Love And Family -101-

Family Facts

Society / media influence some families more than they like to admit

If marriage is not nurtured it will fail like any other relationship

Most people don’t know what love is

I. Love

Love regulates every relationship

Mt.22:37-40 Ro.13:8-10

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Four overlapping love words

1. Desire – our ‘erotic’: desire for a thing Pr.7:18 . . . Pr.4:6, feel passionately about, have

a longing for, feel fervently about Affection both pure and impure,

divine and human – BDB. Est.2:17

The king loved Esther more than all the other women, and she obtained grace and favor. . .

Four overlapping love words

1. Desire – ‘erotic’: desire for a thing

2. Natural affection – love of kindred, esp. parents for children, v. versa Ro.1:31; 2 Tim.3:3 Mother bear

unloving, NKJV

heartless, ESV

inhuman, NRSV

Four overlapping love words

1. Desire – ‘erotic’: desire for a thing

2. Natural affection – love of kindred, esp. parents for children, v. versa

3. Friendship – tender affection Lk.14:12 . . . but 1 Co.16:22

Marriage built only on affection?What happens when affection leaves?

Four overlapping love words

1. Desire – ‘erotic’: desire for a thing

2. Natural affection – love of kindred, esp. parents for children, v. versa

3. Friendship – tender affection

4. Choice, will – not impulse of feelings Mt.5:44 , based on feelings? Love is goodness in action – Ro.5:8

I. Love

II. Relationships

1. Husband → Wife

Ep.5:25, the supreme test Ep.5:28-29, the self test (Mt.7:12)

1. Pleasant, Col.3:19Not bitter, harsh, severe, irritatedEp.4:31, no resentment, spiteGn.16

1. Husband → Wife

Ep.5:25, the supreme test Ep.5:28-29, the self test (Mt.7:12)

1. Pleasant, Col.3:19

2. Provide, 1 Tim.5:8Care for someone

1. Husband → Wife

Ep.5:25, the supreme test Ep.5:28-29, the self test (Mt.7:12)

1. Pleasant, Col.3:19

2. Provide, 1 Tim.5:8

3. Prize, 1 Pt.3:7Understanding, honor, attention1 Pt.3:8, court▪eous

Court, lit. ‘befitting a royal court’

1. Husband → Wife

2. Wife → Husband Tit.2:4, her love 1 Tim.2:15, her longing 2 Tim.3:6, her liability

Respect, Ep.5:33 Romance, 1 Co.7:1-5Restraint, Tit.2:5

Submit: to subject, subordinate, obey. Pr.19:13; 21:9; 27:15

Submit: to subject, subordinate, obey. Pr.19:13; 21:9; 27:15

1. Husband → Wife2. Wife → Husband

3. Parents ↔ Children Tit.2:4, loving one’s children Why necessary?

Drained of all energy Disturbed (sick? …shots? …school?) Distracted by other things

1. Husband → Wife2. Wife → Husband

3. Parents ↔ Children Tit.2:4, loving one’s children What included (parents and children)?

Esteem for parental authority, Pr.1:8; Ep.6:1-3 [Lk.23:21-23]

Exercise of discipline, Pr.13:24; Ep.6:4; Hb.12:5

Emphasis on soul, Ep.6:4

1. Husband → Wife2. Wife → Husband

3. Parents ↔ Children Tit.2:4, loving one’s children Emphasis on soul (Ep.6:4) requires . . .

Respect rights of others, 2 Sm.14 Righteous companion, Gn.24 Remember God, Ec.12:1

Mt.6:33 Ep.5:16 Hb.10:25