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SURVIVORS OF SUICIDE
King/ Pierce/ Thurston County Support Groups JULY/AUGUST, 2014
NEWSLETTER
Website: www.auburnsos.com e-mail: [email protected]
WHAT IS S.O.S.?
S.O.S. stands for Survivors of Suicide. S.O.S. groups provide support for anyone who has lost a loved one to
suicide. Based on guidelines established by the American Association of Suicidology, the groups are self-help
and peer-led. The goal is to help deal with the loss and trauma and grief associated with that loss. Auburn
S.O.S. is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization as defined by the IRS.
LOVE GIFTS:
If you would like to remember your Loved One who has completed suicide in the form of a Love Gift it will
be mentioned in the newsletter if we have your permission. There are no dues or fees at S.O.S. Donations are
always welcome to help defray such costs as printing, postage, and the purchase of new tapes and books for
our lending libraries and other costs associated with the community awareness programs we are involved in.
Donations may be mailed to the address below or made at any meeting. Please make your checks payable to
Auburn or Olympia SOS.
Auburn Survivors of Suicide
28824 21st Ave. S.
Federal Way, WA 98003
Contact information for both groups
and its facilitator is on page three.
To all of you who left something in the donation boxes, thank you!
We appreciate the donation from United Way.
Please remember that the only thing that pays the postage or the website or buys the books –
is your donation! Thank you!
Check with your payroll folks to see if they match donations!
To all of you who so generously drop something in the donation box – thank you!
IF YOU NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE:
Please do not hesitate to pick up your phone and call another survivor from the S.O.S. group if you are
having a hard time. We’ve all been there!
Ron Callahan 253-226-3689 Lost son Kathy Melsness 253-446-6500 Lost daughter
Andee Nydegger 253-820-1911 Lost brother Joan Tabrum 253-838-8947 Lost husband
Janis Fesenmaier 360-866-2509 Lost brother Kathy Sterling 206-244-8729 Lost grandson
José Martin 206-228-7413 Lost son Kathy Crowley 253-471-9412 Lost son
Call José if you would like to speak to another survivor in Spanish.
Me gustaria ayudar a la gente que necesite hablar espanol
Thinking of You Especially:
July 1 Coach Roach Lost his son Mark
July 1 Daniel Herman, Michelle Meyer Lost their sister Lisa Marie
July 4 Sarah Wiebersch Lost her nephew Jeremy (Phoenix)
July 5 Teresa Tradewell Lost her son Brandon Green
July 5 Deana McDaniel Lost her friend's son Brandon
July 5 Michelle Corder Lost her mother Mary
July 6 Bonnie Benson Lost her partner Chris
July 6 Fred / Sue Miller Lost their son Terry
July 7 Curtis Costner Lost his girlfriend Arwen
July 8 Andee & Dave Nydegger Lost her brother Abel Church
July 8 Jory Brown Lost his mother Katherine
July 10 Danielle Munich Lost her mom Dixie Puckett
July 10 Jessica Giles Lost her mother Debbie Reames
July 10 John Villamor Lost his friend, mentor Harris Moriguchi
July 10 Liz St. Louis Lost her husband Tom
July 11 Jonathan & ManheimLeigh Lost their son Garth
July 12 Katie Wilkinson Lost her best friend Raul Villanueva
July 13 Danielle Thompson Lost her husband Carl Thompson
July 13 Patsy Genoway Lost her son Carl Edward Thompson II
July 17 Roy / Karen Petschauer Lost their son Roice
July 18 Carol Johnson Lost her Dad Richard
July 18 Holly Hobbs Lost her daughter Stacy Hobbs
July 18 Jason Calland Lost her sister Stacy Hobbs
July 18 Joan Williams Lost the father of her children Richard
July 18 Karen Shane Lost her son Robby
July 19 Cheryl Shane Lost her step-son Robby
July 19 Gabe Behm Lost his wife Elena
July 20 Julie Wunderlich Lost her sister Jennifer Dill Reinhard
July 20 Nathan Williams Lost his ex-wife Casey
July 20 Patti Mossberger Lost her son Mark Daniel
July 20 Rose Morrison Lost her brother Rod Morrison
July 23 Jessica Giles Lost her sister Angie Reames
July 24 Jessie Stark Lost her mom Carol Stark
July 25 Troy Williams Lost his wife MaryJo
July 26 Tom & Julie Amos Lost their son/stepson Cameron
July 27 Nancy Thomas Lost her friends' son Sonny
July 27 Rosie Breen Lost her son Sonny Petra
July 27 Susan Zweigler Lost her brother Randy
July 28 Connie & Bea McTigheu Lost their son Alan McTighe
July 28 Bob Sheaffer Lost his friend Alan McTighe
July 29 Cleve / M Pinnixarty Lost their son Jack
July 29 Stephanie Covall-PInnix Lost her husband Jack
July 29 Jennif Hartmaner Lost her husband Robert
July 30 Barb Clough Lost her son Jonathan
July 31 Chris / Gary Davis Lost their son Jeff Robertson
August 1 Bradley Thompson Lost his partner Dean
August 4 David Gerry Lost his brother James
August 6 Irene Chavez Lost her brother Joe
August 6 Karen Gardner Lost her son Shawn
August 6 Pam Williams Lost her son Josh
August 7 Denise Simpson Lost her son Phillip
August 8 Marie Payne Lost her brother John
August 9 Karalee Rae Lost her son Jerry
August 9 Maxine Johnston Lost her son-in-law Dmitri
August 11 The Smith Family Lost Alexander
August 14 Angie Neilson Lost her husband Jon
August 14 Jim Scott Lost his brother Bob
August 14 Patricia VanDragt Lost her son Jonathan
August 17 Debbie West Lost her son Christopher
August 17 Rhonda Lundquist Lost her son Jon
August 20 Troy Louvrak Lost his son Joshua
August 23 Suzanne Lane Lost her brother Steve
August 24 Shannon Blake Lost her father Gary
August 26 Linda Jacobson Lost her husband Randy
August 26 Robert and Judy Knoyle Lost their daughter Robin
August 28 Amanda Ruston Lost her father Wayne
August 28 Heidi Smith Lost her son Tristan
August 28 Nicole Yates Lost her grandson Jacob
August 29 Kimberly and Kenn Rivers Lost her twin brother Chris
We also remember our loved ones whose birthdays are in the following months:
July birthdays: Jacob, Stacy, Joshua, Molly, John, Jimmy, Billy, Antonio, Christopher, Joe, Bob, John, Larry,
Carollyne, Vinnie, Donald, Angie, Jeffrey, Alicia, Louie, Larry, Loyd, Jim, Wesley, Brenda, Palmer, Carly,
Alexandria, Roy and Kaylan.
August birthdays: Stephen, Marie, Greg, MaryJo, John, Nita, Wesley, Debbie, John, Ray, Paul, Glenn, Jennifer,
Mark, Lana, Jerry, Derek, Justin, Eric, Alexander, Gregory, Jimmy, Randy, James, Tina, James, David, Gary, Abel,
Jonathan, James and Randee.
We strive for accuracy. If we are missing the name of your loved one or if the information is
incorrect please let us know so we can correct it! Send an e-mail to [email protected]
MEETINGS FOR JULY AND AUGUST:
The Auburn Group meets on the fourth Tuesday of every month. Meetings are held at the Auburn Fire Station
located at 1101 D Street in Auburn from 7:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. If you have any questions or need directions please
call Pam at 253-921-7829.
The Olympia Group meets on the third Tuesday of every month. Meetings are held at the Westwood Baptist Church
in room E-10, located at 333 Kaiser Road in Olympia from 7:30 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. For more information or
directions please call Janis at 360-866-2509.
The Burien and Tacoma Groups are not meeting until further notice.
There is no fee to attend either of these groups. For more information send an e-mail to [email protected]
Please note that the Auburn Group currently meets only on the 4th
Tuesday of the month.
LIBRARY: A lending library is available to survivors. Information pertaining to suicide and grief
may be checked out for a period of 30 days. Please return any books or publications you have checked
out so that others may use them. Thank you! Is there a book that you have found particularly helpful?
Let us know and we will pass that on to others!
“To have faith is to trust yourself to the water. When you swim you don't grab hold of the water, because
if you do you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float.”
― Alan Wilson Watts
It wouldn’t have
happened without
all the crew and
volunteers!
Lane from Bainbridge Is.
Liz and Janis from the
Olympia Group on the
Medical team
Carolyn from North Bend
Sue and Char
Bill from North Bend Opening ceremonies
The Overnight is organized by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, the leading national not-for-profit organization exclusively dedicated to understanding and preventing suicide through research, education and advocacy, and to reaching out to people with mental disorders and those impacted by suicide.
In Seattle and
Philadelphia over
3.2 million dollars
raised for suicide
awareness!
And, yes, it rained!
Judy from Green Lake
Agata from Snohomish
Catherine from Federal Way
Luminary bags line the steps
A suicide attempt happens every minute of every day. Every 14 minutes, someone in the U.S. dies by suicide.
Speak Up SOS!
We’d like to hear from you! Someone in the Olympia group brought up the idea of how her brother's suicide affected her trust. She was mostly
referring to trust in herself, but I thought the idea was compelling. I know that my own brother's suicide has affected my
ability to trust in life. Many folks in the group seemed to relate to the idea of waiting for the next bad thing to happen
since the loss of their loved one. Noelle
Send in your thoughts about how trust, the lack of, or the trouble trusting, has impacted you since losing a loved
one to suicide. We will print the replies in the next newsletter. Please get your e-mails to us by Sept. 10 for
them to be included in the next newsletter.
“Everyone suffers at least one bad betrayal in their lifetime. It’s what unites us. The trick is not to let it destroy your trust
in others when that happens. Don’t let them take that from you.” Sherrilyn Kenyon, Invincible
“Laugh, even when you feel too sick or too worn out or tired. Smile, even when you're trying not to cry and the tears are blurring your vision. Sing, even when people stare at you and tell you your voice is crappy. Trust, even when your heart begs you not to. Twirl, even when your mind makes no sense of what you see. Frolick, even when you are made fun of. Kiss, even when others are watching. Sleep, even when you're afraid of what the dreams might bring. Run, even when it feels like you can't run any more. And, always, remember, even when the memories pinch your heart. Because the pain of all your experience is what makes you the person you are now. And without your experience---you are an empty page, a blank notebook, a missing lyric. What makes you brave is your willingness to live through your terrible life and hold your head up high the next day. So don't live life in fear. Because you are stronger now, after all the crap has happened, than you ever were back before it started.”
Alysha Speer
We’d like to make this a regular feature. Send us your thoughts, comments and experience. Have an idea for a topic for the next time? Send that too! We’re waiting to hear from you!
Send all e-mails for this feature to [email protected]
Void
I have everything-
except your clever hands
that could fix anything
cook a stir fry in minutes
and rub my tense back.
I have everything-
except your quirky mind
that bypassed the power meter
watched ‘The Matrix’ fourteen times
and kept secret suffering.
I have everything-
except your red gold hair
we called it ‘strawberry blond’
it was thick and wavy
my fingers remember the texture.
I have everything-
except your tender heart.
You shared it with me.
I didn’t think it was so fragile,
until you killed it.
Liz St Louis (Olympia SOS)
“Have enough courage
to trust love one more
time and always one more
time.”
― Maya Angelou
Forefront: Innovations in Suicide Prevention is holding its Annual Celebration and fundraiser.
RSVP TODAY!
Date: Tuesday, September 30, 2014
Time: 6:30 PM - 8:30 PM
Location:
The Mountaineers Club
7700 Sand Point Way NE
Seattle, WA 98115
Please contact Forefront at [email protected] or 206- 543-1016 with any questions."
Join us with a few of your friends to celebrate the growing
Forefront-led social movement to reduce suicide in
Washington.
This is an evening not to be missed with contributions by
local artists, Gina Sala and Mari Earl, and nationally
recognized filmmakers, Francine Strickwerda and Tracy
Dethlefs.
While there is no cost to attend, guests will be encouraged
to make a meaningful gift in support of our collective
commitment to suicide prevention.
Join us in 2014 for the Out of the
Darkness Community Walks
Walking 18 miles through the night a little much? Not up for the fundraising? Then the Community Walk might
be just want you need! A great way to connect with other survivors! And - There is no fee to register!
Join us in 2014 for the Out of the Darkness Community Walks. Many locations are currently open for registration. Join
us and help us raise more in 2014 by kick starting your fundraising now!
Spokane 9/20
Poulsbo 9/21
Bellingham 9/21
Olympia 9/27
Aberdeen – 10/05
Seattle 10/12
We anticipate being involved in the Community Walks
in various ways, please join us on a walking team or
helping with a booth or the memorial garden!
For more information go to www.afsp.org
We are looking for a coordinator for the Memorial Garden at the Seattle Walk.
Send an e-mail to [email protected]
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YOUR DONATIONS ARE ALWAYS NEEDED, APPRECIATED AND ARE TAX-DEDUCTIBLE.
Please mail your donations to:
28824 21
st Ave. S., Federal Way, WA. 98003
In memory of:
Name
Address
City, State, Zip
“Deciding whether or not to trust a person is like deciding whether or not to climb a tree because you might get a wonderful view from the highest branch
or you might simply get covered in sap and for this reason many people choose to spend their
time alone and indoors where it is harder to get a splinter.”
Lemony Snicket, The Penultimate Peril
Auburn SOS
28824 21st Ave. S.
Federal Way, WA 98003
Return Service Requested
Non profit Org
US Postage Paid
Federal Way, WA
Permit #58
You can find Auburn SOS on Facebook.
Go to Facebook and type ‘Auburn SOS’
in the search box or go to our website and
follow the link on the first page.