leading instead of controlling
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Leading instead of controlling
Carol Dweck: ‘With the right mindset we can motivate and help students to raise grades, and to reach your own goals - personal and professional.’
1. Celebrate achievements (small and big)2. Aknowledge project milestones 3. Be a cheerleader (encourage learning)4. Regularly praise for effort
Exercise:• ‘I…’• ’Mymanager…’• ‘Mycollegues…’
Praisecapability
Youareagreatwriter
Youareanatural
Howcreativeyouare!
Praiseeffort
Youhaverwriten a
fantasticessay!
Whatagreatstrategyyougameupwith!
Youhavegrown
tremendously!
FixedMindset
GrowthM
indset
üFocusonthereceiverüComplimentoneffortüMakeitpersonal
Career
Purpose
Money
Motivation
Opportunity Ability
üAutonomy ”the desire to direct our own lives”
üMastery ”the urge to make progress and get better at something that matters”
üPurpose ”the yearning to do what we do in the service of something larger than ourselves.”
BHAG
StrenghtsValues
Highergoal
PositiveEmotions
EngagementPositive
RelationshipsAccomplishments
Meaning
P E R M A
Servantleadershipinanorganizationleadsto:
ü Happy&healthyemployeesü Happycustomersü Sustainablesuccess
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Content
Process
Relationship
PersonalProgram
Emotions
Rationalphase
Anihilation throughselfsacrification
Anihilation ofenemy
Limiteddamagedoing
Threathening
Damagedselfimage
Imageandcoalitions
Deeds
Debate
Toughening
Emotionalphase
Battlephase
Task Focus
Passive
People Focus
Act
ive
Normalbehavior
Whiner
No
Nothing
Nothing
Yes
Maybe
Tank
Professor
Sniper
Sniper
Grenade
FakeProfessor
ü Goal: Command respect
ü Strategy:1. Hold your ground.2. Interrupt the assault.3. Immediately go back to the core.4. Aim for the outcome and fire.5. Peace with honor.
✓Goal: Uncover the Sniper
✓Strategy:1. Stop, look, track back.2. Use search light questions.3. Use Tank Strategy if needed.4. Go on a blame patrol.5. Propose a civil future.
✓Goal: Control the situation
✓Strategy:1. Grab attention.2. Aim for the heart.3. Reduce intensity.4. Allow time for good behavior.0. Grenade prevention.
✓Goal: Open for new ideas
✓Strategy:1. Be prepared and know your case.2. Track back respectfully.3. Mix with their doubts and desires.4. Present indirectly.5. Make the Professor a mentor.
ü Goal: Disarm the bad ideas
ü Strategy:1. Give some personal attention.2. Clear up the details.3. Tell how it (really) is.4. Be soft on the person.5. Interrupt the pattern.
✓Goal: Get real commitment
✓Strategy:1. Make honest through safety.2. Be honest.3. Help the person (learn to) plan.4. Create commitment.5. Improve the relationship.
✓Goal: Help (learning) to chose
✓Strategy:1. Create a comfort zone.2. Clarify conflicts and options.3. Use decision making proces.4. Put at ease.. and then move on.5. Improve the relationship.
✓Goal: Seduction to talk.
✓Strategy:1. Plan for enough time.2. Pose expecting questions.3. Make/keep it light.4. Guess.5. Show the future.
✓Goal: Move to problemsolving
✓Strategy:1. ‘Go with the flow’.2. Use the person as resource.3. Leave the door open.4. Polarize and flip it around.5. Recognize and note the good intentions.
✓Goal: Problem solving alliance
✓Strategy:1. Listen for main themes and core.2. Interrupt and make specific.3. Shift focus to solutions.4. Show the future.5. Draw a line.
