CARELINESA Quarterly Newsletter Published for the Friends & Families of Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care, Inc.

Fall 2011

Caldwell Hospice Awarded Grant for Suicide Support Training

Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care has receivedpartial funding from the Hogan Family Foundationfor a “Suicide: Risk, Intervention, and Aftermath”training program. Planning began almost two yearsago for a way to understand the losses and servethe needs of family members and loved ones aftera death by suicide, according to BereavementCoordinator Emily Pitts.

Economic instability has affected just abouteveryone in Caldwell County in one way or another.When people experience discouragement, believingthey cannot go on living, tragic losses of life result.Although suicide is not caused by one single factor,the intense stress created by unemployment,inability to make ends meet, and looming foreclo-sure can increase the feelings of worthlessness andhopelessness.

Within the past four years, the Caldwell Hospicecounselor and bereavement coordinator, together,have assisted approximately 45 patients, familymembers, and individuals from the communityfacing suicidal thoughts and/or dealing with thetrauma that follows when a loved one has taken hisor her life, averaging 10-to-15 suicide-relatedcases per year. In talking with professionals inprivate practices, mental health agencies, hospitals,and law enforcement, they have recognized anincrease and are witnessing this devastating occur-rence in our community.

Historically, the negative reactions to mental illnessand suicide have affected support services andinsurance reimbursements for treatmentsnegatively. Successful suicide prevention requiresthat people in the community get involved withindividuals and families affected by suicide—peoplewho can recognize at-risk individuals and work withfamilies experiencing emotional turmoil,unanswered questions, and an emptiness that isdifficult to address.

Caldwell Hospice will focus its training on thefollowing groups and individuals:

l Local ministers because they need to understandsuicide in order to support people at heightened

risk for suicide and help to heal people who havestruggled with suicide or survived the suicide ofsomeone they love.

l People in the community through CaldwellHospice’s “Understanding Your Suicide Grief”support group, designed to guide progresstoward hope and healing in a safe, non-judgmental, and non-threatening environment.

l Caldwell Hospice staff members.

By establishing its suicide prevention program,Caldwell Hospice can increase the professionalskills of educators, law enforcement, mental healthprofessionals, social workers, clergy, medicalprofessionals, administrators, and volunteers, aswell as the personal coping skills of people withinthe community through the ongoing support group.

Pictured above: A sample of current suicide support materials;Bereavement Coordinator Emily Pitts reviews suicide traininginformation.

l Inform and communi-cate with patients:Caldwell (2.0), N.C.(13.2), U.S. (16.0)

Thanks to our staff formaking such a positivereport possible. Also, Iam grateful to volun-teers, board members,healthcare providers and supporters throughout thecommunity. By working together, we are able to providethe highest quality of care in a loving, compassionateatmosphere for the terminally ill, their caregivers andfamilies.

Finally, all of us extend a specialthank-you to Jimmy Hemphill, whois retiring from the Board ofDirectors after 25 years of service.He was a member of our firstCaldwell Hospice Board in 1982,serving for 10 years, and then re-joined the Board in 1996 andserved until this year.

Jimmy has been a faithful andactive supporter of CaldwellHospice, and his contributions aretoo numerous to list. However, Iwill say that he had a gift for sellingACC Basketball Luncheon tickets!He has been an integral member ofthe Caldwell Hospice family for 25years, and we will miss his contri-butions.

From the Director’s Chair: A Report to theCommunity

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Parker WilliamsonPresident

H. Houston Groome, Jr.Vice-PresidentPeg Broyhill

SecretaryJames C. Harper, Jr.

Treasurer

Robert Belk, MDClaudia BujoldMarc Carpenter

Joseph C. Delk, IIILaura EastonDavid Gray

Financial information about this organization and a copy of its license are available from the State Solicitation Licensing Branch at 919.833.4510. The license is not an endorsement by the State.

Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care Board of Directors

I always like to share good news! That’s why I am veryproud to let you know that Caldwell Hospice and PalliativeCare ranks among the top hospices in the country.

According to Family Evaluation of Hospice Care (FEHC)quarterly survey results by the National Hospice andPalliative Care Organization (NHPCO), Caldwell Hospice isamong the top 10 percent of all hospices nationwide in 18of 22 quality indicator results. In 14 of the quality indica-tors, we recorded a perfect score.

While we always are looking to improve quality, we shouldbe very pleased with these results. They acknowledge ouroutstanding and dedicated staff and reaffirm our commit-ment to staff development and ongoing continuous qualityimprovement.

The report was developed by NHPCO with input fromhospices that participate in the FEHC survey. Researchersand experts in quality measurement at the University ofPennsylvania and Brown University’s Center forGerontology and Health Care Research collected andanalyzed the data.

The overall quality of care given to our patients during thesecond quarter of 2011—as perceived by their primarycaregivers—was 96.2, compared to 81.1 for hospices inNorth Carolina and 75.6 for hospices across the UnitedStates. This score represents the percentage of respon-dents who rated the quality of care as “excellent.”

The composite score measures a hospice’s overallperformance, with a single scoring range from 0 to 100.Our composite in the second quarter of 2011 was 90.9,compared to 87.7 in North Carolina and 86.6 nationwide.

Domain performance represents a hospice’s performancein four key areas, as listed below. This performance ispresented as a “problem score,” with zero indicating noproblems. You will note that we performed exceptionallywell in this measurement. Below are our domain perform-ance numbers, followed by North Carolina and nationalfigures:

l Coordination of care: Caldwell (0.0), N.C. (6.3), U.S.(7.3)

l Attend to family needs: Caldwell (0.0), N.C. (4.2), U.S.(5.1)

l Provide information about symptoms: Caldwell (0.0),N.C. (4.0), U.S. (4.9)

Rob HinmanInez Jones

Deborah MurrayTamra Beach Starnes

Janet WilsonJanet Winkler

Photos (top to bottom):Jimmy at Nine WhoCare awards luncheon,2005; with Dr. Belkand Avis Corpening atopening of GraniteFalls office, 2006; withBoard members atCHPC’s RededicationCeremony, 2005.

A Moment with Dr. Robert Belk: Living Will and Health Care Power of Attorney

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Once a year, I write about advance directives, animportant topic that people don’t want to discuss. Mostphysicians try to educate patients and family membersabout treatment goals and possible burdens that result,but individuals should decide what an acceptable qualityof life is for them. If you have not prepared a writtenplan that states the kind(s) of health care treatmentsyou would want (or NOT want), if a sudden accident orillness left you unable to express your decisions, pleasekeep reading.

1. The advance care planning goal is for you to livewell, in a meaningful way, for as long as you live.

2. Think about your current health and prepare forfuture changes: a healthy person could have anaccident; a person with a chronic illness could see thecondition worsening; a terminally ill person could beginthinking about stopping some medical procedures ormedications.

3. Consider where you might receive the care youneed: at home by a family member, a nursing home orassisted-living facility, a hospice patient care unit, ahospital, etc.

4. Think about what brings joy and meaning to yourlife; what religious or spiritual beliefs support and guideyou; what makes life worth living—being conscious andaware of what is happening around you? Being able torecognize and communicate with family and friends?Reading or listening to music?

5. Start talking with those you love: “I want to tell yousome ideas I have and hear your thoughts, too.”

6. Talk with your doctor. It is important to discuss yourcurrent health and your wishes for the future.

7. Treatment decisions at the end of life can be hard,even with advance directives. Consider getting asecond medical opinion, talking with close friends orclergy, etc.

8. In your advance care plan, describe your wishes forfuture care and guide others who may need to makedecisions. You may review, change, or update your planover a period of years because you change your mindover time.

9. Advance directives are used ONLY when you cannotmake or express health care decisions. If you are too illto make decisions when you enter a hospital, they willalert your doctor that you have prepared for this. Yourwishes will be explored in relation to your currenthealth problem, including your diagnosis and treatmentoptions. Your physician will ask your Health Care Powerof Attorney (HCPOA) to help decide what treatment youwould want.

10. You may include comfort care (attention tophysical, emotional, social, and spiritual needs) in youradvance care plan.

(Source: Isn’t It Time WeTalk? workbook, © 2002,The Carolinas Center forHospice and End of LifeCare)

In the Living Will(Advance Directive for aNatural Death), you can express your wishes about life-sustaining treatment if you become terminally or irreversibly ill. You state thatyou do not want your life to be prolonged by extraordi-nary means if you have a terminal, incurable condition orare in a persistent vegetative state. In most states, itrequires the signature of two witnesses (not related toyou) and a notary public. It becomes effective when youcan no longer direct your health care and are notexpected to recover.

The Health Care Power of Attorney (HCPOA, MedicalPower of Attorney, Health Care Proxy or Agent, HealthCare Surrogate, Durable Power of Attorney for HealthCare): This legal form identifies who YOU want to makethe decisions about your medical care, ONLY if you areunable to make your own medical decisions. Your agentcan be any adult you choose, EXCEPT your health careprovider. This person has the same authority you wouldhave to hire and fire health care providers; admit ordischarge you from a health care institution; consent toor refuse tests or treatments, and more.

Be sure to talk with your family members—especially theperson who will be your HCPOA—clearly and honestlybefore you decide. Be sure that your HCPOA will do whatyou want if you are unable to choose for yourself. Peopleshould make their own decisions concerning end-of-lifeissues, express these wishes to their family members,and—most importantly—put these decisions in writing.

Once these documents are completed, give copies toyour doctor, your hospital (if you have a record on file),your health care agent(s), your family member(s), andyourself (keep your copies in an easy-to-find place).

Other important forms: Do Not Attempt ResuscitationOrder (DNR) is a physician’s order that states the patientdoes not wish to receive CPR. The North Carolina GeneralAssembly has expanded these orders in the MOST(Medical Orders for Scope of Treatments); this documentgives patients a choice of whether or not to receive CPR;names the medical intervention they do wish to receive,such as the wish to receive antibiotics, medically admin-istered fluids, and nutrition, and must be reviewedannually.

Note: The Caldwell Partnership for End-of-Life Care(754.0101) holds a Living Will Clinic the second Thursdayof each month at the Senior Center (758.2883). You canfill out the forms and have them notarized. For moreinformation, visit the Caring Connections website(www.caringinfo.org).

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MEMORIALSRoger M. AdamsNancy AdamsIdell ShookAlexanderDry Ponds BaptistChurchGeneva "Boots"AndersonBetty BolickCharles & BillieBraswellNeil & ErnestineConradSkip & DavannaDownsMillie WestPaul C. "Tom"AndrewsClinard & MargaretBowman Children &FamiliesKathy AndrewsGene & Jean BarrierDavid & Kay CaudleGeorgia GoodsonCheryl R. GreenGerry & Ingunn GriffinKen & Barbara GriffinMonty, Ida & NicoleHendersonRebecca PoerJohn & Peggy RiggsMr. & Mrs. Ken SipesRussell & Sue WhiteBill & Betty Williams

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May I take this opportunity to express my sincere appreciation for the wonderful care you gave to our loved one, our wholefamily, and many friends who came to offer us their support. Your special ways and generous heart made a beautiful differ-ence. We are so blessed to have your facility available for us.—a Caldwell Hospice family member

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ContributionsGrace GentryMr. & Mrs. HoustonGroomeDon & Madeleine HaasElrita HarrisHester & Belva DeanHollar FamilyGeorge & EleanorKirbyTom & Tamra StarnesBarbara CrumpMillie WestWillie "Joe" CurtisBunker Hill HighSchoolConcord BaptistChurchEmmanuel BaptistChurchFirst Baptist Church,RhodhissGrace Chapel FireDepartmentGrace Chapel UnitedMethodist ChurchCharles & FrancesCurtisZelma CurtisBobby & Crystal GanttJim & Judy MackieHarrison & Tanya ReidMaria StarnesGeorge & JudySullivanMillie West

Sarah DellingerCentral Baptist ChurchAlice R. AustinBuster & Judy GreeneNina PritchardMs. B.J. SetzerShirley SmithBill DillardElaine BrooksJeffrey "Jeff"DuffeyDry Ponds BaptistChurchEd, Paula, Austin, &Reggie BowmanLouise CoxCurtis & Clara PowellArvil "Bud" DulaDry Ponds BaptistChurchBetty DulaCindy CoxLois EdmistenGrandin BaptistChurch

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Robert A. Kent, Jr.Elaine KentEulas "Tim" KincaidRuth L. KincaidGeorge KirbyReid FamilyJames H. KirbyJeff, Sally, Tammy,Allison, & JenaBradshawWard MikealEvelyn J. WilsonIrene LackeyGrandin BaptistChurchSteven L. LackeyLittle Rock BaptistChurchRoger & EleanorHollarVaughn & Lyda WalshDonna LailDr. & Mrs. DanStallings

Rick LailDry Ponds BaptistChurchDavid Lee LathanAssociatedHardwoods, Inc.Central BaptistChurchMitchell WatsonFamilyRosemont ForestElementaryDr. Myra A. DicksonSkip & DavannaDownsRick & Sandy JordanEd LivingstonMr. & Mrs. Joe OliverVera M. LinkPeggy McCallBillie Starnes

Jenny LivingstonDry Ponds BaptistChurchRobert L.LivingstonBill & Willie FrazierThomas C.LivingstonDry Ponds BaptistChurchWilma LivingstonDry Ponds BaptistChurchLynnette "Lynn"LovattoCarl & Shirley WestDottee MackieDry Ponds BaptistChurchDr. & Mrs. DanStallingsSylvia MannBouvier Kelly, Inc.First Baptist Church,ArchdaleRay Joplin FamilyRon & ChristineBeaneGary & Nona BenitezLou McRaryRuth S. MarshallMary BeanGaye M. FowlerMary K. MillerJerry & DyannaNelson

Thank you for being there in the day, in the night, and any time we needed you. Your comforting words,loving touch, and unbelievable staff made the last part of our loved one’s journey more bearable. Fromthe bottom of our hearts, we appreciate you.—a Caldwell Hospice family member

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Chris & SandyRandallMillie WestDelana McCroskeyDry Ponds BaptistChurchPauline McDadeDry Ponds BaptistChurchCharles McFarlandJean McFarlandBertha McGimseyMillie WestJenell McLeanConcord BaptistChurchThelma McRaryKeith & Peggy BlinsonShew Hun MewDarrell & Dottie LloydMyrtle O. MillerGospel BarnAmanda AllieLinda HeltonJames F. JonesWayne & PatsyThomasDan & Pat WhiteLois MooreAutumn WoodProducts, LLCCCI Telecom, Inc.Marvene HatleyRobert & LoriMacDougallMichael "Rosy"MoretzDowntown LenoirCruisers, Inc.Edward & CarolynLutzDavid & GeraldineMartinMac & Peggy MartinDavy, Lois, & AmberWhittingtonRuth F. NelsonMillie WestMary FrancesNicholsSouth Caldwell LadiesInvestment ClubDavid & Kay CaudleRita D. CheekRuth L. KincaidDennis & Betty RoseMackieElaine J. RhodesFrank & CeliaSabistonJack Strader

Jerry & JeanetteStraderHarrison NixDry Ponds BaptistChurchDennis Michael"Mike" PendleyCaldwell Hospice &Palliative Care StaffDudley D. PennellKeith & Peggy BlinsonPeggy BlinsonBillie BraswellNed PennellJean ReidJanelle PennellShirley P. CregerMildred T. PennellKeith & Peggy BlinsonPeggy BlinsonBillie BraswellNed PennellJean ReidSadie PennellDan & Ina MartinVerlie PennellShirley P. CregerPaul G. PhillipsDavid & GeraldineMartinMillie West

Michael L. Pierce,Sr.Paul & Linda BradyStephen & JoyceCoffeyCindy CoxAmy, Adrian, Sarah, &Russell DuncanKenneth & JaniceEckardAdeliah FlowersRob & Jan HiersteinerJasper, Betty, & SteveMorganBen & ShirleyRobinsonEd SchottLennie PitmanDry Ponds BaptistChurchAllie Kate PooveyCharles & JuanitaPooveyVirginia S. PopeMs. B.J. Setzer &Vickie SetzerWilliam "Darrell"PopeCaldwell County BarAssn.

Harold & RachelEarleyBradley & Marcy Pope,Ryan, & Erica Pope,Shawn PopeSheila P. StoneBette ThompsonSusan ThompsonJonesVirginia L. ProctorJanet B. AtwoodDeAnnea RainwaterKim Sigmon, SharonKeiger, DeepArdeshna, AmandaBaker, & Shellie SainJack & Geneva KincaidRandy RamseyDry Ponds BaptistChurchDaniel RashGreer Laboratories,Inc.Ruben ReidReid FamilyMichael J. RiceJill RiceCharles LowellRichardsonToy Greene FamilyTravis RichardsonMillie WestLena "Mickey"RobertsonBrown DriveNeighborsMary ShealyRebecca SaundersChris & Lisa Evans,Evans Funeral Service& CrematoryRobert "Bob"SaundersChris & Lisa Evans,Evans Funeral Service& CrematoryLorena SchmearBecky HickokDaisy SeagleDry Ponds BaptistChurchLawrence Seagle,Jr.Dry Ponds BaptistChurchRoss SeagleDry Ponds BaptistChurchCora L. SetzerKings Creek SchoolWestern CarolinaElectrical Supply

John F. Byrd & DebbieCoeDoug & Lisa ColvardDr. Kenneth & PriscillaHensleyMillie WestDermont G. SetzerMs. B.J. Setzer &Vickie SetzerFranklin DelonSetzerMs. B.J. Setzer &Vickie SetzerLillian K. SetzerBroyhill FamilyFoundation, Inc.First Advent ChristianChurchBrooks & Faye BarberRon & Christine BeaneMatt & Terri BernhardtDr. Myra A. DicksonElaine KentMr. & Mrs. JackPennellKelly W. PritchardNola SootsMillie WestSloan H. SherrillHarold & CarolynBardillCarmon BollingerNancy CampbellSharon & Larry Smith,Kerry & Dan LautanenKristin & Tom Abbott,and Lauren QuealeJoe M. RobertsMillie WestBarbara SidesDonald Lowery TreeServiceNC Nursery &Landscape Assn., Inc.James & JenniferLoweryHugh & CarolynSheltonMillie WestClarence "Ben"SidesDouglas Myrick &David SidesIrene H. SidesDouglas Myrick &David SidesSteve SimmonsBetty SimmonsBruce SmithRanger TuckerClara B. SmithMr. & Mrs. Roy Barlow

James R. SmithMillie WestLinda M. SmithRodney & JoyceWilliamsOliver SmithDry Ponds BaptistChurchJack B. SpainhourHendrix ElementarySchool, Third GradeTeachersBeverly & Judy BealJohn & JosephineBeallCharles & BillieBraswellMary Anne CarpenterLarkin & Pat HortonPatricia D. KirbyStephen McCorkleMax & Mary PadgettMr. & Mrs. JackPennellDoug & CarolynShiflettMillie WestClarence SteeleClarence C. KeeverGray SteeleGeneva SteeleBuster & Judy GreeneLou McRaryHerbert & Mary MillerMs. B.J. SetzerRuby K. WarnockMillie WestNovella MitchamStrongOliver W. StrongLoretta S. SuddrethCouples' Bridge Clubof Forest City, NCFoothills OutdoorsmanAssn.Mountain GroveBaptist Church, RonBeane ClassYadkin Baptist ChurchYadkin Baptist Church,Currently Young CircleFaye H. BrooksJon & Laura ChildsRuby S. EllerMaurice & EllenHuskeyDick & Nancy JonesJohn & GeraldyneLockmanStephen McCorkleJudy McLeanDebra Ramsey

Dear Caldwell Hospice staff and the guy who brought out the bed...thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your actsof love and kindness....You certainly made the passing of my loved one a “beautiful experience,” as she transitioned into theloving arms of our Lord.—a Caldwell Hospice family member

Joe A. SaundersShirley SmithVera SullivanKen AdkinsBob & Gwen SuddrethWarren WilsonKathleen SwansonErnest & BrendaBartlesLance BartlesRebecca S. DavisRichard "Bill"SwansonErnest & BrendaBartlesLance BartlesRebecca S. DavisEva Marie A.TeagueVeterans of ForeignWars, Lee Powell Post5381Myrtle TesterBetty SimmonsFaye TolbertFriends & Co-Workersof Debbie Pearson

Roger TolbertCalvary BaptistChurchFoothills OutdoorsmanAssn.Sharon "Lindy" BergJames A. BradshawDavid & Alice ElrodBuster & Judy GreeneLucille "Lucy" KernsJohn & Clara LambertMrs. S. Ray MooreMr. & Mrs. Ken SipesSteve & ConnieStrangeMildred "Cookie"SykesEdna H. TolbertJune G. TriplettBill & Willie FrazierLouise TripletteMaria StarnesAaron F. TuckerHibriten High SchoolFaculty & StaffThad TurnmireDry Ponds BaptistChurchDonald J. SandersBarbara VanRomondtDale & Helen ClarkSara M. Putzell

John & CarolSchwagerMr. & Mrs. J. MichaelWilliamsMerita VannoyFriendship BaptistChurch, Adult LadiesII Sunday SchoolClassLucille ClarkBoyd & Kathryn CloerBlenda CookeCindy CoxDennis & Bessie FarrMary S. KirbyDonna MaradaDewitt & Sherlie MillerFrank & Irene TewKathleen "Kate"ViveretteDan & Ina MartinBradley WalkerShirley C. WalkerDaisy WalkerLinda CampbellEdith "Polly"WarlickDry Ponds BaptistChurchRuby W. WarlickWilliam F. Warlick, Jr.Carolyn WarrenMillie WestFrederick H. WatersJudith L. WatersGrace S. WatsonLuther M. SmithFamilyKenneth & ElizabethVanceMozelle WoodsMary R. WatsonMountain GroveBaptist Church, RonBeane ClassWalter F. BaierRon & Christine BeaneMr. & Mrs. James C.Bush, Jr.Helen J. CardenDavid & Missy HambyReba Helms & FamilyStuart & Addie TuckerMillie WestJewette P. WeberMartin Starnes &Assoc., CPAs, PATed WhiteMillie WestTeresa WikeMillie West

A.D. WilsonDry Ponds BaptistChurchBoyd Wilson, Sr.Dry Ponds BaptistChurchEugene WilsonDry Ponds BaptistChurchEvelyn WilsonDry Ponds BaptistChurchGwyn W. WilsonDry Ponds BaptistChurchJulia WilsonDry Ponds BaptistChurchKathleen WilsonDry Ponds BaptistChurchLarry D. WilsonDairy FreshEmployeesDry Ponds BaptistChurchEmployment SecurityCommission StaffClay & JanetteBollingerRoger & PeggyBrookshirePaul & MarieBumgarnerMarc & BennieCarpenterSteve & Terri ClarkEarl ClontzBlenda CookeDarrell & Luanne DealLyvon Deal & MillieEllis-DealMilton & Jody GreerHolly HallSteven L. HollowayTy & Zack PotterCurtis & Clara PowellBoyd & Jean RamseyMaecile RamseyNancy M. RamseyTony RamseyBill & MargaretWeaverFloyd WilsonJune WilsonLewis J. WinklerCatawba ValleyWildlife Club, Inc.Henry & Janet PennellLonnie WoodsLinda Campbell

Mary C. YountTemple Hill BaptistChurch, Vera LinkClassBernice BurnsMike & Malinda ClayJudy Y. DealGaye M. FowlerJoe, June, & HaroldMitchamDanez RuddBillie StarnesMichael & DebbieWhittingtonEvelyn J. Wilson

HONORSMr. & Mrs. RoyBarlowElaine BrooksDavid & JoyceBeardFreddie & HarrietMooreDr. Robert BelkElaine BrooksRobert & DonnaBelkDorothy K. SuddrethJoyce C. BraswellFriends of JoyceBraswellJane BraswellLarry & PatsyRichardsonWanita P. SherrillJackie BumgarnerMozelle WoodsRuby BumgarnerKay BumgarnerNancy CampbellSt. Stephen'sLutheran ChurchKen MillerJuanita CarltonElaine BrooksMarc CarpenterJune WilsonEdgar O. CoffeyEffie CoffeyDr. April E. Cotton& NurseElaine BrooksDarlene JonesDry Ponds BaptistChurchDonnie LailDry Ponds BaptistChurchDottie MetzgerElaine Brooks

Rev. Jeris ParsonsWest Caldwell HighSchool Senior ClassJenni S. PattersonElaine BrooksDr. Thomas RayElaine BrooksRoger TolbertEdna H. TolbertMary Jane TriplettElaine BrooksJeanette WatsonElaine BrooksParker T.WilliamsonDorothy K. Suddreth

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Central BaptistChurch, MissionAction GroupClearview BaptistChurch ActeensCollege AvenueBaptist Church, ErrollTriplett CircleCountry Comes HomeDelicate Touch FloristDry Ponds BaptistChurchEbenezer UnitedMethodist ChurchFirst Freewill BaptistChurch, Ladies ClassFirst Wesleyan Church

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Contributions

Thank you so much for the care that you gave to my loved one while she was there. Thank you for making her as comfort-able as possible, for the love and compassion that you showed to her, for comforting her the best that you could, for all thecomfort and kindness shown to the family. You are always going to be in our hearts as a blessing.—A Caldwell HospiceFamily Member

Contributions

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First WesleyanChurch, Women'sGroupFriendship BaptistChurch, AuditoriumClassGirl Scout Troop10141Happy ValleyRuritansHarrisburg BaptistChurchHibriten High SchoolHoly Trinity LutheranChurchHudson UnitedMethodist ChurchHudson UnitedMethodist, ChurchCircle #2Indian Hills BaptistChurchKrispy KremeDoughnutsLakeview BaptistChurchLenoir Rotary ClubLittle Rock BaptistChurchMiller Hill BaptistChurch, BaptistWomen #1Mt. Zion BaptistChurchNorth CatawbaBaptist ChurchPendry's LenoirFuneral Home &CrematoryPhiladelphia Lutheran ChurchPrayer Mountain USASam's Club 6355Sawmills CommunityOptimist ClubSetzer Creek BaptistChurch, WMUShaire Center St. James EpiscopalChurchTemple Hill BaptistChurchTreasuresWPCC HumanServices Club

Xi Gamma RhoSororityYadkin BaptistChurch WMUZion United Churchof ChristSusan BarnettMary BeanAngela BentleyGeneva BradshawElaine BrooksRobert E. ByerlyMelinda Clontz,LCSW

Linda EllerAnna FergusonEdith HeldermanAllie KirbySabine MillerMildred MooreEvelyn J. PresnellRalph S. Prestwood,Jr., PrestwoodAssociates, Inc.Beth ShoreJudy SullivanAuguste ThielemannMary Jane TriplettChuck TroutmanLorene WalkerShirley C. WalkerSteve & Donna WestJeanne WhisnantSherry WhiteStuart WhiteLarry Whitlock, NCHealth Horizons, LLC

IN-KINDMEMORIALSJimmy BlankenshipJames, Elliott, &Junior BlankenshipRobert A. ButlandCarmen ButlandPaulette H. ChurchIrene, Kaye, AnnunknownDebra WhisnantAvis CorpeningAmy BoydSherlene DancyHarvey Dancy

Jeffrey "Jeff"DuffeyJeanette DuffeyMary Jane FarrMary Jane Farr FamilyJohn A. Forlines, Jr.Bank of GraniteJulia ForlinesJane Duke ForlinesMargaret "Ailene"FryeBarbara CannonHarriet LodgeBarry LodgeRay & MarthaMcCallRevonda RichieMargaret MooneyIrene, Kaye, AnnunknownDebra WhisnantWilliam "Darrell"PopeSiblings of DarrellPopeBessie RaineyMichael J. RiceJill RiceSloan H. SherrillBurke Hospice andPalliative Care, Inc.

IN-KINDHONORSBrenda HuffmanIndian Hills BaptistChurch

CONTRIBUTORSClara AndrewsBilly & Mary AustinG. Alex BernhardtCarl & MinnieBowmanTravis HartleyPaul & SallyHunsuckerDeborah HutchinsDianne L. LloydWesley PennellFred PrinceScott Rubin/MasterHelcoNorman Williams

RELIGIOUSORGANIZA-TIONSCajah's MountainBaptist ChurchCalvary BaptistChurchCalvary BaptistChurch, MarriedAdult ClassCedar Rock BaptistChurchCenter Grove BaptistChurchCentral BaptistChurchClark's ChapelBaptist Church, AdultLadies ClassClover BaptistChurch, AndrewClassClover BaptistChurch, Berea ClassConcord BaptistChurchConcord BaptistChurch, Mom Curtis& Helen Barlow CircleDry Ponds BaptistChurchDudley ShoalsBaptist ChurchEast Flat BaptistChurchEmmanuel BaptistChurchFaith Baptist ChurchFirst Advent ChristianChurchFirst Advent ChristianChurch, Hattie SteeleCircleFirst Baptist Church,ArchdaleFirst Baptist Church,Granite FallsFirst Baptist Church,Hudson, Pairs &Spares ClassFirst Baptist Church,RhodhissFirst Baptist Church,Whitnel

First UnitedMethodist Church,Granite Falls, RuthBible ClassFlemings ChapelBaptist Church, AdultMen II ClassFriendship BaptistChurch, Adult LadiesII ClassGrace Chapel UnitedMethodist ChurchGrace Chapel UnitedMethodist Church,UMWGrandin BaptistChurchHibriten BaptistChurchHope ChristianFellowshipLittle Rock BaptistChurchLivingston MemorialBaptist ChurchMountain GroveBaptist Church,Living Word ClassMountain GroveBaptist Church, RonBeane ClassRefuge MissionaryBaptist ChurchSt. Stephen'sLutheran ChurchTemple Hill BaptistChurchTemple Hill BaptistChurch, Vera LinkClassWest Lenoir BaptistChurchWorship Point BaptistChurch, Women'sClassYadkin BaptistChurchYadkin BaptistChurch, CurrentlyYoung CircleYadkin Valley BaptistChurch, GoldenNuggets

God answered our prayers when our loved one was put in your care....She was treated with great respect and dignity, whichmeant so very much to us. “Hospice” was a word we did not want to hear prior to our loved one’s illness, but you all werewonderful....We appreciate everything you did for our loved one....—a Caldwell Hospice family member

Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care, Inc., gratefully acknowledges memorials and contributions received between 01 April and 30 June 2011.Please notify us if we have omitted a donation from this listing. Contributions received after 30 June 2011 will be listed in our Winter 2011 issue.

Newsletter mailing list policy. Carelines is published four times a year. Each person who makes a contribution to our hospice during the sixmonths prior to a mailing will receive the next two issues. Individuals may ask to be placed on our “do not remove” mailing list; in that case, theywill continue to receive the newsletter every quarter.

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United Way ContributorsLinda AlstonJames BakerRonnie BarnesCarl BeanePaula BeaverJeff BenfieldDustin BentleyLinda BentleyThomas BerryElizabeth BillingsSharon BledsoeDebra BlevinsMelissa BolickJohn BolickDennis BolickRegina BolickCheryl BowmanFreddie BoyceMichael BraswellReba BrewerBarbara BridgesDiamond BrownAlice CampRegina CannonAvalee CarltonFrances CarltonMarcus CarpenterCrystal CarrollDarrell ChandlerAlan ChurchMartha ClarkJames ClarkNadine ClarkPaula CoffeyBetty CottrellSandra CraigTreva Craig

Lisa CraigDavid CraneVickey CrispDarrell CrowderJo CrumpTammy DeavieMichael DelpBrenda DooleyCarla DuckworthWalter DulaDebra DulaLisa DulaCharles DunnSheila EdwardsStanley EdwardsGladys EstesSandy FasoldBeverly FrittsBeverly FrySandra GibbsDon GibbsBobby GreeneDavey GreerJerry GreerWilliam HambyWindy HammondRobert HarperBrenda HarrisonThomas HawkinsJudy HendrixDan HerringClaude HicksSteve HodgesPamela HouckTeresa HoyleJoyce JacksonRonnie Jewell

William JohnsonPatricia JohnsonVictor KiddDoris KirbyGary LambertCarma LandisLinda LewisKenneth LingerfeltMary LingleRyan LingleTimothy LoganMichael LowePhyllis MalcolmJackie MartinArlis MastGeraldine MastHelen McCorkleTerry McDonaldMarjorie McKinneyPatty McKinneyMikeal McKinneyLarry MillerMartha MillerAnnette MooreThomas MoretzAngela MurphyEric NicholsDebra NorrisElizabeth OsborneAnn PattersonDustin PennellThomas PennellJeffery PenningtonNella PerezJames PerkinsJohn PopeEric Pope

Charlene PresnellJohn PrestwoodShirley Reid Tracy Ritch Sylvia RoarkWilliam RoarkRoberta RoarkElizabeth RoushTerry RoyalKeith SmithSarah SmithKimberly SmithLesia SpearsTony StootsJanice StootsRoger StoutDonna SummerowBilly TownsendPhyllis TriplettChris TriplettKathy TurnmireDebra WalkerBruce WalkerKelly WardAdam WardIda WardDockie WatsonSandra WebsterDonna WhittingtonStephen WidenerApril WilcoxRobert WinebargerJesse WoodruffLinda WoodsJimmy WrightWayne Zajac

Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care, Inc., gratefully acknowledges the individuals who designated our hospice to bethe recipient of their 2010-2011 United Way contributions. We appreciate their kindness.

Third Annual American Gospel Jamboree October 8, 2011— 7 p.m.JE Broyhill Civic Center

to Benefit Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care

Karen Peck & New River Karen Peck & New River

Steve WarrenSteve Warren

David JohnsonDavid Johnson& Delta Dawn& Delta Dawn

1913 HickoryBlvd., SE,Lenoir, NCBox Office:

828.726.2407

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Volunteers: Caldwell Hospice Needs a Few Good MenThe above headline may seem surprising, if notsexist, at first glance. However, it makes clear one ofCaldwell Hospice’s very real volunteer needs: men.

Approximately half of Caldwell Hospice’s patients aremen, and some of them would prefer to spend timewith male volunteers. “Some patients need malecontact, with fishing, etc. as conversation topics,”said David Eggers, a retired school principal and six-year Caldwell Hospice volunteer. “We can relate tothem.”

It doesn’t mean, as he was quick to point out, thatwomen can’t fish or drive trucks—it’s simply thatmen may find it easier to talk with another manabout the illness, the medicine they’re taking, ortheir concerns about the changes they’re experi-encing.

John Dockery, another retired school principal, is inhis seventh year as a Caldwell Hospice volunteer. Hehas visited with more than a dozen patients, all men.“Male patients want male volunteers,” he said. “Theyreally appreciate talking to a man.”

Recalling the time spent and the relationship thatdeveloped with a patient he served for almost twoyears, Dockery told about driving the patient and hiswife to the grocery store. While she went inside toshop, Dockery and the patient would sit in the carand talk. Dockery drove the patient to doctors’appointments, chemotherapy treatments, and to theemergency room once.

Eggers prefers to work with one patient at a timeand give his full attention to that individual’sneeds and interests. For one patient, it was goingfishin’; they drove through the field and pulled upclose to the bank, set up two chairs, and spent theday fishing. It was a good day, he said, eventhough they only caught a couple of fish.

With another patient, “We’d get in my truck andride through the back roads to see deer,” Eggerssaid. One day, he drove the patient to the BassPro Shop in Concord and spent a half day,wheeling him around in his wheelchair.

Volunteers can serve patients in many ways,whether taking them to appointments or justproviding companionship. Recalling one patient,Eggers said, “I think he enjoyed the things I didfor him—we took his mind off things.”

The time commitment may discourage somepotential volunteers, but Dockery pointed out thatgiving one hour a week is not too much to ask.

The 12-hour volunteer training program atCaldwell Hospice “is as good as any I’ve seen,even from my years in teaching,” Dockery said. Noone is obligated to join, “and it’s valuable whetherpeople decide to be volunteers or not.”

Would-be volunteers may be reluctant to befriendsomeone who is at the end of life. “Sadness willbe part of volunteering—it’s natural,” Eggers said.“Don’t let that discourage you from volunteeringbecause way more joy awaits you.”

Caldwell Hospice cares about its volunteers, asboth Dockery and Eggers pointed out. “The volun-teer coordinator never gives you more than youcan handle,” Eggers said. Following the death ofhis most-recent patient, Eggers may take a breakfrom patient-family assignments, doing somemaintenance work at Caldwell Hospice’s two facili-ties, instead.

Asked about suggestions for appealing to men,Dockery said that working with patients can “helpyou deal with your own situation some day. Youwill gain more from patients than you give.”

Eggers said, with a smile, “Be man enough to doit—this is not a man doing a ‘woman’s job’—thereis a real need here.”

Caldwell Hospice has scheduled a volunteertraining workshop: October 11 and 13, 5:30 to8:30 p.m., and October 15, 8:30 a.m. to 4:30p.m., in the Wilson Meeting Room, at 902Kirkwood St., NW, Lenoir. Lunch will be providedfor the Saturday session. Participants will gain an

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The patient had a fig tree in his yard and would pickfigs from his wheelchair. Smiling, as he rememberedthe scene, Dockery said he still has figs in hisfreezer, given to him by the patient. Friendships area benefit of the patient-volunteer relationship. Sincethe patient’s death, Dockery and the family havekept in contact.

Pictured (L to R): VolunteerJohn Dockery at VolunteerBanquet, 2009; David Eggersat Open House for RobbinsCenter, 2010.

Each person’s grief experience is different, andwriting journal entries is one method we use incounseling to bring about healing. Writing allowsclients to attribute meaning to life experiences. Itcan be a powerful outlet for emotional expressionand can give people insight into their lives. If theycan identify, and eventually change, their behaviorpatterns, it can be a transforming experience.

One of my bereavement clients allowed me to readher journal entries—and she has agreed to shareher experience with each of you in the eloquentlyexpressed paragraphs which follow. Through herwords, you’ll feel the pain of her loss and the powerof what our Caldwell Hospice team members can doto bring about healing. —Caldwell Hospice CounselorJessica Hatton

As I sit underneath a mighty Elm tree, shrouded bymy daddy’s love, I open a remembrance book in mymind and visit the past again. Through the book ofmy life, I turn the pages, falling faster and fasterback in time. The clock chimes. Abruptly, the pagestops and I land beside my mother’s bed. She is inthe intensive care unit in the hospital.

The date is December 7, 2010. The time is 7:00p.m., and the doctor is telling me, “Your mother isdying. We need to remove the breathing machine.Do you want me to call Hospice?”

I reply, “Yes!”

Little did I know that six hours later my motherwould be gone. My mother died December 8, 2010,at 1:00 a.m. In my whole life, I never embraced themoment until that day: the moment of feelingalone. Before, when I was facing a loved one’sdeath, I was wrapped with my mother’s comfort.Now, she is gone!

My sister was not with me because she has heartproblems. She lives in West Palm Beach, Florida.Her doctor tells her, “Peggy, you may not travel or

someone may be planning your funeral.” For thatreason, she was not by my side, physically.However, I could feel her with me, spiritually. Sheand I are the last two people in our immediatefamily circle. Thoughts are swirling through mymind. One thought shouts, “What will I do if mysister dies, also?” At that moment, I embraced thefeeling: I am alone!

Telling the doctor to call Caldwell Hospice &Palliative Care turns out to be the best decision thatI have made during my mother’s death. The staffstays with me through the valley of the shadow ofdeath in my mother’s eleventh hour.

I learn during that time that I have companions formy journey. Their lamps are full of oil and theycarry the light into my darkest hour.

After my mother’s death, I took advantage of thegrief counseling offered by Ashewood Grief andCounseling Services. I recommend counseling toanyone who has lost a loved one. During mysessions, I learned that, throughout my life, I hadmade choices even when I thought I did not have achoice.

Also, I was challenged to dig through the debris ofbroken dreams, the rubble of failed relationships,and the valley of the shadow of death in order togive a voice to my pain. The process was verypainful and slow. The end result was healing, bothphysical and spiritual.

After the sessions were completed, I can say,“Thank God for Caldwell Hospice and the angels ofmercy that I have encountered within my journey.”Today, I see God directing my footsteps andCaldwell Hospice inspiring my life. I see myselfgiving back to the community by doing some volun-teer work at Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care.

Ashewood Grief and Counseling Services, 1002 AsheAvenue, Lenoir, will host a four-week journal-writingworkshop on Monday afternoons in November—7,14, 21, and 28—from 1 to 2:30 p.m. CounselorJessica Hatton and Communication Specialist PamHildebran will lead the group.

Anyone in the community who has experienced theloss of a loved one is encouraged to participate bysharing their experiences, encouraging each other inthe group, and putting their feelings onto paper.

For more information or to sign up for the four-week workshop, call 754.0101.

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Healing with Pen and Paper

Volunteer News

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Snacks (ind.-size) forpatients’ familiesInd.-size cereals & soups;instant oatmeal or gritsApplesauceArtificial sweetener(Equal, Sweet ’n’ Low)Dish cloths, dish towels(light colors)Paper towelsNapkins

Aluminum foilPlastic wrapStorage bags (qt. & gal.)Coffee (cans, regular &decaf)Bottled waterStyrofoam coffee cups (8-oz. size)Solo cups (16-oz. size)Paper plates and bowlsPlastic spoons and forks

Large boxes of tissuesBaby wipes, unscented(refill packs)Liquid soap (8-oz. bottles,etc.)Lotion (ind. size)Deodorant (ind. size)Toothpaste (travel size)MouthwashNail clippersHair brushes

Pledge dusting wipesMr. Clean Magic ErasersAmazon.com gift cards forteen/children grief books,music, etc.Music CDs (instrumental,gospel, inspirational, etc.)Disposable camerasfor patients and families at Stevens and Forlinespatient care units.

2011 Wish List

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understanding of the hospice philosophy, familydynamics when someone is dying, safety proce-dures, best responses to dying patients’ wishes andthe wishes of their families, and other practicalsubjects.

For more information, call Volunteer CoordinatorBrittany Bonn at 754.0101.

Welcome to our new volunTEENS. Tenteenagers completed Caldwell Hospice’s volunTEENtraining in July. They learned about the many waysthat teenagers can enrich the end-of-life experienceof hospice patients.

Approximately 70 teenagers, 14 to 17 years of age,volunteer for Caldwell Hospice through local highschools. Some of them visit resident-patients inlong-term-care facilities each month, create craftsfor holidays and other special occasions, help withlandscaping, office work, and patient care unit

The new volunTEENS are (standing, L to R) Avery Stewart,Kaelin Bowman, Shelby Tapper, Stephanie Nelson, DesmondJohnson, Cayla Carroll, Arizona Johnson; and (seated, L to R)Grace Severt, Adina Jan, and Carrie McNeil.

tasks at both the Lenoir and Hudson facilities. Tolearn more about volunteering, contact CaldwellHospice’s volunteer office at 828.754.0101.

Caldwell Hospice Names Above & Beyond RecipientRhonda Radford, a Lenoir HealthCare licensedpractical nurse with 20 years of nursing experience,was named as Caldwell Hospice and PalliativeCare’s Summer 2011 Quarter Above & Beyondrecipient.

Ms. Radford was praised for “facilitating communi-cation about end-of-life care and sharing herhospice experiences with patients and families tohelp them understand how Caldwell Hospice’s teamcan help them at the end of life.”

“She is a very caring individual, and we are happyto salute her work,” Caldwell Hospice PublicRelations and Marketing Coordinator Doug Hinsonsaid, as he presented the award.

Caldwell Hospice employees and volunteersnominate area long-term-care facilities’ employees

Pictured (L to R): Mirana Lambert, Lenoir HealthCare’s director ofnursing; Rhonda Radford, LPN, Above & Beyond recipient; DougHinson, Caldwell Hospice’s public relations and marketing coordinator;and Nancy Wallace, Caldwell Hospice’s facilities team leader.

who provide support to resident-patients, theirfamilies, and Caldwell Hospice staff members. Theaward is presented quarterly.

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Board of Directors Spotlight: Deborah Murray

Deborah Murray is right where she needs to be.The Atlanta transplant left a 25-year career in thenewspaper business, including five years as News-Topic publisher, to serve as Caldwell 20/20’s presi-dent and CEO.

Murray moved to Granite Falls in 2004 when shebecame the News-Topic publisher; even beforeleaving Georgia, she received a letter from the lateJohn A. Forlines, Jr., welcoming her and paving theway for her eventual membership on CaldwellHospice’s Board of Directors. “I didn’t expect tofind such a mentor, such a champion,” Murray said.She hopes to model his concern and support asmuch as possible.

“I had respected hospice as an organization formany years,” Murray said, “but in Caldwell County,the bar is raised and hospice care is accessible toeveryone. There’s an expectation that it’s here ifyou need it.” She marveled at staff members’genuine commitment to providing quality care andcompassion for every patient and family in whathas to be the hardest time in their lives.

As a Caldwell Hospice board member, Murrayserves on the personnel/nominating committee. Inaddition, she serves on the Economic DevelopmentCommission and Chamber of Commerce boards, isvice-chair of the CCC&TI Foundation and a CaldwellMemorial Hospital trustee.

“I always had a heart for community service,”Murray said. Caldwell 20/20’s purpose, she said, isto help this community succeed in a globaleconomy. Caldwell County has endured hard times,as the manufacturing jobs left and its unemploy-ment rate jumped from two percent in 1980 to 17percent in January 2010. Now, the young people(18-34 years old and their small children) are

leaving the county at an increasing rate to findwork and security.

20/20 focuses on holistic economic development bybuilding local and regional partnerships and strate-gies; educating, informing, and engaging all levelsof the community; and investing time, talent, andresources to increase the county’s capacity to growand compete in a global economy. The county can,Murray said, “reinvent itself in a way that will stillbe uniquely Caldwell County.”

Murray is also a musician. For many of her Atlantayears, she led children’s choirs and sang with herchurch’s worship team at home and many regionaland national conferences. She still is amazed thatshe was included to sing background vocals withcontemporary Christian artists Babbie Mason,Alecia Garcia, and Truth. And once, she sangbackground vocals with Paul Anka!

The former newspaper publisher hopes to finishwriting and then publish books of her own. She isan amateur photographer, as well.

Murray’s family includesher mother, who is stillindependent and living inAtlanta; her daughter whois married and living inCharlotte with the “appleof my eye,” her eight-year-old granddaughterMadison. Murray namedher current major hobby as attending Madison’sclub soccer matches and“spoiling her to thedegree that her parentswill let me.”

Photos (L to R): Deborah Murray in official News-Topic portrait; singing carols with CHPC“as needed” employee Barbara Weiller at CHPC Christmas lunch; sharing in recognition ofCHPC nurse Dottie Metzger’s Caldwell County’s favorite nurse award.

Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care, Inc.Companions for the Journey902 Kirkwood Street, NWLenoir, NC 28645www.caldwellhospice.org

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In This IssueCHPC Receives Grant for Suicide

Support Training ........................1

From the Director’s Chair: Report to the Community ..........2

A Moment with Dr. Belk: Advance Directives ...................3

Contributions .........................4-9

CHPC Needs a Few Good Men—

to Volunteer! ...........................10

Ashewood Report: Keeping a

Journal to Cope with Loss .......11

Wish List .................................12

Board Spotlight:

Deborah Murray ......................13

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Upcoming Events

Call 754.0101 for information.

Grief Journal-Writing WorkshopNovember 7, 14, 21, 28 — 1 to 2:30 p.m.

Ashewood Grief & Counseling Services1002 Ashe Ave., Lenoir

Led by Counselor Jessica Hatton, LPCA, & Communication Specialist Pam Hildebran

Learn at LunchDecember 7, 2011 —Noon to 1:30 p.m.

Meeting Room A, Robbins Center526 Pine Mountain Rd., Hudson