you are upon guidance or in clear error."

Aesthetic = Beautiful, pleasing, appreciative


Conducting a successful dialogue? 1. …… 2. …… 3. …… 4. …… 5. ……

Factors that help


Manners & Characteristics

Of a sincere debater / speaker


Be sincere.

Avoid Boasting and Bragging

Truth must the goal of any fruitful dialogue.

Having good morals

Remember:

The Angels record what you utter!

“The Muslim is the One from whose hand

and tongue other Muslims are safe”

Maintain friendly facial expressions.

“Smiling is Charity”

Be flexible.

Be modest.

Respect others’ opinions.

Avoid angry, emotional or vulgar

words.

Characteristics of a sincere debater


Critical Thinking Someone chats with people on social

networking sites with a fake id

What is your answer?

What’s the purpose of such chats?

What’s the credibility of such dialogue?

What’s the purpose of hiding the real name?

Possible results of such chats?


Remember Your Book of Deeds!

Everything is recorded.

مَّا يَ ْلِفُظ ِمن قَ ْوٍل ِإَّلَّ َلَدْيِه َرِقيٌب َعِتيدٌ Man does not utter any word except that with him is an observer prepared [to record].

Surah Qaaf: 50: 18



Reflect!

Start with what they know. Be gentle, kind and wise. Respect people as per their status and ranks Avoid fabrication & twisting of words and meanings. Be clear, concise, correct, using common & understandable words. Tell them the topic of the dialogue and show good listening.

Manners of Dialogue

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) did not like: • The talkative • The arrogant • Those who offend people when talking to them


“Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is

enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend.” (Surah Fussilat 34)

The believer is neither a defamer, nor a curser, nor outrageous nor obscene”

(Hadeeth)

يمٌ ٌّ َحَا َنُه َعَداَوٌة َكأَنَُّه َوِلا َنَك َوبَ ي ْ ي بَ ي ْ َذا الَّذا َي َأْحَسُن فَإا لَِّتا ها اْدَفْع ِبا


We can only remove evil with good! www.muqith.wordpress.com

Text Manners of Dialogue

“Strong is not the one who throws another down, but strong is the one who controls himself while in anger”. (Hadeeth)

“A good word is regarded as charity”. (Hadeeth)

“Be moderate in your pace and lower your voice. Indeed, the most hated of voices is the voice of a donkey” (AlQur’an)

“Allah is kind and He loves kindness and confers upon kindness which He doesn’t confer upon harshness and doesn’t confer upon anything else besides it (kindness)” (Hadeeth)


Good Listening Skills

Communication Skill


SILENT

LISTEN

More than just spellings!

• Listening is more than just keeping quiet • & more than just hearing.


Same spelling! To listen, is to be

attentive !!

Think about it

• Were we equipped with two ears and one mouth:

1. Because we should listen twice as much as we talk?

2. Because listening is twice as difficult as talking?

3. As a reminder to use them in that proportion?

4. All of the above.

• “Most people don’t listen. They just wait for their turn to talk”.

• “You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time”.


Group Work

Connect to your group, discuss and submit your inputs.

Why people don’t listen Better? Time: 4 Minutes


1. We think we know better. 2. We think we know what they’ll say. 3. Too many distractions. 4. We’ve had a busy day and we’re too tired to listen carefully. 5. Our minds are closed. 6. We are listening to our own thoughts instead 7. We jump to conclusions. 8. We don’t like the speaker or the message 9. We filter the speaker’s message, hearing only what we want to hear


http://www.muqith.wordpress.com/

Etiquette of Listening

Give ideas to develop listening skill.

What makes your listening better?

A Quick Reading of

Page 110


Involvement is the key!

Ways to Enhance one’s Listening skill

Develop patience. Practice paying attention to the person speaking to you. Push away internal dialogue and stay focused on listening.

Listen to understand what the person is really saying.

Listen to, not against.

Listen with your eyes, mind and heart as well as your ears.

Observe body language.

You don’t need to agree. Just understand from speaker’s perspective.

Tips for Good Listening!


4 Common Mistakes

What defeats the purpose of dialogue


» Worsening the situation due to cursing, insulting and humiliation

» Making prejudgments that the opinion of other party is definitely wrong!

» Apprehension, Embarrassment & Lack of courtesy

» Vain talk and ill speech » Irrelevant points that defeat

the very subject and purpose of dialogue!

Common Mistakes and Deficiencies in Debates/Dialogue


Homework

• It is simple.

• Go through the chapter in the textbook, thoroughly

• Baarakallaahu Feekum.


What’s Your Message?

Say the Du’aa of Ending the Majlis


Supplication at the End of the Class/Majlis

ُسْبح اَنَك اللُِّه مَّ َوِِبَمِدك، َأْشَه ُد َأْن َّل إِلَه ِإَّلِّ أَْنَت َأْستَ ْغِفُرَك

َوأَتوُب إِلَ ْيكGlory is to You, O Allah, and praise is to You.

I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but You. I seek Your forgiveness and repent to You.

فيكم هللا بارك


Credits

• Slide 28 and 30, points taken from Kris Cole’s Crystal Clear Communication

• All images are googled ones.


manners of dialogue - wordpress.com...grade 11 – islamic education unit 2, lesson 3 pages 107 -...

Documents