LETS ENJOY OUR

MARRIAGESHealth marriages appear as if they are a mirage nowadays. There are very many conflicts in our marriages and people are wondering whether marriages can still be healthy.

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Marriage is hard work. In order

for marriage to really work, God

MUST be at the center of the

relationship. We are unable to

know how to love our spouse

unconditionally, unless we have

God's love and know of His love.

There will be ups and downs

in marriage

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When the storms clouds enter

into your marriage, keep God as

your “ALL IN ALL". He will not

allow your marriage to get end.

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It’s important to understand

that love is not just about

finding the right person; it’s

about working with them to

create the right relationship.

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Many couples don’t expect to be

happy and harmonious all the

time. They deal with their conflicts

and make conscious choices that

lead to happiness as a couple in

the long-term.

It’s not about finding the right

person, but rather about being the

right person.

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Healthy marriage requires total commitment to the marriage. You cannot have divided loyalty in the marriage.

Despite the various ups and downs all marriages are subject to, you can still strive to have a healthy marriage.

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HAVING HEALTHY MARRIAGES

1. Both spouses must seek

rapport even in moments of

conflict.

Smart couples know the

importance of their spouse’s

feelings and avoid hurting

them.

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Honoring each other’s feelings

reinforces mutual trust and

respect and builds deep

understanding.

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2. Both spouses cherish their

differences.

Healthy couples are

interdependent.

They’re aligned on the big things

like life goals. They don’t expect

their partner to approve of all their

choices.

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Each partner stands in his or

her own power and respects the

other’s opinion.

Each partner is a happy and

successful person in his or her

own right.

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3. Both spouses do their best to step into each other’s shoes.

They are mindful of each other’s unique perspective. They can also go along way because of their spouses.

A little empathy driven shift in perspective goes a really long way.

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4. Both spouses must assume the best of intentions.

Life throws a lot of challenges in every couple’s way. Healthy couples have figured out the solution lies in consciously adopting an optimistic attitude towards each other and the world in general.

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They choose to look for good

intentions behind each other’s

actions rather than assuming

the worst. They build their

relationship on this platform

of faith in each other.

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5. Both spouses figure out a way to reconnect.

The main reason couples fight is because they feel disconnected. Healthy couples figure out ways to reconnect. They both take individual responsibility to reconnect after a little argument or any sort of friction that inevitably creeps into their day-to-day lives.

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They don’t let their daily

resentments eat away at the

relationship.

They do something to

reconnect and they do it as

soon as possible.

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6. Both spouses make time to nurture their relationship.

Healthy couples make time to spend exclusively with each other.

It’s essential to make time! I can’t stress it enough. Don’t do this and it could be years before you really connect with each again — if at all!

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7. Both spouses keep their

assumptions in check.

We go into most situations with

certain assumptions —based

on our life experiences.

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8. Both spouses make a conscious

effort to communicate their needs

to each other — even if it seems

obvious.

Especially when it seems obvious.

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9. Both spouses recognize the

value of personal growth.

Great relationships usually

have partners committed to

lifelong learning and

growth. They’re curious about

things. They are keen to learn

from the world and from each

other.

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Because of their love for learning

they afford each other the freedom

to develop as individuals within

the relationship.

If you want to have a successful

relationship you’ve got to embrace

learning and personal growth with

open arms.

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10. They are committed to the

peaks and valleys in their marriage.

This is the most crucial point in

marriage. You have to be together

in all circumstances.

You must be committed to making

your relationship work. No matter

what.

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They fight, but they admit to their mistakes and apologize. They argue, but make the effort to understand the other’s perspective.

Because every healthy relationship needs an argument every now and then… just to prove that it is strong enough to survive.

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Long-term relationships, the

ones that matter, are all about

commitments to the peaks and

the valleys.

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‘What you bring into the

relationship has a direct impact

on what you get out of it’.

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The Christian marriage is to be the

example to all marriages and to the

world. We represent the

relationship of Christ and the

church. If the enemy can enter into

our marriages, we would set a

poor example to the world of

Christ's relationship with the

church.

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I am passionate about marriage and the lives of people. I desire to see us reach new levels in life, to come out of frustration, which is a place a lot of people live, to become into the person you know you should be but do not know where to start to be it, and to growing into Christian maturity.

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Marriage is a journey, with

rough roads and some rocks

and pebbles along the path, the

kind that get in your shoes. But

just like when that pebble get

into your shoe, you take it off,

shake it out and put it back on

and go on to your designation.

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In marriage we need to do the same, shake off the rough stuff, put on the good stuff and GROW on.

What a joy to live in a healthy marriage.

I believe all of us can do so. Allow God to be in the center of your marriage

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