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Lundy Bancroft
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OVERVIEW OF DAY Understanding men who batter and how
they get away with it.
Understanding the complexity of the man’s impact on children and on their mother.
Supporting battered women as mothers.
Influencing the parenting of batterers.
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OVERVIEW OF DAY
Supporting children’s healing and recovery.
Transforming a community.
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The Tyrannical Boss
How did s/he affect you?
What was the impact on your co-workers?
What effect did s/he have on relationships among co-workers?
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BATTERER PROFILE Consistently true:
Coercively controlling, intimidating, often
including social isolation
Entitled / Self-centered
Believes he is the victim
Manipulative / Good public image
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BATTERER PROFILE Consistently true:
Disrespectful, Superior, Depersonalizing
Punishes, retaliates
Finds his abusive behavior rewarding
Mentality of ownership, objectification
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MYTHS ABOUT MEN WHO BATTER
Skill deficits
Psychopathology
Poor, ethnic minority
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Impact on Family Dynamics
Undermining of mother’s authority
Interference with mother’s parenting
Use of the children as weapons
Sowing of divisions
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Batterers’ Risk to Abuse Children
PHYSICAL ABUSE
49% of batterers
7x more likely than a non-batterer
Correlated with level of physical abuse of partner
Other indicators; level of control, substance abuse, rigid belief system, abused as a child
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Batterers’ Risk to Abuse Children
SEXUAL ABUSE
6x more likely than a non-batterer
Correlated with presence of violence towards partner but not with severity
Other indicators; high entitlement, self-centered, use of children to meet his own needs, manipulative, seeing children as personal possessions, substance abuse, low involvement in infant care
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Batterers’ Style with Children
Authoritarian
Under-involved, neglectful, reckless
Good under observation
Currying favor
Psychologically abusive
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Mothers’ Protective Strategies Mark an X next to a strategy if you do not see how it could
help protect, do not agree with its use, or have serious reservations about its use.
Mark a check next to the ones you think are best.
Mark a * next to strategies that you had never thought of before.
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Post-Separation Risks
Homicide
Abduction
Stalking
Violence
All of the above in connection to visitation
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Post-Separation Risks
Losing custody to the batterer
Unsupervised visitation for the batterer
Abuse through litigation
Ongoing serious damage to mother-child
relationships
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Post-Separation Risks
Physical, sexual, or emotional abuse by the batterer
Learning attitudes and behaviors that lead to domestic violence aligning with the batterer
Loss of resources for resilience
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Post-Separation Risks
Interfering with children’s recovery, sabotaging children’s therapeutic relationships
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KEY CONCEPTS Batterers expose children to multiple sources of psychological
injury
Batterers often present as good fathers in public
Children of battered women are also at increased risk outside the home (e.g. dating violence, sexual assault, substance abuse, delinquency)
Domestic violence is present (often unidentified) in 40-6o percent of the child protective and juvenile justice caseload
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KEY CONCEPTS 5 million children per year witness a violent assault against
their mother
Children exposed to batterers show higher rates of a tremendous range of measures of childhood distress
Boys who are exposed to batterers have a dramatically higher rate of growing up to be batterers and sexual assault perpetrators
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KEY CONCEPTS Battered mothers face complex choices and multiple risks
Any action taken by a battered mother to improve her circumstances involves risks for her children and for herself
Leaving the abuser sometimes makes conditions worse rather than better for her children
In most cases, pressuring or requiring a battered mother to leave will do more harm than good
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MASCULINITY
POSITIVE: COURAGE
NEGATIVE: FEARLESSNESS
POSITIVE: TOUGHNESS
NEGATIVE: LACK OF FEELING
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MASCULINITY
POSITIVE: PROTECT OTHERS
NEGATIVE: TAKE AWAY FREEDOM
POSITIVE: PROVIDE FOR OTHERS
NEGATIVE: DEVALUE OTHERS’ CONTRIBUTIONS
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MASCULINITY
POSITIVE: TAKE PRIDE
NEGATIVE: SEE FEMALES AS LESSER
POSITIVE: MAKE SACRIFICES
NEGATIVE: EXPECT SPECIAL PRIVILEGES