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  • 1. THE POWER OF LEADING THROUGH
    Effective Relationships
    IN THE WORKPLACE
    Presented by Jim Barbush

2. Session No. W3.453:10 to 4:00 Wednesday, Match 17, 2010Room No.: 345
THE POWER OF LEADING
THROUGH
Effective Relationships
IN THE WORKPLACE
James E. Barbush
PA State System of Higher Education
Facilities Contracts Manager
RETIRED Aug. 26, 2010
Barbush Enterprises
Catch A Wave
Leadership Development
3. The Power Of Leading Through
Effective Relationships In The Workplace
LEARNING OBJECTIVES
Provide a DEFINITION of
Effective Workplace Relationships
between a leader and followers, and
what those relationships mean to
development of a successful individual and
a successful organization.
2. Discuss CONDITIONS that
preventEffective Workplace Relationships and
result indiminished success
How to avoid pitfalls.
Provide TOOLS for the development of
Effective Workplace Relationships
that lead to goal achievement?
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4. The Power Of Leading Through
Effective Relationships In The Workplace
Effective Workplace Relationships
can develop an atmosphere of connectivity
between co-workers
that leads to success for individuals & the organization.
CONTROL WITHOUT RELATIONSHIP
is a recipe for organizational weakness.
INCORRECT JUDGMENTS:
How a leaders judgment of a follower
as being worthy or unworthy to accomplish tasks
and
How that affects followers ability to accomplish tasks.
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5. OPENING
Connectivity
Synergy
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6. The Power Of Leading Through
Effective Relationships In The Workplace
SYNERGY
CONNECTIVITY
TheINTERACTIONof
2 or more agents
so that
their combined effect
exceeds the sum of
their individual effort
TheCONDITIONof
being
connected or connective
The ability to
make and maintain
a
connection between 2
1 + 1 > 2
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7. Human Connectivity Defined
http://www.fierceinc.com/blog/?p=488
What is the Fierce definition of human connectivity?
I dont have an official definition for human connectivity,
but I know it when I experience itand I imagine you do too.
Human Connectivity occurs
one wonderfully fierce conversationat a time.
Fierce Conversation is..
one in which you and I
come out from behind ourselves,
And enter the conversation, making it real.
Connectionoccurs most often
during moments of honesty and vulnerability.
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8. Human Connectivity Defined
http://www.fierceinc.com/blog/?p=488
human connectivity?
I know it when I experience it
one wonderfully fierce conversation at a time.
you and I
come out from behind ourselves,
enter the conversation, making it real.
Connectionoccurs most often with
honestyand vulnerability.
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9. Human Connectivity
http://www.fierceinc.com/blog/?p=488
There is something deep within us that responds to
those who level with us,
those who dont suggest our compromises for us.
You and I wont be connected
ifonly1 of us is willing to disclose our real thoughts & emotions.
You and I wont experience connectivity
if we are only willing to be real on rare occasions.
Connectivity requires persistent identity.
Connectivity requires intimacy, vulnerability, transparency,
which scares most people half to death.
To keep it simple, human connectivity requires that we ..
{ Tell the truth. Tell the truth. Tell the truth }
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10. Human Connectivity
http://www.fierceinc.com/blog/?p=488
There is something deep within us that responds to
those who level with us,
those who dont suggest our compromises for us.
those willing to disclose their real thoughts & emotions.
Are wereal on rare occasions.
Connectivity Requirespersistent identity.
intimacy,
vulnerability,
transparency,
scares most people half to death.
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11. QUESTIONS
As a leader and co-worker in your organization,
What kind of workplace relationships do
YOU have with CO-WORKERS?
Do your relationships createCONNECTIVITY
thatdrives successful goal achievement
for you and your organization?
Do your relationships createSYNERGY
that leads to success
for you and your organization?
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12. QUESTIONS
Relationships YOUhave with CO-WORKERS?
CONNECTIVITY
drives successful goal achievement
SYNERGY
leads to success
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13. A Picture
Of
Effective Relationships
Working through Difficult Relationship
THINK OF A SITUATION
IN YOUR LIFE
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14. WHAT AFFECTS
YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?
What do YOU struggle with?
DIFFERENCES OF OPINION?
NEGATIVE VIBS?
THINK OF A SITUATION.
WHAT DO YOU NEED TO DO?
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16. AFTER THIS SESSION
WILL YOU HAVE
THE SAME ANSWER?
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17. BOOKS
FOR
LIFE LONG LEARNING
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18. YELL
DONT FORGET THEBOOKS
FROM
EXECUTIVE BOOKS
IN
MECHANICSBURG, PA
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19. The Power Of Leading Through
Effective Relationships In The Workplace
We will consider
EFFECTIVE and INEFFECTIVE
Workplace Relations
CONTRASTING
the following:
Strivingfor .Relationship
rather thanPower, Submission, Individual Independence.
Accomplishing..Purpose
rather thanWork
Assessing ..Someones Being
rather thanSomeones Appearance
This discussion will change
how you view & relate to people in your workplace
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20. The Power Of Leading Through
Effective Relationships In The Workplace
CONTRASTS
CONSIDER THESE CONTRASTS TO
DEVELOP EFFECTIVE WORKPLACE RELATIONSHIPS&AVOID PITFALLS
Leading to CONNECTIVITY & SYNERGYFOR SUCCESS
Creating An Atmosphere Where Followers &The Organization Can Succeed
ITS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPNOT POWER
ITSABOUT RELATIONSHIPNOT SUBMISSION
ITS ABOUTRELATIONSHIPNOT INDIVIDUAL INDEPENDENCE
ITS ABOUT THE PURPOSENOT THE WORK
ITS ABOUT BEINGNOT APPEARANCES
ITS ABOUT LIVING IN A WORLDNOT A WORLD LIVING IN YOU
ITS ABOUT CHOOSINGNOT TO FLY, WHEN YOU CAN FLY
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21. Whats The Difference Between
InactionandAction
Having No EnergyandHaving Energy
ThinkingandDoing
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CHOICE
Inaction + CHOICE=Action
No Energy + CHOICE=Energy
Thinking +CHOICE=Doing
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22. Whats The Difference Between
INEFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
WITH UNSOLVED SITUATIONS
+
CHOICE
=
EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
CONNECTIVITY
SYNERGY
1 + 1 > 2
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23. CONTRASTS WILL ADDRESS
TOPICS
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24. TOPICS
Effective Workplace Relationships can produce
connectivity & synergy that drives successful goal achievement
for you and your organization.
Discussion will address the following:
What is an Effective Workplace Relationship between leader & follower?
Why do we needEffective Workplace Relationships
What preventsEffective Workplace Relationships ?
Observations
Breakthrough
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25. BOOKS
FOR
LIFE LONG LEARNING
25
26. YELL
DONT FORGET THEBOOKS
FROM
EXECUTIVE BOOKS
IN
MECHANICSBURG, PA
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27. http://theshackbook.com/pages/page1.html
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28. The Power Of Leading Through
Effective Relationships In The Workplace
CONTRASTS
CONSIDER THESE CONTRASTS TO
DEVELOP EFFECTIVE WO RKPLACE RELATIONSHIPS & AVOID PITFALLS
Leading to CONNECTIVITY FOR SUCCESS
Creating An Atmosphere Where Followers &The Organization Can Succeed
ITS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPNOT POWER
ITSABOUT RELATIONSHIPNOTSUBMISSION
ITS ABOUTRELATIONSHIPNOTINDIVIDUAL INDEPENDENCE
ITS ABOUT THE PURPOSENOTTHE WORK
ITS ABOUT BEINGNOTAPPEARANCES
ITS ABOUT LIVING IN A WORLDNOTA WORLD LIVING IN YOU
ITS ABOUT CHOOSINGNOT TO FLY, WHEN YOU CAN FLY
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29. CONTRAST 1
ITS ABOUT
RELATIONSHIP
NOT
POWER
Leadership through
Effective Relationship,
rather than
through
Hierarchical Chain of Command
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30. CONTRAST 2
ITSABOUT
RELATIONSHIP
NOT
REQUIRED SUBMISSION
Whats the difference between
Effective Relationship
and
Required Submission
in attempting successful achievement of the goals
of you and your organization?
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31. CONTRAST 2
RELATIONSHIP vs SUBMISSION
To force my will on you is
exactly what relationship does not do.
Genuine relationships are marked by submission..
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Submission is not about authority
and
Submission is not about obedience;
Submission is all about
relationships of love and respect.
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32. CONTRAST 3
ITS ABOUT
RELATIONSHIP
NOT
INDIVIDUAL INDEPENDENCE
Whats the difference between
Effective Relationship
and
Individual Independence
in the workplace
how does each affect
accomplishment or not
of yours and organizational goals?
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33. WHAT PREVENTS EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
INDEPENDENCE
WITH ITS
QUEST FOR
POWER AND FULFILLMENT
ACTUALLY
DESTROYS
THE RELATIONSHIP
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34. CONTRAST 3
RELATIONSHIPvsINDEPENDENCE
Humans are so lost and damaged that to you
it is almost incomprehensible that
people could live and work together
without some being in charge.
We have no concept of final authority among us,
only unity.
We are in a circle of relationship,
not a chain of command.
When you chose independence over relationship,
you became a danger to one another.
Your independence
with its quest for power and fulfillment
actually destroys the relationship your heart longs for.
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35. BOOKS
FOR
LIFE LONG LEARNING
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36. CONTRAST 4
ITS ABOUT
THE PURPOSE
NOT
THE WORK
VISION
GOALS
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37. CONTRAST 4
WORK & PURPOSE
Its not the work,
but the purpose
that makes it special.
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38. CONTRAST 5
ITS ABOUT
BEING
NOT
APPEARANCES
Who a person is!
NOT
Who a person appears to be.
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39. CONTRAST 5
BEING VS APPEARANCE
Being always transcends appearance.
Once you begin to know
the beingbehind the face.
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As determined by your bias,
the surface appearancesfade away
until they simply no longer matter.
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40. CONTRAST 5
JUDGING UNWORTHY OR WORTHY
Humans have a great capacity for
declaring something good or evil, without truly knowing.
You are truly blind to your own place in the creation.
When something happens to you,
how do you determine whether it is good or evil?
Im not really sure I have any logical ground for deciding
what is actually good or evil, except how something affects me.
When your good and evil clash with your neighbors,
fights are arguments pursue and even warsbreak out.
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41. CONTRAST 6
ITS ABOUT
LIVING IN A WORLD
AND
A WORLD LIVING IN YOU
THE BLENDING OF THE TWO WITHOUT CONFLICT
CONNECTION VS ISOLATION
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42. CONTRAST 6
LIVING IN A WORLD&A WORLD LIVING IN YOU
You can
kiss your family and friends good-bye
and
put miles between you,
but at the same time
you carry them with you
in your heart, your mind, your stomach,
because you do not just live in a world
But a world lives in you.
Frederick Buechner, Telling the Truth
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43. YELL
DONT FORGET THEBOOKS
FROM
EXECUTIVE BOOKS
IN
MECHANICSBURG, PA
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44. CONTRAST 7
ITS ABOUT
CHOOSINGNOT TO FLY,
NOT
FLYING JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN
WHEN YOU CAN FLY
Though a leader can accomplish crucial tasks
can allow followers to accomplish those same tasks,
rather than
the leader doing the work out of the feeling of necessity.
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45. CHOOSING NOT TO FLY
SERVE
Its NOT About Power
Relationships are never about power,
and
one way to avoid the will to hold power over another is to
CHOOSE to limit oneself - serve.
CHOOSING to stay on the groundis
a CHOICE
to facilitate a relationship and honor that relationship.
You CHOOSE to limit yourself
so as to facilitate and honor that relationship.
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46. WHAT BLOCKS RELATIONSHIPS
SPARROWS and EAGLES and PENGUINS
PRIDE
LOOK AT ME FLY
IM OLDER
IM WISER
IM YOUNGER
IM MORE TECHNICALLY LITERATE
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47. W H A T R E L A T I O N S H I P D O E S
RELATIONSHIP RELEASES
LACK OF RELATIONSHIP WITHOLDS
RELATIONSHIP GIVES FREEDOM
LACK OF RELATIONSHIP RESTRICTS
RELATIONSHIP EXPANDS TERRITORY
LACK OF RELATIONSHIP PROTECTS TERRITORY
RELATIONSHIP RISKS
LACK OF RELATIONSHIP PLAYSIT SAFE
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48. W H A T R E L A T I O N S H I P D O E S
RELATIONSHIP
RELEASE
RELATIONSHIP
GIVE FREEDOM
RELATIONSHIP
EXPAND TERRITORY
RELATIONSHIP
RISK
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49. W H A T R E L A T I O N S H I P D O E S
RELEASES
GIVES FREEDOM
EXPANDS TERRITORY
RISKS
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50. OBSERVATION
Each relationship between two persons is
absolutely unique.
That is why you cannot love two people the same way.
It is simply not possible.
You love each person differently
because of
who they are
and
the uniquenessthey draw out of you.
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52. YELL
DONT FORGET THEBOOKS
FROM
EXECUTIVE BOOKS
IN
MECHANICSBURG, PA
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53. m-y b-a-n-n-e-r
READING leads to
WRITING leads to
SPEAKING leads to
LEADING leads to
ADVENTURE leads to
DESTINY leads to
SUCCESS >>>>>>
G O F O R I T A L L ! ! ! ! ! ! !
CATCH YOUR WAVE
Create one that fits your desires
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54. J I M B A R B U S H
OFFICE:Barbush Enterprises
2021 Blue Mountain Parkway
HARRISBURG, PA17112
717-5514-5549
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55. BOOKS
FOR
LIFE LONG LEARNING