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“Bestill,andknowthatIamGod”
(Psalms46:10,NIV).
“ForGodisnotaGodofconfusionbutofpeace”
(1Corinthians14:33,NASB).
“ExcepttheLordbuildthehouse,theylabourinvainthatbuildit”
(Psalm127:1,KJV).
E-mail:[email protected]:(502)77621017
PrintedApril2015Panajachel,Sololá,Guatemala.
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Dedication Thisbookisdedicatedtoallwhocomefrompoorandhumbleplaces,andhavelittleinthewayofeducation,power,moneyorinfluence.Duetoyearsofabuse,manyhavelittlefreedomtoevenspeak;theemotionsthatseemtoruleareofhelplessness,depression,andfear.Therearethosesoplunderedbody,soulandspiritit'sdifficultforthemtofindtheirvoiceortobelieve,thatanyonewouldreallywanttohearwhattheyhavetosay.Thesearethevoicelesspoorandtheyareourmosthonoredmembers.Theirstoriesaremostimportant,fortheyhaveyettobetold.
“AtthatverytimeJesusrejoicedgreatlyintheHolySpirit,andsaid,IpraiseYou,OFather,Lordofheavenandearth,thatyouhavehiddenthesethingsfromthewiseand
intelligentandhaverevealedthemtoinfants.Yes,Father,forthiswaywaswell-pleasinginYoursight”(Luke10-21,NASB).
“Listen,mybelovedbrethren:didnotGodchoosethepoorofthisworldtoberichinfaithandheirsofthekingdomwhichHepromisedtothosewholoveHim?”
(James2:5,NASB)
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TheLord’sPrayerThisistheprayerourLordJesusChristgavehisdisciplestopray
afterHetoldthem,“YourheavenlyFatheralreadyknowswhatyouneedbeforeyouaskHim.”Pray,theninthisway:
“OurFatherwhoisinheaven,hallowedbeyourname,yourkingdomcome,
yourwillbedoneonearthasitisinheaven.Giveustodayourdailybread.
forgiveusourdebts,Aswealsohaveforgivenourdebtors.
Andleadusnotintotemptation,butdeliverusfromtheevilone.
Foryoursisthekingdomandthepowerandthegloryforever”.
(Mathew6:8)
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PrayerforSerenityGod,grantmetheserenity
toacceptthethingsIcannotchange,thecouragetochangethethingsIcan,andthewisdomtoknowthedifference.
Livingonedayatatime,Enjoyingonemomentatatime;
acceptinghardshipasapathwaytopeace;taking,asJesusdid,
thissinfulworldasitis;notasIwouldhaveit;
trustingthatYouwillmakeallthingsrightifIsurrendertoYourwill;
sothatImaybereasonablyhappyinthislifeandsupremelyhappywithYouforeverinthenext.
Amen.
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SMALLGROUPGUIDELINES
1. Keep your sharing focused on your own thoughts and feelings. Limit your
sharingtothreetofiveminutes.
2. There is NO cross talk. Cross talk is when two individuals engage in
conversation excluding all others. Each person is free to express his or her
feelingswithoutinterruptions.
3. Weareheretosupportoneanother,notto“fix”another.
4. Anonymityandconfidentialityarebasicrequirements.What issharedinthe
groupstays in thegroup.Theonlyexception iswhensomeonethreatensto
injurethemselvesorothers.
5. OffensivelanguagehasnoplaceinaChrist-centeredrecoverygroup.
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TheBattleistheLord´s
“Bewiseinwhatisgoodand
innocentinwhatisevil,and
theGodofpeacewillsoon
crushSatanunderyourfeet”
(Romans16:19-20,NASB).
AXIOMS
Firstthings,first.
Onedayatatime.
Littlebylittle.
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TWELVESTEPSANDTHEIRBIBLICALCOMPARISONS
HerearetheStepswetook,whicharesuggestedasaprogramofrecovery:
1. Weadmittedwewerepowerlessoverouraddictionsandcompulsivebehaviors,thatourliveshadbecomeunmanageable(outofcontrol).“ForIknowthatgooditselfdoesnotdwellinme,thatis,inmysinfulnature.ForI
havethedesiretodowhatisgood,butIcannotcarryitout”(Romans7:18,NIV).
2. Wecametobelievethatapowergreaterthanourselvescouldrestoreustosanity.
“ForitisGodwhoworksinyoutowillandtoactinordertofulfillhisgoodpurpose”(Philippians2:13,NIV).
3. WemadeadecisiontoturnourlivesandourwillsovertothecareofGod.
“Therefore,Iurgeyou,brothersandsisters,inviewofGod’smercy,toofferyourbodiesasalivingsacrifice,holyandpleasingtoGod,thisisyourtrueandproper
worship”(Romans12:1,NIV).
4. Wemadeasearchingandfearlessmoralinventoryofourselves.“Letusexamineourwaysandtestthem,andletusreturntotheLord”
(Lamentations3:40,NIV).
5. WeadmittedtoGod,toourselves,andtoanotherhumanbeingthe“exactnature”ofourwrongs.
“YourwordisalamptomyfeetAndalighttomypath”(Psalm119:105,NASB).
“Thereforeconfessyoursinstoeachotherandprayforeachothersothatyoumaybehealed”(James5:16,NIV).
6. WeareentirelyreadytohaveGodremoveallthesedefectsofcharacter.
“HumbleyourselvesbeforetheLord,andHewillliftyouup”(James4:10,NIV).
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7. WehumblyaskedHimtoremoveallourshortcomings.“Ifweconfessoursins,Heisfaithfulandjustandwillforgiveusoursinsandpurify
usfromallunrighteousness”(1John1:9,NIV).
8. Wemadealistofallpersonswehadharmedandbecamewillingtomakeamendstothemall.
“Dotootherasyouwouldhavethemdotoyou”(Luke6:31,NIV).
9. Wemadedirectamendstosuchpeoplewheneverpossible,exceptwhentodosowouldinjurethemorothers.“Therefore,ifyouareofferingyourgiftatthealtarandthererememberthatyourbrotherorsisterhassomethingagainstyou,leaveyourgiftthereinfrontofthe
altar.Firstgoandbereconciledtothem;thencomeandofferyourgift”(Matthew5:23-24,NIV).
10. Wecontinuedtotakepersonalinventoryandwhenwewerewrong,promptly
admittedit.“So,ifyouthinkyouarestandingfirm,becarefulthatyoudon’tfall!”
(1Corinthians10:12,NIV).
11. Wesought throughprayerandmeditationto improveourconsciouscontactwithGod,prayingonlyforknowledgeofHiswillforusandpowertocarrythatout.
“LetthemessageofChristdwellamongyourichly”(Colossians3:16,NIV).
12. Havinghadaspiritualexperienceastheresultofthesesteps,wetrytocarrythismessagetoothersandtopracticetheseprinciplesinallouraffairs.“Brothersandsisters,ifsomeoneiscaughtinasin,youwholivebytheSpiritshould
restorethatpersongently.Butwatchyourselves,oryoualsomaybetempted”(Galatians6:1,NIV).
“Outoftheabundanceoftheheartthemouthspeaks”(Matthew12:34,NKJV).
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Step1Weadmittedwewerepowerlessoverouraddictionsand
compulsivebehaviors,thatourliveshadbecomeunmanageable(outofcontrol).
IrealizeI’mnotGod.IadmitthatIampowerlesstocontrolmytendencytodothe
wrongthingandthatmylifeisunmanageable(outofcontrol).
“ForIknowthatgooditselfdoesnotdwellinme,thatis,inmysinfulnature.ForIhavethedesiretodowhatisgood,butIcannotcarryitout”(Romans7:18,NIV).
“Happyarethosewhoknowtheyarespirituallypoor;theKingdomofheavenbelongstothem!”(Matthew5:3,GNT).
DENIAL Step 1 Review: We admitted we were powerless over our addictions andcompulsivebehaviors, thatour liveshadbecomeunmanageable (outof control).WerealizedthatwewerenotGod.
“ForIknowthatgooditselfdoesnotdwellinme,thatis,inmysinfulnature.”“ForIhavethedesiretodowhatisgood,butIcannotcarryitout”(Romans7:18,NIV).
“Happyarethosewhoknowtheyarespirituallypoor”(Mathew5:3,GNT).
ThinkAboutThis
Beforewecantakethefirststepofourrecovery,wemustfirstfaceandadmitourdenial.Godtellsus.
“Youcan’thealawoundbysayingit’snotthere!”(Jeremiah6:14,TLB).
Denialdisablesourfeelings
Byrepressingourfeelingswefreezeouremotions.Understandingandfeelingourfeelingsisfreedom.
“Theypromisethemfreedom,whiletheythemselvesareslavesofdestructivehabits–forweareslavesofanythinghasconqueredus”(2Peter2:19,GNT).
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Denialisenergylost
Asideeffectofourdenialisanxiety.Anxietycausesustowastepreciousenergyrunning fromour past andworrying about and dreading the future. It is only in thepresent,today,wherepositivechangecanoccur.
“Hegivesjusticetothepoorandoppressedandfoodtothehungry.Hefreestheprisoners”(Psalm146:7,TLB).
“Cometome,allofyouwhoaretiredfromcarryingheavyloads,andIwillgiveyourest”(Matthew11:28,GNT).
Denialgeneratesanxiety
Weallowthatourfearsandourworriesstopus,buttheonlywayhowwecanbefreeofthemisbyfirstadmittingtheyexistandthengivingthemuptoGod.
“ComotoMe,allwhoarewearyandheavy-laden,andIwillgiveyourest.TakemyyokeuponyouandlearnfromMe,forIamgentleandhumbleinheart,andyouwillfindrestforyoursouls.ForMyyokeiseasyandMyburdenislight”(Matthew11:28-30,NASB).
Denialnegatesgrowth
Weare“assickasoursecrets.”Wecannotgrowinrecoveryuntilwearereadytostepoutofourdenialintothetruth.Whywouldoursecretsmakeussick?
“TheycriedtotheLordintheirtroubles,andHerescuedthem!Heledthemfromtheirdarknessandshadowofdeathandsnappedtheirchains”(Psalm107:13-14,TLB).
DenialisolatesusfromGod
God’slightshinesonthetruth.Ourdenialkeepsusinthedark.
“GodisLight;inHimthereisnodarknessatall.IfweclaimtohavefellowshipwithHimyetwalkinthedarkness,welieanddonotliveoutthetruth.Butifwewalkinthelight,asHeisinthelight,wehavefellowshipwithoneanother,andthebloodofJesus,his
Son,purifiesusfromallsin”(1John1:5-7,NIV).
Denialalienatesusfromourrelationships
Denialtellsuswearegettingawaywithit.Wethinknooneknowsbuttheydo.
Whatistheanswer?
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“Stoplyingtoeachother;tellthetruth,forwearepartsofeachotherandwhenwelietoeachotherwearehurtingourselves”(Ephesians4:25,TLB).
Deniallengthensthepain
Wehavethefalsebeliefthatdenialprotectsusfromourpain.Inreality,denialallowsourpaintofesterandgrowandturnintoshameandguilt.
“God’sPromise:Iwillgiveyoubackyourhealthagainandhealyourwounds”(Jeremiah30:17,TLB).
Acceptthefirstprincipleofrecovery.Stepoutofyourdenial!StepintoyourHigherPower’s–JesusChrist’s–unconditionalloveandgrace!
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. Whatareasofyourlifedoyouhavepower(control)over?Bespecific
2. Whatareasofyourlifeareoutofcontrol,unmanageable?Bespecific
3. Howdoyouthinktakingthisfirststepwillhelpyou?
4. Asachild,whatcopingskillsdidyouusetogetattentionortoprotectyourself?
5. Inyourfamilyoforigin,whatwasthe“familysecret”thateveryonewastryingtoprotect?
6. Howdoyouhandlepainanddisappointment?
7. Howcanyoubegintoaddressyourdenial?
8. Inwhatareasof your life are younowbeginning to face reality andbreak theeffectsofdenial?
9. Areyoustartingtodevelopasupportteam?Areyouaskingforphonenumbersinyourmeetings?
PowerlessThinkAboutthis
Whenweaccept the first recoveryprincipleand take that first stepoutofourdenialandintoourreality,weseethereareveryfewthingsthatwereallyhavecontrolover.Onceweadmit thatbyourselveswearepowerlesswecanstop livingwith thefollowing“serenityrobbers.”
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Loneliness
Loneliness isachoice. In recoveryand inChrist,youneverhave towalkalone.Communityisanimportantpartofourrecoveryprogram.
“Continuetoloveeachotherwithtruebrotherlylove.”“Don’tforgettobekindtostrangers,forsomewhohavedonethishaveentertainedangelswithoutrealizingit!”
(Hebrews13:1-2,TLB).
Onlyifs
Our“onlyifs”inlifekeepustrappedinthefantasylandofrationalization!
“Whateveriscoveredupwillbeuncovered,andeverysecretwillbemadeknown.”“Sothen,whateveryouhavesaidinthedarkwillbeheardinbroaddaylight”
(Luke12:2-3,GNT).
Separation
SomepeopletalkaboutfindingGod–asifHecouldevergetlost!
“DrawneartoGodandHewilldrawneartoyou”(James4:8,NASB).
“ForIamconvincedthatnothingcaneverseparateusfromhislove.Deathcan’t,andlifecan’t.Theangelswon’tandallthepowersofhellitselfcannotkeepGod’slove
away.Ourfearsfortoday,ourworriesabouttomorrow,orwhereweare–highabovethesky,orinthedeepestocean–nothingwilleverbeabletoseparateusfromthelove
ofGoddemonstratedbyourLordJesusChristwhenhediedforus”(Romans8:38-39,TLB).
Worry
WorryingisaformofnottrustingGodenough!
“Sodon’tbeanxiousabouttomorrow.Godwilltakecareofyourtomorrowtoo.Liveonedayatatime”(Matthew6:34,TLB).
Pride
Ignorance+power+pride=adeadlymixture!
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I’msmarter;I’mstrongerthanmyproblems.Idon’tneedhelp.Thereisanothertemptationtopride,thetemptationbythespousetothinktheycanmaketheirpartnersober,noonecanmakeanotherpersonsober.
“Prideendsinafall,whilehumilitybringshonor”(Proverbs29:23,TLB).
Escape
By living indenialwemayhaveescaped intoaworldof fantasyandunrealisticexpectationsofourselvesandothers.
“Forlightiscapableofshowingupeverythingforwhatitreallyis.”“Itisevenpossibleforlighttoturnthethingitshinesuponintolightalso”(Ephesians5:13-14,PH).
Resentments
Resentmentsactlikeanemotionalcanceriftheyareallowedtofesterandgrow.
“Inyourangerdonotsin:donotletthesungodownwhileyouarestillangry,anddonotgivethedevilafoothold”(Ephesians4:26-27,NIV).
Emptiness
Youknowthatemptyfeelingdeep inside.Thecoldwindofhopelessnessblowsrightthroughit.WehaveanemptyplaceinourheartsthatonlyGodcantrulyfill.
“Jesussaid,thethief(theserenityrobber)comesonlytostealandkillanddestroy;Icamethattheymayhavelife,haveitabundantly”(John10:10,NASB).
Selfishness
Weoftenpray:OurFatherwhichartinheaven;giveme,giveme,giveme.
“Whoeverclingstohislifeshallloseit,andwhoeverloseshislifeshallsaveit”(Luke17:33,TLB).
Congratulations!
InyouradmissionofyourpowerlessnessyouhavebegunthejourneyofrecoverythatwillallowyoutoacceptthetrueonlyHigherPower’s–JesusChrist–healing,love,andforgiveness.
Atthisstateinyourrecovery,youneedtostopdoingtwothings:
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1. StopDenyingthePainYouare ready to takeyour first step in recoverywhenyourpain is greaterthanfear.LetGodintohelp.
“Pityme,OLord,forIamweak.Healme,formybodyissick,andIamupsetanddisturbed.Mymindisfilledwithapprehensionandwithgloom”(Psalm6:2-3,TLB).
2.StopPlayingGodYourproblemsarebiggerthanyouare,butGodisbiggerthanyourproblems.
YouareunabletodoforyourselfwhatyouneedGodtodoforyou.YouareeithergoingtoserveGodoryourself.Youcan’tserveboth.
“Youcannotbeaslaveoftwomasters;youwillhateoneandlovetheother;youwillbeloyaltooneanddespisetheother”(Matthew6:24,GNT).
Inadditiontostoppingcertainbehaviors,youneedtostartdoingtwothings:
1. StartAdmittingYourPowerlessnessAsyouworkthefirstprincipleyouwillseethatbyyourself,youdonothavethepowertochangeyourhurts,hang-ups,andhabits.
Jesus…said,“Withmanthisisimpossible,butwithGodallthingsarepossible”(Matthew19:26,ESV).
2. StartAdmittingThatYourLifeHasBecomeUnmanageableYoucan finallystartadmitting thatsomeorallareasofyour lifeareoutofyourcontroltochange.
“Problemsfartoobigformetosolvearepiledhigherthanmyhead.”“Meanwhilemysins,toomanytocount,haveallcaughtupwithmeandIamashamedtolookup”
(Psalm40:12,TLB).
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. Listsomewaysthatyourpridehasstoppedyoufromaskingforandgettingthehelpyouneedtoovercomeyourhurts,hang-ups,andhabits.
2. Whatinyourpasthascausedyoutohavethe“ifonlys”?
3. Insteadofworryingaboutthingsthatwecannotcontrol,weneedtofocusonwhatGodcandoinourlives.Whatareyouworryingabout?Why?Whatisrobbingyouofyourserenity?
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4. Inwhatwayshaveyoutriedtoescapeyourpastpain?Bespecific.
5. Howhasholdingontoyourangerandyourresentmentsaffectedyou?
6. Doyoubelievethatlonelinessisachoice?Whyorwhynot?Howhasyourdenialisolatedyoufromyourimportantrelationships?
7. Describetheemptinessyoufeelandsomenewwaysyouarefindingtofillit?
8. Selfishnessisattheheartofmostproblemsbetweenpeople.Inwhatareasofyourlifehaveyoubeenselfish?
SeparationfromGodcanfeelveryreal,butitisneverpermanent.WhatcanyoudotogetclosertoGod?
RememberthiswiththeFirstStep“Weadmittedwewerepowerlessandourlivesareoutofcontrol.”
1. Ifwedon’tunderstandthisfirstStepwhatfollowswillbeoflittlehelp.Canyouseewhy?
2. Inourfamiliesalcohol isthemostcommonlyabusedsubstance.Themixtureofalcohol+machismo=disaster.Addingtothetragedyisanabuserwhooftenhaslittleornoawarenessofthehurtheiscausingthosearoundhim.
3. Alcoholism is a progressive disease and as the addiction grows so does itsegocentricmentality.As thealcoholic loseshisability toengage the realworldresponsibly,mentalpassivityandtakingthepathsofleastresistancegrow.Inthismentalshiftthereisamoveintotheworldofillusions.Illusionsarefalseideasandconceptsapersonbelievestobetrue.“I’mincontrol,I’mnotadrunk.I’mhonest,theyfailedme,I’msmarterandstrongerthanmyproblems,etc.”Itisinthenatureof thealcoholic togiveor insomecases forcebythreat;his fantasiesonotherfamilymembers.
4. Havinganalcoholicinthefamilycreatesalotofconfusionandthishasaffectedmy identity. Alcoholism is a family disease and creates a lot of confusion incompromisingouridealsandouridentities.Inthepastwefoundafalsepeaceinplayingalongwithallthegamesalcoholicslovetoplay.
5. Imaynotbeanalcoholicbutthealcoholhascometohaveapowerfulinfluenceonme.ThroughthealcoholicIsufferthediseaseaswell.Thisistrueofallvictimsofeverykindofabuse.
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6. Becausealcoholism isa “familydisease”abigpartof recovery comesaseveryfamilymemberestablishesaclearsenseofpersonal identitythatonlyGodcantrulygive.
7. Beingincontrolisanillusion.Lettinggoreleasesusfromthefalseideathatwecanmakeanotherpersonsober.
8. Ittakesgreathonestyandcouragetoadmitthefirststep,thatIamnotGod.
9. We used to think “There must be something more I can do.” We come tounderstandourlimitations.
10. Wecometoadmitthatsomeofourdemandsandexpectationswereimpossibleforthealcoholictorespondto.Oncewebegintounderstandthenatureofthesicknesswebegintoseethatevensomeofourgoodintentionswerepartoftheproblem.
11. Acceptanceofthefirststepisnotasignofweaknessbutofwisdom.Itisthefirststep to serenity and peace. You are not the cause of the alcoholic being analcoholic.Youarenotthesolution,orthecureeither.
12. By the process of elimination we begin to discover what areas we are notpowerlessover.ThisiswhytheSerenityPrayerissoimportant.
13. Itispossibletofindcontentmentandhappinessregardlessoftheother’sbehavior.Millionshavefoundpeaceandtranquilitythroughthesetwelvestepsandsocanwe.
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Step2Wecametobelievethatapowergreaterthanourselves
couldrestoreustosanityandserenity.
EarnestlybelievethatGodexists,thatImattertoHim,andthatHehasthepowertohelpmerecover.
“Happyarethosewhomourn;Godwillcomfortthem!”(Matthew5:4,GNT)
“ForitisGodwhoworksinyoutowillandtoactinordertofulfillhisgoodpurpose”(Philippians2:13,NIV).
Hope“Irevealedmyselftothosewhodidnotaskforme;Iwasfoundbythosewhodidnot
seekme.Toanationthatdidnotcallonmyname,Isaid,hereamI,hereamI”(Isaiah65:1,NIV).
“AnyonewhocomestoGodmustbelievethatHeexistsandthatHerewardsthosewhoearnestlyseekHim”(Hebrews11:6,NIV).
ThinkAboutThis
InthefirstStepweadmittedwewerepowerless.InStepone,weallhadonethingincommon,wethoughtwewerebigger,smarter,andstrongerthanourproblemsandmostofusdidn’tneedGod.Wefoundoutwewerewrong.ItwasasthoughGodwereontheoutsidelookingin.SteponegivesGodanopeningasHeordersourStepstorealizehowpowerlessandoutofcontrolourlivesreallyare.InthesecondStepwebegintounderstandbeingpowerlessdoesnotmeanwearehelpless.
HowbigisourGod?InSteptwowebegintotakeGodoutofthelittleboxwehavehadhiminbyouregocentricthinking.
Atthesametimewefreeourselvesfromourself-imposedhumanlimits.
In the first Stepweadmittedwewerepowerless.Now in the secondStep,wecometobelieveGodexists,thatweareimportanttoHim,andthatweareabletoreceiveGod’spowertohelpusrecover.It’sinthesecondStepwefindHOPE.
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HigherPower
OurHigherPowerhasaname:JesusChrist!Jesusdesiresahands-on,day-to-day,moment-to-momentrelationshipwithus.Hecandoforuswhatwehaveneverbeenabletodoforourselves.
“EverythingcomesfromGodalone.Everythinglivesbyhispower”(Romans11:36,TLB).
“OurHigherPowertellsus:Mygraceisenoughforyou,forwherethereisweakness,mypowerisshownthemorecompletely”(2Corinthians12:9,PH).
Opennesstochange
Throughoutourlives,wewillcontinuetoencounterhurtsandtrialsthatwearepowerlesstochange.WithGod’shelp,weneedtobeopentoallowthosetrialstochangeus.Tomakeusbetter,notbitter.
“Nowyourattitudesandthoughtsmustallbeconstantlychangingforthebetter.Yes,youmustbeanewanddifferentperson”(Ephesians4:23,TLB).
PowertoChange
Inthepast,wehavewantedtochangeandwereunabletodoso.Wecouldnotfreeourselvesfromourhurts,hang-ups,orhabits. InStep2,wecometounderstandthatGod’spowercanchangeusandoursituation.
“ForIcandoeverythingGodasksmetowiththehelpofChriswhogivesmethestrengthandthepower”(Philippians4:13,TLB).
“Leadme;teachme;foryouaretheGodwhogivesmesalvation.Ihavenohopeexceptinyou”(Psalm25:5,TLB).
Expecttochange
Remember you are only at the second Step. Don’t quit before the miraclehappens!WithGod’shelp,thechangesthatyouhavelongedforarejuststepsaway.
“IamsurethatGodwhobeganthegoodworkwithinyouwillkeeprightonhelpingyougrowninhisgraceuntilhistaskwithinyouisfinallyfinishedonthatdaywhenJesus
Christreturns”(Philippians1:6,TLB).
Howdowefindhope?ByfaithinourHigherPower,JesusChrist.
Step2
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“Nowfaithisconfidenceinwhatwehopeforandassuranceaboutwhatwedonotsee”(Hebrews11:1,NIV).
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. Beforetakingthisstep,wherewereyoutryingtofindhope?2. WhatdoyoubelieveaboutGod?WhataresomeofHischaracteristics?3. HowareyourfeelingsforyourheavenlyFatherandyourearthlyfatheralike?How
dotheydiffer?4. HowcanyourrelationshipswithyourHigherPower,JesusChrist,helpyoustepout
ofyourdenialandfacereality?5. InwhatareasofyourlifeareyounowreadytoletGodhelpyou?6. Whatthingsareyoureadytochangeinyourlife?Wherecanyougetthepowerto
changethem?
Sanity Step2review:Wecametobelievethatapowergreaterthanourselvescouldrestoreustosanityandserenity.
“Happyarethosewhomourn;Godwillcomfortthem!”(Mathew5:4,GNT).
“ForitisGodwhoworksinyoutowillandtoactinordertofulfillhisgoodpurpose”(Philippians2:13,NIV).
“ForGodisnotaGodofconfusionbutofpeace”(1Corinthians14:33,NASB).
ThinkAboutThis
Insanityhasbeendescribedasreactingtothesamethingoverandoveragainandexpectingadifferentresulteachtime.
Sanity has been defined as acting out of an inner serenity of mind; makingdecisionsbasedongraceandtruth.
ThefollowingaresomeofthegiftswewillreceivewhenwebelievethatourHigherPower,JesusChrist,hasthepowerandwillrestoreustoSANITY!
Trust
WebegintotrustrelationshipswithothersandourHigherPower,JesusChrist!
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“Itisdangeroustobeconcernedwithwhatothersthinkofyour,butifyoutrusttheLord,youaresafe”(Proverbs29:25,GNT).
Strength
Jesusgivesusstrengthtofacethefearsthatinthepasthavecausedustofight,fleeorfreeze.
“Godisourrefugeandourstrength,anever-presenthelpintrouble”(Psalm46:1,NIV).
“Mymindandmybodymaygrowweak,butGodismystrength;heisallIeverneed”(Psalm73:26,GNT).
Newlife
Whenweare consciousofHis presence,we start to loseour fearof today, oftomorrow,ofthefuture.Wehaveanewlife.
“WhensomeonebecomesaChristianhebecomesabrandnewpersoninside.Heisnotthesameanymore.Anewlifehasbegun!”(2Corinthians5:17,TLB).
YourHigherPower,JesusChrist,lovesyoujustthewayyouare!
Nomatterwhatyouhavedoneinthepast,Godwantstoforgiveit!
“Whilewewerestillsinners,Christdiedforus”(Romans5:8,NIV).
Nomatterwhatshapeyourlifeisintoday,togetherGodandyoucanhandleit!
“AndGodisfaithful;Hewillnotletyoubetemptedbeyondwhatyoucanbear.Butwhenyouaretempted,Hewillalsoprovideawayout”(1Corinthians10:13,NIV).
Andifyoutakeactiontocompletethenextprinciple,yourfuturewillbeblessedandsecure.
“Sodon’tbeanxiousabouttomorrow.Godwilltakecareofyourtomorrowtoo.Liveonedayatatime”(Matthew6:34,TLB).
Arealsupport
Webelievedthatwedidn’tneedGod’shelp,strengthorpower.It’sasifweweredisconnectedfromourrealsourceofpower–God!
Step2
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“ButinallthesethingsweoverwhelminglyconquerthroughHimwholovedus.ForIamconvincedthatneitherdeath,norlife,norangels,norprincipalities,northingspresent,northingstocome,norpowers,norheight,nordepth,noranyothercreatedthing,will
beabletoseparateusfromtheloveofGod,whichisinChristJesusourLord”(Romans8:37-39,NASB).
Integrity
Webegintofollowthroughonourpromises.Othersstarttrustingwhatwesay.
“Nothingbringsmegreaterjoythanhearingthatmychildrenarelivinginthetruth”(3John1:4,PH).
Acceptance
Welearntohaverealisticexpectationsofourselvesandothers.
“Acceptoneanother,then,forthegloryofGod,asChrishasacceptedyou”(Romans15:7,GNT).
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. HowcanIpracticallyapplyStep2inmylife?
2. Whatthingshaveyoubeendoingoverandoveragain,expectingadifferentresulteachtime(insanity)?
3. Whatisyourdefinitionofsanity?
4. How have your past expectations of yourself or others been unrealistic? Giveexamples.
5. Inthepast,howhastrustingonlyinyourownfeelingsandemotionsgottenyouintrouble?
6. How can your Higher Power, Jesus Christ, help restore you to make sanedecisions?Howdoyougetasecondchance?
7. WhatareasofyourlifeareyoureadytoreleasecontrolofandhandovertoGod?Bespecific
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Step3
WemadeadecisiontoturnourlivesandourwillsovertothecareofGod.
ConsciouslychoosetocommitallmylifeandwilltoChrist’scareandcontrol.
“Blessedarethemeek,fortheywillinherittheearth”(Matthew5:5,NIV).
“Godlysorrowbringsrepentancethatleadstosalvationandleavesnoregret,butworldlysorrowbringsdeath”(2Corinthians7:10,NIV).
“ThekindnessofGodleadsyoutorepentance”(Romans2:4,NASB).
“Therefore,Iurgeyou,brothersandsisters,inviewofGod’smercy,toofferyourbodiesasalivingsacrifice,holyandpleasingtogod–thisisyourtrueandproperworship”
(Romans12:1,NIV).
TurnThinkAboutThis
HowdoyouTURNyourlifeovertotheoneandonlyHigherPower,JesusChrist?
Trust
Decidingtoturnyour lifeandyourwillovertoGodrequiresonlytrust.Trust isputtingthefaithyoufoundinStep2intoaction.
“IfyouconfessthatJesusisLordandbelievethatGodraisedhimfromdeath,youwillbesaved”(Romans10:9,GNT).
Repent
Totrulyrepent,youmustnotonlyturnawayfromyoursins,butturntowardGod.RepentanceallowsyoutoenjoythefreedomofourlovingrelationshipwithGod.
“Turnfromyoursinsandactonthisgloriousnews!”(Mark1:15,TLB).
“Don’tlettheworldaroundyousqueezeyouintoitsownmold,butletGodremakeyousothatyourwholeattitudeofmindischanged”(Romans12:2,PH).
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Understand
Relyingsolelyonyourownunderstandinggotyouintorecoveryinthefirstplace!AfteryoumakethedecisiontoaskJesusintoyourlife,youneedtobegintoseekHiswillforyourlifeinallyourdecisions.
“TrustintheLordwithallyourheartandleannotonyourownunderstanding;inallyourwayssubmittoHimandHewillmakeyourpathsstraight”(Proverbs3:5-6,NIV).
GoodNews
AfteryouaskJesusintoyourheart,youwillhaveanewlife!Youwillnolongerbeboundtoyouroldsinnature.GodhasdeclaredyouNOTGUILTY,andyounolongerhavetoliveunderthepowerofsin!
“NowGodsayshewillacceptandacquitus-declaresusnotguilty-ifwetrustJesusChristtotakeawayoursins”(Romans3:22,TLB).
InitiateNewLife
Thenewlifethatyouwillreceiveistheresultofcarryingouttheactionsthatwehavejustfinished:Totrust,torepent,tolookfortheunderstandingandreceivethegoodnewsofsalvation.
“Foryouhavebeenbornagainnotofseedwhichisperishablebutimperishable,thatis,throughthelivingandenduringwordofGod”(1Peter1:23,NASB).
Obedience
“Donotbeconformedtothisworld,butbetransformedbytherenewingofyourmind,sothatyoumayprovewhatthewillofGodis,thatwhichisgoodandacceptable
andperfect”(Romans12:2,NASB).
ToobeywhatGodsaysisthebestassuranceforanewlife,safeunderHisguideandprotection.
TurningyourlifeovertoChristisanonce-in-a-lifetimecommitment!
TurningyourwillovertoHimrequiresadailyrecommitment!
Step3
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Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. Howhasrelyingonyour“ownunderstanding”causedproblemsinyourlife?Bespecific.
2. Whatdoes“repent”meantoyou?Whatdoyouneedtorepentof?
3. Whatdoesthedeclarationof“notguilty”foundinRomans3:22meantoyou?
4. WhenyouturnyourlifeovertoyourHigherPower,JesusChrist,youhavea“newlife”(see2Corinthians5:17).Whatdoesthat“newlife”meantoyou?
Action Step3review:WemadeadecisiontoturnourlivesandourwillsovertothecareofGod.
“Blessedarethemeek,fortheywillinherittheearth”(Matthew5:5,NIV).
“ThekindnessofGodleadsyoutorepentance”(Romans2:4,NASB).
ThinkAboutThis
Evenaftertakingthefirsttwostepswecanstillbestuckinthecycleoffailure:guiltàangeràfearàdepression!
Howdoweget“unstuck?”Howdowegetpastthebarriersofpride,fear,guilt,worry,anddoubtthatkeepusfromtakingthisStep?
TheanswerisweneedtotakeACTION!
AcceptJesusChristasyourHigherPowerandSavior!
MakethedecisiontoaskJesusintoyourheart.Nowisthetimetocommityourlife,toestablishthatpersonalrelationshipwithJesusthatHesodesires.
“IfyouconfesswithyourmouthJesusasLord,andbelieveinyourheartthatGodraisedHimfromthedead,youwillbesaved”(Romans10:9,NASB).
CommittoseekandfollowHISwill!
Weneed to changeourdefinitionofwillpower:willpower is thewillingness toacceptGod’spower.WeseethatthereisnoroomforGodifwearefullofourselves.
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“TeachmetodoYourwill,forYouaremyGod;LetYourgoodSpiritleadmeonlevelground”(Psalm143:10,NASB).
Turnitover
“Letgo;letGod!”TurnoverallthebigthingsandthelittlethingsinyourlifetoyourHigherPower.JesusChristwantsarelationshipwithALLofyou.WhatburdensareyoucarryingthatyouwanttoTURNOVERtoGod?
“CometoMe,allwhoarewearyandheavy-laden,andIwillgiveyourest.TakeMyyokeuponyouandlearnfromMe,forIamgentleandhumbleinheart,andyouwillfindrestforyoursouls.ForMyyokeiseasyandMyburdenislight”(Matthew11:28-30,NASB).
It’sonlythebeginning
Inthethirdprinciplewemakeonlytheinitialdecision,thecommitmenttoseekand followGod’swill.OurwalkwithourHigherPower, JesusChrist,beginswith thisdecisionandisfollowedbyalifelongprocessofgrowingasaChristian.
“Godwhobeganthegoodworkwithinyouwillkeeprightonhelpingyougrowninhisgraceuntilhistaskwithinisfinallyfinished”(Philippians1:6,TLB).
Onedayatatime
Recovery happens one day at a time. If we remain stuck in the yesterday orconstantlyworryabouttomorrow,wewillwastetheprecioustimeofthepresent.Wecanonlychangeourhurts,hang-ups,andhabitsinthepresent.
“Sodon’tbeanxiousabouttomorrow.Godwilltakecareofyourtomorrowtoo.Liveonedayatatime”(Matthew6:34,TLB).
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. WhatdifferenceshaveyounoticedinyourlifenowthatyouhaveacceptedJesusChristasyourHigherPower?
2. Howhasyourdefinitionofwillpowerchangedsinceyouhavebeeninrecovery?
3. WhathaveyoubeenabletoturnovertoGod?
4. WhatdoyoufearturningovertoHiscare?
5. Whatiskeepingyoufromturningthemover?
Step3
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6. Whatdoesthephrase“liveonedayatatime”meantoyou?
7. Whatisamajorconcerninyourlife?
8. What’sstoppingyoufromturningitovertoyourHigherPower,JesusChrist?
ConsiderThisThemostwonderfulrevelationofwhoGodis,isthat“Godislove”(1John4:16)
howeverGodisalsoSpirit.BecauseloveisfirstspiritualandarevelationofGodthereismuchconfusionastowhatloveis.WebelievethereisanemptyspaceinsideeachofusthatonlyGod’sHoly lovecanfill. Inourmaterialisticworldmentrytofill thatemptyspace with every kind of outward material thing, money, power, popularity, music,politics,drugs,sex,younameit,anythingtotakeawaythelonelinessandpainoflife.Wedon’tbelievetheseformsofself-medicationholdtheanswerstocontentmentandpeace in life, but the Spirit and truth of Jesus Christ does. We seek a truth that isincarnationalmorethanintellectual.Thetruthwillsetusfree,butonlyasweobeyitnotmerelythinkaboutit.
The heart of the success of the 12 Step program is a spiritual awakening inrelationshipwithGod.AsweopenourselvestothewordsofJesus,webegintoseelifefromawholenewpointofview.Wegainanewfaith,anewconfidence,anewserenityinourlives,anewsenseofbelongingandsecurity,andanewsenseofidentityasGod’sveryownchild.
Interestingly,thesame12Stepsoriginallywrittenspecificallyforthealcoholicareofequalimportanceforthefamilyofthealcoholic.Alcoholismistrulyafamilydisease.NotonlydoestheabuserhavetoadmitStep1,thatheispowerlessoverthediseaseandthatlifeisunmanageable,butthefamilydoesalso.ThealcahueteardoesnotrepresenttheloveofGod.Weareintheprocessoflearningawholenewwayoflove,awholenewwayofthinkinganduntilwedoourhousewillnotcompletelybeahouseofpeace.
WhenwecametothesecondStepwe“cametobelievethataPowergreaterthanourselvescouldrestoreustosanity.”Wehadnoideaofwhatsanitywas,andwewereinastateofexhaustion.Inourownpowerwetriedeverythingunderthesuntochangethings.Wetriedadvicefromfriendsandfamily,professionalcounseling,rehabcentersandclinics,booksbyexpertsonaddiction;wewoulddoanythingtoseeourlovedonesetfree.Someofusevenbecameexpertsontheeffectsofalcoholism,alltonoavail.(1Corinthians13:1-2)Attimesweweretooembarrassedtoseekhelp,wewithdrew,webecamelonelyanddepressed.Wehurtasmuchasouraddictedfamilymember.
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Ourheartsachedforachangesobadlywewoulddoanythingtoseeithappen.Weweresoexhaustedandwounded,wefoundourselvespraying,“GodIturnmywillandlifeovertoyouandyourlovingcare.”Doingthingsmywayhasnotworked.IrealizenowIhavebeenplayingGod,andIrecognizeithasnotworkedatall.Iconfessyouhavenotbeencentralinmylife.NowIchoosetoyieldtoyou.Iwelcomeyoutobethecenterinmy life,myheart,andmyfamily. Iaskyouforgiveness forallmysinstowardsyouFatherGodandtowardseverymemberofmyfamily.Iforgiveallthosewhohavehurtmebyname.Igiveyoumyhouse,Igiveyoumyfamily,Igiveyoumyall.Atthistime,Ispecifically want to give you _________________ (name) ____________________ IreleasehimintoyourlovinghandsandIreleaseallmyworriesandcaresforhimuptoyouLordGod.Iprayyourprotectionandwisdomforhimandthatyouwouldsavehimfromhimself,becauseheishisownworstenemy.Iconfessyouaretheguardianofmyheartandmyhome.Ithankyouforthenewfoundpeaceandfreedomyouaregivingmeandmyfamily,inJesusname,amen!
CongratulationsNowthatyouhavecompletedthefirstthreeStepsinthisguidetothebestofyour
ability,CONGRATULATIONSaremostdefinitelyinorder!
InStep1youfacedyourdenialandadmittedthatbyyourselfyouwerepowerlesstomanageyouraddictiveorcompulsivebehavior.
“ForIknowthatgooditselfdoesnotdwellinme,thatis,inmysinfulnature.ForIhavethedesiretodowhatisgood,butIcannotcarryitout”(Romans7:18,NIV).
InStep2youfoundthehopethatGodcouldandwouldrestoreyoutosanity,andthatonlyHecouldprovidethepowerforyoutorecover.
“ForGodisatworkwithinyou,helpingyouwanttoobeyhim,andthenhelpingyoudowhathewants”(Philippians2:13,TLB).
Andfinally,inStep3,youwereabletotaketheaction,tomakethedecisiontoturnyourlifeandyourwillovertoGod’scareanddirection.
“Andso,dearbrothers,IpleadwithyoutogiveyourbodiestoGod.Letthembealivingsacrifice,holy–thekindhecanaccept.Whenyouthinkofwhathehasdoneforyou,is
thattoomuchtoask?”(Romans12:1,TLB).
NowyouarereadytotakethenextStepinyourjourney.Thenextpartdealswithfacingyourpast–thegoodandthebad.Step4canbedifficult,butrememberyou’re
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not going through it alone. Your Higher Power, Jesus Christ, and others that He hasplacedalongsideyouonyour“RoadtoRecovery”willbewithyoueverystepoftheway.
Love“Owenothingtoanyoneexcepttoloveoneanother;forhewholoveshisneighborhasfulfilledthelaw.Forthis,youshallnotcommitadultery,youshallnotmurder,youshallnotseal,youshallnotcovet,andifthereisanyothercommandment,itissummedupinthissaying,youshallloveyourneighborasyourself.Lovedoesnowrongtoaneighbor;
thereforeloveloveisthefulfillmentofthelaw”(Romans13:8-10,NASB).
“Ineverything,therefore,treatpeoplethesamewayyouwantthemtotreatyou,forthisistheLawandtheProphets”(Matthew7:12,NASB).
“IfIspeakwiththetonguesofmenandofangels,butdonothavelove,Ihavebecomeanoisygongoraclangingcymbal.IfIhavethegiftofprophecy,andknowallmysteriesandallknowledge;andifIhaveallfaith,soastoremovemountains,butdonothavelove,Iamnothing.AndifIgiveallmypossessionstofeedthepoor,andifIsurrender
mybodytobeburned,butdonothavelove,itprofitsmenothing.
Loveispatient,loveiskindandisnotjealous;lovedoesnotbragandisnotarrogant,
doesnotactunbecomingly;itdoesnotseekitsown,isnotprovoked,doesnottakeintoaccountawrongsuffered,doesnotrejoiceinunrighteousness,butrejoiceswiththe
truth;bearsallthings,believesallthings,hopesallthings,enduresallthings.
Loveneverfails;butiftherearegiftsofprophecy,theywillbedoneaway;iftherearetongues,theywillcease;ifthereisknowledge,itwillbedoneaway.Forweknowinpartandweprophesyinpart;butwhentheperfectcomes,thepartialwillbedoneaway.
WhenIwasachild,Iusedtospeaklikeachild,thinklikeachild,reasonlikeachild;whenIbecameaman,Ididawaywithchildishthings.Fornowweseeinamirrordimly,butthenfacetoface;nowIknowinpart,butthenIwillknowfullyjustasIalsohave
beenfullyknown.Butnowfaith,hope,love,abidethesethree;butthegreatestoftheseislove”(1Corinthians13,NASB).
Step4
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Wemadeasearchingandfearlessmoralinventoryofourselves.
I’madmittingmyfaults,notsotheworldcanknowthem,butsoIcanbehonest
withmyselfandwithGod.ThemoreweacceptJesus’sgraceandhealingtruths,thelessneedwehave tohideandbedefensiveaboutwhowe really areorused tobe.OurfearlesshonestycomestousasagiftfromGod,aGodwhoalreadyknowseverythingthereistoknowaboutus.Therealquestionis,arewewillingtobeopenenoughtoseeourselvesasclearlyasourHolyGodseesus?Perfectlovecostsoutallfear.MayGod’slovemaybeperfectedinusmoreeveryday.
“Godislove”(1John4:8,NASB).
“Happyarethepureinheart”(Matthew5:8,GNT).
“BythisweknowthatweabideinHimandHeinus,becauseHehasgivenusofHisSpirit”(1John4:13,NASB).
“Thereisnofearinlove.Butperfectlovedrivesoutfear,becausefearhastodowithpunishment.Theonewhofearsisnotmadeperfectinlove.WelovebecauseHefirstlovedus.WhoeverclaimstoloveGodyethatesabrotherandsisterisaliar.For
whoeverdoesnotlovetheirbrotherandsister,whomtheyhaveseen,cannotloveGod,whomtheyhavenotseenandHehasgivenusthiscommand:AnyonewholovesGod
mustalsolovetheirbrotherandsister”(1John4:18-21,NIV).
Moral“Letusexamineourwaysandtestthem,andletusreturntotheLord”
(Lamentations3:40,NIV).
ThinkAboutThisInthisStep,youneedtolist(inventory)allthesignificantevents–goodandbad-
inyourlife.YouneedtobeashonestasyoucanbetoallowGodtoshowyouyourpartandhowthataffectedyouandothers.
Maketime
Step4
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Setasideaspecialtimetobeginyourinventory.Scheduleanappointmentwithyourself.SetasideadayoraweekendtogetalonewithGod!Clearyourmindofthepresenthasslesofdailylife.
“Thenlistentome.KeepsilenceandIwillteachyouwisdom!”(Job33:33,TLB).
Open
Openyourheartandyourmindtoallowthefeelingsthatthepainofthepasthasblockedorcausedyoutodeny.Tryto“wakeup”yourfeelings!Askyourself,“WhatdoIfeelguiltyabout?WhatdoIresent?WhatdoIfear?AmItrappedinself-pity,alibis,anddishonestthinking?”
“Letmeexpressmyanguish.Letmebefreetospeakoutofthebitternessofmysoul”(Job7:11,TLB).
Rely
Rely on Jesus, your Higher Power, to give you the courage and strength thisexerciserequires.
“LovetheLord,allofyouwhoarehispeople;fortheLordprotectsthosewhoareloyaltohim…socheerup!TakecourageifyouaredependingontheLord”
(Psalm31:23-24,TLB).
Analyze
Analyzeyourpasthonestly.Todoa“searchingandfearlessmoralinventory,”youmuststepoutofyourdenial!
That’sallthatthewordmoralmeans-honest!ThisSteprequireslookingthroughyourdenialofthepastintothetruth!
“TheLordgaveusmindandconscience;wecannothidefromourselves”(Proverbs20:27,GNT).
List
Listboththegoodandthebad.Keepyourinventorybalanced!Ifyoujustlookatall the bad things of your past, youwill distort your inventory and open yourself tounnecessarypain.
“Letusexamineourwaysandtestthem”(Lamentations3:40,NIV).
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The verse doesn’t say, “Examine only your bad, negative ways.” You need tohonestlyfocusontheprosandtheconsofyourpast!
Asyoucompileyour inventory,youwill find thatyouhavedonesomeharmfulthingstoyourselfandothers.Noone’sinventory(life)isflawless.Wehaveall“missedthemark”insomeareaofourlives.Inrecoverywearenottodwellonthepast,butweneedtounderstanditsowecanbegintoallowGodtochangeus.Jesustoldus:“Icamethattheymayhavelife,andhaveitabundantly”(John10:10,NASB).
Step4Prayer
DearGod,Youknowmypast,allthegoodandthebadthingsthatI’vedone.InthisStep,IaskthatYougivemethestrengthandthecouragetolistthosethingssothatIcan“comeclean”andfacethemandthetruth.PleasehelpmereachouttoothersYouhaveplacedalongmy“roadrecovery”.ThankYouforprovidingthemtohelpmekeep
balancedasIdomyinventory.InChrist’snameIpray,Amen.
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. Wherewillyougoforquiettimetobeginyourinventory?
2. Whatdatehaveyousetasidetostart?Whattime?
3. Whatareyourfearsasyoubeginyourinventory?Why?
4. Whatcanyoudotohelpyou“wakeup”yourfeelings?
5. HowcanyoudescribeyourexperienceofturningyourlifeovertoChrist?
6. HowdoyouattempttoturnoveryourwilltoGod’scareonadailybasis?
7. Listthethingsyouhaveusedtoblockthepainofyourpast.
8. Whathaveyoudon’ttostepoutofyourdenial?
9. Howcanyoucontinuetofindnewwaysoutofyourdenialofthepast?
10. Whyisitimportanttodoawritteninventory?
11. Whataresomeofthegoodthingsyouhavedoneinthepast?
12. Whataresomeofthenegativethingsyouhavedoneinthepast?
13. Do you have a sponsor or accountability partner to help you keep yourinventorybalanced?
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SpiritualInventoryPart1“Step4”
Everydaywedoall kindsofphysical inventoryingwith the valueof things.Anexampleiswhenwegotothemarkettobuyfood.Weinventory:Howmuchmoneywehave?Howmuchmoneyweneedtospend?Howmuchcorn,beansandoilwehaveathome?Andhowmuchwewillneed?Takingasearchingandfearlessmoral inventorymeanstoputavalueonthingsbeforeGod,thingsthataregoodandbadinourlives,right and wrong for us and for our family. What good things need to stay and getstronger,andwhatthingsneedtogo,manyexperiencedmembersofourprogramrefertothisstepasthebeginningofhousecleaning.
Cleaninghousedoesnotmakeussuperiororbetterthananyoneelse,infactitisjusttheopposite.InlightoftheholyloveandtruthofGodwearehumbledatwhatweusedtobelikeandwhatwestillareapartfromthegraceofGod.Weareequallyhumbledat thewonderful futureGod’spromiseshold forusandour familiesasGod takesusthroughdetox.
Themorewegrowandunderstand,ourloverelationshipwithJesus,themorewearechallengedtoeliminateeverythingthatwouldseparateusfromHim.“Hopedoesnotdisappoint,becausetheLoveofGodhasbeenpouredoutwithinourheartsthroughtheHolySpiritwhowasgiventous”(Romans5:5,NASB).
ThinkAboutThis
“Searchme,OGod,andknowmyheart;testmythoughts.Pointoutanythingyoufindinmethatmakesyousad,andleadmealongthepathofeverlastinglife”
(Psalm139:23-24,TLB).
Thefollowinglistgivessomeofouradditionalshortcomings(sins)thatcanpreventGodfromworkingeffectivelyinourlives.Readingthroughitandsearchingyourheartwillhelpyougetstartedonyourinventory!
Relationshipwithothers
“Forgiveusoursins,justaswehaveforgiventhosewhohavesinnedagainstus.Don’tbringusintotemptation,butdeliverusfromtheEvilOne”(Matthew6:12-13,TLB).
• Whohashurtyou?
• Againstwhomhaveyoubeenholdingagrudge?
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• Againstwhomareyouseekingrevenge?
• Areyoujealousofsomeoneelse?
• Whohaveyouhurt?
• Whohaveyoucriticizedorgossipedabout?
• Haveyoujustifiedyourbadattitudebysayingitis“their”fault?
Prioritiesinlife
“Hewillgivethemtoyouifyougivehimfirstplaceinyourlifeandliveashewantsto”(Matthew6:33,TLB).
• AfteracceptingJesusChrist,inwhatareasofyourlifeareyoustillnotputtingGodfirst?
• What in your past is interferingwith you doing God’s will? Your ambition?Pleasures?Job?Hobbies?Money?Friendship?Personalgoals?
Attitude
“Getridofallbitterness,passion,andanger.Nomoreshoutingorinsults,nomorehatefulfeelingsofanysort”(Ephesians4:31,GNT).
• Haveyoualwayscomplainedaboutyourcircumstances?
• Inwhatareasofyourlifeareyouungrateful?
• Haveyougottenangryandeasilyblownupatpeople?
• Haveyoubeensarcastic?
• Whatinyourpastiscausingyoufearoranxiety?
Integrity
“Donotlietoeachother.Youhaveleftyouroldsinfullifeandthethingsyoudidbefore”(Colossians3:9,NCV).
• Inwhatpastdealingswereyoudishonest?
• Haveyoustolenthings?
• Haveyouexaggeratedtomakeyourselflookbetter?
Step4
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• Inwhatareasofyourpasthaveyouusedfalsehumility?
• HaveyoulivedonewayinfrontofyourChristianfriendsandanotherwayathomeorwork?
• HaveyoumemorizedIsaiah1:18yet?“Come,let’stalkthisover!SaystheLord;nomatterhowdeepthestainofyoursins,Icantakeitoutandmakeyouascleanas freshly fallensnow.Even ifyouarestainedas redascrimson, I canmakeyouwhiteaswool!”
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. RelationshipwithOthers• Whohashurtyou?(Goasfarbackasyoucan.)Howdidtheyspecificallyhurt
you?
• Whoareyouholdingagrudgeagainst?(Seekingrevenge?)
• Whoareyoujealousof?(PastandPresent)Why?
• Whohaveyouhurt?Andhowdidyouhurtthem?
• Whohaveyoubeencriticaloforgossipedabout?Why?
• Howhaveyouattemptedtoplacetheblameonsomeoneelse?(Bespecific.)
• Whatnewhealthyrelationshipshaveyoudevelopedsinceyouhavebeen inrecovery?
2. PrioritiesinLife• WhatareasofyourlifehaveyoubeenabletoturnovertoyourHigherPower,
JesusChrist?
• Afteractingonstep3,inwhatareasofyourlifeareyoustillnotputtingGodfirst?Whynot?
• WhatinyourpastiskeepingyoufromseekingandfollowingGod’swillforyourlife?
• Numberthefollowinglistinorderofyourpersonalpriorities.____career ____Church ____friendships ____ministry____family ____Christ ____money
• Whatareyourpersonalgoalsforthenextninetydays?(Keepitsimple!)
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3. Attitude• Whatareasinyourlifeareyouthankfulfor?
• Inthepast,whatthingshaveyoubeenungratefulover?
• Whatcausesyoutoloseyourtemper?
• Towhomhaveyoubeensarcastictointhepast?(Giveexamples)
• Whatinyourpastareyoustillworriedabout?
• Howhasyourattitudeimprovedsinceyouhavebeeninrecovery?
4. Integrity• In the past, how have you exaggerated tomake yourself look good? (Give
examples)
• DoesyourwalkasaChristianmatchyourtalk?Areyouractionsthesameatrecoverymeetings,church,home,andwork?
• Inwhatareasofyourpasthaveyouusedfalsehumilitytoimpresssomeone?
• Haveanyofyourpastbusinessdealingsbeendishonest?Haveyoueverstolenthings?
• Listthewaysyouhavebeenabletogetoutofyourdenial(distorted/dishonestthinking)intoGod’struth.
SpiritualInventoryPart2“Step4”
ThinkAboutThis
“Searchme,OGod,andknowmyheart:testmythoughts.Pointoutanythingyoufindinmethatmakesyousad,andleadmealongthepathofeverlastinglife”
(Psalm139:23-24,TLB).
Thefollowinglistgivesthesecondhalfofthelistofourshortcomings(sins)thatcanpreventGodfromworkingeffectivelyinourlives.Readingthroughitandsearchingyourheartwillhelpyougetstartedonyourinventory.
Yourmind
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“Donotconformtothepatternofthisworld,butbetransformedbytherenewingofyourmind.ThenyouwillbeabletotestandapprovewhatGod’swillis–hisgood,
pleasingandperfectwill”(Romans12:2,NIV).
• Howhaveyouguardedyourmindinthepast?Denial?
• Have you filled your mind with hurtful and unhealthy movies, televisionprograms,internetsites,magazines,orbooks?
• HaveyoufailedtoconcentrateonthepositivetruthsoftheBible?
Yourbody
“Haven’tyouyetlearnedthatyourbodyisthehomeoftheHolySpiritGodgaveyou,andthatheliveswithinyou?Yourownbodydoesnotbelongtoyou.ForGodhas
boughtyouwithagreatprice.SouseeverypartofyourbodytogiveglorybacktoGod,becauseheownsit”(1Corinthians6:19-20,TLB).
• Inwhatwaysinthepasthaveyoumistreatedyourbody?
• Haveyouabusedalcoholanddrugs?Food?Sex?
• Whatpastactivitiesorhabitscausedharmtoyourphysicalhealth?
Yourfamily
“ButifyouareunwillingtoobeytheLord,thendecidetodaywhomyouwillobey….Butasformeandmyfamily,wewillservetheLord”(Joshua24:15,TLB).
• Inthepast,haveyoumistreatedanyoneinyourfamily?
• Whoinyourfamilydoyouhaveresentmentagainst?
• Whodoyouoweanamendsto?
• Whatisthefamilysecretthatyouhavebeendenying?
Yourchurch
“Letusnotneglectourchurchmeetings,assomepeopledo,butencourageandwarneachother,especiallynowthatthedayofhiscomingbackisdrawingnear”
(Hebrews10:25,TLB).
• Haveyoubeenfaithfultoyourchurchinthepast?
• Haveyoubeencriticalratherthanactive?
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• Inthepasthaveyoudiscouragedyourfamily’ssupportoftheirchurch?
Asyoucontinueyour inventory,commitPsalm139:23-24(TLB)tomemoryanduseitasaprayer:
“Searchme,OGod,andknowmyheart;testmythoughts.Pointoutanythingyoufindinmethatmakesyousad,andleadmealongthepathofeverlastinglife”
(Psalm139:23-24,TLB).
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. YourMind• SinceacceptingChristasyourHigherPower,howhasGodtransformedyour
mind?(Romans12:2)Whatworldlystandardshaveyougivenup?
• Howhaveyouuseddenialtoattempttoguardyourmind?
• Haveyoufilledorareyoufillingyourmindwithhurtfulandunhealthymovies,televisionprograms,Internetsites,magazinesorbooks?
• Howhaveyou failed toconcentrateon thepositive truthsof theBible? (Bespecific.)
2. YourBody• Whatpastactivitiesorhabitscausedharmtoyourphysicalhealth?
• Inwhatwayshaveyoumistreatedyourbody?
• Ifyouhaveabusedalcohol,drugs,food,orsex,howdidtheynegativelyaffectyourbody?
• WhathaveyoudonetorestoreGod’stemple?
3. YourFamily• Haveyoumistreatedanyoneinyourfamilyverbally,emotionally,orphysically?
• Whoinyourfamilydoyouholdresentmentagainst?Why?
• Canyouthinkofanyonetowhomyouownamends?Why?(Don’tworryaboutactuallymakingthemnow!ThatisStep6)
• Whatisthe“familysecret”thatyouhavekeptdenying?
• How have relationships improved since you have been in recovery? (Bespecific.)
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4. YourChurch• Howwouldyourateyourpastparticipationinyourchurch?
_____Veryinvolved_____Semi-activemember_____Sidelinemember_____Attender_____Wentonlyonholidays_____Neverattended
• Priortoyourrecovery,whatwasyourmainreasonforgoingtochurch?
• Have you ever tried to discourage any family members from churchinvolvement?How?Why?
• How has your commitment to your church increased since starting yourrecovery?(Giveexamples.)
CONGRATULATIONS! Now you are ready to move to the next part, Step 5:confessingyourfaultstoGod,yourself,andanotherpersonyoutrust.Takingthisstepwillmoveyouintofreedomfromyourpast.Notonlywillyoufindfreedomasyousharethe secrets of your past with another person, but youwill also receive the “perfectfreedom”ofChrist’scompleteforgivenessforallyourpastshortcomingsandsins.That’sGoodNews!
Step4VersesBalancingtheScale
Helplessness
“ForGodisatworkwithinyou,helpingyoutowanttoobeyhim,andthenhelpingyoudowhathewants”(Philippians2:13,TLB).
Dwellingonthepast
“WhensomeonebecomesaChristianhebecomesabrandnewpersoninside.Heisnotthesameanymore.Anewlifehasbegun!”(2Corinthians5:17,TLB).
Wanting
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“Anditishewhowillsupplyallyourneedsfromhisrichesinglory,becauseofwhatChristJesushasdoneforus”(Philippians4:19,TLB).
Loneliness
Jesussays,“Iamwithyoualways”(Matthew28:20,TLB).
Oppression,Trouble
“Allwhoareoppressedmaycometohim.Heisarefugeforthemintheirtimesoftrouble”(Psalm9:9,TLB).
Fear,Doubt
“Yes,beboldandstrong!Banishfearanddoubt!Forremember,theLordyourGodiswithyouwhereveryougo”(Joshua1:9,TLB).
Melancholy,Apathy
“ThisisthedaytheLordhasmade.Wewillrejoiceandbegladinit”(Psalm118:24,TLB).
Worry
“Lethimhaveallyourworriesandcares,forheisalwaysthinkingaboutyouandwatchingeverythingthatconcernsyou”(1Peter5:7,TLB).
Step5
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WeadmittedtoGod,toourselves,andtoanotherhumanbeingtheexactnatureofourwrongs.
Openlyexamineandconfessmyfaultstomyself,toGod,andtosomeoneItrust.
“Happyarethepureinheart”(Matthew5:8,GNT).
Sponsorand/orAccountabilityPartnerThinkAboutThis
FromStep5toStep12wewillneedanaccountabilitypartnerorsponsortofullyexperienceaqualityrecovery.
WhydoIneedasponsorand/oranaccountabilitypartner?
Therearethreereasonswhyhavingasponsorisvital.
1. Havingasponsorand/oraccountabilitypartnerisbiblical.
“Twoarebetteroffthanone,becausetogethertheycanworkmoreeffectively.Ifoneofthemfallsdown,theothercanhelphimup.Butifsomeoneisalone…thereisnooneto
helphim….Twopeoplecanresistanattackthatwoulddefeatonepersonalone”(Ecclesiastes4:9-12,GNT).
“Asironsharpensiron,onepersonsharpensanother”(Proverbs27:17).
2. Having a sponsor and/or accountability partner is a key part of yourrecoveryprogram.
Yourrecoveryprogramhasfourkeyelementstosuccess:
1. Tothebestofyourability,maintainyourhonestviewofrealityasyouworkeachprinciple.Thebestwaytoensurethisistohaveasponsoranddevelopastrongaccountabilitysupportteam.
2. Make recovery groupmeetings a priority in your schedule. Knowing that asponsor or accountability partner will be there to greet you or notice thatyou’renotthereisanaddedincentivetoattend.
3. MaintainyourspiritualprogramwithJesusChrist,throughprayer,meditation,andstudyingHisWord.
Step5
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4. Getinvolvedinservice,whichincludesservingasasponsororaccountabilitypartner.
3. Having a sponsor and/or an accountability partner is the best guard againstrelapse.
By providing feedback to keep you on track, a sponsor and/or accountabilitypartnercanseeyourolddysfunctionalhurts,hang-ups,andhabitsbeginningtoreturn,and point them out to you quickly. He or she can confront youwith truth and lovewithoutplacingshameorguilt.
Whatarethequalitiesofasponsor?
“Thoughgoodadviceliesdeepwithinacounselor’sheart,thewisemanwilldrawitout”(Proverbs20:5,TLB).
Whenyouareselectingapossiblesponsor,lookforthefollowingqualities:
1. Doesherwalkmatchhertalk?Isshelivingbythe12Steps?
2. DoesshehaveagrowingrelationshipwithJesusChrist?
3. Doessheexpressthedesiretohelpothersonthe“roadtorecover?”
4. Doessheshowcompassion,care,andhope,butnotpity?
5. Issheagoodlistener?
6. Isshestrongenoughtoconfrontyourdenialorprocrastination?
7. Doessheoffersuggestions?
8. Cansheshareherowncurrentstruggleswithothers?
Whatistheroleofasponsor?
1. Shecanbetheretodiscussissuesindetailthataretoopersonalorwouldtaketoomuchtimeinameeting?
2. Sheisavailableintimesofcrisisorpotentialrelapse.
3. Sheservesasasoundingboardbyprovidinganobjectivepointofview.
4. Sheistheretoencourageyoutoworktheprinciplesatyourownspeed.¡ShedoesnotworktheStepsforyou!
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5. Mostimportantly,sheattemptstomodelthelifestyleresultingfromworkingthetwelveSteps.
6. Asponsorcanresignorcanbefired.
HowdoIfindasponsorand/oranaccountabilitypartner?
First,yoursponsororaccountabilitypartnerMUSTbeofthesamesexasyou.Afteryouhavenarrowedthefielddownwiththatrequirement,listentopeopleshare.Doyourelatetoorresonatewithwhatisspoken?Askothersinyourgrouptogooutforcoffeeafterthemeeting.Gettoknowthepersonbeforeyouaskhimorhertobeyoursponsororaccountabilitypartner!
Ifyouasksomeonetobeyoursponsororaccountabilitypartnerandthatpersonsaysno,donottakeitasapersonalrejection.Asksomeoneelse.Youcanevenaskfora“temporary” sponsor or accountability partner. Ask God to lead you to the sponsorand/oraccountabilitypartnerofHischoosing.Healreadyhassomeoneinmindforyou.
Whatisthedifferencebetweenasponsorandanaccountabilitypartner?
A sponsor is someonewhohas completed the 12 Steps. Themain goal of thisrelationshipistochoosesomeonetoguideyouthroughtheprogram.
Anaccountabilitypartnerissomeoneyouasktoholdyouaccountableforcertainareasofyourrecoveryorissues,suchasmeetingattendance,journaling,andsoforth.Thispersoncanbeatthesamelevelofrecoveryasyouare,unlikeasponsor,whoshouldhavecompleted the12Steps.Themaingoalof this relationship is toencourageoneanother.Youcanevenformanaccountabilityteamofthreeorfour.Theaccountabilitypartnerorgroupactsasthe“team”,whereasthesponsor’sroleisthatofa“coach”.
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. Whatqualitiesareyoulookingforinasponsor?2. Howhaveyouattemptedtofindasponsor/accountabilitypartner?3. Whataresomenewplacesandwaysyoucantrytofindasponsor/accountability
partner?4. Whatisthedifferencebetweenasponsorandanaccountabilitypartner?
Confess
Step5
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Step5review:WeadmittedtoGod,toourselves,andtoanotherhumanbeingtheexactnatureofourwrongs.
“Thereforeconfessyoursinstoeachotherandprayforeachothersothatyoumaybehealed”(James5:16,NIV).
ThinkAboutThis
1. Confessyourshortcomings,resentments,andsins
Godwantsus to comeclean.Weneed toadmit that “what iswrong iswrong.We’reguiltyascharged.”Weneedtoownuptothesinswediscoveredinourinventory.
“Whoeverconcealstheirsinsdoesnotprosper,buttheonewhoconfessesandrenouncesthemfindsmercy”(Proverbs28:13,NIV).
2. ObeyGod’sdirections
Step5sumsupGod’sdirectionsforconfessingoursins.
• WeconfessoursinstoGod.“AssurelyasIamthelivingGod,saystheLord,everyonewillkneelbeforeme,and
everyonewillconfessthatIamGod.Everyoneofus,then,willhavetogiveanaccounttoGod”(Romans14:11-12,GNT).
• Wesharethemwithanotherpersonwhomwetrust:“Thereforeconfessyoursinstoeachotherandprayforeachothersothatyoumaybe
healed”(James5:16,NIV).
3. Nomoreguilt
ThisStepbeginstorestoreourconfidenceandourrelationshipsandallowsustomoveonfromour“rearviewmirror”living.InRomans8:1weareassuredthat“thereisnownocondemnationforthosewhoareinChristJesus.”
“Yes,allhavesinned;allfallshortofGod’sgloriousideal;yetnowGoddeclaresus“notguilty”ofoffendinghimifwetrustinJesusChrist,whoinhiskindnessfreelytakesaway
oursins”(Romans3:23-24,TLB).
The “CON” is over!We have followedGod’s directions on how to confess ourwrongs.Fourverypositivethingsstarttohappenafterwe“FESS”up.
4. Encouragetherecovery
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IfyouwereaskingformetosumupthebenefitsofStep5 injustoneprayer, itwouldbeasfollows:asweconfessoursins,weareencouraginginourlife,thehealth,reconciliation,andrecoverythroughtheincomparablegraceofJesusChrist,wholovesusinspiteofoursins.
5. Facethetruth
Recoveryrequireshonesty!AfterwecompletethisprinciplewecanallowthelightofGod’struthtohealourhurts,hang-ups,andhabits.Westopdenyingourtruefeelings.
“Jesus…said,Iamthelightoftheworld.Whoeverfollowsmewillneverwalkindarkness,butwillhavethelightoflife”(John8:12,NIV).
“Thenyouwillknowthetruth,andthetruthwillsetyoufree”(John8:32,NIV).
6. StartacceptingGod’sforgiveness
OnceweacceptGod’sforgivenesswecanlookothersintheeye.Weunderstandourselvesandourpastactionsina“newlight.”
WearereadytofindthehumilitytoexchangeourshortcomingsinStep5.
“ForGodwasinChrist,restoringtheworldtohimself,nolongercountingmen’ssinsagainstthembutblottingthemout”(2Corinthians5:19,TLB).
“Butifweconfessoursins,hewillforgiveoursins,becausewecantrustGodtodowhatisright.Hewillcleanseusfromallthewrongswehavedone”(1John1:9,NCV).
7. Easethepain
Weareonlyassickasoursecrets!Whenweshareourdeepestsecretswedividethepainandtheshame.Webegintoseeahealthyself-worthdevelop,onethatisnolongerbasedontheworld’sstandards,butonthoseofJesusChrist.
“TherewasatimewhenIwouldn’tadmitwhatasinnerIwas.Butmydishonestymadememiserableandfilledmydayswithfrustration….MystrengthevaporatedlikewateronasunnydayuntilIfinallyadmittedallmysinstoyouandstoppedtryingtohide
them.Isaidtomyself,IwillconfessthemtotheLord.Andyouforgaveme!Allmyguiltisgone”(Psalm32:3-5,TLB).
8. Stoptheblame
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Wecannotfindpeaceandserenityifwecontinuetoblameourselvesorothers.Oursecretshaveisolatedusfromeachother.Theyhavepreventedintimacyinallourrelationships.
“Whydoyoulookatthespeckofsawdustinyourbrother’seyeandfailtonoticetheplankinyourown?Howcanyousaytoyourbrother,Letmegetthespeckoutofyoureye,whenthereisaplankinyourown?Youfraud!Taketheplankoutofyourowneyefirst,andthenyoucanseeclearlyenoughtoremoveyourbrother’sspeckofdust”
(Matthew7:3-5,PH).
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. What wrongs, resentments, or secret sins are keeping you awake at night?Wouldn’tyouliketogetridofthem?
2. Whatvaluedoyouseeinconfessing,incomingcleanofthewreckageofyourpast?
3. AsyouobeyGod’sdirectionsforconfession,whatresultsdoyouexpectGodtoproduceinyourlife?
4. WhatfreedomdoyoufeelbecauseofthewordsofRomans8:1andRomans3:23-24?Whatspecificallydothephrases“nocondemnation”and“notguilty”meantoyou?
5. AfteryoucompleteStep5,youwillfindfourareasofyourlifebegintoimprove.You will be able to face the truth, ease the pain, stop the blame, and startaccepting God’s forgiveness. Inwhat areas of your lifewill each of these fourpositivechangeshelpyourrecovery?
Icanbemorehonestwith…
Icaneasemypainby…
Icanstopblaming…
IcanacceptGod’sforgivenessbecauseof…
Icanencouragetherecoverybecauseof…
Admit Step5review:WeadmittedtoGod,toourselves,andtoanotherhumanbeingtheexactnatureofourwrongs.
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“Thereforeconfessyoursinstoeachotherandprayforeachothersothatyoumaybehealed”(James5:16,NIV).
ThinkAboutThis
Whyadmitmywrongs?
1. WegainhealingthattheBiblepromises
LookagainatJames5:16,God’sWordtellsusthatwearetoadmitourwrongs,oursins,tooneanotherforhealing.Youdothisnottoreceivetheirforgiveness,forGodalreadyforgaveyouwhenyouconfessedyourwrongsandsinstoHim.
Sharingoursecrets,struggles,andfailureswithanotherispartofGod’splanofourhealingprocess.Theroadtorecoveryisnotmeanttobewalkedalone.
2. Wegainfreedom
Oursecretshavekeptusinchains,boundup,frozen,andunstabletomoveinallourrelationships.Admittingoursinssnapsthechains.
“TheycriedtotheLordintheirtroubles,andherescuedthem!Heledthemfromthedarknessandtheshadowofdeathsnappedtheirchains”(Psalm107:13-14,TLB).
3. Wegainsupport
Whenyoushareyourinventorywithanotherperson,yougetsupport.Thepersoncankeepyoufocusedandprovidefeedback.Shecanchallengeyouwhendenialsurfaces.Mostimportant,thepersonwilllisten!
HowdoIchoosesomeone?
1. Choosesomeoneofthesamesexasyouwhomyoutrustandrespect.
2. Askyoursponsororaccountabilitypartner.JustbesuretheyhavecompletedStep4and5.
3. Setupanappointmentwiththeperson,atimewithoutinterruptions!Itusuallytakestwotothreehourstoshareyourinventory.
Guidelinesforyourmeeting
1. Startwithprayer.Askforcourage,humility,andhonest.Hereisasampleprayer:
God,IaskthatYoufillmewithYourpeaceandstrengthduringmysharingofmyinventory.IknowthatYouhaveforgivenmeformypastwrongs,mysins.ThankYoufor
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sendingYoursontopaythepriceforme,somysinscanbeforgiven.Duringthismeetinghelpme to be humble and completely honest. Thank You for providingmewith thisprogramand_______________(thenameofthepersonwithwhomyouaresharingyourinventory.)ThankYouforallowingthechainsofmypasttobesnappedinmySavior’snameIpray,Amen.
2. ReadtheversefromStep5.
3. Keepyoursharingbalanced–weaknessesandstrengths!
4. Endinprayer.ThankGodforthetoolsHehasgiventoyouandforthecompleteforgivenessfoundinChrist!
“Butifweconfessoursins,hewillforgiveoursins,becausewecantrustGodtodowhatisright.Hewillcleanseusfromallthewrongswehavedone”(1John1:9,NCV).
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. InStep5weareaskedtogiveourinventorythreetimes.Whoarewetoconfessittoandwhy?
2. MostofusfinditeasiertoconfessourwrongstoourselvesandGod.Weseemtohave more difficulty in sharing them with another person. What is the mostdifficultpartforyou?Why?
3. Whatisyourbiggestfearofsharingyourinventorywithanotherperson?
4. Listthreepeoplewithwhomyouareconsideringsharingyourinventory.Listtheprosandconsofeachselection.Circleyourfinalchoice.
5. Pickaquietlocationtoshareyourinventory.Listthreeplacesandcirclethebestone.
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WewereentirelyreadytohaveGodremoveallthesedefectsofcharacter.
VoluntarilysubmittoeverychangeGodwantstomakeinmylifeandhumblyask
Himtoremovemycharacterdefects.
“Blessedarethosewhohungerandthirstforrighteousness,fortheyshallbesatisfied”(Mathew5:6,NASB).
“HumbleyourselvesbeforetheLord,andHewillliftyouup”(James4:10,NIV).
ReadyThinkAboutThis
What does it mean to be entirely READY to have God remove our characterdefects?
Releasecontrol
Godisagentleman.InStep3Hedidn’tforceHiswillonyou.HewaitedforyoutoinviteHimin!NowinStep6youneedtobeentirelyready,willingtoletGodintoeveryareaofyourlife.Hewon’tcomeinwhereHeisnotwelcomed.
Ithasbeensaidthat“willingnessisthekeythatgoesintothelockandopensthedoorthatallowsGodtobegintoremoveyourcharacterdefects.”
“Helpmetodoyourwill,foryouaremyGod”(Psalms143:10,TLB).
Easydoesit
ThesePrinciplesandStepsarenotquickfixes!YouneedtoallowtimeforGodtoworkinyourlife.Thisprinciplegoesfurtherthanhelpingyoutostopdoingwrong.Itgoesaftertheverydefectthatcausesyoutosin!Ittakestime!
“Commiteverythingyoudotothe Lord.Trusthimtohelpyoudoitandhewill”(Psalm37:5, TLB).
Acceptthechange
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Seeingtheneedforchangeandallowingthechangetooccuraretwodifferentthings.Step6willnotworkifyouarestilltrappedbyyourself-will.YouneedtobereadytoacceptGod’shelpthroughoutthetransition.
“Sothen,haveyourmindsreadyforaction.KeepalertandsetyourhopecompletelyontheblessingwhichwillbegivenyouwhenJesusChristisrevealed.BeobedienttoGod,
anddonotallowyourlivestobeshapedbythosedesiresyouhadwhenyouwerestillignorant”(1Peter1:13-14,GNT).
Doreplaceyourcharacterdefects
You spent a lot of timewith your old hang-ups, compulsions, obsessions, andhabits.WhenGodremovesone,youneedtoreplaceitwithsomethingpositive,suchasrecoverymeetings,church,service,andvolunteering!Ifyoudon’t,youopenyourselfforanegativecharacterdefecttoreturn.
“Nowwhentheuncleanspiritgoesoutofaman,itpassesthroughwaterlessplacesseekingrest,anddoesnotfindit.Thenitsays,IwillreturntomyhousefromwhichIcame;andwhenitcomes,itfindsitunoccupied,swept,andputinorder.Thenitgoesandtakesalongwithitsevenotherspiritsmorewickedthatitself,andtheygoinand
livethere;andthelaststateofthatmanbecomesworsethatthefirst.Thatisthewayitwillalsobewiththisevilgeneration”(Matthew12:43-45,NASB).
Yieldtothegrowth
Youroldself-doubtsandlowself-esteemmaytellyouthatyouarenotworthyofthegrowthandprogressthatyouaremakingintheprogram.Yieldtothegrowth–itistheHolySpiritsworkwithinyou.
“ThepersonwhohasbeenbornintoGod’sfamilydoesnotmakeapracticeofsinning,becausenowGod’slifeisinhim;sohecan’tkeeponsinning,forthisnewlifehasbeen
bornintohimandcontrolshim–hehasbeenbornagain”(1John3:9,TLB).
Areyouentirelyready–willing–tovoluntarilysubmittoanyandallchangesGodwants tomake inyour life? Ifyouare, readtheStep6versesandpray the followingprayer:
DearGod,thankYoufortakingmethisfarinmyrecoveryjourney.NowIprayforYourhelpinmakingmebeentirelyreadytochangeallmyshortcomings.GivemethestrengthtodealwithallofmycharacterdefectsthatIhaveturnedovertoYou.Allowme
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toacceptallthechangesthatYouwanttomakeinme.HelpmebethepersonthatYouwantmetobe.InYourSon’snameIpray,Amen.
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. Haveyoureleasedcontrol?(Ifnot,reviewStep3:ConsciouslychoosetocommitallmylifeandwilltoChrist’scareandcontrol.)
• ListtheareasofyourlifethatyouhavebeenabletoturnoverandsurrendertoJesusChrist
• Listtheareasofyourlifethatyouarestillholdingonto,attemptingtocontrolthemonyourownpower.
2. Whatdoesthephrase“easydoesit”meantoyou?Whatareaofyourrecoveryareyouattemptingtorush—lookingforthe“quickfix”?
3. Explain thedifference in seeing a need for change andbeing entirely ready toacceptpositivechangeinyourrecovery.
4. It is very important that you allowGod to replace your character defectswithpositivechanges.Whataresomeofthepositivechangesthatyoucouldmakeinourrecovery?Inyourfamily?Inyourjob?
5. SometimesitisdifficultforusinrecoverytoseethepositivechangesthatGodismakinginourlives.Haveyoubeenabletoacceptandenjoyyourgrowth?How?
ConsiderthisWeweremore than just ready,wewere “entirely ready” for these defects of
charactertoberemoved.Weweresickandtiredofbeingsickandtired.Todaymaywechoosedecisively tohaveGodremoveeveryobstacletohisplace fullyoccupyingourhearts.
ToHaveGodRemove
We’reentirelyreadytohave“Godremove”…thekey(thesecret)hereisthatGoddoestheremoving.Our provenpathistokeepourfocusonGodandhislovingpowerand truth.
“AndwhohashishopefixedonHimpurifieshimself,justasHeispure”(1John3:3,NASB).
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Ifyourfocusremainsonyourdefectsfailure isguaranteed.Bewareofhavingawrong focus.Hewhohas thishope fixedonHimpurifieshimself, just asHe ispure.ThehopeJohnreferstohereisforourtotaltransformationinChrist.ThemoreIfocusonHimandHisword,themoreIrealizemyowndefects,themoreIembraceHimandHistransformingpower,themoreIchange,themoreIseekforHiswisdom,Holyloveand healing power, the more I hunger and thirst, and the more I am satisfied, thestrongerIget.
Step7Wehumbly“askedHim”toremoveourshortcomings
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VoluntarilysubmittoeverychangeGodwantstomakeinmylifeandhumblyask
Himtoremovemycharacterdefects.
“HumbleyourselvesbeforetheLord,andHewillliftyouup”(James4:10,NIV).
“Ifweconfessoursins,Heisfaithfulandjustandwillforgiveusoursinsandpurifyusfromallunrighteousness.Ifweclaimwehavenotsinned,wemakehimouttobealiar
andHiswordisnotinus”(1John1:9-10,NIV).
“Blessedarethosewhohungerandthirstforrighteousness,fortheyshallbesatisfied”(Mathew5:6,NASB).
VictoryThinkAboutThis
HowcanyouhaveVICTORYoveryourdefectsofcharacter?
Voluntarilysubmit
VoluntarilysubmittoeverychangeGodwantsmetomakeinmylife,andhumblyaskHimtoremovemyshortcomings.
“OfferyourselvesasalivingsacrificetoGod,dedicatedtohisserviceandpleasingtohim…LetGodtransformyouinwardlybyacompletechangeofyourmind”
(Romans12:1-2,GNT).
InStep3wemadeadecisiontoturnour livesovertoGod’swill.Nowyouareentirelyreadytohavegodremoveallyourdefectsofcharacter(Step7).
It is importanttounderstandthatSteps6and7areaprocess.Lastingchangestakes time. The remainderof this lessonoutlines theprocess tohaveGodmake thepositivechangesinyourlifethatyouandHebothdesire.
Identifycharacterdefects
Step7
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Which character defects you want to work on first. Go back to the wrongs,shortcomings,andsinsyoudiscoveredinyourinventory.AskGodtofirstremovethosethatarecausingthemostpain.
“Intheirheartshumansplantheircourse,buttheLordestablishestheirsteps”(Proverbs16:9,NIV).
Changeyourmind
WhenyoubecomeaChristianyouareanewcreation–abrandnewpersoninside;theoldnatureisgone.ButyouhavetoletGod(change)transformyoubyrenewingyourmind. The changes that are going to take place are a result of a team effort – yourresponsibilityistotaketheactiontofollowgod’sdirectionsforchange.
“Donotconformtothepatternofthisworld,butbetransformedbytherenewingofyourmind.ThenyouwillbeabletotestandapprovewhatGod’swillis–hisgood,
pleasingandperfectwill”(Romans12:2,NIV).
Turnovercharacterdefects
TurnyourcharacterdefectsovertoJesusChrist.Relyingonyourownwillpowerhasblockedyourrecovery.Youhavetriedtochangeyourhurts,hang-ups,andhabitsbyyourselfandwereunsuccessful.“Letgo;letGod.”
“HumbleyourselvesbeforetheLord,andHewillliftyouup”(James4:10,NIV).
“TheLordisfaithful,andHewillstrengthenyouandprotectyoufromtheevilone”(2Thessalonians3:3,NIV).
Onedayatatime
Recoveryworksonedayatatime!Yourlifelonghurts,hang-ups,andhabitsneedtobeworkedonintwenty-four-hoursincrements.Lifebytheyardishard; lifebytheinchisacinch.
“Sodon’tbeanxiousabouttomorrow.Godwilltakecareofyourtomorrowtoo.Liveonedayatatime”(Matthew6:34,TLB).
Recoveryisaprocess
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OnceyouaskGodtoremoveyourcharacterdefects,youbeginajourneythatwillleadyoutonewfreedomfromyourpast.Don’t lookforperfection; insteadrejoiceinsteadyprogress.
“AndIamsurethatGodwhobeganagoodworkwithinyouwillkeeprightonhelpingyougrowninhisgraceuntilhistaskwithinyouisfinallyfinishedonthatdaywhenJesus
Christreturns”(Philippians1:6,TLB).
Absolutedisposition
YouhavetogetreadyinorderforGodtoworktogetherwithyou.Nowyouareconsideringwhat Step 6 says: You are ready to have God remove all your characterdefects.Youareinaplaceinyourrecoveryinwhichyousay:Idon’twanttoliveinthiswayanymore.Iwanttoberidofmywounds,problems,andhabits.
“Iwantyoutobewiseinwhatisgoodandinnocentinwhatisevil.TheGodofpeacewillsooncrushSatanunderyourfeet.ThegraceofourLordJesusbewithyou”
(Romans16:19-20,NASB).
Youmustchoosetochange
Toaskforhelptochangeyourhurts,hang-ups,andhabitsrequireshumility.Weneedtostoptryingtomakethechangesonourpower.WeneedtohumblyaskHimtoremoveallourshortcomings.WeneedtorelyonHispowertochangeus!
“ButHegivesusmoreandmorestrengthtostandagainstallsuchevillongings.AstheScripturesays,Godgivesstrengthtothehumblebutsetshimselfagainsttheproudandhaughty.SogiveyourselveshumblytoGod.Resistthedevilandhewillfleefromyou.AndwhenyoudrawclosetoGod,Godwilldrawclosetoyou.Washyourhands,you
sinners,andletyourheartsbefilledwithGodalonetomakethempureandtruetoHim”(James4:6-8,TLB).
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. As you voluntarily submit to every change God wants you to make in yourrecovery,howdoesRomans12:1-2helpyouknowthat real,positivechange ispossible?
2. InStep7youneedtoaskGodtohelpyouidentifythedefectsofcharacterthatyouneedtoworkonfirst.ListthechangesthatyouwanttoaskGodtohelpyouworkonnow.Willyouworkonthem?
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3. God’sWordteachesusthatrealchangecomesfromthechangingofourminds.Wemust take the positive action required to follow God’s directions. List theactionsthatyouneedtotaketobeginworkingonthedefectsofcharacterthatyoulistedinquestion2.
ACTIONPLANDefectsofCharacter:
Ineedtostopdoing:
Ineedtostartdoing:
4. ListthespecificwaysthatyouhaveturnedfromrelyingonyourownwillpowertorelyingonGod’swillforyourlife.
5. Whatdoesthephrase“onedayatatime”meantoyouandyourrecovery?
6. IthasbeenstatedthatRecoveryisnotperfection; it isaprocess.Doyouagreewiththat?Why?
7. Whatdoeshumilitymeantoyou?Howwillbeinghumbleallowyoutochange?
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Wemadealistofallpersonswehadharmedandbecamewillingtomakeamendstothemall.
Evaluateallmyrelationships.Offerforgivenesstothosewhohavehurtmeand
makeamendsforharmI’vedonetoothers,exceptwhentodosowouldharmthemorothers.
“Blessedarethemerciful,fortheywillbeshownmercy”(Matthew5:7,NASB).
“Blessedarethepeacemakers,fortheywillbecalledchildrenofGod”(Matthew5:9,NASB).
“Dotoothersasyouwouldhavethemdotoyou”(Luke6:31,NIV).
AmendsThinkAboutThis
MakingyouramendsisthebeginningoftheendofyourisolationfromothersandGod.
Startlivingthepromisesofrecovery
Aswecompletethisstep,wewilldiscoverGod’sgiftof truefreedomfromourpast.Wewillbegintofindthepeaceandserenitythatwehavelongbeenseeking.WewillbecomereadytoembraceGod’spurposeforourlives.
“Godpromises,Iwillrepayyoufortheyearsthatlocustshaveeaten”(Joel2:25,NIV).
“Ifitispossible,asfarasitdependsonyou,liveatpeacewitheveryone”(Romans12:18,NIV).
Donotbeopposed
Stillsomeofusareopposedtomakingamends.Wethink:IfGodhasforgiven,isn’tthatenough?WhymustIbringupthepast?Afterall,makingamendssoundsunnatural.
Theanswertothatobjectionissimple:makingamendshasmoretodowithyourfuturethanwithyourpast.Beforehavingthehealthyrelationshipsthatyoudesire,youneedtocleartheguilt,shame,andpainthatledtofailedrelationshipsinthepast.
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Encourageoneanother
Beforeyoumakeyouramendsorofferyour forgiveness toothersyouneed tomeetwithyouraccountabilitypartnerorasponsor.Heorshewillencourageyouandgiveyouavaluableobjectiveopinion,whichwillensurethatyourmotivesstayontrack.
“Andletusconsiderhowwemayspuroneanotherontowardloveandgooddeeds”(Hebrews10:24,NIV).
Makealist
Gobacktoyourinventorysheets.Youwillfindthelistofpeoplewhoyouneedtoforgive.Arethereanyothersyouneedtoadd?
“Dotoothersasyouwouldhavethemdotoyou”(Luke6:31,NIV).
Doitattherighttime
ThisStepnotonlyrequirescourage,goodjudgment,andwillingness,butacarefulsenseoftiming!ItiskeyatthistimetoprayerfullyaskJesusChristforHisguidanceanddirection.
“Notlookingtoyourowninterests,buteachofyoutotheinterestsoftheothers”(Philippians2:4,NIV).
Notforthem
Youneedtoapproachthosetowhomyouareofferingyourforgivenessoramendshumbly,sincerely,andwillingly.
Donotofferexcusesorattempttojustifyyouractions.Focusonlyonyourpart.Don’texpectanythingback.
“Loveyourenemiesanddogoodtothem;lendandexpectnothingback”(Luke6:35,GNT).
Disposition
Aswehavementionedbefore,itistimetoconsiderhowtoforgive,tobewillingtomakeamendsandtobewillingtoaskforforgiveness.Atthispointyouarejustlooking
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forwillingness.Step8onlyrequiresthatweidentifythosepeoplewithwhomweneedtomakeamendsandtoofferforgiveness.
Luke6:31remindsus:“Dotoothersasyouwouldhavethemdotoyou.”
Admitthehurtandtheharm
You need to once again face the hurts, resentments and wrongs others havecausedyou,orwrongsthatyouhavecausedothers.HoldingontoresentmentsnotonlyblocksyourrecoverybutblocksGod’sforgivenessinyourlife.Thejudgmentyougiveisthejudgmentyouwillget.
“Donotjudgeothers,andGodwillnotjudgeyou;donotcondemnothers,andGodwillnotcondemnyou;forgiveothers,andGodwillforgiveyou”(Luke6:37,GNT).
“Ifwearepainstakingaboutthisphaseofourdevelopment,wewillbeamazedbefore we are half way through.We are going to know a new freedom and a newhappiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We willcomprehendthewordserenityandwewillknowpeace.Nomatterhowfardownthescalewehavegone,wewillseehowourexperiencecanbenefitothers.Thatfeelingofuselessnessandself-pitywilldisappear.Wewillloseinterestinselfishthingsandgaininterestinourfellows.Self-seekingwillslipaway.Ourwholeattitudeandoutlookuponlife will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We willintuitively know how to handle situationswhich used to baffle us.Wewill suddenlyrealizethatGodisdoingforuswhatwecouldnotdoforourselves”(TheBigBookofAA,p.83-84).
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. Onceagainyouneedtoadmitthepasthurts–whatothersdidtoyouandtheharmthatyoucausedtoothers.Explainhowholdingontoyourpastresentmentsandguilthasblockedyourrecovery.Bespecific.
2. Whodoyouhaveonyourrecoverysupportteamtoencourageyouasyoumakeyouramendsandofferyourforgiveness?
SPONSOR:
AccountabilityPartners:
3. Whatdoesthephrase“notforthem”meantoyou?
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4. Whatdoesthephrase“don’texpectanythingback”meantoyou?
5. Timing is so important in this step. List the individuals who could be possiblyinjuredfromyourmakinganamendstothemandwhy.
6. Gobacktothe“startlivingthepromises”sectionoftheamends,andre-readtheparagraphtakenfromTheBigBookofAA,pages83-84.Listsomeofthepromisesofrecoverythatarecomingtrueinyourlife!
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Wemadedirectamendstosuchpeoplewheneverpossible,exceptwhentodosowouldinjurethemorothers.
Evaluateallmyrelationships.Offerforgivenesstothosewhohavehurtmeand
makeamendsforharmI’vedonetoothers,exceptwhentodosowouldharmthemorothers.
“Therefore,ifyouareofferingyourgiftatthealtarandthererememberthatyourbrotherorsisterhassomethingagainstyou,leaveyourgiftthereinfrontofthealtar.
Firstgoandbereconciledtothem;thencomeandofferyourgift”(Matthew5:23-24,NIV).
“Blessedarethemerciful,fortheyshallreceivemercy.Blessedarethepureinheart,fortheyshallseeGod.Blessedarethepeacemakers,fortheyshallbecalledsonsofGod”
(Mathew5:7-9,NASB).
“Dotoothersasyouwouldhavethemdotoyou”(Luke6:31,NIV).
ForgivenessThinkAboutThis
Doyouknowthethreekindsofforgiveness?Tobecompletelyfreefromyourresentments,anger,fears,shame,andguilt,youneedtogiveandacceptforgivenessinallareasofyourlives.Ifyoudonot,yourrecoverywillbestalledandthusincomplete.
1. HaveyouacceptedGod’sforgiveness?
HaveyoureallyacceptedJesusChrist’svictoriousworkonthecross?Heexclaimedfromthecross,“Itisfinished”(John19:30).Byhisdeathonthecrossalloursinswerecanceled–Paidinfull!
“GodputspeoplerightthroughtheirfaithinJesusChrist.GoddoesthistoallwhobelieveinChrist,becausethereisnodifferenceatall:everyonehassinnedandisfarawayfromGod'ssavingpresence.ButbythefreegiftofGod'sgraceallareputrightwithHimthroughChristJesus,whosetsthemfree.GodofferedHim,sothatbyHisbloodHeshouldbecomethemeansbywhichpeople'ssinsareforgiventhroughtheir
faithinHim”(Romans3:22-25,GNT).
2. Haveyouforgivenotherswhohavehurtyou?
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Youmust“letgo”ofthepainofthepastharmandabusecausedbyothers.Untilyouareabletoreleaseitandforgiveit,itwillcontinuetoholdyouprisoner.
“Donotrepayanyoneevilforevil.Becarefultodowhatisrightintheeyesofeveryone.Ifitispossible,asfarasitdependsonyou,liveatpeacewitheveryone”
(Romans12:17-18,NIV).
YoumayoweGodanamends!Rememberthattheharmthatothersdidtoyouwasfromtheirfreewill,notGod’swill.
“Afteryouhavebornethesesufferingsaverylittlewhile,Godhimself(fromwhomwereceiveallgradeandwhohascalledyoutosharehiseternalsplendorthroughChrist)
willmakeyouwholeandsecureandstrong”(1Peter5:10,PH).
NOTE: If you have been the victim of sexual abuse, physical abuse, or childhoodemotionalabuseorneglect,Iamtrulysorryforthepainyouhavesuffered.Ihurtwithyou.Butyouwillnotfindthepeaceandfreedomfromyourperpetratoruntilyouareabletoforgivethatperson.“Remember,forgivinghimorherinnowayexcusestheharmdoneagainstyou.Forgivenesswillallowyou,however,tobereleasedfromthepowerthatthepersonhashadoveryou.”Step8:MakealistofallpersonswhohaveharmedusandbecomewillingtoseekGod’shelp in forgiving our perpetrators, as well as forgiving ourselves. Realize we’ve alsoharmedothersandbecomewillingtomakeamendstothem.Step9:Extendforgivenesstoourselvesandtootherswhohaveperpetratedagainstus,realizingthisisanattitudeoftheheart,notalwaysconfrontation.Makedirectamends,asking forgiveness from thosepeoplewehaveharmed,exceptwhen todo sowouldinjurethemorothers.
3. Haveyouforgivenyourself?
Youmayfeelthattheguiltandshameofyourpastisjusttoomuchtoforgive.ThisiswhatGodwantsyoutodowiththedarknessofyourpast:“Come,let’stalkthisover!SaystheLord;nomatterhowdeepthestainofyoursins,Icantakeitoutandmakeyouascleanasfreshlyfallensnow.Evenifyouarestainedasredascrimson,IcanmakeyouwhiteaswoolIfyouwillonlyletmehelpyou”(Isaiah1:18-19,TLB).
Remember:“Therefore,thereisnownocondemnationforthosewhoareinChristJesus”(Romans8:1,NIV).
Meditation–Discussion–Action
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1.Asyoulookatthethreekindsofforgiveness,whichoneofthemwastheeasiestforyoutoaccept?Why?
2.Whichareaofforgivenesswasthemostdifficultforyoutoaccept?Why?
3.WhatdothewordsofChristfoundinJohn19:30meantoyou?
4.Whathurt(s)fromapastrelationshipareyoustillholdingonto?
5.Howcanyouletgoofthehurt(s)?Bespecific.
6.DoyouoweGodanamends?Whenwillyougiveit?
7.HowhaveyoubeenblamingGodfortheharmfulactionsthatotherstookagainstyou?
8.Haveyouforgivenyourself?Whatpastactionsinyourlifedoyoustillfeelguiltandshameabout?(Listthem,prayaboutthem,andworkontheminthenextlesson.)
Grace Step9review:Wemadedirectamendstosuchpeoplewheneverpossible,exceptwhentodosowouldinjurethemorothers.
“BlessedarethepeacemakersfortheyshallbecalledchildrenofGod”(Mathew5:9,NASB).
Thinkaboutthis
To complete Step 9 we must make our amends, make restitution, offer ourforgiveness,butmostofall,wemustreceiveandmodelJesusChrist’sfreelygivengiftofGRACE.
“ButHesaidtome:Mygraceisenoughforyou.Whenyouareweak,mypowerismadeperfectinyou.SoIamveryhappytobragaboutmyweaknesses.ThenChrist’spowercanliveinme.ForthisreasonIamhappywhenIhaveweaknesses,insults,hardtimes,sufferings,andallkindsoftroublesforChrist.BecausewhenIamweak,thenIamtruly
strong”(2Corinthians12:9-10,NCV).
Graceis:God’sgift
Gracecannotbebought.ItisafreelygivengiftbyGodtoyouandme.WhenwecompleteStep6,wearetooffer(give)ouramendsandforgivenessandexpectnothingback.
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“AllneedtobemaderightwithGodbyHisgrace,whichisafreegift.TheyneedtobemadefreefromsinthroughJesusChrist”(Romans3:24,NCV).
“Forofhisfullnesswehaveallreceived,andgraceupongrace,fortheLawwasgiventhroughMoses;graceandtruthwererealizedthroughJesusChrist”(John1:16-17).
“Prepareyourmindsforserviceandhaveself-control.AllyourhopeshouldbeforthegiftofgracethatwillbeyourswhenJesusChristisshowntoyou”(1Peter1:13,NCV).
Graceis:Receivedbyfaith
Wecannotworkourwayintoheaven.OnlybyprofessingourfaithinChristasourSaviorcanweexperienceHisgraceandhaveeternallife.ItisonlythroughourfaithinChristthatwecanfindthestrengthandcourageneededforustomakeouramendsandofferourforgiveness.
“Foritisbygraceyouhavebeensaved,throughfaith-andthisisnotfromyourselves,itisthegiftofGod–notbyworks,sothatnoonecanboast”(Ephesians2:8-9,NIV).
“Throughwhomwehavegainedaccessbyfaithintothisgraceinwhichwenowstand.AndweboastinthehopeofthegloryofGod”(Romans5:2,NIV).
Graceis:beingacceptedinGod’slove
Godloveduswhilewewerestillsinning.Graceisthelovethatgives,thatlovestheunlovelyandtheunlovable.WecanloveothersbecauseGodfirstlovedus,andwecanalsoforgiveothersbecauseGodfirstforgaveus.
“Letus,feelverysurethatwecancomebeforeGod’sthronewherethereisgrace.Therewecanreceivemercyandgracetohelpuswhenweneedit”(Hebrews4:16,NCV).
“Forgiveusourdebts,aswealsohaveforgivenourdebtors”(Matthew6:12,NIV).
“Ifyouforgiveotherpeoplewhentheysinagainstyou,yourheavenlyFatherwillalsoforgiveyou”(Matthew6:14,NIV).
Graceis:Christpaidthepricethatwemightreceivegrace
JesuslovesussomuchthatHediedonthecrosssothatalloursins,allourwrongs,areforgiven.HepaidthepriceandsacrificedHimselfforussothatwemaybewithHim
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forever.Wealsoneedtosacrifice–ourprideandourselfishness.Wemustspeakthetruthinloveandfocusonourpartinmakingamendsorofferingforgiveness.
“IdonotsetasidethegraceofGod,forifrighteousnesscouldbegainedthroughthelaw,Christdiedfornothing!”(Galatians2:21,NIV).
“InChristwearesetfreebythebloodofhisdeath,andsowehaveforgivenessofsins.HowrichisGod’sgrace”(Ephesians1:7,NCV).
Graceis:Anundeservedgift
WeallareaproductoftheundeservedgraceofGod.
“Mygraceissufficientforyou,forpowerisperfectedinweakness.Mostgladly,therefore,Iwillratherboastaboutmyweaknesses,sothatthepowerofChristmay
dwellinme.ThereforeIamwellcontentwithweaknesses,withinsults,withdistresses,withpersecutions,withdifficulties,forChrist’ssake;forwhenIamweak,thenIam
strong”(2Corinthians12:9,NASB).
Graceis:Aneternalgift
OnceyouhaveacceptedJesusChristasyourLordandSavior,God’sgiftofgraceisforever.
“AndIamsurethatGodwhobeganthegoodworkwithinyouwillkeeprightonhelpingyougrowinhisgraceuntilhistaskwithinyouisfinallyfinishedonthatdaywhenJesus
Christreturns”(Philippians1:6,TLB).
“MayourLordJesusChristhimselfandGodourFatherencourageyouandstrengthenyouineverygoodthingyoudoandsay.Godlovedus,andthroughhisgracehegaveusagoodhopeandencouragementthatcontinuesforever”(2Thessalonians2:16,NCV).
Prayer
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DearGod,thankYouforYourlove,foryourfreelygivengrace.HelpmemodelYourwayswhenImakemyamendstothoseIhavehurtandoffermyforgivenesstothosewhohaveinjuredme.Helpmetosetasidemyselfishnessandspeakthetruthinlove.IpraythatIwouldfocusonlyonmypart,myresponsibilityintheissue.IknowthatIcanforgiveothersbecauseYou first forgaveme. ThankYou for lovingme. In Jesus’name I pray,Amen.
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. HowhasJesusChristusedyourweaknessesandturnedthemintostrengths?
2. HowcanyoureceiveGod’sgiftofgrace(Romans5:2)?
3. HowcanyoumodelGod’sgiftofgraceinmakingyouramends?
4. InwhatwayshaveyouexperiencedGod’sgraceinyourrecovery?
Remember,youcan’tgivetootherswhatyouhaven’treceivedyourself.
5. “Godlovedandaccepteduswhilewewerestillsinners”(Ephesians2:5).Howcanyoumodelthatacceptancetothosetowhomyouneedtoofferforgivenessormakeamends?
6. InStep9wearenottryingtogeteven.Christpaidthepriceforallofourwrongs.Whatdoes“speakingthetruthinlove”meantoyou?
7. Why is it important that you focus only on your part inmaking an amendsorofferingforgiveness?
8. ListsomeofthethingsthatGodhasshownyouthroughworkingStep9.
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Step10Wecontinuedtotakepersonalinventory,andwhenwe
werewrong,promptlyadmittedit.
Reserveadaily timewithGodforself-examinationBiblereading,andprayer inordertoknowGodandHiswillformylifeandtogainthepowertofollowHiswill.
“So,ifyouthinkyouarestandingfirm,becarefulthatyoudon’tfall!”(1Corinthians10:12,NIV).
CrossroadsThinkAboutThis
Jesussays,“IfyouliveasItellyouto…youwillknowthetruth,andthetruthwillsetyoufree”(John8:32,TLB).ByworkingtheStepsandfollowingChrist’sdirections,thefoundationofyourlifehasbeenrebuilt.Youwillundoubtedlyseemajorchangesinyourlife,ifyouhaven’talready!ButnowyouareattheCROSSROADSofyourrecovery.
1Corinthians10:12warnsus:“So, ifyouthinkyouarestandingfirm,becarefulthatyoudon’tfall!”Steps10through12arewherewewillliveoutourrecoveriesfortherestofourtimehereonearth.TheyaremuchmorethanmaintenanceSteps,assomehavereferredtothem.Thesearethe,“howIwanttolivetherestofmylifestepsandprinciples”.
AswebegintoworkStep10,wewillseethatitismadeupofthreekeyparts.
Taketimetodoadailyinventory
1. Thewhat?Wecontinuedtotakepersonalinventory…
“Letusexamineourwaysandtestthem,andletusreturntotheLord”(Lamentations3:40,NIV).
2. Thewhy?Andwhenwewerewrong…
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“Ifwesaythatwehavenosins,weareonlyfoolingourselves,andrefusingtoacceptthetruth.Butifweconfessoursinstohim,hecanbedependedontoforgiveusandtocleanseusfromeverywrong.AnditisperfectlyproperforGodtodothisforusbecauseChristdiedtowashawayoursins.Ifweclaimwehavenotsinned,wearelyingand
callingGodaliar,forhesayswehavesinned”(1John1:8-10,TLB).
3. Thethenwhat?Promptlyadmittedit…
“ThisishowIwantyoutoconductyourselfinthesematters.Ifyouenteryourplaceofworshipand,abouttomakeanoffering,yousuddenlyrememberagrudgeafriendhasagainstyou,abandonyouroffering,leaveimmediately,gotothisfriendandmake
thingsright.Thenandonlythen,comebackandworkthingsoutwithGod”(Matthew5:23-24,MSG).
Freeyourselffromyourmistakesandwrongsquickly
Practicekeepingadailyjournalforoneweek.Writeoutyourdailyinventory—thegoodand thebad. Look fornegativepatterns, issues that youare repeatedlywritingdown and having to promptly make amends for! Share them with your sponsor oraccountabilitypartner,andsetupanactionplanforyou-withGod’shelpandpower-toovercomethem.
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. BeforeyoustartworkingonStep10,takeamomenttoreflectandlistsomeofthechangesinyourlifethathavecomefromworkingtheStepsandprincipleswithJesusasyourHigherPower.
• Howhasyourbehaviorchanged?
• Whatspecificrelationshipshavebeenrestoredorimproved?
• HowhasyourrelationshipwithJesusgrownsinceyoubeganyourjourneyofrecovery?
• Listthenewrelationshipsthatyouhavemadealongyourjourney.
2. Inyourownwords,whatdoesStep10meantoyou?
• TheWhat?:Wecontinuedtotakeapersonalinventory…
• TheWhy?:Andwhenwewerewrong…
Step10
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• ThethenWhat?:Promptlyadmittedit…
DailyInventory Step 10 review:We continued to take personal inventory andwhenwewerewrongpromptlyadmittedit.
“So,ifyouthinkyouarestandingfirm,becarefulthatyoudon’tfall!”(1Corinthians10:12,NIV).
Thinkaboutthis
InStep10,webegintoapplywhatwehavediscoveredinthefirst9Steps:Wehumblyliveinrealitynotdenial;wehavedoneourbesttomakeamendsforourpast;wedesiretogrowdailyinournewrelationshipswithJesusChristandothers.
Godhasprovideduswithadailychecklistforournewlifestyle.It’scalledtheGreatCommandment:
“LovetheLordyourGodwithallyourheart…souland…mind.Thisisthefirstandgreatestcommandment.Andthesecondislikeit:Loveyourneighborasyourself.Allthe
LawandtheProphetshangonthesetwocommandments”(Matthew22:37-40).
James 1:22 encourages us: “Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceiveyourselves.Dowhatitsays.”WhenwepracticetheGreatCommandment,webecomedoers ofGod’sWord, living examples of Christ.Ourwalk lines upwith our talk! TheapostlePaul livedthatway.Hesaysin1Thessalonians1:5(TLB):“Ourveryliveswerefurtherprooftoyouofthetruthofourmessage.”
TherearethreewaystodoaStep10inventory.
1.Ongoing
Wecandothisperiodicallythroughouttheday.Thebesttimetoadmitwearewrong is theexact time thatwearemadeawareof it!Whywait?Weneed tomakeamendsASAP!Wewillsleepalotbetteratnight.
2.Daily
Attheendofeachdayweneedtolookoverthedailyactivities–thegoodandthebad.Weneedtosearchforwherewemighthaveharmedsomeoneorwhereweacted
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outofangerorfear.Thebestwaytodothisistokeepajournal!Thenthenextmorningaspromptlyaswecan,weneedtoadmitmistakesandmakeouramends.
3.Periodic
Everythreemonths,getawayforaminiretreat.Bringyourdailyjournalwithyou.Prayandreadyourdailyentries.AskGodtoshowyouareas inyour lifethatyoucanimproveoverthenext90daysandthevictoriesthatyouhavemadeinthelastninetydays!
TheBiblegivesusinstructionsonhowtoavoidthenecessityofmakinganamendsinStep10:
“Intelligentpeoplethinkbeforetheyspeak;whattheysayisthenmorepersuasive”(Proverbs16:23,GNT).
“Letnofoulorpollutinglanguage,norevilwordnorunwholesomeorworthlesstalk(ever)comeoutofyourmouth,butonlysuch(speech)asisgoodandbeneficialto
spiritualprogressofothers”(Ephesians4:29,AB).
“Awise,maturepersonisknownforhisunderstanding.Themorepleasanthiswords,themorepersuasiveHeis”(Proverbs16:21,GNT).
“Awordofencouragementdoeswonders!”(Proverbs12:25,TLB).
“IfIspeakwiththetonguesofmenandofangels,butdonothavelove,Ihavebecomeanoisygongoraclangingcymbal”(1Corinthians13:1,NASB).
Step10dailyactionplan
1.Continuetotakeadaily inventory,andwhenyouarewrong,promptlymakeyouramends.
2.Summarizetheeventsofyourdayinyourjournal.
3.ReadandmemorizeoneoftheStep10verses(seeabove.)
4.WorkallStepsandprinciplestothebestofyourability.ThekeyverseforthislessonisMark14:38:“Watchandpraysothatyouwillnotfallintotemptation.Thespiritiswilling,butthefleshisweak.”
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Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. Whataresomeoftheadvantagesofeachofthethreetypesofinventoriesinyourrecovery?Howcantheyhelpyouto“becarefulthatyoudon’tfall”?
2. Whatdothefollowingversesmeantoyouandhowcantheyhelpyouinthisstep?
“Fromawisemindcomescarefulandpersuasivespeech”(Proverbs16:23,TLB).
“Don’tusebadlanguage.Sayonlywhatisgoodandhelpfultothoseyouaretalkingto,andwhatwillgivethemablessing”(Ephesians4:29,TLB).
“Thewisemanisknownbyhiscommonsense,andapleasantteacheristhebest”(Proverbs16:21,TLB).
“Anxiousheartsareveryheavybutawordofencouragementdoeswonders!”(Proverbs12:25,TLB).
“IfIspeakwiththetonguesofmenandofangels,butdonothavelove,Ihavebecomeanoisygongoraclangingcymbal”(1Corinthians13:1,NASB).
“WatchwithmeandpraylesttheTempteroverpoweryou.Forthroughthespiritiswillingenough,tobodyisweak”(Mark14:38,TLB).
3. WhatisyourdailyactionplaninStep10?
4. Whataretherecurringeventsorissuesthatyouareconstantlyneedingtomakeamendsfor?
• Withyourfamily?
• Withyourfriends?
• Withthoseyouworkwith?
• Withthoseinyourchurchorrecoveryprogram?
Finally,Jesuscomparesthethoughtsofourhearttoagarden.Step10hasbeenlikenedtoweedingagarden.Agardenisweededmanytimesbeforethereisaharvest,sodon’tbediscouraged.Yourdiligencewillberewarded.
“Afarmerwentouttosowhisseed.Ashewasscatteringtheseed,somefellalongthepath;itwastrampledon,andthebirdsoftheairateitup.Somefellonrock,andwhenitcameup,theplantswitheredbecausetheyhadnomoisture.Otherseedfellamongthorns,whichgrewupwithitandchokedtheplants.Stillotherseedfellongoodsoil.It
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cameupandyieldedacrop,ahundredtimesmorethanwassown.Whenhesaidthis,hecalledout,Hewhohasearstohear,lethimhear.Hisdisciplesaskedhimwhatthis
parablemeant”(Luke8:5-9).
“Thisisthemeaningoftheparable:TheseedisthewordofGod.Thosealongthepatharetheoneswhohear,andthenthedevilcomesandtakesawaythewordfromtheirhearts,sothattheymaynotbelieveandbesaved.Thoseontherockaretheoneswhoreceivethewordwithjoywhentheyhearit,buttheyhavenoroot.Theybelieveforawhile,butinthetimeoftestingtheyfallaway.Theseedthatfellamongthornsstandsforthosewhohear,butastheygoontheirwaytheyarechokedbylife'sworries,richesandpleasures,andtheydonotmature.Buttheseedongoodsoilstandsforthosewithanobleandgoodheart,whoheartheword,retainit,andbyperseveringproducea
crop”(Luke8:11-15).
“ButthefruitoftheSpiritislove,joy,peace,patience,kindness,goodness,faithfulness,gentleness,self-control;againstsuchthingsthereisnolaw”(Galatians5:22-23,NASB).
Mayourheartsandmindsbeasgardens,filledwitheverygoodfruitofGod.
“Iamthevine,youarethebranches;hewhoabidesinMeandIinhim,hebearsmuchfruit,forapartfrommeyoucandonothing…Myfatherisglorifiedbythis,thatyou
bearmuchfruit,andsoprovetobeMydisciples.Justasthefatherhaslovedme,Ihavealsolovedyou;abideinMylove”(John15:5,8-9).
Sopassontootherswhatyou’vereceived.
Step11
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WesoughtthroughprayerandmeditationtoimproveourconsciouscontractwithGod,prayingonlyforknowledgeof
Hiswillforusandpowertocarrythatout.
ReserveadailytimewithGodforself-examination,Biblereading,andprayerinordertoknowGodandHiswillformylifeandtogainthepowertofollowHiswill.
“LetthemessageofChristdwellamongyourichly”(Colossians3:16,NIV).
RelapseThinkAboutThis
1.Reserveadailyquiettime
ReserveadailytimewithGodforself-examination,Biblereading,andprayerinordertoknowGodandHiswillformylifeandgainthepowertofollowHiswill.
“Watchandpraysothatyouwillnotfallintotemptation.Thespiritiswilling,butthefleshisweak”(Mark14:38,NIV).
2.Evaluate
Yourevaluationneedstoincludeyourphysical,emotional,relational,andspiritualhealth.Anddon’tforgetthevalueofdoinga“HEART”check.Areyou…?
• Hurting?
• Exhausted?
• Angry?
• Resentful?
• Tense?
SpecialinstructionsforthisSteparefoundinRomans12:3-17(TLB):“Behonestinyourestimateofyourselves…Hatewhatiswrong.Standonthesideofthegood.Loveeachother…Bepatientintrouble…Dothingsinsuchawaythateveryonecanseeyouarehonestclearthrough.”
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3.PlugintoGod’spowerthroughprayer
God’sguidanceanddirectioncanstartwhenyourdemandsstop!Bespecific inyourprayerrequests;prayabouteverything,askingforGod’sperfectwill.
“Don’tworryaboutanything;instead,prayabouteverything;tellGodyourneedsanddon’tforgettothankhimforhisanswers”(Philippians4:6,TLB).
4.Aloneandquiettime
JesusChristspenttimealonewithHisFather.Youneedtodothesame.SetadailyappointmenttimetobealonewithGod.Listencarefully;learnhowtohearGod!
“Intheearlymorning,whileitwasstilldark,Jesusgotup,leftthehouse,andwentawaytoasecludedplace,andwasprayingthere”(Mark1:35,NASB).
5.Enjoyyourgrowth
Rejoiceand celebrate the small successes along your road to recovery!Alwaysrememberyou’reona journey,a journeyofseveralSteps.Maintaininganattitudeofgratitudeisliketakingspiritualvitamins.“Ajoyfulheartisagoodmedicine”(Proverbs17:22).
Share your victories – nomatter how small - with others in your group. Yourgrowthwillgiveothershope!
“Bejoyfulalways,prayatalltimes,bethankfulinallcircumstances.ThisiswhatGodwantsfromyouinyourlifeinunionwithChristJesus”(1Thessalonians5:16-18,GNT).
“Testeverythingthatissaidtobesureitistrue,andifitis,thenacceptit”(1Thessalonians5:21,TLB).
6.SlowdownlongenoughtohearGod’sanswer
We can become impatient.Wewant our prayers answered now!We need torememberthatourtimingcanbeflawed,whileGod’stimingisperfect!
“Listentome.KeepsilenceandIwillteachyouwisdom!”(Job33:33,TLB).
“Ifyoudothis,youwillexperienceGod’speace,whichisfarmorewonderfulthanthehumanmindcanunderstand.Hispeacewillkeepyourthoughtsandyourheartsquiet
andatrestasyoutrustinChristJesus”(Philippians4:7,TLB).
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7.ListentoJesus
Weneedtotakeatime-outfromtheworld’sratracelongenoughtolistentoourbodies, ourminds, andour souls.Weneed to slowdownenough tohear the Lord’sdirections.
“Testeverythingthatissaidtobesureitistrue,andifitis,thenacceptit”(1Thessalonians5:21,TLB).
“Leteveryonebesurethatheisdoinghisverybest,forthenhewillhavethepersonalsatisfactionofworkwelldoneandwon’tneedtocomparehimselfwithsomeoneelse”
(Galatians6:4,LTB).
“ListentotheLord.HearwhatHeistellingyou”(Isaiah1:10,TLB).
Hereareafewfinalsuggestionsforpreventingrelapse:
1.PrayandreadyourBibledaily.Establishaspecifictimeofdaytohaveyourquiettime.
2.Makeattendingyour recoverymeetingapriority.Stayclose toyoursupportteam.
3.Spendtimewithyourfamily(iftheyaresafe).Iftheyarenot,spendtimewithyourchurchfamily.
4.Getinvolvedinservice.Volunteer!
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. Whataresomeoftheways(tools)thatyouhavedevelopedinyourrecoverytopreventrelapse?
2. DoaHEARTcheckrightnow.Areyou…?
• Hurting?
• Exhausting?
• Angry?
• Resentful?
• Tense?
3. Specifically,whatdoyoudowhenyouare…?
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• Hurting?
• Exhausting?
• Angry?
• Resentful?
• Tense?
4. Rateyourlisteningskillsfrom1to10,10beingthebest.
• Whataresomewaysthatyouthinkyoucouldimproveyourlisteningskillswithothers?
• WhataresomewaysthatyoucouldimproveyourlisteningskillswithGod?
5. Describewhataquiettimemeanstoyouandwhyitisimportant?
6. Howcouldyouimproveyourprayertime?Bespecific.
• Whendoyoupray?
• Wheredoyoupray?
7. Afteryoupray,doyouslowdownlongenoughtohearGod’sanswer?WhatdoesthewordmeditationinthisStepmeantoyou?
8. Whataresomeoftheotherthingsthatyoudoinyourrecoverytohelpyouon
yourjourneyandpreventrelapse?
9. Ithinkweallagreethatrecoveryisajoy,butitalsorequireshardwork.Whatdoyoudotocelebrateyourrecoveryeventhesmallvictories?
Gratitude Step11review:Wesoughtthroughprayerandmeditationtoimproveour
consciouscontractwithGod,prayingonlyforknowledgeofHiswillforusandpowertocarrythatout.
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“LetthemessageofChristdwellamongyourichly”(Colossians3:16,NIV).
ThinkAboutThis
OneofthegreatestwaystoworkStep11andtopreventrelapseistomaintainanattitudeofgratitude.
InyourprayersthisweekfocusonyourgratitudetowardGOD,OTHERSHehasplacedinyourlife,yourRECOVERY,andyourCHURCH.
“Donotbeanxiousaboutanything,butineverysituation,byprayerandpetition,withthanksgiving,presentyourrequeststoGod.AndthepeaceofGod,whichtranscendsall
understanding,willguardyourheartsandyourmindsinChristJesus”(Philippians4:6-7,NIV).
BethankfultoGod
“Donotbeanxiousaboutanything,butineverysituation,byprayerandpetition,withthanksgiving,presentyourrequeststoGod”(Philippians4:6,NIV).
“LetusgivethankstotheLordforhisunfailingloveandwonderfuldeedsformankind”(Psalm107:15,NIV).
“IsawtheLordalwaysinmypresence;ForHeisatmyrighthand,sothatIwillnotbeshaken.Thereforemyheartwasgladandmytongueexulted;Moreovermyfleshalsowillliveinhope;BecauseyouwillnotabandonmysoultoHades,NorallowYourHolyOnetoundergodecay.Youhavemadeknowtomethewaysoflife;Youwillmakeme
fullofgladnesswithyourPresence”(Acts2:25-28,NASB).
“¡HowpreciousisYourlovingkindness,OGod!AndthechildrenofmentakerefugeintheshadowofYourwings.TheydrinktheirfilloftheabundanceofYourhouse;andYougivethemtodrinkofriverofYourdelights.ForwithYouisthefountainoflife;InYour
lightweseelight”(Psalm36:7-9,NASB).
Bethankfulforothers
“LetthepeaceofChristkeepyouintunewitheachother,instepwitheachother.Noneofthisgoingoffanddoingyourthing.Andcultivatethankfulness.LetthewordofChrist
–theMessage–havetherunofthehouse”(Colossians3:15-16,MSG).
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Bethankfulforyourrecovery
“Asforus,wehavethislargecrowdofwitnessesaroundus.Sothen,letusridourselvesofeverythingthatgetsintheway,andofthesinwhichholdsontoussotightly,andlet
usrunwithdeterminationtheracethatliesbeforeus”(Hebrews12:1,GNT).
Bethankfulforyourchurch
“EntertheTemplegateswiththanksgiving”(Psalm100:4,GNT).
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. Whydoyouthinkitisimportantforyoutomaintainan“attitudeofgratitude”inyourrecovery?
2. InwhatthreeareasofyourrecoveryareyouespeciallythankfulforGod’spower?TrytothinkofareasofgrowthorpositivechangeinyouthatonlyGodcouldhaveaccomplished.
3. NamethreepeopleGodhasplacedinyourrecoverywhoyouaregratefulforandwhy?
4. Whatthreeareasofyourrecoveryministry,smallgroups,orothereventsareyouthankfulfor?Why?
5. Listthreethingsthatyouarethankfulforinyourchurch.Bespecific.
6. Congratulations! You have just completed your first “gratitude” list. Review it.Howdoesitmakeyoufeel?
7. Letindividualsonyourlistknowwhatanimpacttheyhavehadonyourrecovery,andthankeachofthempersonally!
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HavinghadaspiritualexperienceastheresultoftheseSteps,wetrytocarrythismessagetoothers,andpractice
theseprinciplesinallouraffairs.
Yieldmyself toGod tobeused tobring thisGoodNews toothers,bothbymyexampleandbymywords.
“Foroutoftheabundanceoftheheartthemouthspeaks”(Matthew12:34,ESV).
“HappyarethosewhoarepersecutedbecausetheydowhatGodrequires;theKingdomofheavenbelongstothem”(Matthew5:10,GNT).
“Brothersandsisters,ifsomeoneiscaughtinasin,youwholivebytheSpiritshouldrestorethatpersongently.Butwatchyourselves,oryoualsomaybetempted”
(Galatians6:1,NIV).
GiveThinkAboutThis
“Freelyyouhavereceived;freelygive”(Matthew10:8,NIV).
WhatdoesitmeantoGIVE?Let’sseehowI’llGIVE:
Godfirst
ByplacingGodfirstinyourlife,youwillrealizethateverythingyouhaveisagiftfromHim.Yourealizethatyourrecoveryisnotdependentonmaterialthings.ItisbuiltuponyourfaithandyourdesiretofollowJesusChrist’sdirection.
“(He)Didnotevenkeepbackhisownson,butofferedhimforusall!HegaveushisSon”–willHenotalsofreelygiveusallthings?(Romans8:32,GNT).
“Youcannotservetwomasters:Godandmoney.Foryouwillhateoneandlovetheother,orelsetheotherwayaround”(Matthew6:24,TLB).
Ibecomeswe
Step12
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The12Stepsdonotbeginwiththeword“I.”thefirstwordinstep1is“we.”Theroadtorecoveryisnotmeanttobetraveledalone.
“LovetheLordyourGodwithallyourheartandwithallyoursoulandwithallyourmind.Thisisthefirstandgreatestcommandment.Andthesecondislikeit:Loveyour
neighborasyourself”(Matthew22:37-39,NIV).
“Twoarebetteroffthanone,becausetogethertheycanworkmoreeffectively.Ifoneofthemfallsdown,theothercanhelphimup.Butifsomeoneisalone…thereisnooneto
helphim…twopeoplecanresistanattackthatwoulddefeatonepersonalone”(Ecclesiastes4:9-12,GNT).
Victoriesshared
God never wastes a hurt! Step 11 gives us the opportunity to share ourexperiencesandvictories.Thisishowitwasforme…Thisiswhathappenedtome…ThisishowIgainedthestrength…There’shopeforyou.”
“LetusgivethankstotheGodandFatherofourLordJesusChrist,themercifulFather,theGodfromwhomallhelpcomes!Hehelpsusinallourtroubles,sothatweareabletohelpthosewhohaveallkindsoftroubles,usingthesamehelpthatweourselveshave
receivedfromGod”(2Corinthians1:3-4,GNT).
Exampleofyouractions
InJames1:22(ESV)itsays:“Bedoersoftheword.”Buttobeofhelptoanother,weareto“carrythemessageinallouraffairs.”
Youhaveallheardtheterm“SundayChristians”.Letusnotbecomejust“Fridaynightrecoverybuffs.”
“Mychildren,ourloveshouldnotbejustwordsandtalk;itmustbetruelove,whichshowsitselfinaction”(1John3:18,GNT).
TheLordspreadsHismessagethroughtheChrist-centered12Steps.WearetheinstrumentsfordeliveringthegoodNews.Thewaywe livewillconfirmtoothersthesincerityofourcommitmenttoourLord,totheprogram,andtothem!
Youhaveallheardthedivineparadox:“Youreallydon’thavegraceunlessyougiveitaway!”That’sStep12.
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“Noonelightsalampandthencoversitwithawashtuborshovesitunderthebed.No,yousetituponalampstandsothosewhoentertheroomcanseetheirway.We’renotkeepingsecrets;we’retellingthem.We’renothidingthings;we’rebringingeverything
outintotheopen.Sobecarefulthatyoudon’tbecomemisers.Generositybegetsgenerosity.Stringinessimpoverishes”(Luke8:16-18,MSG).
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. WhatdoesMathew10:8(NIV)?–“Freelyyouhavereceived;freelygive”–meantoyou?WhatdoesMathew12:34(ESV)–“foroutoftheabundanceoftheheartthemouthspeaks”meantoyou?
2. HowhasyourattempttoputGodfirstinyourlifechangedyourunderstandingoftheword“give”?
3. Ecclesiastes 4:9 (GNT) tells us that:“Twoarebetter off thanone.” List specificinstancesinyourownrecoverywhereyouhaveseenthisverseinaction.
4.Whataresomeofyourrecentvictoriesthatyoucouldsharewithanewcomer?
5.InJames1:22(ESV):“BedoersoftheWord.”HowcanyoubeadoeroftheWord?
• Amongfamilyandfriends?
• Inyourrecoverygroup?
• Inyourchurch?
YesStep12review:HavinghadaspiritualexperienceastheresultoftheseSteps,we
trytocarrythismessagetoothers,andpracticetheseprinciplesinallouraffairs.
“Brothersandsisters,ifsomeoneiscaughtinasin,youwholivebytheSpiritshouldrestorethatpersongently.Butwatchyourselves,oryoualsomaybetempted”
(Galatians6:1,NIV).
ThinkAboutThis
WhenyoureachthisStepyouarereadytosayYEStoservice.
ServeothersasJesusChristdid
• Onthejob?
• Inyourcommunity?
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WhenyouhavereachedStep12,youarereadytopickuptheLord’stowel,theonewithwhichHewashedthedisciples’feetintheupperroom.
“AndsinceI,theLordandTeacher,havewashedyourfeet,yououghttowasheachother’sfeet.Ihavegivenyouanexampletofollow:doasIhavedonetoyou”
(John13:14-15,TLB).
YieldmyselftoGod
Step12sumsuplikethat:YieldmyselftoGodtobeusedtobringthisGoodNewstoothers,bothbymyexampleandbymywords.
“Brothersandsisters,ifsomeoneiscaughtinasin,youwholivebytheSpiritshouldrestorethatpersongently.Butwatchyourselves,oryoualsomaybetempted.Carry
eachother’sburdens,andinthiswayyouwillfulfillthelawofChrist”(Galatians6:1-2,NIV).
Exampleis:Whatisimportant
Your walk needs to match your talk because your lifestyle reflects what youbelieve.Doesyourlifestyleshowothersthepatternsoftheworld–selfishness,pride,andlust–ordoesitreflectthelove,humility,andserviceofJesusChrist?
“Arousethelovethatcomesfromapureheart,aclearconscience,andagenuinefaith”(1Timothy1:5,GNT).
“Dearchildren,letusnotlovewithwordsorspeechbutwithactionsandintruth”(1John3:18,NIV).
HowYouCanSayYES
1.Beanaccountabilitypartner.LookforsomeoneinyoursmallgroupwhowillagreetoencourageandsupportyouasyouworkthroughtheSteps.Youagreetodothesameforthatperson.Youholdoneanotheraccountableforworkinganhonestprogram.
2.Beasponsor.SponsorsarepeoplewhohaveworkedtheSteps.Theirjobistoguidenewcomersontheirjourneythroughtheprogram,togiveagentlenudgewhenthey are procrastinating or slow them downwhen they are rushing through a Step.Sponsorsdosobysharingtheirpersonaljourneyontheirroadtorecovery.
3.BeinvolvedinyourchurchandLaCasadePaz.Therearemanyopportunitiesforserviceinthisrecoveryministryandinyourchurch
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Remember:“Youreallydon’thavegraceunlessyougiveitaway!”
Meditation–Discussion–Action
1. If you knew that you couldn’t fail,whatwould you like to domost forGod inhelpingothers?
2. WhataresomewaysyoucanpickuptheLord’stowel(John13:14-15)todayandstartservingothers?
3. InthewordsofStep12,howwillyoupracticetheseStepsinallofyouraffairs?
4. Describewhatthephrase:Youcan’tkeepitunlessyougiveitawaymeansinyourrecovery.
5. CreateyourownactionplanforStep12.
“Howlovelyonthemountains
Arethefeetofhimwhobringsgoodnews,Whoannouncespeace
Andbringsgoodnewsofhappiness,Whoannouncessalvation,
AndsaystoZion,YourGodReigns!”(Isaiah52:7,NASB).
InworkingthetwelvestepsthereareSevenreasonswegetstuck
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As you complete your journey, you will discover the rewards of sponsoringnewcomers.Yourroleasasponsorwillbetohelpothersalongtheirjourneyontheroadtorecoverybyguidingthemthroughtheprinciplesandsteps.Yourtaskisnottopickthemupandcarrythemthroughthesteps,buttostandalongsidethemastheycompletetheirjourney.
Attimes,youmayneedtoslowthemdownwhentheyaremovingthroughthestepstooquickly;oryoumayneedtospeedthemupwhentheygetstuckalongthesideoftheroad.TherearesevenmajorareasinwhichIhaveseenindividualsgetstuckatsomepointintheirrecoveries.Itisimportantthatyouarefamiliarwitheachofthemsoyouhelpthemgetunstuck.
1.YouhavenotcompletelyworkedthepreviousStep
PerhapsyouaretryingtomovethroughtheStepstooquickly.Slowdown!GiveGodtimetowork!Remember,thisprogramisaprocess.
“SincewelivebytheSpirit,letuskeepinstepwiththeSpirit”(Galatians5:25,NIV).
2.YouhavenotcompletelysurrenderedyourlifeandyourwilltotheLord
PerhapsyouaretrustingJesuswiththe“big”things,butyoustill thinkyoucanhandlethe“small”things.
“IfyouwantfavorwithbothGodandmanandareputationforgoodjudgmentandcommonsense,thentrustintheLordcompletely;don’tevertrustinyourself.Ineverythingyoudo,putGodfirst,andhewilldirectyouandcrownyourefforts
withsuccess”(Proverbs3:5-6,TLB).
3.YouhavenotacceptedJesus’workonthecrossforyourforgiveness
Youmayhaveforgivenothers,butyouthinkyoursinistoobigtobeforgiven.
“Ifweconfessoursins,Heisfaithfulandrighteoustoforgiveusoursinsandtocleanseusfromallunrighteousness”(1John1:9,NASB).
“SooverflowingishiskindnesstowardsusthathetookawayalloursinsthroughthebloodofhisSon,bywhomwearesaved”(Ephesians1:7,TLB).
Haveyouforgivenyourself?
4.Youreallyhavenotforgivenotherswhohaveharmedyou
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Youmustletgoofthepainofpastharmandabuse.Untilyouareabletoreleaseit,forgiveit,itwillcontinuetoholdyouasitsprisoner.
“Afteryouhavesufferedalittlewhile,ourGod,whoisfullofkindnessthroughChrist,willgiveyouhiseternalglory.Hepersonallywillpickyouup,andsetyoufirmlyinplace
andmakeyoustrongerthanever”(1Peter5:10-11,TLB).
5.Youareafraidoftheriskinmakingthenecessarychange
Youmaybeparalyzedbythefearoffailure.Youmayfearintimacybecauseofthefearofrejectionorofbeinghurtagain.Youmayresistchange(growth)becauseofthefearoftheunknown.
“Fearnot,forIamwithyou.Donotbedismayed…Iwillstrengthenyou;Iwillhelpyou;Iwillupholdyouwithmyvictoriousrighthand”(Isaiah41:10,TLB).
“Thatiswhywecansaywithoutanydoubtorfear,TheLordismyHelperandIamnotafraidofanythingthatmeremancandotome”(Hebrews13:6,TLB).
6.Youarenotwillingto“own”yourresponsibility
Youneedtotakeresponsibilityforyourpastinabrokenrelationship,adamagedfriendship,withadistantchildorparent,andsoforth.
“Examineme,OGod,andknowmymind;testme,anddiscover…ifthereisanyevilinmeandguidemeintheeverlastingway”(Psalm139:23,GNT).
7.Youhavenotdevelopedaneffectivesupportteam
Do you have a sponsor or an accountability partner? Do you have the phonenumbersofothersinyoursmallgroup?Haveyouvolunteeredforacommitmenttoyourrecoveryministry?
“Bewithwisemenandbecomewise.Bewithevilmenandbecomeevil”(Proverbs13:20,TLB).
“Dearbrothers,youhavebeengivenfreedom:notfreedomtodowrong,butfreedomtoloveandserveeachanother”(Galatians5:13,TLB).
“Shareeachother’stroublesandproblems,andsoobeyourLord’scommands”(Galatians6:2,TLB).
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TheProblemofPassivityTheonlythingthatguaranteesourdefeatisourpassivity.Wehavecometorealize
thatit'snotenoughtowantchange,talkaboutchange,ordreamaboutchange.Dreamsareworthlessunlesswewakeupandactonthem.Forgoodthingstohappen,changerequiresmakingspecificallynewchoicesinhowtothinkandact.Faithiscentral.Godiscallingustoafaiththatisintentionalandspecific.“HewhocomestoGodmustbelievethatHeisarewarderofthosewhoseekHim,forwithoutfaithitisimpossibletopleaseHim”(Hebrews11:6).Fortotalrecoverypassivityisnotanoption.“Forjustasthebodyisdeadwithoutthespirit,sofaithwithoutworksisdead”(James2:26). PeaceisnotPassivity
AsGod’schildrenmadeintheimageofGod,wearemadetoworship.TheproblemiswecanworshipthingsotherthanGod,evengoodthingssuchaspeace.ForexampleasmuchaswelovepeacewemustguardagainstworshipingitoranyotherthingsthatwoulddistractusfromGod.Wewillneverfindpeacebylookingforpeace.ItistheresultofourrelationshipwithGod;JesusChristisourpeace.Seektherelationshipandwe'llgetthegift.Seekthegiftaloneanditbecomesanidol.WheneverweputotherthingsaheadofGodnomatterhowgoodthereisconfusionandspiritualdryrot.
PeacewithGoddoesnotmakeuspassiveandwithdrawn,butempowersustobeactivelyengagedinourworld."Weareintheworldbutnotoftheworld"(John17:15-16).AtthecrosswechosetoacceptGod’sgraceofrepentance,tobeemptiedofself-loveandanyjudgmentalspirit.ReconciledwithGodbythegraceof“repentancewithoutregret”westandindignitywithaconsciencevoidofoffensetowardsGodormen.(Acts24:16)ThebattleistheLord’sandinhumilitywehavebeeninvitedtostandwithHiminHistotalvictoryoverhellanddeath."Iwantyoutobewiseinwhatisgood,innocentinwhatisevilandtheGodofpeacewillsooncrushSatanunderyourfeet"(Romans16:19-20).With our peace and reconciliation in Christ we have ceased fighting anyone oranything, even our abusersmachismo and alcohol. The battle is the Lord’s, and thevictoryistheLord’s–“Itisfinished.”WithpeaceandreconciliationinChrist,wehaveceasedfightinganyoneoranythingevenmachismoandalcohol.Ourspiritisnolongerreactionaryagainstanyoneoranything.WeactonlyoutofGod'sgraceandtruth.WiththeHolySpiritcomesapowerfulnewfaithtospeakhonestlyandopenlythetruthinlove–forsomeofusforthefirsttimeever.AsachildofGodouridentityisclearlynolonger
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withouraccusersorabuserstemptingusanddistractingus,insomecasesevenforcingsomeintobehaviorsweknowtobeself-destructive.It isfinished,ourfascinationanddistractionwiththepastisover-crucified.FreeoffearweknowwhoweareandnothingcanseparateusfromtheloveofGodinChrist.NowweknowsomethingofwhatDavidmeantinknowingGod'spresence,evenindifficultplacesinPsalm23:"Youhavepreparedatableformeinthepresenceofmyenemies,YouhaveanointedmyheadwithoilMycupoverflows,Surelygoodnessandmercywillfollowmeallthedaysofmylife,AndIwilldwellinthehouseoftheLordforever".Amen.
TheHolySpiritspokethroughPaul
"ButinallthesethingsweoverwhelminglyconquerthroughHimwholovedus.ForIamconvincedthatneitherdeath,norlife,norangels,norprincipalities,northingspresent,northingstocome,norpowers,norheight,nordepth,noranyothercreatedthing,willbe able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord"(Romans8:37-39).