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What not to do as a leader? What may destroy your leadership career? Based on: "What got you here will not take you there" Marshall Goldsmith #WikiCourses http://wikicourses.wikispaces.com/Topic11+Leadership+and+MotivationTRANSCRIPT
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What NOT to do as a leader!
Mohammad Tawfik
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Marshall Goldsmith, “What got you here will not take you there”
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We are talking about successful people …
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They have one or more annoying behavior …
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Not realizing that it is happening
AND
They can change it!
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The Success Delusion
Why we resist change!
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The Success Delusion
●We Delude ourselves about:Our achievementsOur statusOur contributions
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The Success Delusion
●It gives us:ConfidenceDoubt-free lifeBlindness of risks!
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Myths!
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I have Succeeded
●Successful people believe in their skills and abilities
They believe their contributions are more than they really are!
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I can Succeed
●Successful people believe they have the capabilities to make things happen
“I am successful. I behave this way. I am successful because I behave this way”!!!
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I will Succeed
●Successful people are optimistic
Over-commitment stops you from achieving!
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I choose to Succeed
●Successful people have high need for self determination (not being controlled by others)
Cognitive dissonance may takeover our decisions
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Change of behavior is possible if you can see that it
is for your best interest!
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Self interest …
●It usually boils down to:Money (Live)Power (Leave a legacy or feel important)Status (Learn or acquire new experiences)Popularity (Love and be loved)
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The Twenty Deadly Sins!
Habits that hold you back from the top
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What not to do?
●“We spend a lot of time teaching leaders what to do. We do not spend enough time teaching leaders what to stop!”Peter Drucker
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We do not reward people for what they did not do!
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1-Don’t be an obsessed winner!
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Winning too much
● Most Common problem!● In a meeting, you want your position to
prevail● When arguing with a spouse, you want to
have the final word● When driving, you do not want anyone to
get ahead of you
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2- Do not try to add your touch!
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Adding too much value
● Successful people always want to say:● “I already know that”● “I know a better way”
● This, simply, kills commitment of people to the idea they are presenting
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3- Do not try to judge others!
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Passing Judgments
● When you rate other people’s opinions or ideas, you discourage their contributions!
● Just listen, and say “Thank you!”
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4- Avoid destructive comments!
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Making Destructive Comments
● To avoid them, ask yourself:● Is it useful to the customer?● Is it useful to the organization?● Is it useful to the person I am talking to?● Is it useful to the person I am talking
about?
● If the answer is no, just Shut Up!
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5- Do not start with: No, but, or However!
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Starting with no, but, or however
“I am right, you are wrong!”
● Stop defending your position!
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6- Don’t act too wisely!6- Do Not act too wisely!
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Telling the world how smart you are
● It insults other people!
● Listen to the idea or suggestion and say “Thank you!”
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7- Do not talk when angry!
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Speaking when angry
● Anger is rarely someone else fault.
● In most cases, the source of anger is in here not out there
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8- Avoid negative comments!
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“Let me explain why that won’t work”!
● That is not being helpful!● It is just being negative● It comes from the need to prevent others
from appearing smarter than you are!
● Before saying that it won’t work, come up with a better idea or just Shut Up!
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9 – Do Not withhold information
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Withholding Information
● Leads to: mistrust and suspicion
● When intentional, it reflects a character floe
● Unintentionally, it may happen when you are too busy
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10- Do not forget to praise and reward
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Failing to give proper recognition
● You are depriving people from the emotional payoff they deserve!
● Learn to shift the focus from yourself unto others
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11- Avoid being thanked for what you did not do!
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Claiming credit you do not deserve
● It is a Crime!
● Ask yourself: “Is it possible that someone else deserves to be thanked for my success?”
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12- Do not make excuses
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Making Excuses
● “The traffic ...”“My assistant ...”“They ...”
● Be responsible!
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13- Do not blame your parents
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Clinging to the past
● Deflecting blame onto events and people in our past
● Do not blame others for the choices you made!
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14- Avoid unfairness
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Playing favorites
● You will always love your Dog! But is it more important than your child?!
● Admit to yourself that you are not objective in evaluating people!
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15- Be quick to apologize!
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Refusing to express regret
● It is an aspect of not being responsible
● It is not easy!
● Apologizing is one of the most powerful weapons you have
● Apologizing turns people into allies
● This is how people change, teams improve, and companies grow
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16- Do not be rude!
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Not listening
● You are essentially saying: “You are not important to me!” and “I do not care about you!”
● Be patient!
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17- Give gratitude!
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Failing to express gratitude
● Gratitude is a skill that we can never display too often
● If you do not know what to say, say “Thank you!”
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18- Do not shoot the messenger!
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Punishing the messenger
● How many times did you attack the one who is bringing you the news?
● Just say “Thank you!”
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19- Do not pass the buck!19- Avoid saying “he did it”
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Passing the buck
● You are never wrong, are you?
● A leader who can not take responsibility for his team’s problems, is not a leader in the first place!
● No one expects you to be right all the time, so why should you?
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20- Do not say “That is me!”
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An excessive need to be “me”
● A character fault is not excused simply because that is who you are!
● You have to get out of your comfort zone!● Leadership is about other people.
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Getting over it!
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Take feedback
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Say “I am sorry”
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Listen to people
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Say “Thank you!”
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