listening and giving & receiving feedback
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Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
January 2016
Manager, Training and DevelopmentOffice of Human Resources
Presented by Kevin R. Thomas
Supervisory Training SeriesListening SkillsGiving & Receiving Feedback
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
• Name• Where you work• How long you’ve been supervising• How long you’ve been supervising at
Williams
Introductions
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
1) Program Overview2) Listening Skills3) Giving and Receiving Feedback
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
1.Acknowledgements2.Structure of the Program3.Structure of Each Module4.Ground Rules
Program Overview
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
• Thanks to:– Staff Advisory Council– Staff Committee– Gary Bonafilia– Laura Day– Gayle Donohue– Steven Hegarty– Megan Konieczny– Ferentz Lafargue– Angie Marano – Joey McClain– Katie Nash
AcknowledgementsProgram Overview
• And also:– Raymond Torrenti– Liz Chambers and Teresa
Waryjasz
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
Communication & Self-Management
Supervising Individuals
Supervising Teams
Supervising at Williams
• Listening• Giving & Receiving Feedback• Emotional Intelligence• Difficult Conversations• Time Management & Prioritization
• Hiring• Onboarding• Performance Development• Dealing with Performance Problems• Leaves, Absences &
Accommodations
• Building Effective Teams
• Resolving Conflict
• Professional Ethics• Risk Management
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
Structure of Each ModuleProgram Overview
Skills Practic
e or Case Study
discussion
Overview:
“Least you
need to
know”
Who to call
Course web page
with all materi
als
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
• Confidentiality• Participation• Listening• Judgement free zone
Ground RulesProgram Overview
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
1) Program Overview2) Listening Skills3) Giving and Receiving Feedback
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
1.The Listening Container2.The Listening Stance
Listening Skills
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
• Privacy• Freedom from
Distractions• Time Limit• Setting Ground Rules
The Listening ContainerListening Skils
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
• Confidentiality• “I” statements• No name calling or pejorative
language• No interruptions• Volume and gestures
moderate• Time outs
Setting Ground RulesListening Skills Listening Container
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
• Minimal Encouragements• Open Ended Questions• Mirroring Statements• Empathic Statements
The Listening StanceListening Skills
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
• Echoing words or phrases
• Verbal cues that you are listening “Oh?”, “Mm hmm”, “Right.” etc.
• “Is there more about that?”
• Silence
Minimal EncouragementsListening Skills The Listening Stance
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
• Questions that encourage the speaker to explore the whole landscape of the topic.
• Cannot be answered “yes” or “no”
• Beware of advice posing as a question:“Have you considered doing x?”
Open Ended QuestionsListening Skills The Listening Stance
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
“You know how advice is.You only want it if it agrees with whatyou wanted to do anyway.”— John Steinbeck
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
• Statements that summarize what the person has said.
• Helps the other person know you are hearing them.
• Follow with “Have I got that right?”
Mirroring StatementsListening Skills The Listening Stance
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
Empathic StatementsListening Skills The Listening Stance
• Sharing your guess about what the speaker may be feeling:“Based on what I’m hearing, I’m guessing you’re really angry about this.”
• Demonstrates concern and respect for the person’s feelings.
• Follow with: “Am I right about that?”
• Don’t be afraid to ask “How are you feeling?”
• With sincerity, validate feelings:“That makes sense to me.”
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
“Anything that’s human is mentionable. And what’s mentionable is much more manageable.”— Fred Rogers
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
1.Pair up2.5 minutes each way3.Speaker: talk about a professional challenge
you’re facing right nowListener: Adopt a listening stance. No advice!
4.Switch!
Your Turn!
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
1) Program Overview2) Listening Skills3) Giving and Receiving Feedback
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
1.Giving Feedback2.Receiving Feedback
Giving and Receiving Feedback
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
• Principles• Positive feedback• Constructive feedback– Directive– Collaborative
Giving FeedbackGiving and Receiving Feedback
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
• Our brains are wired to notice what’s wrong• Train yourself to provide positive feedback• Feedback works best when it is:– Immediate– Specific– Behavioral– Supportive
Principles
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
Labeling the Person vs. Describing Behavior
Giving and Receiving Feedback
Principles
Labeling the Person
Describe the Behavior
Bad Attitude • Uses sarcasm• Crosses arms, frowns, avoids eye contact• Makes comments that undermine morale
Lazy • Delays or ignores certain tasks• Disappears and cannot be found• Arrives at work tardy, returns late from
breaks.• Takes longer than needed to complete
tasks• Performance suffers without frequent
direction and oversight• Ignores obvious problems• Leaves work for the next shift
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
Positive FeedbackGiving Feedback
Behavior
Impact
Best chance for repeated
behavior
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
Constructive Feedback: DirectiveGiving Feedback
Behavior
Impact
Positive
Future
Alternative
Best chan
ce for
changed behavio
r
• Use for simple, minor situations, as a first attempt to solve a problem.
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
Constructive Feedback: Non-directiveGiving Feedback
Behavior
Impact
1. Use behavior + impact to describe what you are seeing
2. Ask if they have additional information you should know. Listen.
3. Ask them for their interpretation. Listen.
4. Ask questions to ensure they are taking ownership of the problem.
5. Brainstorm solutions, negotiate, set a time to check in on progress.
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
1.Think about some constructive feedback you’d like to give.
2.Complete both sides of the worksheet.3.Pair up.4.Quickly set up the situation and role play
giving the feedback.5.Switch!
Your Turn!
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
• Adopt a listening stance• Ask questions to:– Get them to focus
on behavior + impact
– Drive towards a negotiated agreement about future.
– Set up a time to check on progress.
Receiving FeedbackGiving and Receiving Feedback
Supervisory Training Series: Communication & Self ManagementKevin R.Thomas, Manager,Training & Development · Office of Human Resources · [email protected] · 413-597-3542
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Questions?
• Course page link to all course materials• Program evaluation link, feedback welcome